Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[JBrd]

Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

Well I just got a call back from the epu and they were perplexed as to why my gp couldn't prescribe it to me. But the good news is I have to drop in and collect it tomorrow and then told me that I cn have an early scan at 8 weeks.....score!

Sorry for the me me me posts today I'm just have a bit of a head wreck of a day I'm so worried that this little bean won't stick!

It's awful really that we can't just enjoy being upduffed like most other women can

dr blobs with heartbeats rock!
ditzy your doctor is badly informed. the jury is still out on progesterone, some experts thi k it doesn't help, there is a big trial ongoing in recurrent miscarriage patients at the moment, but it does no harm, other than potentially stringing out an inevitable loss. It's widely used in IVF protocols and has been proved to improve outcomes in that situation. Get another opinion. It's not expensive either, so he has no reason to object. If you need someone to look it up in their BNF ( doesn't exist, my arse) what you want is Cyclogest pessaries.

Oh, cross posted, glad you got it sorted. You need some panty liners if you are planning to use it vaginally, it's a bit messy

Just stopping by to say hello - busy at work as usual.

Hello to all the newbies :-) your in the right place for hand holding and support!

To all that had good scan news today - FANTASTIC :-)

And to all my fellow "oldies" - who's due next?! I can't remember!!

I'm 21+4 now and had lots of string kicks last few days. Got to go back to the consultant and have a growth scan at 32 weeks but other than that it's "normal" midwife appointments for me, a bit more frequent than the usual schedule but as of this moment the dreaded pre eclampsia doesn't show any signs of rearing it's ugly head just yet - yay!!

And jbrd even though you said you were bowing out of the thread, I want you to know your in my thoughts today and want to thank you for all the support and kind words you've given us all in the thread and hope your support in real life is as fabulous as what you have give us all. Lots of hugs to you and DP at this awful time xx

Ditzy In all seriousness, I would notify someone (PALS or the local NHS) about your doc. Thankfully you're OK ... but what about someone less confident? An elderly person with limited English and a tropical illness for example, or someone with mental illness who couldn't argue their corner... "not heard of it can't prescribe it" is appalling and in all seriousness needs to be reported.
A similar doc prescribed 'what he wanted' to my mum a few years ago, not what the hospital said. A few months later when they found out, they kept her in because what he had decided could have knackered her kidneys and killed her (hence they used the rarer drug). Hence my soapbox stance on things like this! Luckily all was fine.

squizita your poor Mum I'm so angry with my gp he thinks he is God!

Mortified. Cried on my chief exec today when I told him about my pregnancy. I have never cried at work before. Why did I do that? Just all came out how frightened i was about it all going wrong again. Poor man not sure he knew what to do with me / was expecting that. I'm very

Yey for excited Red and at 'obsessive stick pisser!!

Glad someone is looking after you anyway Ditzy lovely epu, and great that they're offering you a scan.

Strong kicks MrsG I love to hear that!

Aw Fedup I'm sure he didn't mind being your unintentional sounding board! Probably a good thing you got it off your chest. Bit but no harm done I'm sure!

I thought I was tired and grumpy today but having just cried because my mum said to look at maternity stuff on Debenhams as she'd buy me something and then after not liking anything I said no thank you and cried because I felt guilty I think I might be a tad hormonal!

Hi all, quick wave from me - thank you for your kind words and messages of support.
I'm back home now, tired and very relieved it's over. It was straightforward and not nearly as painful (physically) as I had feared.
Not sure where I will go from here and what I will do, but it's too soon to think about anything.

All the best to you all, ladies xxx

jbrd - been thinking about you so much. Glad it wasn't too painful. But I can imagine it will take time to heal emotionally from this. I felt deeply saddened and shocked for you so can't even start to imagine how you feel. Anyway, you don't need to think about what next now... Just take time to heal with your DH and DS. Thinking of you lots and take care of yourself xxx

Jbrd, thank you for updating us, glad, physically, it wasn't too painful and I hope you're getting lots of rl support. You've been such a supportive lovely member of this horrible club of ours and I can't begin to put into words how sorry I am for your loss. Hope you keep us updated and always here if you need an ear, shoulder or hug. X

Morning all, jbrd more hugs to you, take care of yourself and get lots of rest. You don't need to think about what happens next just yet, grieve over this child and cross that bridge when you are stronger both physically and emotionally xx

Sorry I haven't been around for a while, I've been a grumpy, emotional mess these past few weeks and have found keeping up with the thread difficult. Today I am going in for an induction! I'm so close to te end yet terrified something stil could go wrong. It's so stupid, my body is ready to have this baby - it's giving off every sign and I've been in early labour since Tuesday (confirmed by a midwife, I've also had 3 sweeps to get me going) and the parinoid part of my brain is convinced it's not happening because there's something wrong. By the end of the weekend I'll be cuddling my newborn and my crazy parinoia will be gone

jbrd thank you for updating. I'm glad you are home in your own bed. I hope the fact so many people are thinking of you is some comfort

cbeebies good luck. Hope it all goes smoothly.

Hi Ladies please can I join you? Although I have not had a m/c it has been such a stressful road of fertility treatment failure before I have finally got here. I am only 4 weeks 3 days and had some spotting yesterday that tipped me over the edge! I am constantly scared about going to the toilet, obsessing about every pain and checking nipples (in private don't worry ) to see if they are still a bit sore, still peeing on a stick every other day (but not today so now panicking!) Just so scared it's not going to last, not excited at all yet... Have got an early scan in 2 weeks and just hoping that will make me feel better if I make it that far is this normal? Hand holding appreciated x

Jbird Glad that the medical side went smoothly for you, a small mercy. I hope you are getting all the support you and DH need emotionally at this awful time.

Cbeebies FX for you the induction works well (but not too well - basically wishing you a quick but not so-quick-it's-scary labour! :) ) and very excited that little Cbeebies will be here soon!

jbird Thinking of you lovely.

Good luck cbeebies! You're nearly there

Can I have a moment to freak out? After getting pregnant 1-2 on a digi on Wednesday I thought I'd crack open the second test to see if it had changed this morning. And it has. To not pregnant . What does this mean? Cp? Should I expect AF? I'm 16dpo.

Was it with first morning wee otters? I personally hate cb digis and don't test after the first bfp for that very head fuck reason. If it's a cp you would start bleeding soon but I really hope it's not :(

It was with SMU fedup so I'm really not sure what to think. I feel a bit crampy and my boobs are less tender today. It's not looking too good I think. I'll try to hold off testing again until tomorrow.

Otters Once you have had a positive test, it is no longer a 'chemical pregnancy'. FX it is the test playing up, however if it isn't it is a 'very early loss'. A tiny difference in wording (and physically feels similar to a CP) but can make all the difference when dealing with GPs etc' I have found.

Having said that I really, really hope it's the test. They are much more prone to fake negatives than fake positives. If you're worried ask your GP for a blood test perhaps?

jbrd, glad to see you and hear all went smoothly at least. You are in all our thoughts.
I am currently at home in front of This Morning, as I had a fall on the stairs, and have broken a bone in my foot. Was alone with DD when it happened, so had to wait for DH to come home to take over before I could go to A&E. Feel like such an idiot, and I have no idea how I will manage with DD as will be on crutches for weeks. MW unconcerned as long as no bleeding, fingers crossed nothing as yet, but terribly sorry for myself. Sorry, that really is a proper me me me post, at least I will probably have time to catch up on the thread properly.

jbird You seem like such a strong woman!

cbeebies best of luck!

otters when you first tested with the cbdigi what time of the day was it, I actually find that around ten at night I get stronger positives that first thing in the morning! Why don't you get a FRER test and see if the line has gone lighter? I know how stressful and head wrecking it is!

corpore you poor thing, how far long are you? I imagine it would be quite awkward to be on crutches with a bump!

I got another bfp this morning, however the lines don't seem to be getting darker, I'm 12dpo today and used a FRER test. They are still good lines though but I really want them to start getting darker

I got my progesterone supplements today so I am very happy with that!

Thanks for the welcomes and handholding guys. Been a crazy busy few days (hence only checking in now) which has made sure I haven't had time to think too much the spotting, which has now stopped - woohoo!
Absolutely exhausted now though and looking forward to a relaxing long weekend. It's the kind of overwhelming tiredness I remember from pregnancy number 1 too (the successful one). I felt tired with nos 2 and 3, but not like this. I'm tentatively hoping that's a good sign.

DrFunkes yes I was on the Dec thread. Don't intend to join the Jan one just yet though. I want to see a heartbeat first! Congratulations to those who've recently seen their flashy beans, that must feel wonderful

Ditzy yes I had symptoms at 10dpo but then I'm also some sort of hormone freak like LondonJen. With all four pregnancies I've had symptoms (mainly an insatiable thirst, funny taste, quick to anger and inability to sleep for more than two hours at a time without waking feeling weird) up to a week before getting even the faintest BFP. I remember flinging yet another BFN across the room and shouting "but it's wrong!" first time round. I'm learning to be more patient waiting for confirmation now!

Otters try not to panic (easier said than done I know), as others have said false negatives are much more common than false positives. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

Wow that turned into a bit of an essay, apologies!

GOODLUCK cbeebies!!

Very soon you will be holding your squishy newborn :-) xx

Good luck cbeebies - how exciting! A gorgeous, squirmy baba will soon be yours!

jbrd glad you are home and thinking of you so much.

ditzy I just had stomach cramps, then eventually my boobs got tender and just before week 6 I started feeling vaguely nauseous. So not that much really, and of course like everyone else I read everything into every twinge.

otters, I have everything crossed for you. are you testing again tomorrow?

corpore oh no! you poor thing!

Welcome J200 great you have an early scan! I just had mine at 6 +3 and it was such a welcome relief for us both - particularly dh as I don't think he really believed anything was in there. It's nice to have a short time frame to work towards too. It's probably time to put the sticks down though!!!

Thanks for the support everyone. I caved and poaFRER this afternoon. There is still a line but it's faint and no darker than it was two days ago. I'll give it a go in the morning again. Urgh, this stuff so stressful!