Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

How many weeks are you moomin? I was also hit by The Doom today after a sleepless night through fear that the baby had died. I phoned mw up and asked to move my 16wk check forward to today (it was tomorrow) and she did without questionning my clear near insanity. All was ok and found the heart beat. Feel a huge sense of relief. Considering getting a private scan at c18 weeks tho as not sure can stick this out til 30 may and 21 weeks anomaly scan.

nerdy sorry to hear about your horrible hospital stay. I do hope you get some relief from the colitis soon.
baking glad all is looking good - that's great news. Hoping for a smooth rest of journey!

Ps squiz the colourful 'trendy' trousers made me giggle as have a very funny clown pants image in my head!!

I too have doom. Bump too small at 20 weeks (no evidence) must be leaking fluid (surely that would feel like wetting yourself, which I don't - just mucus). Nutter.

PS. My trousers were black and white graphic. But otherwise pretty much wide-leg-pj shape. I looked like a sleepy zebra,

hey fedup glad you got the reassurance. I'm with you on the extra scan - I'd be going mad. Selfishly it's nice to hear I'm not alone. I'm only six weeks - still so early but of course every day feels like an age. Working off the normal timeframe i would be eight weeks but i have a long cycle and am pretty confident when we conceived.

My mcs were at six weeks and eight weeks, so that's probably not helping, knowing I'm in the zone. All day I've kept thinking about being in that scan room the first time and being told the heartbeat couldn't be found anymore. arggh. Am desperate to get this first scan over and done with (I'm assuming the doc will refer me through to the local epu when I see him tomorrow).

Rightoh, off for a cup of decaff tea and a deep breath.

Seems to be lots of 'doom' today!
Hopefully all just doom in the mind.

Well I am only 4 weeks but definitely feeling more pregnant than I did last time, exhausted and metallic taste which I had for months with DS! So feeling ok and quietly confident.

Worried about telling people though, I want to tell family, but am scared to as it will make it real. I might wait until after the point I m/c last time.
Any advice?
I just want to fast-forward 3 months!

I'm with you on sudden doom moomin - nausea and some of my tiredness just lifted late afternoon, and now I'm all scared. Sore boobs still, but ate 4 slices of pizza and don't feel sick when I've only been able to manage tiny portions for days. Did/do anyone else's symptom's come and go in the early weeks (now about 6.4)

We've told our parents chicken, after we saw the heartbeat at 5.something weeks, and I've told a handful of close friends - the ones it would feel weird if they didn't tell me early, and who I'd tell straight away if something went wrong. But I'm a sharer, and everyone's different. I also wish I had a fast-forward button until 12 35 weeks!

So glad your scan went well fedup! I'm thinking of paying for a 9 weeker, £100! SO expensive up here (Edinburgh), all the private fertility treatment I've seen is hundreds more than anywhere else, I think it's because so few places do it.

at sleepy zebra squiz!

DOOOOOOOM

I felt movement last week and nothing this week. There are pressing sensations but that must be wind as baby would only make small movements at this stage (17 weeks). Still waiting for someone to burst my bubble. BAH.

But I am going to eat chocolate and that will make everything fine.

I told one friend and my mum and sister. Then told a few 3 of my other besties after 6 wk scan. They all know about my mcs and ttc hell so it would have been weird of they didn't know. Plus, along with the lovely ladies on here, have coached me through the first 4 months. I couldn't do it on my own to be honest.
I actually told one other person at work today. My mentor. He was seemingly understanding abojt my fears and nervousness. Then said 'so will you send and all staff email to tell your news?' WTF!! I'm not doing that!! My boss has been great tho and I'm actually suprised by it - totally understanding when freaked out on him today and had to run off and see Midwife. He's been great despite referring to my mcs in the past as 'my medical issue'. My leaders are all men. Thank god they have kids so at least some understanding of what this is like!!

seasides just check your hospital don't do a cheaper 'private' offer. Down in Surrey most places are 100 but my hospital offer them for £60. May be worth asking.

My symptoms went suddenly at 9 weeks. Hence why I went for a private scan. Had one a week before on NHS. But was scared by loss of symptoms. All was fine though and then started puking again shortly after!

squiz people tell me 'I'm too small' for a second baby. Freaked me out. But DH thinks I'm bigger than with ds and he knows me best! And mw said I looked fine and people always say you are either too big or too small. I wish people realised how what they say affects me though!

I did have a little smile about all our dooooom. Only here how we could all think like that I guess that's what mc does to you. But I hope we can help each other through it given we have all experienced it and know how it can make pregnancy so very scary and not exactly enjoyable.

seasides I did get half a day or so relief from morning sickness here and there. I think it was because I had a mmc. I didn't panic that much when the morning sickness went temporarily. Instead I was obsessively checking the colour of the toilet roll whenever I wipe in the loo.

chicken I think only you can tell if you are comfortable sharing. I wasn't because I didn't want to unshare. I had to untell my mum after the first mc, and I hated it.

It had been a very bad year for DH and I, even without the MCs. FIL has just had a stroke and passed away. So DH is now away for a month to sort things out for his mum. He's an only child and his parents live in NZ. I'm now doing both nursery pick up and drop offs on top of a long commute. It's exhausting as I just spent an hour after putting DD to sleep to catch up on work. I know DH will be back soon but just needed a moan really.

On a positive note, I just did 30minof prenatal pilates (with a DVD). I felt really good after the exercise.

fedup it is early days to tell if you are small for a second. My bump grow really fast after the first trimester, especially in the last few weeks. (I'm 19 weeks). Considering I was still in my normal jeans at my 12 week scan. In contrast I was wearing maternity trousers for my mmc at 12 weeks.

moomin and seasides - what you're feeling is normal
and very familiar to me. If you look back through these threads a couple of times I've been convinced Im miscarrying due to sudden loss of symptoms. Once - at about 6+3 I even started to say my goodbyes to the thread since loss of symptoms was accompanied by spotting. But after a few days symptoms returned both times - they came and went throughout first 12 weeks - and I'm here 13 wld pregnant now and all still looking ok. I just hope this reassures you both. I think after MMCs and MCs we're so in tune to every symptom coming and going and so hyper aware that we read into every peak and trough - when we probably wouldn't think twice about them if we hadn't already experienced losses. Hope you're feeling ok and hope those scans come soon to give you the reassurance you need. Am sure all is well. Take care!

I'm sorry. I've been so behind on this thread and only just read through last few pages and caught up.

Just seen your news jbrd. Oh my heart goes out to you. I'm so so sorry for you. I can't believe it. I can only imagine the shock you must be feeling right now. You have been so supportive to me and others here - life is so bitterly unfair. I really hope you get some answers and find out why this has happened when all was looking well before. Take care of yourself. Will be thinking of you for a long time. Xx

Thanks all, Mabel that does reassure a lot. Maybe it's getting my eating a bit better, little and often. Will definitely ask my hospital, thanks fedup-please don't worry about your size, my friend was barely visibly pg at 5 months, and gorgeous little girl resulted. You and your dh know best.

So sorry about your FIL oltt, it does sound like a sad and too-busy time for you. Hope the month passes quickly for you. Well done on the Pilates! I usually go weekly (for my dodgy back as much as anything) but felt too pants on Monday for it. If I keep feeling better will pick it back up this week.

Fedup Thanks, yeah I thought I looked pretty normal! Just a quick question about 20 weeks ... (1) muscular aches and pains (not bad, no blood) are normal? and (2) Do the nature of movements change? My latest doom is the movements no longer feel like pops and feathers, they feel like a tiny little finger touching the inside of my belly, or a floppity feeling like a little fish in water moving. Logic says that's OK, it is a little floppity thing in water, doom is worried.

Chicken I agree only tell people who could handle it/help you if you lost the pregnancy - more than likely you'll be fine but the worry will hang over you if you tell the 'wrong' person. Tell others later.

Toddler So sorry to hear of your FIL. :( So sad. Hope it isn't too stressful on top of everything.

Seasides they seem very expensive near me too. There is an Anglo/Polish one that does them for £70-90. Very convenient for me too. Will have to see how I feel on the long gap between scans (8 weeks longest ever!) as to whether I dip into the savings jar!!

Hamster I was like that around 16-18 weeks. Movement then not. It was fine! :)

Moomin and Seasides As mabel says, in the 1st trimeter everything comes and goes, and usually that means nothing. Nerve wracking but no pain/bleeding = OK (and even bleeding can mean nothing). :)

quick question seasides - your pilates - is it just 'normal' pilates, and is that ok? I haven't been to my normal class because I wasn't sure if it would be alright and I didn't fancy telling the instructor I was pregnant with the possibility of then having to go back and say 'errr, actually..' Would like to go back though.

Hullo everyone. I'm tentatively dipping my toe into this thread....

I had a couple of faint frers on Monday and Tuesday and I've just poaDigi at work and it's come up with 'pregnant 1-2 weeks'. I'm sitting in my office with the door closed having a cry

For those that don't know me, I'm Otters, 32, ttc #1 for over two very long years with a mmc in November '13.

Can I join you? I'm kinda terrified!

sounds like you will fit right in otters - Welcome and Congratulations!

moonin the common wisdom is that you are fine doing normal in your first trimester. Most prenatal class won't take you until 14 weeks anyway. In your 2nd and 3rd you can continue normal classes as long as your aren't out of breath or lying down. Otherwise simply listen to your body. I cycle to work till 37 weeks maternity leave last time and I know most would say its a no no. However my bump was small and I rode on cycle paths with no cars. Only you can judge if your body is ok.

squizita I'm 20 weeks tomorrow and I have no idea what is normal. I felt no movement but twitches and muscle pain (and dodgy back). But I have anterior placenta both times and an incredibly high pain threshold.

And welcome otters

Welcome otters. Sounds like you're about the same stage as me. I'm 5+3 by my calculations (this is dc2, dc1 born 2011, mc in 2010 and 2013, both at 5-6 weeks).

Let's be terrified together!

squiz sounds pretty normal to me!

Have just told my best friend. Organizing her hen do atm and will be bridesmaid in October!

moonin by lying down I mean lying on your back. It is to do with pressure on the vena cava.

Thanks everyone

I'm exactly 4 weeks today Calling so it's good to have someone who knows exactly what I'm going through!

I just bought my very, very tight fitting wedding dress two weeks ago for my wedding in July. I'll be 16 weeks (fingers crossed). I have a scan in three weeks so I'll think I'll keep quiet until then and only call the shop for advice once that's out of the way. It feels a bit unreal just now and I don't want to 'jinx' things. And I start my brand new job in a few weeks. And I just signed up for three months of intense personal training. Love the irony. Eek.