Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[JBrd]

Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

Jbrd, I'm heartbroken for you. I'm so so so sorry sweetie. Rest up and take good are of yourself xxx

Oh good God, Jbrd I am so, so sorry, although that doesn't even begin to cover it . I lost our last baby late 2nd tri due to chromosomal abnormalities (previously undetected for some unfathomable reason) and there aren't any words, it rips apart your soul (as do all losses). Sending all the hugs and support, what a completely horrendous thing to happen. Thinking of you xxx

jbrd, that is just awful. As you say, the worst possible news. You poor thing, and your DH, it's so so sad and unfair. I, too, hope you have the space and support to grieve, and if you decide to try again you quickly have the healthy pregnancy you so deserve. I'm so sorry. Xxx

Oh God JBird I am so sorry. How bloody awful. :(

jbrd I'm so so sorry, how compleatly heartbreaking. I hope you and ur DH can get plenty of support

Oh Jbrd words just cannot express. I've been posting over on Sept 2014 and only following here but I had to post to say I'm so sorry and you are in my thoughts.

I am very very sorry JBrd.

jbird I'm so so sorry to hear your devastating news. Lots of hand holding and unmumsnetty hugs. I hope you and DH have lots of support in RL xxx

So sorry jbrd
There are no words x

jbrd I am so sorry to read your post. We have all been through so much on the RMC thread and I have a special affection for my thread buddies who graduated to here. I wish I could do something IRL to support you at a horrible time, and I am so sad and sorry that your lovely baby died. You will be very much in my thoughts over the next few days.

So sorry jbrd. We're all thinking of you xx

JBrd I'm so sorry. How totally, utterly unfair. I can't imagine what you must be going through.

Oh no jbrd I can't believe I logged on to see such bad news. I remembered you way back on the MC thread with me. I'm feeling speechless now thinking how far you've come this time only to end up losing it again. Here I am hoping you'll come back on this thread soon and next time it'll be your lucky time.

chicken welcome on board.

LondonJen I haven't seen any maternity PJs before. But I have seen maternity yoga trousers and joggers. I use them at home and sleep with my normal pajamas under the bump. But I didn't have much of a bump last time. Also I'm fairly sure I've seen maternity nighties (I am however not a nighties person at all).

baking congratz on another milestone. I'm so looking forward to starting my maternity leave.

I went to do a bit more maternity clothes shopping today during lunch. (There's a new look and an H&M close to my office, and both have a fairly large maternity selection). I can't believe how big I look already. I'm really hoping no one in the office will notice until my 20 week scan next week. My office is mainly men so they probably think I've just eaten too many easter eggs. squizita I'm not feeling any movement and I'll be 20 week this thursday. Getting quite worried tbh.

CorporeSarnie my NCT group is totally different from yours. They are all so fertile. DD is 3yo. There are 6 of us. 4 already had their second and 3 have finished their second maternity leave. Another is in her third trimester. I'm actually the last one.

I haven't had chance to catch up but OMG jbrd I am so totally devasted for you & send hugs to you and your family. There are no words I can think of to say other than I am so sorry for your loss, I hope you take good care of yourself and can overcome the physical and psychological distress and wish you all the best for your future. Please take care

I haven't been on much and have just had a quick read through I'm so so sorry jbrd heartbroken for you, I'll be thinking of you. As baking said we've been through so much on the rmc thread life is so cruel x

corp depends how you plan to tell them. If it's in person I would tell the person first to give them a heads up it's coming so when they hear the news in face to face they are prepared. Most of my NCT have seconds and I really struggled as I mc twice in that time. I found it very hard seeing their bumps grow and babies born. One gave birth on my would be EDD. I used to tell people to email or text rather than invite me for a drink and then drop the bomb. I needed time to digest it myself and have a cry and then when I see them found it much easier to be happy as had time to come to terms with it and get some of the 'why not me too' out of my system. Just my experience tho.

jbrd of you are still reading. Can't stop thinking of you and am deeply shocked and saddened by your news. Big hugs xx

So I went for another scan today (naughty me - FISH SLAP) at 9 weeks. Was elated, saw the bean again, it was "wriggling" as the sonographer said. Heartrate 175bpm. All great.

Then I get home and OF COURSE I find something to worry about. Looking through my notes she has placed it on a size graph compared to most pregnancies. Its size is marked with a cross at 20.9mm on the 5% line.

Ie, for how far along I am, it's in the minority when it comes to size, ie small. Apparently 95% (the other line) of pregnancies at thus stage are almost 30mm - a whole frigging centimetre bigger. She didn't mention this as a problem, just waved me off, but now I am paranoid... again.

Can anyone shed any light?

Oh my goodness I didn't read Jbrds post before I posted. I am so so sorry Jbrd. My heart goes out to you. We all understand the pain. Please take up all the support you might need in the coming months.

Thanks fedup and toddler, I sent an email last night and had a lovely reply back - it is the space to go off, cry, think about it and the 'why not us?' before doing the face the public thing that I appreciated when told about these things in the past. It is all painful though.

hedge, if your sonographer wasn't worried, I'd try not to worry too much either (hard I know) - embryos grow in fits and starts, and if you ovulated a little later than you think you can easily be out by a few days, so the small embryo could be down to this. Plus the graphs are there because different babies grow differently - DD was on the 9th centile at birth, some babies are just smaller than others. You're getting nearer to your next scan by the day, so try and put this aside for now.

JBrd, if you are reading this, you are in all of our thoughts. I hope you are getting plenty of hugs from your DP and family.

Nerdy it is lovely to hear you're feeling more prepared as you get things sorted.

Tiger I went off chocolate too but also sausages so you're on your own in eating 40 of them!

Thanks Toddle, I am not a big nightie fan either. Maybe when my bump is bigger I will have a more obvious 'under bump' place were waistbands will happily sit. At the moment my actual bump is right where the bumpband of my underbump jeans sits and everything feels uncomfortable.

Corp it's a great milestone that you've felt you can share your news with some people. Glad to hear it went well with those who needed more sensitivity.

Fish slap for looking for something to worry about Hedge! I am sure they would have said if it was a problem. My book (which has great pictures so must be good) has 'actual size of baby' for the first 12 weeks and 9 weeks says 2.3cm and 10 weeks says 3cm if that helps.

Jbrd it is impossible not to still be thinking of you. You've held all of our hands on here and I am still so upset for you.

Still so sad for Jbird :(

Hedge if it's in the healthy percentiles, and has all the things they expect to see, it's OK. :) As others say, a few days make a big difference when talking cm and mm. :)

On the topic of PJs Toddle and London ... I am wearing some nice comfy under bump (aka size too big) 'trendy' trousers. With a pattern on. Caught sight of myself. Yeah, trendy pattern trousers are OK if you're not 5 months gone... I actually look like I'm in my Pjs! For real! Sigh.

My ligament pain is far less today. Call me nuts but I think constipation pain was adding to it! Because I cracked out the fybogel last night and did a poo... magically the background ache improved and I just get the odd twinge now.

squizita you reminded me of this
www.newlook.com/shop/maternity/shop-department/maternity-red-ditsy-print-wide-leg-trousers_305808249

I saw it in New Look and thought it'll look so like PJs on me

Didn't have the best night last night. Had a hospital appointment for colitis. Not doing quite as well as I should be so have to stay on current dose of steroids for two weeks then have another check. Hospital was boiling which gave me a headache that paracetamol wouldn't shift. Spent half the evening on the loo, not fun. Didn't sleep well either.
Feel so up and down at the moment, it's exhausting!

Headache has finally retreated so feeling a bit better today, baby seems to be kicking ok. Am considering a private scan so I can see what's going on in there and how it's positioned. It's bugging me that you have to go the last half of pregnancy without being able to see your baby.

Hi everyone. I had (hopefully) my final hospital appointment today. All looking good on growth scan, baby still has short legs but has grown appropriately, placenta working fine, now estimated at 4lb 10oz so heading for about 6.5-7lb at 40 weeks, which is on a par with my other children. Finally had an obstetrician who listened to my worries so I feel better about my birth plan. Passed back to "care in the community" until B-day.

I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say I'm absolutely gutted for jbrd - if you are still reading, lovely, we are thinking of you.

that's good news baking and hope you are feeling better Nerdy - it doesn't sound like a very pleasant experience.

Jbrd if you are reading, I am thinking of you.

As for me, The Doom decided to whack me over the head. I woke up this morning with a lack of pregnancy symptoms which worried me and by the time I had left for work my usual medium level anxiety had blossomed into completely convinced that I'm due another MMC, and it will all be over by the time my first scan comes around. DH kindly pointed out that it doesn't necessarily mean that, and after my less than considerate reply was also keen to note that being a bitch being grumpy is also a known pregnancy symptom. Which is true, I know......but really concerned about lack of nausea and sore boobs all of a sudden.

Roll on my docs appointment tomorrow