Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[JBrd]

Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

Congratulations chicken good to see you on the thread.

It's my last day at work today. I can't believe I made it as far as mat leave I have a growth scan tomorrow and seeing the obstetrician. It may all actually be happening.....

Welcome chicken and congrats on your pregnancy! May it be boring and uneventful

baking I can't believe you are now going on mat leave, lucky you! Time has gone sooo fast. Hope you can enjoy a bit of rest before the little one makes an appearance.

stars

You are 35 weeks! Even if baby makes an appearance now, it would most likely all be fine! Please stop worrying and try to relax and enjoy these last few weeks. Are you still working? Maybe treat yourself to a massage or a facial or something like that?!

I'm having the amniocentesis at 10am... Getting quite nervous now
I'm not so much worried about the procedure, but the days afterwards - waiting if there will be any bad reactions to the amnio in combination with waiting for the results is not going to be fun (understatement of the year).
Wish me luck, ladies, I will need it!

Thanks bakingtins, nice to see some familiar faces, sounds like you are nearly there!

Can I ask, did anybody have early reassurance scans? Was it worth it? Did you have to go private?

Good luck jbrd hope it goes well, and thanks for the welcome.

Chicken I did have one at 8 weeks, both at my last pg and this one. My midwife arranged them for me, I didn't have to go private. It might be worth asking your GP or midwife, especially if you have had a mc, then they are often very happy to get one for you.

hi everyone, have a great last day baking! Good luck Jbrd, hope it goes well!

I'm six weeks today, doc appointment on Wed, started feeling queasy but no actual vomiting so am a bit disappointed, haha. chicken, I'm hoping to have at least one early scan, will let you know what my doc says on Wed. He has been incredibly supportive to this point so I'm expecting him to refer me straight through for a scan but from reading other threads it seems that it varies massively depending on your area/GP.

Stars That's very reassuring. I found a lovely, boring video of an American Ob/gyn about bump pain which had some stretches which seem to work (and the MW wasn't freaked out when I called). Had the common sense to click off the thing that said early labour felt like a mild ache over your bump (!!) even I'm not paranoid enough for that.
Yeah I think it's RLP, with maybe some constipation thrown in for giggles!

London Ooh feelings! Yeah bubbly pops or someone's little finger 'touching' your insides is how I feel it!

Welcome Chicken :)

baking Last day? Cake! Hope they give you cake! Woohoo you're on the home stretch now!

Moomin be careful about the 'oh dear not been sick' thing. I did that and had a horrendous time from a few days later. Karma! Actually sounds like the best of both worlds in a way, feeling a bit sick so you know you're pregnant, but not too bad.

My sis was having a big rant yesterday about how mum mum has never had a period pain or morning sickness in her life. I asked her about RLP and she was clueless about that too. Think I must take after someone else in the family haha!

Just rushing in to say hope it went well JBrd and here's to speedy results for you!

ha, you are right of course squizita, it's easy to wish for until it lands on you!

London how terribly exciting! movement! That is brilliant.

Baking - there must surely, 100% be cake!!

Thanks for the info. I think I'll give it a week or so then speak to gp/midwife. They were excellent when I m/c.

Just a quick grump - the aches and pains seem to be masking movement. I have felt movement but it's hard to notice (especially at work). Of course I know being only 20 weeks no one will consider 'patterns' yet (and with good reason) but still this pain is a pain!

Hello chicken, you will find lots of support here and I wish you a super sticky bean!

What a fab milestone Baking esp if you do get cake like Squiz suggested! I think my sweet tooth might be coming back as cake sounds good today.

Sending you huge buckets full of luck Jbrd and a hug for the next few days ahead. Do you go back to work this week or is it feet up recuperation?

Squiz my Mum and dp's Mum look at me like I am mad when I talk about breathlessness or pains/twinges. As if they just sailed right through it. I prefer to think they have blocked it out else the other conclusion is that I'm a wimp likely, but I'd rather pretend not

Congrats on 6 weeks Moomin

Asos have 50% off 50 matnerity items so I did a big shop this morning. I can't seem to find any maternity PJ shorts tho, has anyone seen any? Am having to wear vest to support boobs at night and just don't like a top without bottoms! Stole dp's boxers but they are starting to get tight.

We did our shopping trip yesterday. Going to order the stuff online tonight.

We've chosen a Silver Cross travel system (it was on offer), plus a cot that attaches to the bed and can be used as a travel cot too, and a bottle set.
I'm intending to breastfeed, but want to to have the option of bottles for expressing or if BF doesn't work.

Beginning to feel a bit more prepared.

jbrd hope all went well today. Take it easy and lets hope its not too long a wait.

I have had the worst possible news this morning.

When the consultant did the scan to prep for the amnio, he could not find a heartbeat. My baby has died.

I am in total shock. It was all going so well, and everything looked good at the last scan a few weeks ago.
They couldn't see any obvious reasons why, but he said that it might well have been that there really was a chromosomal abnormality that caused it. I will now go back in to take the first round of meds tomorrow, then going to be induced on Thursday.

It is all beyond my comprehension right now, I feel utterly destroyed, standing in front of this massive pile of shattered hopes, dreams and plans that I had started to make.

I will now bow out and say goodbye to all you lovely ladies. You have been such a support in the last few months, I had so hoped that I would be with you for the rest of my pregnancy.

Good luck to every single one of you - may you all have healthy, happy pregnancies and lots of healthy, happy babies! xxx

Oh God the cravings have started! (Well, that's my excuse!). I've gone right off chocolate (same thing happened before) and am craving cocktail sausages and ready salted crisps!

Result of that is I've eaten all 40 pork cocktail sausages I bought yesterday to train our new puppy and 6 packets of hulla-hoops!

Today I am definitely pregnant!!

I wrote my post just as JBrd must have been posting hers. We must have cross posted. I feel insensitive and rude.

JBrd You are very much in my thoughts. Words are inadequate. xx

Hello all,
Sorry it has been a long time since I last posted, I have been lurking quietly, but I have been watching! Glad to see that others are nearing the end of their long journeys, baking I am so pleased you're nearly there. I remember you as a stalwart force on the MC boards, and you so deserve a nice easy few weeks before LO arrives. Nice to see some new pregnancies being announced (here at least) as well, welcome to all the new ladies.
JBrd, hope your amnio wasn't too uncomfortable, and that you get the results back very soon - this has been a long wait for you, and you have shown such strength of character.
So, I have finally started telling people. Although I will wait until after I am sure the triple test has come back low risk for a more general announcement (and maybe even until the 20 week scan for some). But my mum, some close friends and a handful of colleagues are now in on the news. As even if the results are bad I am going to need some space and time to think about that.
Am dreading telling a few of my colleagues (as they will be worried [unnecessarily] about impacts on their projects), but life can't wait until all the projects are finished, can it?
Also dreading telling my NCT group. Of the 8 of us, only one couple have managed a second baby so far (DCs now 2.5ish), one lady is now about 25 weeks pg, and I know one other lady has had problems with MC and TTC. Should I send her a message before the others? Or will that make her feel horribly singled-out (this was how I felt when I got the 'before I told everyone' message)? Over-thinking this, I'm sure. I just want to try and be sensitive to their feelings. Any advice gratefully rec'd.

Oh jbrd . My heart goes out to you. There are no words.

Oh no JBrd. I posted too soon and wrote too long. There are no words. I am so, so sorry for your loss. and look after yourself, you are an amazing and strong woman.

jbrd :(
You and your family are really in my thoughts. How devastating. Wish I could make it better. :(

oh jbrd, my heart aches for you. I am so so sorry.

JBrd I am so sad and sorry for you. You're in my thoughts. I wish you strength, and the time and space to grieve. Your baby is so well loved. Oh damn it. It's not fair. I hope they are able to give you some answers if you ask them to investigate. (((hugs)))

I am so so sorry JBrd
You're in my thoughts.

Jbrd I am crushed for you. Totally devastating. Life is so harsh to the loveliest people. I hope it is some small comfort that I am thinking of you. Xxx