Today we are pregnant! Thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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Come and join us for lots of support, handholding and posifrickentivity! (Not sure I spelt that right...)

I'm at work on a Saturday :( feeling hormonal and guilty because DH is doing the Saturday morning domestic chores.
Pre-mother-guilt: not domestic enough. Should be baking and dusting like I do once a year at xmas haha. Evil career bitch doesn't deserve a baby after all the NHS have done for her.
Self slaps face with halibut

squiz First of all, boo for having to work on a Saturday. Second - honestly, get a grip! So you're not at home, dusting and scrubbing the floors, but you are earning a living, doing your bit for national education and economy and all. There is always time to be domestic. Bring your DH a cuppa in bed tomorrow and that's that

I have received 3 (!) letters with hospital appointments in the post today! They are certainly taking this whole looking after me quite seriously...

Apologies for my absence, iv been keeping up with everyone but not had chance to respond, been too busy with work. Congrats on all the good scan news this week

squiz I feel ur stress, I'm the least domestic person iv ever met, and beyond warming food up I can't even cook so I keep getting convinced il be a terrible mother who only ever gives her kids fish and chips as I dunno how to cook healthy stuff lol (obviously I'm gona try and learn to cook really) but u are at work and so have nothing to feel guilty for! I'm just praying that when nesting kicks in il suddenly become more domestic

Squiz, if it makes you feel any better, I'm a SAHM who hires a cleaner and out sources the ironing! Talk about mother guilt!

However you need to get in your head now that we don't live in the 1950's! The cooking, cleaning, child care and every other job around the house is NOT your sole responsibility! You and dh are partners, everything should be 50/50 especially if you work too!

hedge I'm glad it's not just me! I've never worried about it before so it's a bit odd to feel that way. He's out again tonight, lucky boy. This time to a rugby thing just up the road.

Tomorrow we're going pram/buggy shopping so I've asked him not to drink too much! He was hungover today so probably won't want to anyway.

Today I drove over to my old flat that I now rent out. Survived the drive! Still miss my flat a bit, I loved it there.

Hello everyone, just returning after a 2 week hiatus which has been full of work, announcing baby news and meaning to post on here, I do check daily but find it very hard to post so I apologise for my erratic membership to this thread.

Squiz - bad luck you have to work a Saturday, I worked every other weekend for a year (both days) last year - nearly killed me - altho on a positive note I really enjoyed/mad use of the day I got back during the week.

For those who can recall me mentioning my inlaws 2 weeks back - the predicted response from many of you was spot on - both mil and fil cried!!

Altho now I am feeling a bit like 'property' with my bump being observed everytime I see them!!!

The fetal heart monitor is still reassuring me altho I am only using it twice a week as I feel I could get obsessive.

Jbrd - hope things go well with the amio - sounds like you are getting tip top NHS treatment - that's great.

2 weeks on I have not heard a dicky bird re my NHS bloods which makes me thankful for the FMC early results.

I'm 15 weeks today and need to tell my boss on Monday - keep putting it off - have only just been confirmed in post after 6 month probation - feel like they will be disappointed in me - don't know where that comes from - probably more my stuff than my employer's.

Ho hum. Sorry for these random musings - hope everyone has a good weekend. Will try to post more regularly next week.

Keeping

squiz I take it this will. E your first baby? I don't think being domestic has anything to do with being a good mum. Seriously baking and dusting isn't in any baby/toddler rearing book I have read

And nope alb1 the nesting never kicked in for me. I love cooking but I think it's the creative side of it. Not about providing for family, iyswim. I really really hate housework. I would rather work on a Saturday then scrub the toilet or iron or dust! (And I hate working weekends or overtime). I have a cleaner so I can outsource it

If you want to try being all domestic while on maternity for your baby, have a look at annabelle karmel's weaning book. It has all sorts of advice and 'recipes' for making purées.

I definately got the nesting thing with DS. I made use of it and had thorough clear outs of everything and stuffed our freezer full of food! I also hoovered every day in the last two wks if preg - more because I didn't know when I would next get around to it - sad I know!!! This time I have a cleaner!! Although I credit a lot of my baby weight loss to not having a cleaner as I was always cleaning instead of sleeping when baby slept so I didn't sit down much!

But yes, cleaning etc has nowt to do with being a good parent. I'm glad I have a cleaner so can enjoy more time with the family rather than spending my weekend scrubbing the bath!!

Feel sick today again. And really tired. Pretty sure I will stay like this for rest of preg now... Oh well!

Feeling much less anxious last few days. I think Thursdays hell kind of made me stop and tell myself I'm being ridiculous. I don't know there is Somethjg wrong and I can't spend the next 5 weeks stressing. Somehow it's worked. Now dreading the MW appt this week!

Hi all, sorry for not posting for ages, it's been a hectic and sicky week thanks to stupid hyperemesis sneaking back, grrr! . Welcome to all the new faces I'll try and catch up more tomorrow, but briefly...

seasides that's brilliant news!!!

squiz brilliant news on your little girl, and a MASSIVE fish slap from me, you do not live in Stepford and so are not expected to behave as such for fear of people realising you aren't a robot!

Jbrd hope you're holding up ok - three letters is quite but as you say, really good that they're taking care of you xxx.

Cbeebies really hope things will kick off for you asap.

OneLittleToddleTerror not sure if it will make you feel better but DH and I still haven't announced my pregnancy and I'm 35 weeks! I can count on one hand the number of people who know, we're keeping quiet until baby is born, how's that for silly?

nerdy hope you're ok. Our baby is transverse (and back to back - thank God for the ELCS!) and the facts he is throws up some really wacky readings for the measurements depending on how he's jiffling about. Re your DH, I think it's really normal to feel insecure/worried about things, sending hugs xxx.

I think I might need some fish slaps please. I'm having a massive wobble tonight . We finally bought our pram/travel system and car seat and it's being delivered on Wednesday.
I was really excited about it, but no sooner had it been paid for when The Doom hit me, and now I'm terrified I've jinxed something. I'm 35 weeks fgs and baby is kicking up a storm, I'm being monitored until kingdom come and our ELCS is in 33 days - you would think I'd be over the paranoia by now . Sorry everyone, rant over.

Keeping really glad to hear announcing to your inlaws went well and yep, it seems when pregnant we become property of the tribe, so to speak . Try not to worry about your work, you'll probably find that they're thrilled for you and if not, stuff them! Easier said than done though.

Thank you for the stats on early scans a few people mentioned a few pages back. Really helpful to know. (I just had a 8 week ish scan)

I am less anxious this time round but I think it is partly because I am not letting myself feel to happy/excited about being pregnant.

I am really grateful for this thread. I am trying my best to follow what's going on with everyone! Good luck for everyone's pregnancies.

stars il throw some fish ur way, although I'm just as bad with the doom so il avoid the slapping! I can't believe ur 35 weeks already! I often loose track of exactly were everyone is up to weeks wise but I really thought u were still like 29 weeks or somethin (which is stupid I no) does that make u second in line now?

For those who are further along/have other DC, how much Braxton hicks are normal? Been getting them all day, and iv noticed when I get too busy or stressed in work it sets them off, is that normal? They don't hurt, there just uncomfortable, but there gettin kinda frequent and easier to trigger, is that all normal? Can't find much info about them n am tryna avoid google

Thanks Alb much appreciated . I can't believe it either, the time really seemed to drag until about 32 weeks, and now it seems to be speeding past thankfully! I keep thinking I'm not as far along as I am. We have a scan in ten days time and ELCS may be moved forwards depending on that, so may have even less than 33 days! I think perhaps I'm 3rd or 4th in line now .
Re the bh, I got them all the time and had very strong ones all throughout the second tri. Overdoing it, stress, spicy food, too much driving, laying in one position at night for too long and being a bit dehydrated all seemed to set them off. The consultant said it was normal, but perhaps have a chat to your midwife and get her to check as a belt and braces approach? I should add that mine were really painful and worryingly regular a lot of the time too.

Fedup I meant to say earlier really good to hear you're feeling less anxious but rubbish that you're feeling poorly, sending hugs xxx.

Alb also meant to say that I went through a few weeks of getting them every day, several times a day.

stars I think I won't voluntarily tell peoe I'm pregnant until baby is born either hopefully I can get rid of this sense of doom. But here's a big fish slap for you. At 35 week your baby will live even if it is born this moment! 37 weeks is already full term. Think about that.

alb I think normal covers a large range of variation. I didn't have braxton hicks last time. But I also didn't feel movement with DD unless she was hicupping in the womb. I was very naive with my first pregnancy and I didn't think that was worrying. Now I'm dreading being unable to feel daily movement again. It's yet another anterior placenta for me.

stars I get the doom thing. Baby was a bit quiet last night so I was worried. Finally plucked up the courage to plan a baby shopping trip so it seemed typical! But it's been kicking today.

Really can't put this off much longer. We need to start buying stuff as I've only a few random pieces of clothing and nothing else!

Stars what do BH feel like? Just called MW about some weird pains. Good news = she wasn't worried, bad news = none the wiser whether injured muscle, ligament pain or what? They're at the left side, low down. I suspect I strained a muscle poking, embarrassingly.

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Pooping not poking! Ha!

OneLittle thanks for the fish slap, and I do try to keep my mind on that, pregnancy is a real rollercoaster isn't it?

nerdy thank you. That's great news on planning the trip, and they do seem to pick those moments to stopmoving, don't they? Iknow exactly what you mean, DH has had to almost drag me to buy things, then when I get there I get all excited and love arranging everything in the nursery, and then about an hour later the doom hits again.

squiz good news that it's nothing to worry about, and what you're having sounds like round ligament pain to me, I got it a lot between about 16 weeks and 24 weeks and to me it felt exactly like something pulled from too much straining!
Bh (to me) feel like everything goes rock solid, your bump goes noticably hard as stone. You know normally there's a bit of give if you poke the skin on your abdomen? Well that disappears, and it feels like trying to poke an under-ripe apple, if that makes sense. My bh have always been very painful (although the NHS website calls them "painless tightenings" - yeah right!), like the cramping of period pain crossed with the sharpness of stitch/indigestion pain, but all across the lower half of the bump/abdomen. My bump goes solid for about a minute, and then visibly relaxes, and then does the same thing again on and off for a while (sometimes for up to an hour). For some people I don't think they're painful at all, they just feel intense, in a sort of make you stop what you're doing sort of way. Sorry, that's a really garbled explanation, they're difficult to explain but I hope that helps a bit! x

Hi all, hope everyone had a good weekend? Hello to Vallinna hope I spelt that right and any other newbies I have missed. Hope you've found support here already. Love reading through the read after a few days away and seeing how everyone supports one another. Feel like everyone who has been anxious has had a hand hold or a fish slap to help them settle!

Been to my Mum's this weekend. She has knitted super cute things already. I think I felt the baby on the way home! Very excited. Want it to happen again so I can be sure. Felt like 3 bubbles burst one after the other!

Mum also tried to give me a fair few of her tops as she's a couple of sizes bigger than me. I managed to appease her by taking 2. I know people mean well but 'bigger' doesn't necessarily work! Just looked like I didn't know how to dress myself in half of them!

Hello.
Can I join in please?
BFP yesterday and today, but only 11dpo so not 100% confident!
I have 22 month old DS, and misscarried at 6.5 weeks in Jan, followed by a CP.

Will try to catch up on everyone's stories!

Hi chicken I remember you from a thread where there were several if us speculating about pregnancy in january! So sorry about your losses but you have come to the right place for support and hand holding :-) x

Pschicken congrats on your BFP xxx

Thanks giraffe
I just took another test, still a line there. Starting to believe it more now!