The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

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Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

Good luck today london

JBird Another 2 weeks? :( What a worry for you.

London FX for today!

Tea RAAAAAAA at lousy appliances. An electrician charged us £50 last week for literally ONE minute's work. RAAAA! again, I say!

Corpore My mind also says 'not quite ready for maternity'. But my belly says 'yes'. Having a whale of a time looking up the worst examples out there e.g. THIS!

Hello all, just catching up again after our internet went down in our area (again) over the weekend .

kitkat and arkadyrose welcome and congratulations, although sorry you find yourselves here.

fod sending labour starting vibes (if such things exist) your way, really hoping everything kicks off for you soon x. From your comment the other day, which I hadn't replied to because of our stupid internet, yep I absolutely cannot wait!!! Time does seem to be passing more quickly now too

lili great news about your scan and welcome to team blue! There are quite a few of us expecting boys on the thread now .

Saggy great to hear you and Lucy are doing so well, time really is flying, it seems like yesterday that she was born! Really sorry to hear the three month operation is creeping up, sending hugs and support xxx. Also, pram on the underground?! I bow down in respect to you .

JBrd hope you're holding up ok, it's really awful that they've mucked up at such a stressful time anyway. xxx.

Mabel brilliant news on your scan! It's such a relief to see the heartbeat isn't it? I am being scanned regularly and even now at 31 weeks when I can feel our little chap thrashing around I still start sobbing as soon as I get into the scan room as it brings back such bad memories.

Thunder huge congratulatons! That's wondeful news!
How are you settling in? x

London thinking of you and I'll be keeping everything crossed that your have a fantastic scan this afternoon x.

kjh really glad to hear that everything turned out to be ok with your massive bean (perhaps marrow/pumpkin would be more accurate? ). It's so frightening when their movement changes.

Tea what an absolute pain, that's the last thing you need right now! on your behalf, and hope your washing machine gets fixed for good today, and your pram gets fixed too!

Penguinita I would say yes to taking the car seat, just in case, but I am a sort of belt and braces person. The babymoon sounds fantastic, I'm very envious .

Squiz at that dress!!!!!! I have given up on dresses now as they all just look like I'm wearing a marquee, so I'm living in my maternity jeans (my jojo maman bebe ones which I've had from 14 weeks and which have been brilliant) vest tops and waterfall cardigans.

Well, not much news from me, DH and I went on our baby shopping trip on Monday, didn't end up getting the pram or car seat as they didn't have the pram in stock in the colour I have my heart set on and as it's a package deal we couldn't get the car seat either. The pram is supposed to be back in stock in a couple of weeks though so hopefully we can get it then. I was secretly quite pleased as when we got to the shop the terror/paranoia set in and I got very wobbly about having the car seat installed in my car where I would see it regularly, and about having the pram in the house .
On the plus side, we did get his insanely expensive baby carrier, seriously however do they get away with charging that much for a cross between a traingular bandage and a backpack?! . We also got the world's supply of toys .
I had another meeting with our consultant yesterday and I am now on scheduled bed rest, so I only have to rest for six hours per day (excluding night time sleeping) which is brilliant as I can actually poke about the house a bit now. We also ran through a lot of the ELCS stuff, DH actually asked if he could be given a sedative, WTF?! I'm not sure whether he was joking either, the consultant and I both looked at him like . In fairness he is very squeamish and we're not having a screen up as I want to see what's going on, besides, I've had operations before without screens and it's not really that bad, so hopefully DH will be ok, otherwise he'll have to just look at my face! I should add that he is in agreement with the no screen, I didn't railroad him into it!
I've also had to sign consent forms as I'm refusing morphine and all other painkillers at any point before, during and after the ELCS (I will be taking antibiotics if needed though). Our consultant isn't that happy about it but said it's my choice and understands my reasons. I've had major abdominal surgery, emergency abdominal surgery and spinal surgery before and refused all morphine and painkillers then and it was absolutely fine, the pain was easily bearable each time, so I can't see that the pain will be much worse with an ELCS, or am I being naive?
Still, either way the most I will take is paracetemol, and only then if I really have to. Hmm, just realised that I sound like a scientologist - I'm not honestly!!! I was very badly addicted to morphine (and other painkillers) after being on very high doses for a long, long time several years ago (I was paraplegic following an accident that I wasn't expected to recover from). Although I'm mostly fine now, and I can walk again (and run, scuba dive etc), the addiction was hell to break and I'm never doing that again, I'd bear any amount of pain before I went back there. I still have nightmares about it . Thank God I had DH to help pull me out of that pit.

Hope that everyone else is ok, sorry if I've missed anyone x.

Wow, sorry about the self indulgence there, I didn't realise how much I was rambling, think I need some concise writing skills!

Stars, sorry you've had such a rough time on opiates. Totally get your choice on this one. I hope it works out as you'd hope xx

YAAAAYYY - washing machine on it's third (working) cycle this morning after another new part got put in it. Crossing fingers, toes labia and everything

Got fed up with Mothercare (customer services, not shop, as shop sent me to customer services), and finally ordered wheel off Babystyle suppler direct. It's only £8.50, and so worth not having to stress any more. Off to write a grumpy letter to Mothercare now!

Feel much better hearing washing machine being noisy.

stars, I'd be surprised if they'd perform ELCS without spinal or epidural anaesthesia, just because I think you'd struggle to stay still, but bupivacaine, the main drug used in such local anaesthetics, isn't an opiate (although it is sometimes used with fentanyl, which is). Might be worth discussing in more detail what sorts of drugs, adverse reactions, sensitivities might be with your consultant. I understand your reasoning, but they don't have to use any opiates at all for you to have a calm ELCS.
I stopped taking the prescribed co-codamol after the second dose as I was worried it was making me dozy and constipated, and that it would be passed on to DD via bf, and stopped the diclofenac once I went home, I made it to 7cm+ (when I was last examined) and walked to theatre with no drugs whatsoever (I wanted no further delays, not even to find a wheelchair), but I couldn't have considered CS without a spinal block. Admittedly I was in active labour so struggled not to leap about when I was having contractions, but am impressed that you've managed surgery without pain relief (I may have misunderstood!). You are amazing for having kicked your addiction, overcome paralysis and gone on to achieve so much. Sorry you didn't get the pram, have you pre-ordered it so that you're first on the list when the right colour comes in?
Hope all babies are where they ought to be today (crossing fingers for fod that you're nearly there now). In my leggings and dress today so not causing danger to others

Penguinita Just make sure that your travel insurance covers pregnancy-related issues! Very often they don't, but it's in the small print, so you have to add it extra. You hear horrendous stories about people who did have insurance and got stuck really badly... Even if you are staying in the UK I think it's worth checking. So jealous of your babymoon!

London Good luck with your scan today!

tea I can't imagine what I would do if our washing machine broke down! Probably make the rounds at friends in our village... Great that they got it fixed, let's hope it stays that way. And Mothercare are awful, you hear so many bad stories! I don't shop there anymore (didn't have a bad experience, but our local Mothercare shop is sooo dirty!).

stars I can understand your concerns with painkillers! If you are having an ELCS, hopefully you won't need any beforehand. With my CS, I managed really well with paracetamol afterwards, but I think that really depends on how it all goes and how you recover. Surely there are options for non-morphine ones?

Thank you all for your words of support. I have read so many stories like mine now on here where people with bad blood results have had very good outcomes, so trying to focus on that for now. Fortunately, there is lots to do at work, so I have plenty of distraction.

Thanks stars I too am really sorry about what youvd been through! At least your out the other side now xxx

Thank you corpore wish I was ;( up all night having contractions again! Got MW app tomorrow so I'm assuming they will book my induction and offer a sweep... But ya know what they say about assumptions? Lol

Minor freak out. Just carried a HEAVY bag of folders and now have a ligament twinge. Scared I've done myself a mischief.

Just catching up after a couple of days of a nasty virus kept me away.

kitkat and arkadyrose big welcome to the thread. We're all rooting for you.

fod hope little one gets on with it soon for you. My DC1 was overdue and the waiting is tough.

LondonJen how's it gone today with the scan? Been thinking of you.

JBrd I really hope the results are good for you. Waiting is the hardest thing ever though, I really feel for you.

So I have my first appointment with the consultant tomorrow. I'm under consultant care for this pg because of my history. It will be interesting to see how s/he responds when I tell him or her that's it's technically impossible for me to be 14wks &1 pregnant now, and 13 weeks is the most I can possibly be!

Corp oh crikey, no I didn't mean having the ELCS without anaesthetic - just without the opiates which usually go with it and without the painkillers/anti-inflams afterwards! Sorry for the confusion! I have discussed in detail with the anaesthetist and consultant, and as you said, they can apparently do the anaesthetic part without the painkillers. I should clarify the majory surgery I've had before was with the anaesthetic but without the painkillers, I meant that I didn't have any painkillers or anti-inflams during or afterwards. Sorry about that, didn't mean to sound ridiculous!

Tea (great news about the machine! ) and fod thank you . Sorry, I didn't mean to sound like a whiney wet blanket, I was/am extremely lucky and I always keep that in mind, it wasn't great but it could have been a heck of a lot worse.

JBrd It's really good to hear that you're staying positive and that you've got things to occupy you, really hope you get good news soon xxx. Thank you, it's really good to hear you managed with paracetemol . Yes there are others, but I'm allergic to a lot of them, and the ones which I'm not allergic to are either opiates or are so mild that if I'm going to take them I may as well just take paracetemol. I will be taking arnica tablets though in the hope that they help.

Squiz try not to worry, I've had loads of twinges from doing things I shouldn't and our consultant said they are just muscle/ligament twinges as your muscles/ligaments are getting stretched and weaker, it seems to be really easy to pull things in pregnancy. Keep an eye on it though and you could always give your midwife a ring if you're worried x.

Sorry again everyone, just realised how "me me me" and pathetic my last post sounded I didn't mean to be insensitive and hope I haven't offended anyone. The perils of house-arrest fuelled ramblings and a chronic case of foot in mouth disease .

All is well ladies Got quite a stretchy little monkey who was kicking limbs everywhere and a great picture of him sucking his right thumb whilst his left hand tucked behind his head -proper chilled, going 'why where you ever worried mum'?!!

Got combined test results to come but all looking well. I've told my mum, who is delighted. dp wants to wait to be sure of low risk result before sharing with his family, that's up to him. I think he just wants to be very sure of things before involving his mum in this bless him.

Been upgraded from 12+5 today to 13 weeks today. Will update the stats list and read what I've missed when get on a computer hope all is well xx

Yay London!!!! What awesome news hope you are going to have a good celebration tonight! Nothing beats that lovely post-dating scan glow

London that's fantastic news!!! Love the sound of the picture, bless him/her xx

London just logged to read your news and am delighted for you! Woo woo! Love the picture as well.

Stars please stop worrying you're fine. Just sharing your story which is surely an important part of these forums? Sounds like you've had a pretty tough time in the past too, so you deserve it a bit easier this time around. I hope that is the case. I didn't even realised they administered opiates as a standard part of an op / general anaesthetic so you've educated me there.

London yay! You knew it! Am so pleased for you. This is a real milestone - hope you enjoy telling all your family and friends. V happy for you and your DH.

Fab news, London!!

Stars paracetamol and ibuprofen might be good enough post ELCS. I don't know, because I was given morphine after both mine - and I do remember when it started to wear off the pain was pretty bad. I genuinely can't remember what painkillers I was put on in those 3 days afterwards when the pain is at its worst. Given that I never had long enough off it, it's hard to judge how bad it will be without opiates. Certainly in the weeks afterwards the paracetamol was fine. I guess you can play it by ear?

Squiz am sure it's fine. The twinge will probably be due to the extra weight you carried but I'm sure nothing more than a strained ligament/muscle. And it's a good reminder that you've got to take it easy and look after yourself.

Waving at everyone else.

Feeling really emotional today and tearful. Think it's because I'm having a quiet one. Hope it's the hormones more than anything else. Don't feel very human, am exhausted so much of the time and generally not feeling like myself, energy-wise. Find it hard to find motivation for much of anything which sounds terrible I know given I should be over the moon about being PG. I think I'm going to book in some acupuncture - or something anyway to help with the emotional side of things. Anyone else got very teary at this point? (8/9 weeks)?

Hope all well. x

Hey Mabel - I can offer you a 'teary at any week of your choosing'?! Sending hugs. I think it gets better for most people as time goes on x

Thanks all for the lovely welcome and fab news on your scan London.

Today I am still pregnant :) Now 4 + 5 so getting closer to the dreaded 5+4. Luckily work is busy, we're in the process of buying a new car and selling a house so much of spare time is spent cleaning the house etc .

Felt properly nauseous for the first time this morning although I've got a stinking cold so it may just have been that. I am however constantly burping - I can't stop and also ravenous with hunger and have some heart burn - I'm hoping the more symptoms I have the more likely this one will stick.

Also have some mild lower back pain and this evening a weird stitch in the left side of my tummy which I'm hoping is a sign of good things happening not bad things.

Still not told my partner - next Friday will be the big reveal although I had to make up a random excuse for not helping him carry a wardrobe down stairs yesterday!!

London, so glad to hear your news.

mabel, although teariness has been a regular feature, I do remember feeling particularly hormonal and easily upset around 9 weeks. I felt much better able to cope with it if I had had decent sleep, so perhaps give yourself some rest.

Hey everyone
Thought I'd stop by and say hi, someone recommended me this thread as I'm a bit worried, I'm 9+1 and it seems like all my symptoms are going away.
My boobs were sore just to walk but now I have to press pretty hard on them to see if they hurt (how stupid does that sound?!) I had some mild but fairly regular nausea - now gone.
I know it's daft because when I feel sick I wish it would go but now it's gone I'm worried!
I had MMC last October and distinctly remembering amid all the visits to toe EPAU and scans that the symptoms just ebbed away and it was then a confirmed MMC around that time too.
Because I had same strong abdominal pains this time at 5 wks (just like i did last October with the MMC) i went to EPU again but this time saw a yolk sac (improvement on last time as there was nothing t be seen at 5 wks) then 2 wks later had a 2nd scan with a tiny foetus with foetal pole and the yolk sac which was amazing as I was sure something would've gone wrong.
I've started to get some more pains today but nothing unbearable and no spotting of bleeding so there's no real reason I think there's a problem I'm just super worried and my dating scan isn't until 28th April which feels like an age away! (Also our 7th wedding anniversary and I'm sacred we'll get bad news)
My first pregnancy in 2009 was textbook (until crazy labour and emergency CS!) but since having the MMC I still to swing between super positive and sure it'll all work out to the complete opposite expecting a major bleed to begin at any moment. Feel like I'm going a bit bonkers...

Mabel and Mammy just to say that I was an emotional wreck at 9 weeks as my symptoms were so unpredictable - one day I had them and another day they were gone. I was convinced that all was not well. Sickness gone. Tiredness gone.

In fact, my 12wk scan last week was positive and it showed the little bean wriggling all over the place. Unfortunately, I think that probably emotional highs and lows are all par for the course when you've had a MC or MMC. I didn't get them so much with DC1. This time round it feels like it's been nothing but highs and lows.

Oh and the sickness and tiredness came back with avengeance....

Meant to say a big welcome to kitkat. Jump on board...