The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

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Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

Hi Ark, sorry to hear of your history, really wishing you a sticky bean x

Fod my pom poms are on standby ready to cheer you on!

Jbrd that sounds a lovely weekend. Glad you got to enjoy and be distracted. Your ds sounds so cute! Holding your hand for tomorrow.

Assuming scan goes well this week I will add myself to the stats after

Question for those that know does this mass tummy bloat ever go away? Or does it just get gradually replaced by the bump?

Hi all, welcome to Ark, and sorry fod that you're still waiting. kjh, hope your baby manages to hang on a bit longer - I had DD at 36+5 and it really was a bit too soon, she was fine but there were a couple of nerve-wracking moments at the start.
Well I feel fat today. Currently 8+6, but I am going to have to start thinking a bit more carefully about work clothes - bunged a (usually tightish) shirt on this morning and am terrified that I am going to take someone's eye out with a button it's so tight. So a sandwich and some chips at lunchtime helped out with that situation (still very, very hungry)!

Still such a long time to go until 12 week scan, not until 23rd April, even though we saw the heart beating at the EPU at 6 weeks I am scared that it will be a MMC. Mild nausea and being a bloater aside there is nothing external to indicate that I am pregnant, and other than the people I have had to tell (my line manager so that he understands why I'm not taking on additional responsibilities at the moment, my building manager for Risk Asst), no-one knows. But it feels so obvious to me!!

fod sorry to hear things still havnt progressed for you!
Welcome ark jbrd glad to hear uv managed to have a nice relaxing weekend, hope u managed to get things sorted tomorrow and that they redo the test for you.

Thanks for everyone's support the other day, was reassuring to hear it was normal to feel like that. Had a very busy weekend with work so that's kept my mind off it since mostly. Had a lot of shooting pains in the top and bottom of my 'bump' this weekend but my uterus is starting to move past the belly button point so I'm not surprised it's starting to hurt more to be honest, I just want a slightly bigger bump so it's more obvious that I'm pregnant and not just chubby!

Good luck to all those with scans coming up with week, sorry to anyone iv missed!

Oo the dust bunnies and tumble weed are blowing through the thread lol!
But glad to see no-one overly anxious.

I hope you managed to keep your shirt done up corpore! At least it's April now only 3 weeks and bit for you. Try to break it down with some plans to keep you busy that's my only advice.

Check you out Alb! Lovely bump! Sorry it's a bit painful but sounds like all is as it should be.

I feel better today thankfully but am bit overexcited about scan and finding it hard to focus on anything! I just can't believe that I am going to get to have a normal scan tomorrow (rather than one where we knew there'd be nothing to see barring a miracle) and then tell family. Dp says he has prepared himself for a number of outcomes. I haven't. I am in complete denial about anything bad and feel very strongly like I had my shit time already and this time it's going to be fine, so it's going to hit me very hard if it's not okay.

thunder congratulations! There is a grads' FB group. I was on it but am having a FB hiatus at the moment. PM GardenWorm and she'll add you.

My thread babies are 7 months now. I can't believe how quickly it's gone. Good luck to you all.

London FX for tomorrow.

I am trying hard to believe all my bad luck is used up too, for my doppler appt Friday! Not as good at it as you mind Must remind myself: NO PAINS, NO BLOOD, GETTING FATTER = PROBABLY NORMAL.

Good luck today jbrd hope you get some answers (preferably with a much lower risk)

london liking the positivity! Good luck for tomorrow.

Newbie here!

TTC #1, 2 early mc's late last year and one BFP yesterday.

I'm just over 4 weeks and terrified that it's going to happen again!

Good luck for today Jbrd keeping everything crossed for you that all is going to be ok xx

Welcome kitkat! This is a very good place to be - especially in the early days. You'll find everyone knows exactly how you are feeling but don't forget TODAY YOU ARE PREGNANT! Hoping you have a lovely, uneventful pregnancy

London loving the posifrickintivity! Bet you have a lovely scan tomorrow - it is terribly exciting to see the little bean up on the screen!

I've just seen mine actually - although he is no longer a bean or little! Sonographer told me I'm going to have to do 'a big push' - apparently the little man weighs 7.5lbs at 37weeks .

Was referred to the Day Assessment Unit for a check due to the bubba going absolutely ballistic and deciding it was a good idea to thrash around the place, thoroughly alarming his mother (after some ill-advised googling from which I decided he was being starved of oxygen). Needless to say he was absolutely fine and probably protesting about the lack of space in there. However, the lovely midwives were insistent they'd rather people got checked if they were worried and so I got to see his heart beat and the fact he already has hair! And his foot giving me a good kicking (he also tried to stick it in his mouth).

I also had a contraction while they were scanning me but that was more than two hours ago and I have felt absolutely nothing since then.

I am so ready for this little man to make an appearance now. I really don't fancy being pregnant for too much longer - especially since the Sonographer told me he was such a good size!

Thanks kjh5 - I keep thinking I feel slight stomache pains or back ache but not sure if it's all in my head. Just need to keep my head down, keep busy and not think about it until I feel like we are out of the danger zone!

amazing positivity from london, well done!

jbrd thinking of you today. I hope it goes well for you today.

although we have bought virtually nothing for this baby (I am 30 weeks now and can feel him jumping around so ought to be less worried) the carpet was fitted in the nursery today after months of decorating, so I feel we have made a big step towards his arrival.

kitkat welcome. your approach sounds very sensible to me, it is the only way I coped. that and small milestones towards the 12 week scan.

Welcome kitkat Good that you have found us, you will have lots of support and handholding here. The first trimester is so hard... One day at a time, the motto is 'Today I am pregnant'

kjh5 That sounds a happy healthy weight! Great that you got checked out so thoroughly, nothing like some reassurance.

Loving the positivity, London!

So, my nuchal scan at the FMC did not bring up anything new. All the scan markers are fine - nuchal fold small, nasal bone present, heart and liver valves all good, too.
It's still my blood results that are the problem, my Papp-A levels are very low. And that combined with my age really pushes the risk up. The FMC put my age-related risk at 1:40 (the NHS uses 1:60), so they gave me an even higher risk for Down's of 1:6 . But since they use the different age risk and everything else is the same as the hospital result, that should explain the difference. But my heart stopped for a second when the doctor said 1:6!
I am repeating the Harmony test now and then will make a decision on whether to have CVS or amniocentesis based on that. Just hope it works this time!

So I am now in yet another 2ww - thought I'd gotten past those when I got my BFP

jbrd it's so unfair that you are having 2WWs visited on you at this stage of the game. Good that everything looks normal on the scan. Hope this time the Harmony bloods come back with a low risk result for you.
Did they have any ideas what sort of things can cause low Papp-A?

baking Low Papp-A can be caused by diabetes, smoking or being overweight, none of which apply to me (well, I am a bit overweight, but not much ). Bleeding in pregnancy can also skew the blood results, but again, mine stopped quite a few weeks ago now.

Unfortuantely, even if there are no chromosomal abnormalities, low Papp-A levels are associated with fetal growth problems later in pregnancy...

But for now I am trying to stay positive... But DH and I will need to have 'the talk' at some point to discuss what we will do in case the DS is confirmed, by whichever means. And I have a feeling that we have very opposing views on how to deal with this...

corpore I feel you. I am 8+5 and I can't believe how big I feel already. Boobs have actually torn the bra I'm wearing. I get cramps in my tummy wearing my jeans since they're now - already - too freaking tight! And according to the scales at my doctors I've already put on 7 pounds. Wha'? It'll be good when we get to the point we can tell people - as a way of explaining our burgeoning figures. Anyway, hope your buttons stayed on.

London you're right to feel good and positive about the scan. I think you know that everything will be fine. I have my fingers crossed for you - how exciting it will be to be able to tell everyone!

kjh great that your baby is blooming! Lots of movement must be a good sign. hang on in there, and try to be patient. Try and enjoy the last weeks of being PG, although know at that stage all you want is to get hte baby out!

JBrd keep us posted with your news. I thought the nuchal fold was a pretty good indicator of DS risk so I'd take a lot of positivity from that. Hope the Harmony test goes the way you want it to. Frustrating to have all these questions to deal with and uncertainty.

kitkat you are not alone. I'm still in first trimester (8+5 weeks) and found those very early days particularly nerve-wracking. Sending you sticky bean vibes. If you have any concerns this is the right place to post. We've all been there - I had a huge scare in the early days and found a lot of comfort on this thread.

As for me, I'm fine - fed up with feeling so exhausted all the time and just can't wait to get a bit of energy back. But also of course the tiredness is reassuring as it shows my body is definitely doing something for the bean inside. Had quite sore cramping last night - but was piercing rather than dull. And passed soon enough. Think in hindsight it may have been coz my trousers were too tight. Days still dragging by. 12 week scan feels so far away.

Hello to everyone else!
x

Totally off topic grump - washing machine broken again after it's third 'fix' yesterday. Hotpoint sending repair guy again tomorrow. Most of my very few matty clothes that fit are stuck underwater (and will smell rank by the time they are free-d). They won't replace the machine until it breaks a fifth time (FFS). I am heading for 38 weeks, planning a gory, blood filled home birth, and will have no washing machine by the time this gets resolved. I need trips to the laundrette like I need a hole in the head right now.

Also, 5 weeks after pram delivery, mothercare still haven't replaced the broken wheel that my Oyster arrived with. If I ended up with a c section, I'll be totally housebound as I won't be able to sling it around.

Grump, grump, grumpity grump. Sorry for self-obsessed post. Hi newbies, hi kjh (don't you dare leapfrog me! ). x

And I'm twinge-y. And desperate. But I'm pretty sure it's just chubberchops having a good wriggle probably wrong way up again

Tea how far is the launderette? Could you walk it then give birth when you get home?
That really sucks :( hope they can repair the washing machine soon and as for Mothercare who have you been dealing with? The shop or customer services? I had a similar problem with my pushchair with dd1, although it turned up and half of it was missing. The shop were really helpful and the store manager hand delivered the missing parts after her shift as soon as she located them in a different shop and had that store manager deliver it to a different shop, where that store manager delivered it to her shop!

But then I've also heard shocking things about their customer service. Hope you get it sorted soon

Jbrd how crap that you are waiting again! with those projected odds would you not continue going straight to amnio?
my dp and I had TOTALLY opposing views about Down's and I completely overrode him. at the end of the day, the ultimate, sign that consent form, decision would be entirely on my conscience.
I made the decision that I personally could live with. I don't envy either of you being faced with that discussion.
FWIW neither of us would change Lucy for the world now we have her.

Ah Tea hope you can get it fixed tomorrow! There is nothing more frustrating at the moment than things going wrong in the house (you're speaking to a woman who spent a good 30min sponge-washing the garden chair cushions this afternoon). Hope it isn't too much longer for you, are you feeling excited at all?

I'm kind of hoping mine comes now (even although I keep getting told that statistically he is probably going to be overdue). I never thought I would actually feel desperate for labour to start. After learning how much he weighs, I'm just getting a bit nervous about trying to push out a 10lb monster in three weeks' time!

Jbrd really hoping you get some good answers soon, all this waiting around must be the worst! Thinking of you

Hi Kitkat, congratulations! Your plan for distraction is the best advice I had for the early days. And coming on here whenever feeling wibbly. Wishing you a super sticky bean.

kjh that is SO lovely! What a flexible boy ha ha! Glad it was nothing to worry about.

Jbrd sorry you have to wait it out that is sucky. Could the earlier bleeding really not be responsible now? I wish I knew more about these things but I hope you and dp are getting lots of support and information.

I think my posifrickintivity is thanks to the midwive we saw in EPAU. She basically told me she would not be seeing me back there. Like she wasn't just being nice it was her total conviction. Obviously statistically it was more likely than not that she was correct but also she couldn't possibly know whether I would mc again. I feel like she purposefully gave me something I really needed to hear for when I was pg again and at first I daren't believe it wouldn't happen again but having got this far in the last two weeks I really started to cling to what she said. What a fab lady.

Hi to everyone else. Scan not till 3.15pm tomorrow but will let you all know how we get on. Thanks again for all getting me this far

jbrd, I'm so sorry that FMC came back with those odds. I am hoping that your second round of Harmony gives you an answer, and I would honestly postpone thinking about it too much or discussing the options until the results are back. Your DH may surprise you, as Saggy said. How long would cvs or amnio take by comparison? I have everything crossed for you, I can only imagine how hard it is to have to wait.
Sorry to hear about household nightmares tea, I do hope that they do fix it this time.
Sympathy to Mabel on the clothing front. I managed to get through yesterday without exploding out of my top, think I will have to switch to jumper dresses and leggings for now until I can justify getting the mat wear out of storage to myself.
Off to book flights to America for a conference now... If all goes well will be 20wks by then.

Sorry London, best of luck for tomorrow.

I'm a bit behind with catching up on the thread, but congratulations thunder on your bouncing baby girl! Fabulous news, I hope the labour went well. We definitely need to update the stats now if anyone has the will to go back through the thread and find the most recent ones.

Welcome to kitkat and arkadyrose, I remember you from the TTC board arkady. It is so lovely to see you here and pregnant!

Well fod, your little one likes to keep you waiting! Hope things start moving for you soon. Have you been given an induction date if they don't?

Hope you are either feeling a bit better kjh or false labour turns onto the real thing, it must be tough being in limbo. That is so cool that you could see your little boy's hair on the scan though!

Sorry to hear that you didn't get better news JBrd. Hope the harmony works this time around.

I had a mad busy baby-focused weekend. On Saturday we had our first all-day NCT class which was very good and a nice bunch of people that I hope we stay in touch with. Then on Sunday I emptied my sister's loft of baby stuff, and came away with a car full of Moses basket, birthing pool, bouncer, playmat, boxes and boxes of clothes, steriliser, sling, etc etc. Now I just need to find somewhere to keep it all!

A question: we are going on a babymoon next week when I will be 33 weeks (spa hotels, posh restaurants, etc, can't wait!). Should I take the baby car seat just in case?

penguin no they haven't ;( I see the MW on thur where I think they'll give me another sweep and then discuss induction - had contractions for the last two hours but turned to nothing again ;(