The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

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Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

Awww that's great news! Especially the bringing it forward bit! Bet you can't wait can you? Can't believe your that far along now! Wow doesn't it fly?

Update as promised....went with my fiance to our 20wk scan (I'm now 21w+5) and we are expecting a boy!!! Soo excited!! Everything appeared to be healthy and it was a great experience that scared the life out of me while in the waiting room! We both plucked up the courage and bought our baby's first outfit :) adorable!!!! Happy day all xxxx

JBrd how worrying for you, but I think bloods can be quite easily affected by other things going on in your body. Your nuchal scan measurement is really low, if they based it on that alone I think you would be low risk. It is great that you are having the harmony test so you don't have to do the more invasive riskier procedures, hopefully that will give you a much more definite answer.

Come on baby fod, we all want to meet you!

Really lovely news on all these good scans , congratulations all.

Hey lovely ladies. I just popped in for a peak at how you are doing.
Im glad you all seem well.
Penguin gas and air is good, but...
It can have several effects. It knocks me right out, which is ok, but it also seriously impairs my ability to control what I'm saying! A the point of pushing my mw told me to stop heaving on the mouthpiece between contractions. I may have definitely did told her to 'go fuck herself'!
Jbrd ive PMed you. Try not to worry. Far far far more people have positive outcomes from bad test results than have negative ones. Its hard, I know, but you just need to wait it out and try not to think about it. Lots of love to you. x
Everyone else, take care, don't stress and ENJOY being pg . If doesn't take long for it to become a distant memory!
Lucy is 3 weeks old today! I can't believe it! The time has flown by! We have settled in at home and are really chilled and relaxed. We went to London on Wednesday for her cardiac scan, which wasn't quite so relaxed, I REALLY don't recommend taking a pram on the underground, and the result of the scan is that they couldn't find anything they weren't expecting to see and being a good size they want to operate on her at 3 months. Which is quite frankly terrifying! The last 3 weeks have flown by, 3 months is just around the next corner! She's far too tiny for surgery! They may well need to sedate ME when the time comes!
Anyway. Lots of love to everyone and cuddles from Lucy. xx

Fod! You're still here! Glad to hear you are hanging in there - hopefully not too much longer for you

Jbrd thinking about you, sounds like you've had good advice from others on here who know much more about results, hope you can hang in there until the Harmony test comes in xx

Awww saggy can't believe how quickly time goes - glad to hear Lucy is thriving! Fx all goes well over the next few months for you.

Lili FAB news about your scan when we had our 20week I also went straight out and bought some newborn clothes from Baby Gap - made everything seem that much more real/exciting.

Such great scan news this week - keeping Fx for everyone who has one coming up...

Thank you all for your kind words. I'm trying to hang on to the fact that nothing is certain yet, the numbers are a risk, which doesn't mean that it turn out that way.

All the measurements and blood results came from the NHS 12-week scan, and the sonographer did not pick up on any markers - but would they look for that anyway at 12 weeks? I thought that's what they did at the 20-week scan.
I'm having the nuchal scan repeated at the FMC on Tuesday (as part of the package with the Harmony test), when I will also get the Harmony results (I hope!).

Someone also mentioned (was it you, baking?) that I should ask for the risk calculated without the age factor - do they do that? I'd be interested to know what it would be without taking into account that I'm ancient... Just thinking I might give the hospital a call again today to ask about that, they were ever so kind and said to give them a ring, should I have any questions.

Jbrd I'm sorry to hear you've had this added worry and stress but it sounds like you've got all the right things lined up for answers. Glad you're focusing on the positive. You're right for now it's just a risk assessment.

Hia Ruggle, lovely to hear your scan news. Sorry about the hyperemesis but glad it's eased a bit. It's so great to hear about a healthy pg after hard times. Stay well.

Hi ImBrian do pull up a chair. I hope you have a very boring and ordinary pregnancy this time round

Woohoo Fod a baby by Monday?! What did you do this weekend? Oh I had a baby! Love it! Sorry about having to get pals in. Sounds like you handled them though. Good luck, we'll be thinking of you xxx

Lili Just wonderful to hear your news I can feel your excitement in your post! Really pleased for you and thank you for giving me such hope for the same in my own future.

Saggy you brave lady on the underground. I was just looking at what our milkman offers yesterday and thinking once baby arrives perhaps he can bring all the food for weeks and I need never leave the house!! We will be here for handholding at 3 months. Enjoy your snuggles! xx

Nerdy this is for you for your 24 week milestone and my reaching 12 weeks today

Jbrd 12 weeks is the scan for spotting these anomalies. If you ask for the blood test they will openly check nuchal and soft markers. If you decline the testing they still check quietly and they still MUST tell you if they spot anything anomalous.

Just had a phone call to tell me that the Harmony test has failed - they couldn't get enough fetal DNA from my blood to do it

FFS!

Now they will repeat the nuchal scan and do the same combined risk calculations with my bloods that they did at the hospital. Apparently, theirs is 'much more accurate'. Hmph. Not sure I believe that. My nuchal is fine, but a blood test is a blood test, so I doubt they will get a better PappA or hcG. But they will also look in great detail for other markers (they better, considering what I am paying them!).

Sorry for the rant, I'm so frustrated!

oH jbird how unbelievable! :( I hope their test is bloody well more accurate, you don't want to be paying for the same uncertainty!

London and Nerdy . I actually have some de-alcoholised wine at home and have been wondering if it will be nice or vile. I have heard it's rank. Who dares me try it tonight?

Oh JBrd, I am on your behalf. How frustrating. I don't think it will be a stretch for you to go in to them properly sad & worried - make them work for their ££.
I am really hopeful that they will take even more care than the NHS sonographers to look for soft markers and make sure that they are giving you as detailed a picture as possible.

jbrd I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Hang in there until Tuesday and then get the Harmony people to do as much as they can to help you. Maybe write a list of questions to ask, and check any paperwork you have to see if there's anything about what happens if the test fails. Talk to the hospital too.

to you too london In another 12 weeks you'll be where I am now and I'll be heading for maternity leave. Couldn't imagine that when I first got BFP! Am making a real effort now with the posifrickingtivity.

squiz you should try the wine. It might be ok. Have another drink and a snack handy to take the taste away if it isn't.

jbrd how frustrating for you, it's gona be a very long few days! Hopefully they can give u some more information on Tuesday.

saggy glad to hear everything's going well, can't believe it's been 3 weeks already!

Good to here there have been more great scans! Welcome imbrian your in the right place here.

Having a bit of a funny day today, today would have been my due date for my MMC, I feel a lot more emotional about it than I thought I would, and oddly guilty for feeling so sad about it when I'm currently pregnant with a different baby who I already love so much, very strange range of emotions, il be glad when I get to work later and have something to take my mind off it. Sorry for the slightly morbid post, no one in RL nos about today so had to say something somewhere!

Oh Jbrd I want to stamp my feet in frustration for you. Can they not take more blood from you and try again to get fetal dna? Not that I know anything about these things.. Hopefully they will be super thorough for other markers.

Yeah Squiz go on! I love Nerdy's suggestion of having something to hand to take the tase away just in case ha ha! You never know it might be delicious?!

Nerdy I am really starting to believe I could be in for some mat leave. Not much tho as I work for myself. DP is hilarious on the subject 'you work at home so surely you don't need any?' Oh naive boy! He's going to get quite a shock come October bless him.

Alb I am glad you feel you can come and share esp as no-one in RL knows. It must be really hard esp if you are feeling a lot more things and more intensely than you were expecting. My due date for my MMC will be in May around when I will be having my 20 week scan for this pg all being well. I can't even begin to think how I will feel about that mixed bag. Take it easy on yourself today and over the weekend too. I think you have to feel these things in order to process them sometimes. hugs. xx

Hello everyone!

Saggy - yeah the tube is incredibly un-pram friendly. I guess a sling next time or even bus is better with prams. Anyway so glad all is well with you and your little girl.

Fod - how exciting! Baby imminent!

london congrats on the milestone! That's a big deal for us previous-MC'ers. Raising a glass to you.

JBrd sorry you're having all this frustration with your tests. Please try and hold on to the fact that you're much more likely to have a healthy baby than not.

Alb it's totally normal to have these feelings when your MC EDD arrives. Allow yourself to feel a bit miserable. It doesn't mean you don't love the bean inside you. Weirdly my EDD seems to be the day I conceived - which, if I were a buddhist, would probably seem quite significant. As it is, it meant that I quite quickly was able to distract myself with thoughts of the new bean growing inside me. But I don't think you'll ever stop thinking about the pregnancies you've lost.

As for me - I had early scan yesterday and was completely terrified beforehand but - GOOD NEWS! - measuring 8+2 weeks and saw the little heart beating away. I'm starting to look forward now a bit more, and to believe that this one is here for keeps.

I can't tell you how my heart stopped in my throat though when that screen appeared - memories of my last scan and MMC came flooding back.

So, a big sigh of relief from me.

Thanks everyone for wishing me luck and sending positive thoughts.

everyone else sorry if I've missed anyone's big news - hope you're all well and have good weekends ahead.

x

jbrd that is the pits! I think they normally offer to take another sample but more delay is not what you need. Hope whatever they find on Tuesday is reassuring in the meantime.

mabel and lilimum pleased to hear good scan news!

Hello saggy good to hear from you!

Thinking of fod and willing you on for the next thread baby.

alb hope you got through the day ok. Being pregnant again doesn't negate the hurt of a MC. If we had a choice we'd have had the first baby we were pregnant with and never suffered a loss.

Oh, yes and congratulations on the scan and the boy news lilimum!

Thanks baking

jbrd so sorry to hear your having such a bad time of things - I really hope things start getting better or at least clearer for you xxx

Thanks girls! I had a bloody show this morning and my mucus plug just!!! Fingers crossed! Post shaggathon she will make a appearance

Oh jbrd how frustrating! I know nothing about the Harmony test but hoping they can give you more concrete answers!

Alb hope you feel better about everything - this is a good place to share!

fod keeping all my fingers and toes crossed this is it for you!

I thought something might be happening when I started to get some fairly hectic period-like pains mid morning but they've now been constant for 10 hours and don't seem to be developing into anything remotely resembling a series of contractions. Baby is moving normally so I'm not worried about him but I am heartily sick of being in pain for no obvious reason! I have a feeling this could go on for weeks. Am hormonal as hell too - yelled at DH for putting sport on the TV and stomped off to bed in a tearful huff. I've taken some paracetamol in the hope the pain can ease off enough for me to get to sleep. Ugh! Tonight I'm totally over being pregnant!

Just popping in to say that I'm still loitering and following everyone. Good thoughts (luck doesnt sound right) to fod and kjh - hope its soon for you x

Popping by too- I know I don't know lots of folk on here but others are friends of old. I wanted to let you know that we had a heathy baby girl in weds 26th, 6 days over her official due date. First child for us after mmc in nov 2012, and how blessed we feel!

Tried to let the grads know too but I guess no one checks their thread any more x

Aww thunder that's fab! Congratulations! The grads do pop in here from time to time - I think some of them have a FB page as well.

We rushed into hospital at 4am because the pain got so much worse but turns out it is probably a UTI which was causing pain and mild contractions. Just waiting on the doc to tell me whether they're going to give me antibiotics or just send me home to monitor the situation but doesn't look like this is the real deal - something I should probably be grateful for at 36+5! although mildly disappointed the baby isn't arriving imminently

Congratulations on you little girl thunder wonderful news!

Hope it all settles soon KJH you probably don't want to know I had similar at 33 weeks with my son, they said he would be early and he didn't arrive for another 7 weeks