The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

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Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

So I made it through my EDD for the MC. In fact it was an okish day, very busy at work, but productive and without time to dwell. Have been a total b*tch to DH, balling him out over his contribution to taking care of DD. To be fair to him, he does loads more than a lot of dads, it is just that as a wohm it is a struggle for me.
Our next door neighbours had a big party last night, constant noise until after 2, then music back on at 5:30, when DH lost his rag and went over to them to stfu. Sooooo tired, but DD doesn't sleep in for anyone!

Corpore glad you made it through. annoying about the party!!

Hi everyone! Just poking my head round the door to see how everyone is getting on?

Hope all the first trimester/newbies are hanging in there!

Any news from Fod? Hope you are coping ok - I feel we're due a few more thread babies :)

I'm not going to lie - I could really do with mine arriving fairly soon! 36 weeks and I'm at the stage where I'm thoroughly fed up with being heavily pregnant/not sleeping/unable to move due to SPD and back pain etc etc so am probably not very much help on here but massively looking forward to this baby arriving (at some point in the next four weeks - fx)

hope fod's absence means some baby action!

corpore, I don't know how people cope with pregnancy exhaustion and a small one and that party is too much. I would have flipped my lid!

fedup I have stopped watching anything more emotional than neighbours and even that sometimes gets me going!

first nct class tomorrow and I am quite nervous. feels like starting at a new school!

My boobs just started hurting again today at 15+3! Hope I dont have to get new bras already!! Just stocked up!

corpore glad u made it through, mines this week and am dreading it.

kjh5 I hope u don't have too long to wait!

If anyone here has done nhs antinatal classes, when did u book onto them etc? Iv been asked if I want classes and have said yes but havnt been given any more info about it at all (which isn't surprising, my midwife is crap) and my next midwife appointment isn't till 25 weeks, but I have no idea how popular classes like these are so dunno if I'd need to put my name down for them before then incase they fill up. I don't plan to do nct ones cos iv looked into it an I wudnt be able to get that time off work (I no I'm entitled to paid time of work for them legally but in reality I'd have to take it as an extra day off an I can't afford that) so I don't wana miss out on the nhs ones really! Although I dunno if I'm jus worrying about this far too early...

Thanks all for the well wishes, slept as much as possible yesterday (one of the few times 'sleep when they do' works for me) and in bed by 8.30 last night. Still a bit droopy.
alb, I couldn't do the NHS classes as they were offered on a day when I had another standing commitment. Had I attended, I'd've had DD before the end as well, but the notice was sent at about 32w or so. Ours were run in the local children's centre, so it might be worth calling your council to find out what day of the week they are run & roughly when to expect an invitation.
I went to nct classes, other than meeting lovely people, who I still see, it was a waste of time and money.

And yes, don't worry about antenatal classes just yet. I did last time and honestly didn't get anything that I couldn't have found out in a day or with a newborn, thinking about birth choices is the only thing that is really valuable about them.

IME NHS classes massively oversubscribed (as in you'll get to go but be crammed in like battery hens) and many of my class offered them so late that they had their babies before finishing the classes. I was on mat leave by then but DH couldn't come. In contrast, NCT classes were at the weekend, only 7 couples all of whom I'm still friends with more than 7 years later, and actually got some time to ask questions. I agree you could find it all out yourself from a book or a forum, but the friendship aspect was worth the cost many times over in that first year.

And yes, don't worry about antenatal classes just yet. I did last time and honestly didn't get anything that I couldn't have found out in a day or with a newborn, thinking about birth choices is the only thing that is really valuable about them.

Hia kjh was thinking last week hadn't heard from you in a bit. Sorry your SPD still hurting and not being able to sleep sucks. Hopefully not too long before it will be a memory and you'll be enjoying lovely snuggles!

Am 11+3 today can't believe I've got this far but also feels like scan is aaaages (is next Weds.)

Hope everyone else is good x

NCT is worth it for the friends not what you actually learn. I love the ones I met and last Thursday we all (the girls) went out for dinner and they are a fab group. Not all the people I would normally be friends with but we went through so much together we now are!!

Hiya ladies. Sorry I've been absent last few days, work has been manic and ive barely had time to brush my hair let alone anything else.

How is everyone doing?

Thanks for the concern re: the fall. I'm ok thanks and baby seems to be too xx

Hi everyone. I'm really sorry to jump in when I've barely posted on here (I struggle to keep up) but imagine that once maternity leave starts you won't be able to get rid of me! I'm 14+5 and had a great scan at 13+1 but today I just have this really bad feeling. There is no basis for this, no bleeding/cramps or anything and I'm feeling more human in the second trimester but I would do anything for a scan/doppler today. Do other people get like this?

yes polka, I get this constantly I get this fear that turns into palpations and panic attacks as I'm convinced something is going wrong, even though there s no basis for this

my advice would be to take it easy, take it one day at a time. When you start to feel like there is something going wrong try and reason with yourself, why do you feel like that? Is it paranoia or do you honestly feel 'wrong' in some way. If you cant shake the feeling after 24 hours, call the EPAU or your midwife who will be very understanding. thats my expiearience anyway

Hi all, TMI question here: all of a sudden I'm interested in DTD again (haven't been bothered since ov prior to BFP). Also suddenly extra CM (again, has all been quiet since EWCM around ov). I am just about 8w by AF date, and am now getting nervous that this means my hormones are doing something (not sure what). Has anyone else had this mid-1st tri? Is it normal? I haven't done anything about the 'urge' as it were, as what with the lack of sleep this weekend there wasn't a lot of time, but am surprised that I'm interested at all.

It's thoes pregnancy hormones, perfectly normal and unless your dr has advised you not to, it's perfectly dm safe to have sex in pregnancy. Just wait till you get the pregnancy dreams!

Ah, yes. Those . Think that was related to the 'urge'... Not a lucid one but I had forgotten about them altogether.

Polka I remember being on such a high after my dating scan and then suddenly crashing back down again at the 15week mark. I think it is because there is such a long wait until that 20 week scan and there doesn't seem like a lot you can do to reassure yourself that everything is ok. Plus those pregnancy hormones are kicking in big time! I was a totally miserable basket case throughout most of the second trimester. Try and focus on that 16week midwife appointment and keep busy! It is so incredibly rare for anything to go wrong at this stage. You'll get through it and - although it doesn't feel like it now - you'll find yourself nearing the end sooner than you think!

Corpore enjoy it while you still can - no reason why you indulge if the urge takes you ;) I salute anyone willing to DTD beyond the end of the 2nd trimester - thanks to SPD and being the size of a baby whale the very thought fills me with horror!

Hmmm no Fod? Surely that means there must be some news about another thread baby arriving!

Corpore I have had the dreams but no real urges think because I just felt so yuk, sick and tired instead! Hormones indeed

Polka the closet I have felt is now I don't feel as bad as I did a few weeks ago it does make me worry. But there's no sign of anything bad. I think this the part where you need faith but it's hard isn't it? I hope you have found something that helps ease your fears. For me it's been reading a new pregnancy book I got.

Thankyou Cbeebies and kjh. I spoke to the midwife today as I wanted to know if a particular blood result was back and she said that loads of ladies feel that way at this stage. I have a midwife appointment in 2 weeks (at 17 weeks) and they will listen for the heartbeat. Am feeling much better tonight. Thank you again and I hope everyone on this thread is having a lovely, stress free evening!

Okay so something weird is going on in my pants

Remember I'm only 11+3 and whilst I have a huge bloated tummy, that is really above my pants/bikini line. Below it is perfectly normal and flat. Usually. And I'd been expecting a bump to rise upwards, nearer my belly button when it did appear (surely not for another month at earliest.)

But this evening my entire bikini area, as in where the front of my knickers are, is, well swollen! You can't just 'see' where my knicker line has been, it's literally a bump until there's a dent where the elastic sat! Is this usual? Is it just because my pants are now too tight?! It does feel a bit hard so maybe it is uterus? Really tho? Now? There? !! Not sure what to think really.

I have had a lot of twinges, presumed stretching, the last 2 days.

Has anyone experienced similar? Please?!

Sounds like the beginnings of a bump to me! The higher up stuff early on is just gas, sorry! It won't reach your belly button until about 20 weeks.

london that is definitely where my bump started. it is really low at that stage. Even at the 16 week midwife appt I was surprised at how low the midwife had to prod - down below your knicker line, so I wouldn't worry!

First NCT class last night and a nice bunch of people. anyone who says they didn't learn anything from the classes is obviouly way better informed than me to start with! it is also really nice to be with other women at similar stages and realising someone else is experiencing the same things as you. also all our bumps were such different sizes which is reassuring in itself as I had been starting to worry mine was small.