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Pregnancy after miscarriage - part 4

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mygirllolipop · 08/08/2006 14:39

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Nicola63 · 12/09/2006 11:44

Thnaks. I am pretty busy at work today, trying to focus on keeping calm and being "normal professional me" rather than "anxious wreck me". I still feel pretty fatalistic.

Luckily (?) I have a cough and cold too, so blamed that for my not being at work yesterday and my less than bouncy persona today.

Trying to focus on good things. Phoned the school where we are going to be sending my stepdaughter when she moves to this country next year, making plans to go on a tour of it. Whatever happens I have many lovely people in my life.

That does not take away the terrible anxiety though.

time4tea · 12/09/2006 13:06

still thinking of you Nicola - keep us posted. do whatever you need to do for the next few days - take time off work/book a treat/have nice food.

our hearts really go out to you. thinking good luck thoughts XXX

wools · 12/09/2006 13:30

Nicola, have just caught up with the thread. I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage worry. I do agree with the others though that 6 weeks is very early to get a heartbeat. Your HCG levels sound very good and I really hope you get good news tomorrow. Thinking of you at this difficult time.

weewilliewinkie · 12/09/2006 14:46

Hi Nicola,

Just to tell you - a friend if mine had this exact situation a couple of weeks ago - she has suffered an ectopic and a couple of mc's before so wasn't holding out any hope. However, she too had her hcg levels tested and the doc called her to say that they were high, ie not the level she would expect if she were having another miscarriage. The next day she went for a scan and there she saw the heartbeat, flashing away ...now she is only a couple of weeks further on than you but all is well with her - there really is hope, and hearing that your hcg levels are good is a hopeful sign.
Still thinking about you and praying for good news.
x

twocatsonthebed · 12/09/2006 18:19

Hello everyone,

Nicola - that's good news about the HCG levels - hope there is more good news tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.

Wools - how are you? have you finished work yet?

Hope everyone else is OK. I, personally, have reached an unrivalled peak of NHS care - I was referred to the physio by the midwife on Monday (have carpal tunnel syndrome all up one arm) and they rang me today to see if I could pop in tomorrow. I'd been expecting the appointment at about 38 weeks, so practically had to be scraped up from the pavement I was so shocked.

Nicola63 · 13/09/2006 11:00

Thnak you everyone for the support and lovely messages. Sadly this seems not meant to be. Spent the night with bleeding and bad pain, and am very clearly miscarrying now. Will be having a D and C tomorrow.

The obstetrican offered to arrange an ultrasound today, but I just can't do it again, with two previous occasions of the ultrasound person turning to me and saying "I'm very sorry...". He therefore says he will do an ultrasound when I am on the table, just to be 100% sure the pregnancy is lost before he goes ahead, but he and I both agree that there is really no hope. He says that at the HCG level I had on Monday we really should have seen a heartbeat, and so he was not very hopeful then, but did not want to tell me that just in case.

I am of course very upset but I will get through this. Thank you so much everyone. I hope you all have better luck and I wish you all lots of happiness.

Nicola

firststar · 13/09/2006 11:16

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weewilliewinkie · 13/09/2006 11:16

oh Nicola, I am so, so sorry. There's no words I can say to help you other than I am truly thinking of you and I do know your pain.

Take care of yourself. I'm so sad for you.

time4tea · 13/09/2006 11:29

Dear Nicola, I am so very sorry to hear this news. We have all been in your situation, and know how horrible it is, and we really share your sadness. I can only wish you all the RL help, support, and time you need to get through this in the best form possible, and wish you every good luck for the future. It goes without saying we are all here for you as long as you need us.... wishing you courage and good heart XXXXX

twocatsonthebed · 13/09/2006 12:28

Nicola, I'm so, so sorry to hear this, it's so unfair. It's good to know you are being very well looked after, but that's a very small consolation. tc x x x

julezboo · 13/09/2006 12:37

Nicola im so sorry honey, take care of yourself x x x

rubles · 13/09/2006 13:44

Nicola, I am so sad that this has happened to you again. I really hoped that this was it for you...I'm really sorry.
Are you alone? Can dp come back to be with you?

Massive (((((((hugs))))))) to you, honey.

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mygirllolipop · 13/09/2006 13:48

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SKYTVADICT · 13/09/2006 14:23

Really sorry to hear your new Nichola63 and very for you.

Nicola63 · 13/09/2006 14:41

Thanks so much everyone. DH is flying home tomorrow evening and will come and fetch me from the hospital. I have taken some painkillers and feel rather woozy.

The obstetrician started talking to me about pre-implantation genetic screening for "next time". I don't know if I can go through a "next time", but will have to see how I feel after all this. They will do genetic testing on the tissue they remove tomorrow, and if there is a genetic problem with it, I suppose I may consider that. If not though, and if I don't find any specific answer, I think I may have to conclude that my body just does not want to let a pregnancy go longer than 6 weeks, and the cause may never be clear.

Take care everyone.

wools · 13/09/2006 15:31

Nicola, I am so so sorry to hear your sad news - life is so unfair sometimes. I'm glad to hear your dh is on his way home to you and hope that you both will be able to get through this. Wishing you all the very best.

wools · 13/09/2006 15:33

Hope everybody is okay.

Twocats - it's my last week at work and I finish on Sunday - hooray!!! Sorry to hear about your carpal tunnel syndrome - I hope you manage to sort it.

julezboo · 13/09/2006 16:26

Nicola Im sorry you have to go through this, and this is probably thelast thing on yourmind right now, when your bloods where tested for clotting did they do it when you wasnt pregnant?

I had both my sets done when pregnant (sadly miscarrying at the time) otherwise my doctor said it wouldnt have been picked up, just though Id ask!Something for you to mention to your doctor when you go in, maybe they can take them again?

will be thinking of you tomorrw honey xx

Nicola63 · 13/09/2006 17:12

Well, I've had two complete sets of testing done for clotting, lupus screen, antinuclear, anticardiolipin and antiphospholipid antibodies, Factor V Leiden, everything. The first was done at the time of my last m/c (he took the bloods in theatre), and the second two weeks ago when I found out I was preg this time. Even though the results were all negative I went on to the heparin and aspirin anyway, just in case, but it does not seem to have made any difference. This m/c has happened at precisely the same stage as both the previous ones.

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mygirllolipop · 13/09/2006 19:12

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littlefrog · 13/09/2006 21:05

Oh Nicola, I'm so sorry... Look after yourself and cuddle your DH lots. Thinking of you.

time4tea · 14/09/2006 09:06

Hello LittleFrog, how are you doing? been thinking of you

twocatsonthebed · 14/09/2006 09:20

Hello everyone,

Nicola, hope you'e OK and as mygirl said, that you get some answers out of all of this.

Wools - finishing on Sunday, I am sooo envious. I have two more weeks to go and am finding it increasingly hard to even look like I care. Physio was very nice, and I have a very glamorous flesh coloured splint to wear at night, but apparently some of it may be just because of sleeping with too many pillows under my neck...I think that too much messing about on the web may also be something to do with this, but didn't confess to this.

How is everyone else doing? Hope you're all keeping well.

julezboo · 14/09/2006 11:11

Hiya girls

Nicola - thinking of you today sweetie?

How is everyone else?

twocats - what did they do at physio? I have to ring later tomake an appt!

Im feeling a bit strange today. 17+3 started getting braxton hicks a few days ago but had lots yesterday (although didnt time them)and woke up this morning feeling really sick and dizzy, so close to birsting into tears! Ive had a few BH's this morning, but I can still feel bubs, so debating carting myself off to the hospital to be checked, what do you think? Am I panicking over nothing?

hope everyone else is well x x x

Julie (17+3)

littlefrog · 14/09/2006 11:24

Hello time4tea, I'm alright, how about you? I'm counting the days until the scan next Friday, although I'm more dreading it than looking forward to it. We've still not told anyone, so we're now going to wait now. I'm the furthest along I've ever been now, so, perhaps... Still not counting on it though.
How is everyone else? Lots of thoughts to everyone, Nicola especially.

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