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Pregnancy after miscarriage - part 4

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mygirllolipop · 08/08/2006 14:39

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littlefrog · 08/09/2006 14:48

So glad to hear that things are going well for people. I've decided to try and hang on for the two weeks till my nuchal scan and not ask for one beforehand - comments here, plus the memory of the last one (which I would have thought would have been reassuring) have made me think that I'd be just as anxious afterwards as before. Hope everyone has nice weekends. x

weewilliewinkie · 08/09/2006 15:15

I'm 16 weeks tomorrow. I have to wait 5 whole weeks now till my next scan! But hopefully by then baby will be moving lots so I won't have to be so worried that nothing's going on in there, iykwim. I've already felt it move, sort of feels like marbles rolling about my tummy - lovely!

Nicola63 · 08/09/2006 17:04

Glad to hear that good news www!

I keep having episodes of anxiety and, in fact, dread, when I am convinced there is no way things will be OK, and feel like curling into a shaking ball. Then I tell myself that whatever happens, being anxious and miserable is not going to improve matters. Being busy at work helps. DH is arriving in a couple of hours and I am fetching him from the airport, then taking him out on the town for his birthday. Maybe half a glass of champagne for me...no more, I promise! He says he is dying for cocktails, bless him, he can have as many as he likes!

Have a good weekend everyone, beanies all keep hanging on tight.

weewilliewinkie · 11/09/2006 10:31

it's all gone quiet here! hope everyone is well..

Nicola63 - when is your scan? I was all set for my midwife appointment at 9am this morning and just noticed at approx 8.52am that it's not till Thursday. Duh. My brain has seriously turned to mush. Does anyone else find they're a bit thicker than usual? Or is it just me?!

Hope you all had a lovely weekend....I spent much of it feeling like rubbish so stayed in bed, leaving dh and ds to turn downstairs into a bomb site. Nice.

geordiemacminx · 11/09/2006 10:39

I think everyone is suffering from monday morning blues!!

Know what you mean about brain not working properly - I feel as thick as a whale omlette at the moment - severe case of dizziness!!

I have my first scan on Thursday (7 weeks). Just hoping that there will be something to see.

julezboo · 11/09/2006 11:23

Morning all

www - congrats on a good scan, I started feeling flutters at 15 weeks, Im 17 weeks today and the movements are more definate!

As for feeling thick, Ive turned into a useless driver (although still very safe!) I only passed my test last december and have done well so far not to crash into a wall or post! Almost hit one this morning after dropping ds off at school I would have never lived it down (dp has done it a few times in his car lol and I always tease him for it!) I had to be extra careful this morning because all the 15 min drive to ds's school there was a police car behind me I did well though!

Feeling good today despite still being sick in the mornings! Boobs are a nightmare for pain and so is my hips, off to mw appt this afternoon though!

have a good day all x x

My next scan is in 24 days!! I will be just over 20 weeks then!

Julie x (17+0)

mygirllolipop · 11/09/2006 11:39

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Nicola63 · 11/09/2006 14:02

Hello everyone. Things not going too well for me, and I'm not too optimistic, I'm afraid. I had a little bit of brown discharge last night and this morning, immediately phoned obstetrician who organised an urgent scan. There the scanner saw a pregnancy but the "fotal pole", though present, was too small to see any heartbeat. As far as I know at 6 weeks there should be a heartbeat, but the scanning man said he could not draw any conclusions from the definite scan, and I would have to come back next week.

I then had a blood test for HCG, and have to have another on Wednesday, which will show if it is rising normally or not. On the phone the obstetrician said there was nothing we can do but wait and see, and he was keeping his fingers crossed for me. His voice, to me, sounded not hopeful.

Both times with my previous m/c's the babies died at this stage (although with the first one I did not know until several weeks later). It seems that my body does not want to allow a baby to grow to above a six weeks stage.

I'm awfully upset, and there is nothing I can do about it. Feel really numb. If this pregnancy does not work out I don't think, at 43 and after 3 unsuccessful tries, I can put myself and my DH through this again.

julezboo · 11/09/2006 14:28

nicola Im sorry sweetie, could your dates be out, mine were out by a week so it ispossible. Thinking of you x x x

geordiemacminx · 11/09/2006 14:30

Nicola63, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Hopefully everything will be ok for you. xxx

geordiemacminx · 11/09/2006 14:30

Nicola63, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Hopefully everything will be ok for you. xxx

twocatsonthebed · 11/09/2006 14:46

Oh Nicola, I really hope this isn't bad news for you - but I do think that 6 weeks is very early to see a heartbeat, I was told there was no guarantee of it until 8 weeks. thinking of you.

weewilliewinkie · 11/09/2006 14:55

Oh Nicola, 6 weeks holds no guarantees that you'll see a hearbeat, it's still so early. Did you have an internal scan? Please don't give up hope...fingers crossed for you...thinking about you..x

Nicola63 · 11/09/2006 14:56

Thnak you for the good wishes. My dates are spot on, I know exactly which day I ovulated and conceived. The ultrasound guy did say that he couls not be sure of anything as the foetal pole was just a little too small to tell, but at exactly 6 weeks today I guess there could still be a chance. I'll let you know.

Nicola63 · 11/09/2006 15:08

It was an internal scan, like all the scans I have had.

The discharge was in the form of tine little brown flecks, which is exactly what I had with both previous m/c's. I am already trying to come to terms with the fact that this may not be menat to be, and to think of all the other positive things in my life, like my DH and my two beautiful stepdaughters, who are coming to live with us soon.

rubles · 11/09/2006 15:26

Nicola,
I'm so, so, so sorry to hear that you are being put through this worry again. So, so, sorry. It is not necessarily bad news though - as many have said, it is on the early side to be finding a heart beat. And even though you know your ovulation/conception dates - the babies all develop at slightly different rates for some reason (maybe they implant later???) so that could set you back a couple of crucial days.

You sound like you are trying to prepare yourself for the worst, but try to stay positive.
Even if the consultant didn't sound hopeful, that doesn't mean anything scientific whatsoever. As he said they couldn't draw any conclusions from the scan - so that means it can go either way doesn't it?

Take care of yourself this week, sweetheart.

Nicola63 · 11/09/2006 15:59

thanks so much rubles and everyone.

littlefrog · 11/09/2006 16:58

Nicola, thinking of you...

weewilliewinkie · 11/09/2006 17:17

I alos knoew exactly when I had ovulated but when it came to the scan they put me 4 days ahead of my dates at the beginning...at the last scan this was brought back down again to tie in with my dates, so I wouldn't focus too much on that. After all, who really knows what's going on inside us when conception and implantation take place? I know how terribly worrying this all is for you though, and my heart goes out to you. Please take care of yourself pet. We're all here for you.

julezboo · 11/09/2006 17:28

I too was sure when i ovulated and conceived, we only did the deed once that month and my dates have gone forward a week honey, Ill keep hoping for you, i had alot of bleeding and brown spotting on the fragmin injections which you are on, i gave up on our baby only to find 2 days later at a scan after a massive red heavy bleed that baby was still fighting!

everything is crossed chickx x x

Nicola63 · 11/09/2006 18:13

Sorry to be such a downer on this thread today, and I hope everyone else is OK. I will hope for the best but prepare for the worst, I suppose. I will know by Wednesday afternoon what is happening, after the second HCG level. I am all alone at home and hated having to phone DH to tell him possibly bad news, when we are not actually together. He is, as always, supportive and lovely, reminding me that he loves me no matter what and sending me "giant hugs" down the phone.

I am going to order takeways and go to bed. Thanks everyone, so much, for the support today. Whatever does happen in the end, it has helped so much to have you lovely caring women there for me. Take care everyone.

Nicola63 · 11/09/2006 18:30

PS my doctor just called me and told me the HCG level was pretty high (17000), which is not, he would say, in the miscarriage range, although he can't be sure about anything until the repeat on Wed. He sounded concerned but hopeful, is the way I would describe his voice. I am not going to either get excited or go into depair. Goodnight all.

time4tea · 11/09/2006 19:13

dear Nicola, keeping fingers crossed for you, will say a little prayer for you tonight XXXXx

bobbynog · 12/09/2006 09:00

Oh NIcola, i don't know what to say, just my thoughts are with you and i've everything crossed. ARe you up to anything today to keep yourself occupied - i know it isn't easy but you need to keep busy.

mygirllolipop · 12/09/2006 10:13

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