Pregnancy after miscarriage - part 4

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Hi everyone and it seems like Happy New Year all round. I'm so glad things are going OK for you all. I'm a bit further ahead than most of the recent posts (17+4 today) and am glad to have gotten this far. I had three scans, at 7, 10 and 13 weeks and have still been worrying. Had my booking appt at 12 weeks and the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat which caused a week of anxiety until my scan. I then felt first movements at 14 weeks, but felt nothing for about five days over Christmas and was worrying again. I practically had the phone in my hand on the 27th to call my midwife, when it felt like a herd of elephants on trampolines in there. Had my second antenatal appointment on Tuesday and the hearbeat was heard loud and clear and strong this time, so feeling much more positive about things.

But, I don't think the worry will ever go away though as no sooner is one worry put to bed, than something else crops up....I'm now stressing about my 20 weeks scan (booked for 24 Jan) and what it will show up. I haven't had any testing for down's etc as nothing would make me reconsider this pg, but the niggle is always there as I'll be 38 when the bean is born.

It's good that you are all here to support and encourage positive thoughts. Anyway, I was trying to be supportive, but have probably succeeded in scaring you all witless. Yes, I'm still worrying, but not as much as the first weeks, so it does get better.

I'll sign out before I get any more maudlin (don't ya just love hormones!!)

Good luck to y'all

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hello all, Daisybump I think these babies are little comedians. Even at 33 weeks, sometimes the baby is sneakily quiet for a few hours, and just as I'm getting my knickers in a real twist and about to hop in a cab to the hospital for monitoring, it starts booting around. Sometimes a cup of tea and something sugary gets it going (certainly picks me up too) I don't think the pregnancies are ever entirely relaxed, even though I'm grateful that things have improved for me since the early days (I couldn't even think about it I was so scared), by no means do I feel relaxed. A friend just came round with her newborn (10 days old) and it was lovely to cuddle the baby, I realised I had a daft smile on my face just doing it, but I still can't believe my baby will really come.

On DS tests, we get nuchal fold scans here in Hackney, they are apparently very accurate and non-invasive/therefore non-risky. maybe you could ask?

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Good luck for next week littlefrog! May your placenta have shifted big time! Having said that, my friend had placenta previa (sp?) and had booked her elective c/s and went into labour the day before and was one of the few from my antenatal class that had an "ideal" (well as close to one as you can get!) natural birth. So hang in there!

Congrats on your scan pink, very good news!

Hope you're feeling better firststar, take it easy if you can.

Daisybump, I think we all know how you feel! I had my booking in appt yesterday and mw was great (same one as last time, she's lovely). She told me that NICE guidelines are not to listen for a heartbeat until 24 weeks when I asked her if she'd listen for one, so it's a shame you had the added stress of the mw not finding one. She also said what will be will be in a really nice positive way and she made me calm down a lot. Glad all is well and you can breathe easily again!

Hope that was positive - it was meant to be! Sometimes my fuddled brain just can't tell! And my DH doesn't help by saying - oh, is that you on MN again - I told him it's better than me bending his ear all the time (altho I have to say I do that too!). So nice to talk to other people who understand - and don't mind me going on and on and on and....
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thank you for all your kind words, Feeling a little calmer that we have seen a heartbeat as im sure that i read somewhere that once you seen this it reduces the rate of misscarrage by alot ( please correct me if im wronge as i cant remember where i read this)
i have booked myself in tp have the nuchal fold test as they dont do that here, i have a scan at ten weeks with bllods taken and then go back at 14 weeks for anthore scan and the results , we got this for £120 which is quite good apperently, We having this as we had high risk with son and have to have a cvs. I also wanted antore scan before 12 weeks!!

How is everyone else feeling - is anyone due soon??

hello Pink, I think the good stat is from my guru Prof Lesley Regan. 97% chance of bringing home a healthy baby if you get to see a heartbeat. see her Dorling Kindersley book - Your pregnancy week by week.

I'm due soon-ish. I went for a hosp. appt today and talked through again the birth plan. Given that, on top of usual post-cs risks, this baby is (like DS) in breech, and I've developed in the last 2 weeks excruciating SPD, I've been booked in for a section on 19 Feb - just over 6 weeks away. He said the heartbeat sounded excellent, so I felt relieved for this big bouncing bean! Still not quite as up as I should be - I can't believe this baby will really come, the baby we lost took over a year to conceive, then 3 months of that pregnancy, now 8 months of this. I feel like I've been trying to get pregnant, or pregnant forever! Also - I didn't mention this before, as this thread is for pre-natal business - but it seems right to now - my father died a few weeks ago. So generally an emotional time, there's a lot to think about, and maybe this explains the low-expectations attitude I get sometimes.

just put an equally long post on another thread about post-mc issues, incl. recommending this thread, and really don't know what I would have done over the last year without you good ladies. thanks for everything

Hi All

Pink-fab news at the scan, hope the next one is just as good.

Time4tea-sorry to hear about your father, that must be hard no wonder you feell emotional. It will indeed be amazing to hold your little baby in your arms.

I have less than 30 hours till my first scan, I'm so nervous, I haven't yet been able to be too positive, So I hope That it will be good news on Monday.

I keep thinking how I won't be able to cope with a 4th m/c, and that I will give up if that happens. but I really hope these thoughts are unfounded.

I had 2 positive ebay tests! Iva had 2 miscarriage in the last year, one missed, and one normal, what is the probability of this one making it? i'm soo scared!

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t4t, so sorry about the loss of your dad , it must be such a had time for you at the moment. not long for you now and you will soon have your bouncing baby!

Im glad it wasn't me imainging them facts , had my booking in appointment with my midwife Friday and when i mention something similar to her she just shrugged her shoulders and said that seeing the heartbeat dosnt mean that much - oh how im looking forward to the next 7 months with her!!!!

Uki - good Luck with your scan !!

Hope everyone else is well

Pink - change your midwife if you think you're not going to work well together. I changed my doc and now have the nicest one humanly possible! I'm sure you don't need to put up with someone who isn't supportive - can anyone else confirm this? You'll have a more enjoyable pg if you change, I'm sure.

Good luck tomorrow Uki! We'll be watching for your good news!

T4T - so sorry to hear your about the loss of your dad. What a year . Here's to 2007 and the birth of your little bundle in just over a month - you'll soon have a brand new baby in your arms

Good luck Mia, sounds like you've had enough bad luck and are due for some good news. Fingers crossed for you. xx

Have a great week everyone!

Thanyou all for your good wishes

Saw baby bean today 8 weeks+5 wriggling with strong heart beat.

I was soo nervous I couldn't look at the screen, and sonographer said "do you want to see the baby" and I said "no, only if it's good news" and she said "yes, it's good"

I was sooo relived, I was convinced my symptoms had died down and that it was over.

I have another scan late next week and after that one I may relax a little.

Pink- definately change midwives, I had one midwife when having ds that was rude and barking orders at me, and didn't know what she was doing. dh asked for another. 8 hours is along time to spend with a midwife you don't like let alone 9 months.

Hi everyone. Thought I would come on here, had a missed miscarriage last Oct and am now pregnant again, think im only just over four weeks. I had very bad back ache last week for 3 days but that has gone now. I haven't had any bleeding. Got a scan this Friday as I am terrified that I have mc again although still have very sore boobs.

Great news Uki (where are you, you are an early bird poster!)

Mia, I'm not sure what the stats are on possibilities of a healthy baby after 2 mc, but there is a specific book on miscarriage by Lesley Regan which is good and which does have this. From what I remember, there is not much difference statistically between losing one baby (no effect on future possibilities, no different from never having a mc) and 2, the numbers only change significantly after 3. However, I didn't find any kind of statistics helped me much on my most Eeyore-ish of days! Doing me best to fill your days with enjoyable distractions so I was not brooding/panicking too much was the only way I got through it. Good luck.

Pink - I'd agree about changing your midwife, absolutely. If someone isn't listening (whatever line of work they are in) they aren't doing a good job.

Thanks all for the kind words about losing my dad - I think yes, the baby will change the whole landscape of my life... now the new year has come (especially with a reasonably sunny morning like today) it seems easier continuing our journey.

love to all, and thanks Uki for starting our day with a smile - enjoy the relief!

thanks for the welcome you lot!

I have been feeling quite sick this morning again, so im taking it as a good sign! just a quick question for yas. Both times i have fallen pregnant on the pill ( missed a few)could this have any effect on my miscarriages do you think? maybe? I was not on the pill this time!

I'm going to read further down this thread now to get to know you all! Not sure how long i'll be here this time, but fingers crossed eh!.....

Eddie, when i had my missed mc i had terrible lower backache for a few weeks at about 7 weeks. Didnt find out until 12 weeks though! But i have read everywhere that it is a normal pregnancy sign also, so i would say to get yourself checked out, but dont worry!! It is probably nothing!

Edie -you'll be fine. We just over analayze every twinge and ache.
How is your back now???

Time4tea, I'm in Oz so it's now 8:25pm. I have to check mn twice a day as most action happens when I'm asleep.

I was almost thinking of starting a pg after 2 or more m/c because I've definately got worse with the worrying after three m/c. I was saying to dh last night that I wouldn't be able to try again if i loose this one, it's just so traumatic sometimes. I think I've lost some strength, if not all. Bring on 12 weeks+

sorry that sounds negative, but I'm sure you all kwim.

Uki, i know what you mean about the worry! But you have seen the heartbeat, thats excellent news!

Oh dear. Has anybody had any back pain and it not been a miscarriage? Im off work and alone and worried sick now. Thanks Uki but the pain was bad. I really hope Friday comes quickly...

Mia -I had a friend who fell pg on the pill and she was fine, have never heard of the pill causing m/c and i seem to have looked at nearly all the reasons.

Most common is bad luck because of chromosonal defects before 10 weeks.I've had that said to me by specialist even though I have had markers for other things with tests he thought the test results even though were positive they were not strong enough, anyway another specialist has me on asprin and extra calcium which is definately helping so far, as my blood pressure has never been so good.

In case your not already definately take some pg vitamins and eat healthy, avoid chemicals, alcohol and too much caffeine.

Edie. Worrying will do you no good! i didnt mean to worry you! like i said it is also a normal pregnancy symptom. After a mc i think we all worry about everything, i know i am panicing like hell! Did you say you've got a scan soon?

thanks Uki. I am taking vitamins, is there anything extra i could take? I know i need the doctor to agree to the aspirin, so i wont take that! I have been drinking lots of milk!
I have been having a few cups of coffee, should i cut it out completely? i think i will!

Edie
I really and I mean really doubt the pain you had was from m/c. As you said and I also thought you wouldn't have pain from a 4+ week preg like that. I only had pain from 7 week m/c and it was only severe for 15 minutes while the main part was happening. On other m/c no pain at all.
watch plenty of movies this week is my tip.

Mia you can have up to 300mg of caffeine a day, there is a good website which explains how much in each beverage as espresso is alot stonger than instant i think about 100mg, hot chocolate has 4mg, cola 20mg,etc.

I've cut down to half a cup of coffee a day, coz i need it.

Uki thankyou and also Mia yes I have a scan on Friday. The pain lasted 3 days and then went very suddenly but that has happened before when I wasn't pg and I had some physio. Im out of my mind although the pain has gone now. I feel a bit achy and swollen down below and my pelvis still feels like it is stretching. This pg after mc lark is horrible xx