Pregnancy after miscarriage - part 4

[mygirllolipop]

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Nicola - am really sorry to hear that the outcome is not so positive, but at least there is still hope. It really doesn't help that it coincides with a due date, that's hard enough to deal with on its own. Can't quite believe the judge though, that's pretty insensitive as you say.

Juicylucy - welcome. If it's any consolation I'm 40, and currently almost 35 weeks gone after a miscarriage at 39. So the odds aren't against you, they just get a little bit less good...

Wools - I seem to be following in your footsteps. The baby did a ton of wriggling last night and my bump has definitely changed position - all well and good, so I trot off to my midwife appointment today to discover that it is - breech. Oh hurrah. They'll give me a scan in two weeks if it hasn't moved - but did you do anything, or did yours just turn naturally. At the moment it has its head jammed under my ribcage, which is fairly uncomfortable.

Littlefrog - glad your nuchal was good. Know just what you mean about scans though, when i had mine it wasn't that I felt relieved, more as though some threat of execution had been lifted.

Waves to everyone else. hope you're all keeping well.

Twocats - in the end all I really did which my midwife had suggested was to try and lie on my left hand side i.e whilst sleeping. I did try to do this but still found I had to turn in order to be comfortable. When I first found out - round about the stage you are now, I tried adopting the "on all fours" postiion with my hips slightly raised - found it very boring though, especially when my kids started treating me like a pony and climbing all over me.

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thanks for that wools - just when I thought there was no end to the indignities of pregnancy, a new one. I shall start putting my bum in the air shortly. I can't wait to see what kind of supercilious look the cats give me...

I did find one link though which suggest putting headphones on your pubic bone and playing whale music or suchlike to tempt it down to that end. I think that even my lack of dignity has limits though....

Nicola, that judge! my experience of these sorts of men (I'm a lawyer as you also seem to be) is that anything relating to "lady bits" shuts them up pretty fast, really very disgraceful though, although probably that sort of judge would have hauled a man over the coals in a similar way. I hope the days are passing quickly for you - but agree that maintain a pitch of anxiety is often just not possible. My mc taught me that worrying does nothing positive anyway.

JuicyLucy - I know two women who had babies in 40s after quite a few miscarriages - so don't put yourself down. You and your bean have every reason to live in hope!

TwoCats - is your baby in breech? have they offered to try to turn the baby? my DS was breech, we had an elective CS in the end, but it was a relaxed procedure and we had a good experience.

big wave to everyone else... am at work and without much time to check through all the news. keeping fingers crossed for all our beanies.
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Hi, I posted my details on the stats thread and just thought I'd say Hello (thanks Mygirllolipop for the nudge )
I'm only about 5wks and still really nervous as I had a missed miscarriage in April that stopped growing at 6weeks. I don't have any pregnancy symptoms yet so it doesn't really seem real!
Good luck to everyone with their pregnancies.

Twocats - lol at headphones. Mind you, I bet some people have done it.

Welcome Munchkin - you're in very good company here. We're all a bunch of worryguts - I'm sure everything will be fine this time.

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Munchkin - you could be me. Feel exactly the same.

Had missed mc in May (stopped growing at 5/6 weeks) and am now 5 weeks. No real pg symtoms except the extreme paranoia!!

A bit of tiredness. Did have lots of CM but that seems to be drying up (so convincing myself that something is wrong). No sore boobs. Sure that they hurt last time.

Crossing everything that this one works out for us both xx

Hi ladies -can i join?
I have been on the ttc after mc threads but found i was pg yesterday!!!
I am due 6-6-07 and very anxious.
I have had 3 m/c in 3.5 yrs-ish- the first was unexplained the last 2 were blighted ovums. I was due to start having tests in Oct- now this. am delighted but worried . I'll be having an early scan at 6-7 weeks to see if its all ok- but this period is hell.
Thanks for listening. x

hi ladies!

just found out that im pg today,had mc in april so am very nervous!!also dd was twins and lost one at 12 weeks,so another worry!!

andi,i seem to be following you on the threads!!!

im not stalking you honest!!!

Hi JuicyLucy, It's uncanny how similar our situations are. I hope everything works out for us both too.
I'm just trying to stay positive until my scan but that won't be for a few weeks yet. Hopefully I will be able to relax a bit then.
Thanks to everyone for your support and congratulations to Andi and Buffy. xx

Wow, what a lot of new people! Congratulations!
This is definitely the right place to come to share fears and worries. I've had lots of support from people here over the last weeks (I'm now 13+2 - further along than I've ever been before). What I've found particularly good here is that folk understand that things you think are going to be reassuring (like early scans) don't necessarily make you feel loads more confident. For what it's worth I completely sympathise with JuicyLucy about my only pregnancy symptom being complete paranoia! Having had a missed miscarriage at the end of May I couldn't be pleased about a symptomless early pregnancy (not even the tiredness of that pregnancy) - but, please god, all seems to be going well.
Anyway, welcome to all. How's everyone else? Nicola, fingers crossed specially tightly for you.

Thanks for the welcome Little Frog

Andi - your due date is my birthday. Really hope that's a good sign - Geminis are soo much fun!!

Hi Buffy, glad there are so many graduates from the TTC after mc thread this month.

Lets hope we all make it past the early scan xx

Lots of pos vibes for Nicola.

Blimey, a whole raft of new arrivals - that's fantastic news, so welcome Andi, munchkin and buffy! Wishing you all all of the best for these pregnancies - and you'll find a load of support for your worrying here.

t4t - yes, the baby is breech at the moment, but the midwife has said that she's not going to worry about it for another couple of weeks, if it hasn't done anything by then, they'll send me for a scan and start talking about turning it and so on. But good to hear that your experience was so positive.

Nicola - hope the busy week is keeping at least a bit of the worry at bay, and really sending you the best thoughts I can.

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hiya all, just popping by to say booh!
hiya mygirl missya
hiya wools and twocats hope things are going well.
glad you've got loadsa new members

love slinkstah (graduate june06)ds2 is now 14 weeks

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Welcome to all the newbies - good to have more people on board.

Hi Slink - how are you doing? Can't believe your little one is 14 weeks already - how time flies.

Hi everyone, I am back home from my conference, very touched by the good wishes on here for me. I seem to be managing to just get on with things so hope I can continue to do this. It's the only alternative really. Everyone else seems well and lets hope that continues. Hello to the new people.

Time4tea I'm not a lawyer, but do work as an expert witness in my medical field and I have, its true, come across a number of exasperating judges. I guess this just really touched a nerve.

Hi there - thanks for the lovely welcome...still very nervous but booked scan today for 3 weeks time so fingers crossed!!!

Buffy - you can stalk me all you want!!!! I like seeing familiar faces but looking forward to getting to know everyone.

Juicy- hope your birthday brings me luck- and good luck to you and everyone else!!

Wow ,loads of new people! Congratulations and welcome - this is a great place for airing all your fears and worries.
I am 22 weeks now, and according to my book little bean now has eyelashes! I have a scan on monday - this time i am a little more excited but i can't help but be apprehensive. ALthough i can feel it moving around, i jkust need reassurance that everything will be ok.

welcome all - Juicy, Munchkin, Buffy and Andi - and this is a great place. nice also there are a few of you at the same stage, great moral support during the early weeks which can be really hard. I don't know about the others, but I've settled down a bit since the 13 week scan (helped enormously by a very kind and thoughtful sonographer). although maybe partly this is down to it being so hard to maintain anxiety at such levels for so long, but despite my generally sensible attitude at the time, it is taking its toll emotionally, there's a nondescript weird feeling that I sometimes can't shake.

however, mustn't grumble - like Bobbynog, I can now feel the beanie wriggling, which is still a thrill (I find myself sort of stopping and "listening",) and I have a good 3 weeks to my next scan. I really feel for you all in the early stages. Just take it easy and plan yourself lots of treats and good things to fill the days. when I've found it hard to take care of myself, I imagine what I would say to my best friend if she was in my situation - quite a good change of perspective, and inspiring for ideas for enjoyable things

Nicola, still thinking of you wishing for the very very best. I hope the weeks are passing quickly for you. take good care of yourself - what a roller-coaster time for you

our computers are all at various stages of "broken" right now so hard to get on MN - so wishing you all luck and good spirits, in case I can't be here for a while.

Bobbynog - good luck for tomorrow!.I'll be thinking of you X

Thanks to all for the welcome, it is nice to know that there is so much support out there and that there are others at the same stage, having the same fears as I have!
Bobbynog, best of luck with the scan tomorrow. xx