PG after MC: sticking with posifrickintivity - today we are pregnant

[ChristineDaae]

Over this way ladies....!

So I finished the last thread by accident apologising for my awful typing skills! Sorry!
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mrs g hope you're feeling more optimistic today. One day at a time and today you are pregnant

squiz step away from that section! remember people do tend to post about bad experiences to ask for support and advice. There's not much need to post about good experiences.

fod wow, I don't know how I'd feel about delivering on the bathroom floor probably as much of a shock to the system as a long drawn out labour!

so I've been trying to take raspberry leaf capsules as they're meant to help your uterus contract more efficiently in labour. Every time I take them I just end up with period pains and a horrible night's sleep tossing and turning, resulting in grumpiness and sore hips. Do you think they're more trouble than they're worth or should I persevere?

Welcome fish, congrats, what a milestone you have reached.

I am chuckling so much kjh I can imagine the foam party!

Pgchimp, you've made me love the idea of a consistent bump. Aww! Want one!

Fedup, I am gald it's not just me!

Aiofe and Handsfull, happy 6 weeks milestone! I will be 6 weeks on Friday HURRAY!

Fod I hope you are feeling better and less on your own. And clean!

Mrs G I really feel for you I hope the 26th comes round super quick. You've got this far! Today you are pregnant!

Hope everyone else is feeling positive today x

Squiz take no notice! that statement is a total load of bollocks. Yes, people do end up with problems, but there are also a vast majority who don't. The trouble is, some of these boards on MN are peopled by posters with serious baggage and who aren't afraid to share in an overly scary fashion. Its ok to be aware of what can go wrong, but don't dwell on it overly.

Hiya ladies.
Yes, today I've been feeling more optimistic, no pain but I think that goes hand in hand with the fact I've been started on the daily aspirin dose to hopefully prevent me developing pre-eclampsia in this pregnancy (why my son was prem).

I can honestly say if this pregnancy goes well, I'm done. I can't deal with all this stress ever again x

MrsG glad to hear you are feeling better today.

squiz step away from the scary birth stories, people who have lovely births don't post on the 'childbirth' boards about it. When the time comes a bit nearer, read some positive and empowering stories (Ina May's guide to Childbirth is great) and listen to some positive messages e.g natal hypnotherapy CDs. If you go into it well informed, but flexible about your plans, with a positive attitude, then you have the best chance of getting the birth you hope for. Women go back and do it again and again (this will be my third) so it can't be all bad. The days my boys were born are up there as the best in my life.

Had 24 week MW appt today with a student MW who is due a day after me. Everything looking fine, I said I'll see her on the postnatal ward!

Thanks bakingtins how are you getting on?? Can't believe your 24 weeks already x

;) So much for 'managing' queaze better. At a meeting... oh hello Danish pastry. 10 min later oh goodbye Danish pastry! Bleurgh.

Thanks all for your advice and support re my STOOOPID forey onto the childbirth trauma board. You're all right. All my RL mates say it hurts like f**k (if you don't get the drugs) but 'you recover'.

squizita I can understand the worry about natural childbirth. I was terrified when I had my son. But he was born early by emergency c section. The vast majority of my friends who have had natural childbirth haven't had any long lasting issues.

I just wish I was allowed to have this one naturally but apparently it's a no go :-(

Morning everyone - quick question about the Hotmilk bras as some of you have mentioned them - are they sized differently to the usual UK sizes? I'm desperate for something that fits and doesn't make me look like my boobs reside under my armpits...

My current size is 34HH but according to their size guide I'm a 40D... Any advice?

While we're on the subject of bras - (I know it is different for everyone) but I'm 30 weeks and wondering how much bigger my bust is going to get? I could seriously do without them growing any more although realise I have no say in the matter whatsoever.

As my DM keeps telling me (and everyone who happens to be within earshot, including some old dears waiting outside the bus stop at Tescos the other day) 'you have massive boobs and tiny,pale nipples, you are going to have real problems breastfeeding.' That is a direct quote, she repeats it so often it is becoming a mantra. My entire family and DH's are now well aware of my apparently established future struggle with BF this baby and the exact state of my breasts...

argh I can't believe your mum keeps saying that kjh (also, how does she know what your nips look like?!) how rude.

Hot milk, I just ordered a cup size up from my m&s bras I am in at the moment, I didn't look at the sizing guide possibly foolish. I think everyone differs, I went from 30F to 32E by 12wks and now 34E from 30wks but ordered 34F in hot milk as I read they come up a bit small. My boobs haven't noticeably grown any in last bit (and didn't last time) but I don't have a great track record in bf so my boobs may not be the best to go on! I notice more change in my chest width actually.

KJH I have small nips too! Not sure how the colour affects them though.
Kudos though... I didn't think anyone could trump my dear ma for 'public TMI' moments! But it looks like she's been beaten this time!

I know pixie! Last time she saw me in the buff was probably when I was about 16 and she was measuring me up for a dress she was making for me to wear to a wedding... that was 15 years ago! Unfortunately she is dead right about the state of my nips and I should point out that she does have a medical background and this lends some weight to what she has to say - I just wish she wouldn't do it whilst in company. The last BF lecture was delivered after she was 3/4 of her way through a bottle of wine - at Sunday lunch with some friends of theirs I had never met. I suddenly had perfect strangers very interested in just how warm cabbage leaves stuffed down my bra will help soothe my apparently soon-to-be over-engorged breasts! DH was in hysterics, he reckoned it was like something out of a comedy and my mother is the 60-year-old version of Bridget Jones... sigh!

oh you'll have to keep us posted on further comments, she sounds hilarious! maybe you should ask your midwife for some advice if you're worried about nipple size and bf? also la leche league or kellysmom websites might have information as well.

I seriously don't think nipple colour or size has much to do with it!
The baby doesn't suck on your nipple. He/she gets a good mouthful of nipple and areola. People with inverted nipples can manage to breast feed. I'm sure you will be fine!
And the colour is simply a contrast thing. Darker nipples are more easily seen by short sighted newborns that's all.
I think you should tell your mother to sod off!
Or, alternatively, next time she mentions your breasts to a stranger, just smile sympathetically, wink at them and mutter something about taking her mind off her horrendous piles/prolapse/poor bladder control! It doesn't have to be true, but it might just shut her up!

Haha Saggy good tactic! I might try that next time.

Thanks for the bf support suggestions Pixie I hadn't thought to start looking at stuff like that but after glancing through the La Leche League website I feel marginally more informed! I'm not worrying too much about it to begin with, I figure we'll give it a go and hope for the best. And I take some comfort in knowing that my friends who BF all come in totally different shapes and sizes and yet they all seem to manage just fine!

my friends who BF all come in totally different shapes and sizes and yet they all seem to manage just fine

Well exactly. Your mum is talking shite. If you want a 'starter' encouraging and informative book on breastfeeding I recommend The food of Love

on a more serious note, I do sympathize with you kjh one of the things I disliked about bf was how suddenly your breasts seemed to be fair game for everyone to discuss/look at. My ILs thought it was odd I wasn't comfortable feeding in front of them and never tried to give me any privacy (and it is hard to be discreet when you're learning). I know that's reflective of their positive views of bf but I felt really awkward about it. Meanwhile my mum, full of good intention and a lot of experience as an ex midwife, took great interest, and then all the midwives and hvs and breastfeeding support workers... for a very private person it didn't help my overall experience of it! it would probably have been very different had we not had as much difficulty as then there wouldn't have been the need for people to be hands on and ready with all their suggestions!

Thanks for the book rec Baking - I was going to look for something to read about the subject also take up some of the 6wks of mat leave I have coming up

Pixie that is one of my fears! I'm also quite private and the thought of having a mass of 'helpful' relatives round all interfering right after the baby arrives fills me with horror! We live 2/3 hours away from our families who are all ridiculously excited about the baby arriving and want to know as soon as I go into labour presumably so they can all rush over to see him as soon as he pops out. DH and I have already said the hospital isn't keen on any visitors other than partners (a lie) so hoping we can fend off the horde for a day or two after he arrives, I really don't want our tiny flat full of people as we're trying to figure things out!

that's a really good idea to have told them that about the hospital! we are being very strict this time also as having MIL in my face for the first week last time didn't help. It might be worth setting a bit of a time limit on visits when people do start coming as well, and getting DH on board with managing it- I found that 2 hours of even my most favourite people was all I could handle to begin with!

We are in the same boat kjh I have massive mambas and tiny little nozzles. Hadn't even occurred to me this might be an issue with bf.

Next time your ma points this out, you may want to consider a retort along the lines of , " well better big Tits and small nips than massive gob and tiny brain".

giraffe how's you? Hopefully everything will settle down now.

Fellow six weekers, can I ask have you been to the docs/booked in? Wondering how late I can leave it.

Aoife I have my first Drs appt to tell them am upduffed on Fri (6 weeks exactly) I didn't really want to go before then in attempt to make the time waiting for booking/scan appts shorter and have chosen to see the bloke in the hope I am less likely to cry in front of a man!? clutching at straws Last time was at surgery was to say hey I had some bleeding but it's nothing right?

Question for those further along: Has anyone experienced breathlessness as an early symptom? And if so has it continued through the pregnancy? Stairs really knock the wind out me and I become a heavy breather by the top!

ps since we are all sharing, I have literally no idea if I have big nips or small ones!!

Hi all. I'm really behind with posting and probably haven't done so for 2 weeks but I just wanted to say to Londonjen I'm getting breathless too (8+4).

London yep I've been puffed out by stairs!

Aoife I'm 6 weeks today (whoop!) I booked in at the gp already, just to get it over with. The wait 'til an unnamed scan date is unbearable. And Londonjen yes I booked to see a male gp and yes I sobbed all over him before I even got into the office. He was the one I saw last time when I had a teeny smidge of blood at 11 weeks and it turned out to be the horrific mmc. I felt quite sorry for him, but he was so sweet, and had tissues on his desk. l love him a little bit and always have done

Re BF, it can and is done amazingly with all shapes and sizes of bosom. My advice is check out in advance where the NCT drop in clinic is near you, (they generally have a weekly one) so you can dash to it the minute there is an issue. In my experience the counsellors have so much more training and time than the midwives. They have saved my bacon with both babies. It did not come naturally, and I had bleeding nipples within a day for both, but with their help I fed both babies for a year. I went along every week for at least a month. I don't think nipple size matters, what matters is baby gets a mahoosive gobful of boob rather than teetering on the end shredding its mother. Bitter bitter experience! Disclaimer - most of my friends have found feeding easier than I have...