Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/ Warriors Part 5

[MrsHY1]

Hello ladies! Come and find me!

Oh, and just so you know, having a curry for dinner and then taking your fenugreek tablets makes for some interesting burps.

Just popping in quickly to say hello to the new Fred. I'm currently trying to boob feed ginster to sleep, as I managed to make her veh cross by daring to top and tail her! Poor little thing.

Hope the jabs went/go ok. Sounds like there's been some good sleeping by the Fred babies too :) Ginster slept well too - 4 hours post formula and then for an hour or two a after every bf. She's so cute when asleep and makes ace super girly noises.

noks good luck! 1cm dilated is great - my cervix was still 1cm long when they induced me and that worked, so am sure Nokita will be here before you know it and with limited womble invasions.

We have the dreaded weigh in tomorrow. Ginster feels bigger to me, but it's hard to tell! Maybe she's just stretched and not put on any weight!

shazz are you going to the milk spot? Hope to see you there. My mum will be coming too. That's unless the weigh in is a disaster and we've moved to fornula. Can't imagine a baby avec bottle would go down well at the milk spot

Bloomin' iPad.
I did take M's temp for a couple of days though.
Today she knew what was coming and when she was injected turned her mouth down so dramatically we all laughed. You could see her going through the whole gamut of emotions including laughing herself but outrage won and she BELLOWED!

X post dildals. Well jel of your night time feed patterns.

Gin, good luck tomorrow. If she's got longer she's got bigger! I'm sure she's put weight on if she feels heavier. Great sleeps - long may it continue.

Dildals, Xmas disrupted us too and m has lately been very ratty and then sleeping at around midnight/1am, sometimes waking again at 4. It was such a regression but hope she's back on track now.
It must be a fine line with B - giving her enough stimulation but not over tiring her. She's doing fantastically.

No teething yet. Sorry for answering all ver the place. I thought she was about to start teething because she's constantly exploring her bottom gum but apparently changes can occur months before teeth appear.

I was talking to a friend about her ds. He used to be a champion sleeper, down for 12 hours with no problem from a very early age but when he hit 3 he suddenly stopped sleeping. He's up all night refusing to sleep and she has no idea why. Yikes! So I guess you can't be complacent until they've held a job down for 2 years.

In haste as mademoiselle night feeder is about to wake up from a belated nap that it took me AGES to get her down for (she got FAR too overstimulated coming with me to the hairdressers!) but Dildals- YES- me too re the fussiness/crazed eating equalling over-tiredness. Figured this out over the past few days. Love Bella's inappropriate staring in Sainsbos. After my Fbook post this morning I would like to report that I am KNACKERED. Please please please little one give mummy even a 2.5 hr stretch of sleep tonight otherwise I might actually go nuts.

keep Pangolina cried concertedly at her jabs (the nurse seemed to think she was unusually upset but I didn't think so) but she was fine afterward. I was careful not squeeze her thighs where she had them though. Good luck w your DD! I find nurses tend to make a bigger deal out of them than I do, maybe some mums get really upset but I'm pretty practical ( or cold and heartless...)

noks 1cm is great, loads of women are still stoppered tight at your stage.

expat It's great your DH can take a day off work to look after your DD. that's what we did when DS was little and it really helped to strengthen their bond. It also meant there really was nothing I could do that he couldn't ( apart fr bfing of course) and it made us much more equal partners when it comes to childcare. Good luck with the big negotiation at work; I find I dread those conversations but usually they are not as bad as I imagined.

dildals Pangolina gets ratty between 5-7 every night, then it's her bedtime. I think she's just had enough. She usually sleeps until 1 or 2, wakes up for a feed and then goes down again until sometime between 4-6. I go to bed early too so it suits me just fine. Sometimes like last night she doesn't really settle for quite a while, an hour or so, which can be tiresome but really I am incredibly lucky and can't complain.

gin good luck with the weighing tomorrow. My red book says not to weigh more than once a month for over 8 wks so I am not taking P for a weigh in for another couple of weeks.

mrs fingers crossed she will go down for the count! Sleep deprivation is recognised internationally as a form of torture... I used to feel as though I was in some bizarre gulag with DS...

Gin I love the sleep noises babies make. Ours sound like little quiet trains or sort of sing song breaths. It is so sweet, they do the same when they feed too.

ExPat I have heard the same about fab sleeping kids having massive changes as they get older. I have bought Wonder Weeks which tells you what to expect at each week or stage. I know it is only a guide but anything is better than the nothing I have at the moment.

I have had the twins weighed today too. They are back over their birth weights, the MW was concerned that they were slow getting back up to birth weight but they have got there now. E had gained 200g in 2 weeks and F had gained 140g so I think this is good going for 6lb twins. I am not sure where this puts them on the percentile charts but I am not going to worry about that.

I have been to the optician today about my vision to see if he could suggest anything or change my prescription in the short term. The bastard told me there is nothing that can be done and it is unlikely to get any better, queue much panic from me. To make it better NOT he said I am within the limit to drive!!! I am no way I feel safe to drive with my vision as it is. He has said I need to see an eye specialist which could take 8-10 weeks so I am going to wait 3 more weeks to the magic 6 weeks post birth to see if there is any improvement if not I will have to review the situation. This is doing nothing for my anxiety levels, thank goodness for the valium!!

Can I just add that P often goes to sleep v quickly, snoozes for about 15-20 min, then wakes up and takes another hour to fall back to sleep again. She will usually stay in her basket and just fret if she drops her dummy or whacks herself in the head (which she does, frequently). It's an odd pattern.

sweets if it's related to your blood pressure then won't it stabilise once that does? Sounds very suspect to me.
The twins weight gain sounds marvellous.

mrshy sleep deprivation is ghastly, yet somehow you keep going and even getting one hour can just be enough. I hope you get a better stretch tonight though. Like fairy said, it is a very effective form of torture. I'm getting three hours at a time now but only as I'm still bed sharing of course.

keep no adverse reactions to jabs here, maybe a longer sleep that afternoon but no fevers or anything.

Ringlet will be 1year and 2 weeks when I go back (in April). I had to plan up to the end of this academic year as our AL
runs Oct to Oct so I've got life mapped out until this Oct.

dildals you always sound so busy with B. I lead a very quiet life in comparison, I hope ringlet isn't under stimulated.

gin I hope the weigh in is rewarding but don't fret too much if it isn't. I've stopped having Ringlet weighed now, she is what she is and that is petite.

Did I say how lovely the new photos you all posted are? So much growing has been going on - they all look so much less like new borns.

Hope noks is evicting the platypus.

sweetie the optician probably didn't know what he was talking about- as onion says, won't your vision stabilise once your blood pressure does? Or if its something else surely that should be treated by your doctor or an ophthalmologist? And if it isn't going to improve why can't he give you a new prescription? Don't lose heart although I can understand why it must be very anxiety provoking.

My vision problems were originally caused by increased fluid which went onto my brain in the area effecting vision rather than high blood pressure. Apparently over the 6 weeks post birth as hormones and fluid levels settle down this should return to normal but of course I am very impatient for this to happen sooner rather than later. Maybe the optician hasn't seen this before under these circumstances my actual visual prescription hadn't changed and has just referred me on for further investigations.

sweetie I've been thinking about you and I'd go back to your GP and get your questions answered and as fairy says, get a referral to an ophthalmologist if necessary.

I am also a bit suspect of the Valium and how helpful that actually is at the moment, are you taking 2mg doses? It's not the blood pressure giving you anxiety symptoms is it? It's just that I have low bp generally but when it's been really low it has made me feel jittery and anxious. It was very bad after ringlet was born as I lost a litre of blood during the section. My doctor friend told me then it would take me a month to make up the lost blood and for my bp to improve.

Sorry for interfering!

Sorry we x posted. Has he referred you to an ophthalmologist?

Noks is most definitely not pushing the platypus out. Noks most definitely IS getting fucked off with DP, who is moaning about inconsequential bullshit (mobile phones, the football) and BF who, on enquiring about how yesterday went, had another guffaw (by text) about me wanting a water birth. I said that I was booked for an induction on Friday and instead of asking if I was ok with that, how I was feeling etc, made some comment about me not being able to have a water birth with lots of exclamation marks and question marks (her equivalent of a sarcastic eye roll by text). She let slip a few weeks ago that she discussed my birth plans with another good friend of ours, who was 'laughing about you wanting a water birth' (a fucking man). Honestly, why does wanting a water birth make me into a lentil munching weirdo ? AND who the frig thinks it's ok to discuss my birth choices ( more importantly, who would want to - Ffs, get a life) and laugh about them. I am very cross. Very cross indeed.

Does this sudden hormonal change mean I am going to give birth soon ?

sweetie sorry for ranting when you are so poorly. Xx

Let's hope it does mean that something is happening.

Frankly it's nobody else's fucking business whether you give birth in a bath or a bus stop. And yes, why would anyone even be discussing that. I love that pregnancy and childbirth give everyone open season on you. So many times I've thought to myself 'We are standing here talking about my actual VAGINA!' when having to explain to a random neighbour why I had a section etc. Just ignore them, I imagine the ANY NEWS?! texts are getting a bit much now too.

Poor DP, he won't be able to do anything right at the moment.

For what it's worth I'm going to stop hoping you're having the baby whenever you don't post for a while. I mean, I still will hope you're having the baby of course, but I'll not say that on here. Gah! Then you'll think I don't care... Oh you know what I mean.

Grabs onion's leg. Looks up at her pleadingly and says, through tears, 'don't stop lavishing me with attention'.

Pah. Poor DP my arsehole. He can just suck it up. But yes, I could put in a request to give birth in a ball gown, in the middle of Guildford fucking High Street, while listening to pan pipe music AND IT WOULD BE NO-ONE'S BUSINESS BUT MY OWN (and some random shoppers, obviously). Honestly, you're so right, you are diffed and suddenly your kid and your vag, and how your kid is going to come out of your vag is a talking point for every bugger else . Ffs.

Noks, I think you should have the ultimate water birth and push the nipper out in the nearest public swimming pool. Preferably while BF is in it. And push a few poos out at the same time.
Sweetie I'm sorry about your vision problems, that must be scary. Fab news on the twins though. I am in AWE of you coping with two! The ultimate warrior in my book.
Crisps continuing to think of you.

Fairy and onion thanks too for your words of encouragement! You're right onion- even a small amount of sleep helps- when missy napped yesterday evening I nodded off on the sofa to the stupid ambient music/sounds that they play on the bbc hd channel when there isn't an hd programme to show (fireworks, beach sounds etc) only to snap bolt upright when the news came on . So only had 15 mins I think but felt strangely refreshed

oh noks I totally agree! they should all fuck right off

see Mrs I often feel worse after a v short nap, which is one reason why I'm so bad at day time napping. main reason of course is that she's always on me...

jabs were horrid, poor darling hated them. but she's been asleep other than for feeds, since 4pm... I don't get why she will only be fine in the cot between 11 and 6?! better that way round I guess though.

I used to feel sick after a short nap but I've got used to them now I suppose.

Poor attention seeking noks! I'll keep on asking about your ACTUAL VAGINA then. HOW'S YER FANNY TODAY THEN PET?!

I am putting stairgates up today. There are no instructions so I suspect it will get complicated. My dad is coming to help so there will also be rows.

is she crawling onion? can we see a pic?

ah noks how's your yoni today? feeling dilated? (that's queasy, not jealousy BTW...)