Anyone due November 2004?

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I'm a bit nervous about opening this thread as I've only foundt out I'm pregnant and anything can happen...anyway, due date 1st november, I still cant believe it.....
This is my second baby but I'm even more anxious about this pregnancy than first time round...I'd been wantind a 2nd baby for over a yera now, but dh wanted to wait longer, and now it's happened, but it wasn't planned at all!!!

We're both over the moon though, but trying to contain our happyness just in case....(easier said than done)

anyway, I fell better now, having shared this with you..

off to play with dd1 now!!!

I've had headaches too, not as bad with this pg as when I was pg with ds. Apparantly it's to do with our hormones and usually passes by 20 weeks. Horrid while it lasts though.
Sorry to hear about the hayfever. DH has been having an awful time with it this weekend - it's a real shame he's not been able to enjoy the lovely weather but all he's wanted to do is stay inside in a darkened room.

Anyone else sick again? It must be due to the heat. I am so sick of drinking water, but I am tyring ot get as muh down me as pos in case it is dehydration - feels like a terrible hangover (headache, sick, upset stomach). Feeling well sorry for myself

Hi everyone - glad to hear that it is not just me feeling crap in this weather!

Headaches galore, swollen feet (having to wear flip flops to work) and no sleep at all in this bloody weather!!

On the headache front I can't remember having these with DD but everything seems worse this time around - I am getting a right woos in my old age!!

Had to have blood test yesterday and the stupid mee really hurt me I could just about move my arm this morning where she poked me soo hard - she reckoned that in the middle vein it hurts less than the big throbbing easy to get to one at the side!! - I am such a woos at the moment though - things seem to hurt 10 times more than when I wasn;t pregnant!

Can I have a moan as well? Have been getting headaches as well (glad there is a reason I am getting them as I never get them usually) and I really hate the heat and cannot sit in it for more than 30 seconds (although I tan really easily so everyone in owrk today thinks I sit in it all day).

Last night the baby was very very active and kept giving me really bad rib pain. I used to get it with DD but not unitl about 6 months.

The heat kept me up all night to - but poor DD - her room was 33 degrees! While she was sleeping I kept putting cold flannels all over her to cool her down.

BUT - on a positive note - I had me maternity Topshop jeans deliveerd and they are fab. Am chuffed to bits with them!

Can I join in?
Fed up ~I have had no results back from my GTT wih means i'm clear but I know theres something not right. I'm still losing weight. My son has decided hes houdini. I think the dog has kennel cough. I'm *ed off with all the people who want to come and view our house and have no intention what soever of buying it. We've been on the market a year now and have on average at least 20 viewers a month all of which means rarranging my life for. We have to move before this baby is born otherwise it will be sleeping in the bath......shall I go on?
Oh and DH (D?H) is being a *er
thanks for listening :D

Bronze

sos orry to hear you're having a tough time...I can thoroughly sympathise with on the house front...we tried to move when I was pregannt with dd, and it was an absolute nightmare, it almost runied my pregnancy (but I was TOO happy to be touched by anything), in the end, we moved 2 weeks after dd was born....7 months after putting our house on the market...

Best of luck!!!

Oh dear Bronze, sorry I can't help much except to send sympathy. Do you think the GTT results are wrong? Any other symptoms of diabetes (e.g. excessive thirst, blurred vision, tingling in your fingers)? I would ask for the actual result of the GTT. If you don't understand it, post it on here and I'll try to interpret. Re the house, that must be a real strain. Any chance of extending instead of moving? I think the market is pretty stagnant in a lot of places ATM and my dh (who likes to read the financial papers) is convinced there is going to be a crash so now might not be the best time to move anyway (sorry, I don't mean to worry you but just trying to explain why your house may not be selling - everything is very uncertain and buyers are very nervous).

I hope you are right vivie and that the headaches will go after 20 weeks. I never had any when pg with my ds. I think the hot weather doesn't help mind you. Apart from that and the hayfever (which has eased off a bit) I am feeling well.

PotPourri, your headaches sound just like mine, with the sickness, and mine do usually imrpove a little with paracetamol. Take one and try to lie down in a darkened room for a bit (difficult if you're at work I suppose).

Bronze - Poor you. Thats a lot to deal with at once.

FWIW my DH (not so D at the mo) is being a T*?T currently. Why I do not know but something is really pissing him off qhich has resulted in him saying not more than 3 words to me all day. Bollox to em!!

(and I spent Saturday walking round a bloody golf course with him and being sooo nice to his clients and boss etc. at the Welsh open when I really didn't want to be there).

Bronze sounds awful can you go back to your GP and try and egt them to run more tests or run them again??

Mum2Ela - DP dares not be nasty or stroppy with me - I AM PREGNANT AND CARRYING HIS CHILD!!! - you don't know how much I use that line at the moment when I am pissed off and hot.

Do you know what I did at the weekend - sat on a foot high pink plastic stool eating my lunch whilst his (un pregnant) friends sat around my super duper luxury garden table on lovely squishy comfy chairs - and not one of them offered me a seat!! - I told him he had a rude bunmch of f**G c**s as friends and if he ever wanted to see them agani he should do it when I am either at work, out with my nice polite, considerate friends or DEAD!!! AAARRRGGGHHH!! - he got the message though

Good for you Twinkie. Oooh I love the C word. Thats exactly what DH is at the moment! AND I took him out for a meallast night to try and sweeten him up, but this morning he was back to his uncooperative moody persona he has taken on.

Oh well, we are away Friday for the night (without DD) to Torquay for a do with his work. If he carries on like this I will stamp my feet and refuse to go the sod!

But I hate that word - he knows he or someone has pushed me sooo far when I say it!!

I spent all day cleaning and making nice salads and a pavlova and a cheesecake and making sure we had everything we needed and do you know none of them - well except the one couple that I had invited who were my friends bought him a present - I know you don;t expect one but if we were going out all day to a BBQ and it was for someones birthday I would take them something.

And not one of them - except my best friend lifted a finger!!

Can't wait to go to one of their BBQs I am going to be a rude lazy fat cow!!

Oooh, pregnant and angry women . I am revelling in being able to blame my hormones for EVERYTHING. I can be moody, tired, eat what I want, shop and generally behave as I wish because I am with child and noone dare criticise. BTW, I love the C word, used carefully it really adds some weight to what I say. I think you used it very justly Twinkie.

Bronze, things sound rubbish for you at the mo. House buying/selling is so stressful, I hate it.

bronze has your doc checked your thyroid level could be worth a try?? twinkie my bloods are usually taken out of a vein in my hand (it bloody hurts like hell ) pregnancy hormones drive you round the bend mind its always good to let off a bit of steam evry few minutes or so lol

Hi all.....not posted here for a while tho I have been lurking! Am fine and no longer feel sick or feel that I have to eat for Italy!! My skin is appalling and I have bright red cheeks with spots underneath it! YUK! Was the same with ds and am hoping it will clear up once the baby is born.

Twinkie, from another thread I read, it sounds like you know that you are having a boy. Did you find the sex out this quickly?? Max is a great name as it is my ds's name and I love it! What if it is a girl? What will you call her??

Has anyone else sorted out names??

Can I join in the big whinge? I have hayfever, have been working in a physical job in temperatures (inside) of 34 degress, I have headaches backache and DP REALLY p@??ed me off last night! He was a little bit tipsy and all baby soppy which was nice... then he starts going on about how he should take the baby (ALONE) down on a three hour journey to see his mum after it is born.

I am really cross about it, she is angry with me for not 'getting rid of it' which see thinks would of been best (needless to say, I do not!) and DP thinks that by takin baby to meet her without me she will accept baby without having to re-accept me 'straight away'.

I think it is a recipe for disaster, she will think she can carry on like that (without me) and whilest I think it is important that baby knows its Grandparents I think the onus should be on them to make some effort. I don't think the baby should come without me, we are a package, we should come together?

Am I just being a baby possessive mother from hell? I have slept really badly after this last night, and he is only talking about taking them down for the day! Can I have some impartial, and as unhormonal unemotional as poss advice on this?!!

cannot do unhormonal, unemotional advice at the mo, (being 19 weeks preganant) but I would not accept it....for me it would be a good excuse to keep mil away.....sorry that was a joke, still, I would not go along with it though.

As you say, she has to accept both you and the baby, (which she wnated you to get rid off in the first place), she'll probably fall in love with the baby when she sees her/him, but if it was for her, there would be no baby, so no it's not fair that she gest to enjoy a baby she did not want in the first place...

SOrry my post is very hormonal and emotional, I'm not too keen on my mil (had a terrible time with her when dd1 was born) so there's no way I'd agree to anything like that. I felt bad enough every time they took dd away from me to cuddle her with the excuse that I needed to rest (which was true), but she never offered to change her or bath her so I could rest!

Anyway this is not about me, I hope someone will be able to give you more objective advice, though possibly not on this thread full of pregnant hormonal women!!!

I don't mind the whole MIL thing, I think that the baby should get to know granny etc, I feel it's important baby know everyone loves them, but I'm not prepared to go that far!

I think I'm being quite good about the MIL thing, I was fully prepared to accept that she would want to be involved despite everything she said. She is so fickle though, its a joke! she decided she didn't like me when me and DP moved away to another city last year, then she liked me when she liked my xmas present, and now needless to say she hates me again! So judging by past events I thought she would just come round to it all when it suits her. Was shocked that DP is insistant this is a good idea.

Sam, she sounds like a nasty piece of work and ,if I were in your shoes, under NO circumstances would I be parted from my new baby in order to placate/indulge the old bag. You and the baby are the most important people in this and I think it is unreasonable to expect you to go along with your dps plan. I hope you can resolve things quickly.

Names? We cant agree. I am using Duncan as a nickname for the baby at the mo but dh hates it. I like Isaac and JAcob for a boy, luckily ds agrees on these but if it is a girl we cannot find any common ground. My choices are Molly, Polly or Holly (see a pattern??). Dh doesnt seem to loke any girls name except "Amber-Dawn" which I think, though nice seperately, are naff when put together. Still, lots more time to make our minds up.

I predict its a boy. Anyone else have an intuitive feeling about what they are having?

Oooohhh I have only had 1 mother in law and hopefully will be on my second before the end of theyear once I get this bloody divorce sorted and have to say that my first one was an awful needy sad possessive bitch from hell - she and her husband burst in after I had had DD - 10 minutes after when I was still under the influence and knackered and laughed at how 'out of it' (just gone through 26 hours of labour you pikeys!!) I looked - then took DD off of me and proceeded to take lots of pictures of them hugging her!! - I hated them from that moment on I think!!

DPs mother is lovely - so nice and caring and loves DD - she has recently been looking after one of her grandchildren in Paris and we came home last night to find a postcard to DD on the mat - DD was sooo excited that 'nanny *' had sent her a postcard - she said she felt very grown up and important!! - MIL mark II never interferes, is always there if you need her but never imposes on you or any of her kids and I have to say is one of the nicest ladies I have ever met (as is her husband and her mother!!)

So there are good and bad in MILs in my experience - but I think the best way to handle them is to stand up to them and make sure that they know where to stand from the beginning (hopefully one day MIL mark I willfind herself standing in the path of a very large HGV!! .

Collision - we had a CVS so was told the sex of the baby - I am quite happy to tell everyone cause I know for sure it is a boy - there can be no mistaking after seeing those X and Y chromosomes!!

Today I am tired to the degree that I could lay down under my desk and sleep for the duration of the day - I have to finish filling in my divorce papers and get tot he bank and beg them to give me copies of bank statements and different papers and get them in thepost by this evening and then beg my boss to let me go home early one day this week to travel the 30 miles to the solicitors to go through them with her for the mealy fee of £160 per hour in the hope that I can completely scalp that bastard I am 'still' married to!!

Sorry for the rant at the end - just think it is all getting on top of me - his solicitor is crap and keeps cocking everythnig up which means everything takes 3 times as long and costs 10 times as much cause I have to keep sending her letters to point out her f**k ups!!! - GGGGRRRR

Sam - you are not over-reacting, it's not a reasonable request. I can sort of see your DPs point, as we all want our mother's approval and he maybe thinks if she approves of the baby he can then work on getting her approval for you. However, it is not fair to ask you to seperate yourself from your child to placate her. You are a family unit, not just her son and his child with you tagged on. Perhaps you could suggest that you both go down together so it is on her territory, but you are still there - and promise that you will try to bite your tongue this one visit.

Twinkie. Sounds like a nightmare. Just you focus on how it will all be worth it once it is finally all sorted out. And about your BBQ - people can be so ruuuude! I have decided to stop having BBQs (except if family are visiting) cos I got fed up last summer with people turning up late, and basically being rude. I know everyone's time is precious, so why do people think their time is more important than their hosts? Planning to have a nice BBQ just me & DH at the weekend if it's nice weather. Oh yum - pregnancy = lots of food!

Names? We've decided on a girl's name, and have a list of boys names that we are thinking over. I assumed it would be a girls as there are tonnes of girls in my family and practically no boys. But lots of people keep saying they think it might be a boy, and so I now have that idea in my head... Also, DH has twins in his family - do twins only run in the maternal line? I sort of have it in my mind that we might have twins too - even though the scan didn't show two. It's either spooky insight, or I am making it up. I would secretly like twins, although I know it would be such hard work...

Am finally getting a bump and I love it. I can't wait til the baby moves (undoubtedly - have had a few flutters that I put down to wind).

Well thankyou people. i know I shouldnt laugh cos some of you sound like youre going through the mill but the presentation of these crappy tings made me smile.

Plantpot- i havnt had my thyroid checked sinceive been pregnant but i do have it checkd pretty regularly as my mum suffers from an underactive one. Ouch to the blood from your hands. Ive still got wacking bruises on the insides of my elbows where my blood tests were.

Gingernut- not sure about the other symptons as I've been drinking more beacuse of the heat and am waiting for my new glasses cos i broke my old ones so everythings blurry anyway :D
The mw seems to think that my problems stem from not eating properly and just told me to eat more. Stupid cow I've been trying to tell her that the reason i'm not eating properly is cos i feel crap...I hate this new system of a different midwife each time so that you 'can get to know them all' or rather not rememeber any of them and be pissed of cos theres noone that you feel comfortable enough to talk to grrrrrr.

On another note isnt the weather lovely :D and i thank the lord for my lovely inlaws

Bron

i still get checked throughout my pregnancy as levels can change during pregnancy i would ask your gp for a test

I have to share this with you, lovely moment last night when db gave a very definite kick just when dh was feeling my bump, first time he feels db!!

Hope everyone is fine!!

Hi everyone!
Thanks for all your advice, you must all think I'm mad as it's such a long way off. Have tried to convince DP not to mention that he has had this idea to MIL (from hell!), so that if she decides to come round anyway... Also seem to have agreed that he won't take db untill I have gone back to work if he does at all. So hopefully it won't have to be mentioned again.

Well it looks like the weather is cooling down, so we can all stop whinging about how hot and bothered we are... and start complaining about the english summer!!

One other quick question, does anyone seem to be suffering from indigestion type pains? Mine seem to be really bad, to the extent that I am having problems eating!! After a few mouthfuls I feel full, bloated and with sharp upper abdomonen pain! I'm wondering if it is my body's way of wreaking revenge for not being able to stop eating last week!!

Aw sweet webmum

Yes Sam, I am getting really bloated too. My stomach is huge and I am sure it is not the baby. I can't eat much, although I eat little amounts all day. In fact, I ate so many biscuits a few hours ago that I have been sorry since - I still feel really full and a bit off colour.

Anyone else taking advantage of free dental care? I went yesterday and she told me my teeth were great - just a clean and polish required. I;ve got heavy duty mouthwash prescribed - apparently to keep my gums in this healthy state - I;ve only to use it diluted twice a week. All these years that I haven't been going to the dentist and my teeth are fine! DH is thinking of going to the dentist now to get a check up (but have you seen the cost?)