Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/Warriors Part 4

[Buzzybee123]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

noks it certainly does, I sometimes look like i'm having a fit or something when I first stand up,

keep my placenta is 2cms away from my cervix, some would call that placenta previa, I'm not goingt o risk a natural birth if they advise otherwise, sonographer thought it was boarderline but said its not her field, don't see consultant until the 7th Jan, they might rescan me

Had me gnawing my turnip with excitement there nokkers. I demand you sneeze it out on Christmas Day and call it Jesus. DD1 called DD2 The Little Lord Jesus for about a week. I said that Jesus was a boy to which DD1 instantly responded 'does he have a willy?' So next thing I'm discussing the cock of Christ with a four year old. Next question was 'how can owls turn their heads all the way round?' That stumped me too.

I have kept one pair of massive pants as I know that if I were ill they would make me feel better. Lovely big bum huggers.

Lots of love crisps and I'm so glad you can all be together. I hated being in hospital away from DD1.

I'd go with the section buzzers but I am the thread poster girl for elective sections. My SPD which was ghastly, was better almost straight away. Not long now though.

Exhausted here but ALL PRESENTS WRAPPED. I need an early night after two boozy late (ie after 10) ones.

Noks things are much better here today thanks. No more talk of going home and thankfully everyone has been tactful enough not to mention my dramatics again. We went into town today to do our Xmas shopping. It is a very small town but a bit hippyish and arty so lots of good gift shops. We got some nice gifts and didn't have to trek around London. Great! In 3weeks YOU WILL HAVE A BAYBEE!!!!!

Buzzy lets talk about being preggers. I really miss it. It's only been 4 weeks and it seems like the good old days already. Im having nostalgia about it. Do you mean that the Nct girls were relaxed or the baby?

Onion you have the funniest conversations with dd1. She is hilarious. There should be a book of answers to the classic awkward questions that children ask.

I'm doing a mammoth feed. Going for double boobage in the hope that she will fall asleep. Then im hoping to sleep until 2. Please God

shazza glad you are feeling better, both the couple and the baby

can the preggos do bump photos on fb? I miss it too...

I know keep. I loved sweetie's preggo pics on here.

Buzz sometimes even I might seem pretty relaxed on the outside. But it is not necessarily indicative of how I feel for the rest of the time! When I feel calm like now I'd probably say to you that it's not as hard as people imply and everything is great. But 2 nights ago it was a different story. That's why we must try not to compare ourselves to others. Here we can tell each other the good and bad bits but on Fb or with Nct meet ups we might be inclined to gloss over the 'bad' bits. (Although I did cry at my Nct meet up but that's me!)

plus babies are often w different story at night. cuddling non stop is fine in the day, less so at night...

We had a good night here Keep. Hope you did too.

Reading back over my last post I just wanted to add that although I've had my moments and aired them here, looking after and being with shazlett is great. She is a delight and I'm so happy (If a little teary at times). DP has stepped up and is really supportive and we are loving being a family. The inevitable tiredness is all worth it.

Glad to hear things are going in the right direction crisps and I hope N and you all have a speedy recovery.

Good to hear from you buzzy. Sorry to hear you're in pain - do the crutches help? My hips ache in the night, I guess from lying on my side, but they are ok during the day. How is the nursery coming on? How do you feel about C section? I am certainly going to discuss it at my next review with the consultant, as I think I either want a natural labour or ELCS, but not induction. Not long for you now!

How is the waiting game nokkie - or are you able to keep busy enough to feel generally occupied and distracted?

at onion for "discussing the cock of Christ with a 4 year old" - priceless! Can I ask how your recovery from ELCS was please?

I'll consider posting a bump pic keep but people keep telling me I hardly look pregnant/have a small bump, so it wouldn't be very exciting! Once I look massive, I'll post one.

Glad to hear your Christmas break is settling into an enjoyable one shaz

AFM I am feeling very sad as a good friend of mine is going through a miscarriage at 8 weeks. She has been TTC for years, and has had one previous pregnancy which also ended in early miscarriage. We were excited at the prospect of having babies of a similar age. I feel so sad for her and just wish I could change things.

I am trying to manage my anxiety after eating some buffalo mozzarella at a restaurant on Friday. I thought mozzarella was safe, but have since read that sometimes the buffalo stuff is made with unpasteurized milk. Oh well, nothing I can do about it now. I am seeing the GP tomorrow morning as neither gaviscon or ranitidine are working on my acid indigestion, so I may ask her if there is any way she could do a blood test or something.

Last day of Xmas preparations today before driving to Scotland to stay with the inlaws for Christmas, and then down to my parents in Leeds. I will try to stay calm!

motor I know how you feel, realised some chicken I ate wasn't well cooked, fairly early on. but I think mozzarella in the uk would almost always be pasteurised, esp at a restaurant. gissa bump pic anyway... when are you seeing the consultant?

buzzy you've had a really tough pregnancy, so will be having a sneeze birth and good sleeper.

Mackie how are you getting on?

ceara are you too busy with maize based snacks and box sets?

Hi motor

Sorry to hear about your friend. That is so sad. Especially as you understand what she is going through. I'm sure you will be a great support to her.

Try not to worry about the mozzarella. Millions of Italians will eat it during pregnancy and like keep said it was prob fine anyway.

motor so sorry to hear about your friend, she might need a bit of space, miscarrying and dealing with preggos can be heartbreaking and difficult, all you think about is why me :( I wouldn't worry about the cheese, I've eaten plenty of it along with the odd runny egg.
Omeprazole worked well for the indigestion/acid, I'm still taking it now. I don't mind a c section, not keen on the recovery but no point in worrying about something I cannot control. I also like the idea of her being here earlier as I'm over being preggo, I just wish I didn't have to wait until the 7th to find out what is happening, I'll probably get all set for a c section and they'll say go for broke and do it naturally I had a tour around the hospital and its well set up.

keep and shazza I believe the NCT couple are just a relaxed easy going pair, she wasn't boasting and they didn't paint a 'pretty picture' for us, its still early days for them and things can change, but they seemed genuinely at ease with it so far, I'm not likely to compare myself to anyone as I don't have those hang ups and I don't feel my NCT group are like that but time will tell when the babies arrive.

Well the second baby has arrived so things might start to get interesting

motor I think you'd have to look pretty hard to find I pasteurised mozzarella, maybe you'd find it at a v expensive high end place, where it would be highlighted on the menu. Even if not, I think the only risk is listeria, which is v rare and vv unlikely from one dish. Try to relax and enjoy the trip up north! Lets get together when you are back.

I'm really sorry about your friend and the MC, it is heartbreaking.

onion all your presents wrapped? Crikey. DH is out for the evening so I should probably do his. Sigh. I hate wrapping presents. Time for a glass of vino. I am still only wearing big knickers. I may never go back to the regular, as they'd be so handy to tuck my work shirts into.

Well Pangolina actually lay on her back on her play mat and gazed at the Xmas tree long enough for us to eat dinner tonight! So nice she's developing an attention span. Honestly, although I get tired and fed up, I find this a lot easier than working plus looking after DS and house.

shazz glad Saturday and Sunday were good days. And the relaxed, pottery Christmas shopping sounds amazing.

crisps I'm sorry to hear Nancy is back in hospital but glad she is getting good care and they have found you somewhere to stay. Hope she is better very soon and that you are holding up.

buzzy as others have said you are due some good cards now, so roll on the calm and easy baby you deserve.

motor that is such sad news about your friend, and so hard to how best to support her when your pregnancy may be tough for her.

My bump has suddenly manifested in the last week but I am still getting comments about it being "small/neat" (brackets are you sure the baby's OK? brackets). Why do people feel entitled to comment on our size now we're pregnant? Motor, your bump is your bump, so take pictures to record this time and enjoy it :-) Shazz is so right about not comparing ourselves to others.

So, maternity leave officially starts in the new year for me though I am off for Christmas now. I am finding stopping work is an unexpected wrench, I think because it is such a big change in life and makes all the changes and unknowns to come seem so much more imminent. Christmas is a good distraction for now.

DH believes that all maize based snacks entering the house are rightfully his so this may be a problem.

I hope everyone else - and the babies - are doing OK.

Aaaggghhh someone has swapped my beautiful calm baby for Damian the Omen child that WILL NOT SLEEP!

Thank goodness it is 6am and will soon be light. It all seems so much more endurable in the daytime.

Ceara Christmas is indeed a good distraction. I couldn't get my head around not working. That soon wore off . You do have to remember though that you are not just not working but you are having a baby!

Fairy heehee at tucking your shirts into mahousive pants. I love that they don't ride up your bum as one goes about one's business. Nice one about eating dinner with 2 hands. Most of my clothes have more food stains on than baby sick.

Crisps what news of our little Nancy? Please give her a kiss from her Yoni Aunties.

ceara you'd better put dh straight on the maize snacks! I think people are trying to be mice with the small/near comments, but better just to say you look lovely can we see a pic? enjoy Christmas, I agree its weird not working, though I only had a week of it...

crisps big hugs to your whole family x

Yes crisps, let us know how Nancy is, if you've got time.

ceara, yes it does herald a big change but it's so nice to have time to rest (hopefully). You need to gain control of the maize though (or set up your own stash.)

shazz tough night? I hope you can pass her to a relative and have a nap.

Phew. I've completed extended familial duties and it's just the four of us now. Well apart from today when I'm lone parenting... must dash as nap over already. Hope everyone else is ok.

Shazz maybe it was a full moon or something last night as I had an incredibly challenging night with mine too! I swear I was constantly nursing from 12-3 (although was feeding lying down so we probably both napped for some of that time) then she was clearly getting overtired so had to rock her to sleep when she eventually slept for 1.5 hours, only to wake again when she's been nursing ever since.... My nips must be like leather by now...!

Hi ladies. Not much improvement here I'm afraid...yesterdays highlights included a blood transfusion, a secondary infection and a collapsed lung. Shebis, just so small that it is realy difficult for her to fight this virus. The docs keep dayingshe will get better, but I,am starting yo think they are lying. Ask tge other babies here letup getting better, having cuddles with their mums and leaving. She has gone,longer in.between.bad episodes and is using a,little less ventilation at time, so just clinging on to that. On the up side, dd1 is really settled here now and we are getting excited about christmas for her. All I want for Christmas is my Nancy back, this is breaking my heart.

Oh crisps I am so sorry, how awful. I'll be praying for little Nancy and for you. Good to hear that DD1 is settled though. What a rotten way to spend Christmas!

Oh crisps. We are all willing Nancy on to get better - if it were up to us, she would be at home with you giving you cuddles. Please don't give-up. Sending you all the virtual hugs I can. Much love. Xx

Hi everyone else. Will post more later (nothing to report here though). Xx

crisps the doctors wouldn't say that if they didn't believe it. she WILL get better. but how awful for you. x

Neonatal Drs are the most 'on the fence' lot of doctors that I have EVER met! So if they say it is going to be OK, then that's prob right. I must say though, I am ALSO worrying my arse off for you, because they can pick up additional infections at that stupid hospital (which is indeed what happened) and as you say, she is so small to fight off infections/viruses. Right, that probably was NOT what you wanted to hear!! Have a chat with her consultant though, maybe he/she is able to make you feel better. Bella's doctor had superb bedside manners, he was really busy, but always had time to make me feel a bit less anxious. Top tip: I used to corner him at the handwashing section at the entrance! No escaping!!

crisp big hugs, hoping Nancy gets better soon x thinking of you all

Thinking of you and little Nancy crisps x