Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/Warriors Part 4

[Buzzybee123]

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

I was just catching-up with the thread and read your last post dildals. I started to cry for you but then thought that I should try to be as strong as you are being, and actually appreciate the joy and peace in your post (if that makes any sense at all ?). You have done brilliantly well arranging Georgia's funeral. It sounds as though you have got the balance right too, and are content with what you have decided to do, which is so important. I have so much admiration for you right now (and I am not one who is prone to heaping praise on anyone unnecessarily). I will be thinking of you all tomorrow. I was going to say that I hope it goes well, which sounds too bloody cack handed and glib. What I think I mean is that I hope you all come away from it with some peace in your hearts. Xx

Hi to everyone else. I'll post properly later. Xx

dildals thank you for sharing the photo of your beautiful Georgia. sorry you dont feel able to share it with everyone you'd like to. I feel so honoured that we have all shared each others' journeys from IVF through pregnancy and now beyond and like noks I think you are just awesome. It sounds like the perfect place for little Georgia to be, with her grandmother. I know that you, DH and Bella will always remember her with love and happiness. i hope that tomorrow is a lovely day, though if ciurse heartbreaking too. i'll be thinking of you all, and especially Georgia. x

dildals that is a truly beautiful photo, if heartbreaking. Thank you so much for sharing. The funeral sounds perfect and wherever she is, I'm sure Georgia knows she is very much loved by her parents and sister. I just had a little cry too (on the bus!)

My best friend tragically lost her baby at 24 weeks and I felt so honoured when she shared her pic of her little boy with me. It was v emotional, but lovely to see him and how much of his parents I could see in him. She also had some little foot prints done, which I could imagine having on display.

I'll be thinking of you, DH and Bella tomorrow xx

dildals I am so sorry that you have to go. through this, will be thinking of you x

Sorry but I had a cry for you all too dildals. I hope tomorrow brings you some peace.

Oh and thank you for sharing the lovely photo. Perhaps you could have it out in your bedroom if it would help?

dildals thank you for sharing the beautiful photo and your post with us on here - it is a real privilege. Your plan for placing Georgia with her grannie sounds just right. We will all be thinking of you tomorrow.

madness it is so good to hear from you. 17 weeks - fantastic! Do you have a date for your 20 week scan? Any movements yet?

I had a bit of a scare Monday night, with lots of BH contractions lasting a minute or so, and coming every 3 - 5 mins for a couple of hours. I phoned the out of hours service and had to go in to their emergency clinic for assessment. Luckily all seemed ok, and most importantly my cervix was closed so we were home after a couple of hours. The dr and mw had no explanation for it, but said we had done right to seek advice and come in. My hunch is that I had flooded my system with adrenalin earlier in the day when I had witnessed the aftermath of a car accident and stopped to offer assistance, which in turn caused the BH. I have been ok since.

motor i always had loads of bh, sometimes regular, but not painful. ive forgotten how many weeks you are? glad all is ok, the accident sounds scary. the mw said bh were a sign to take it easier.

mad is your 20 week scan before xmas?

x

Hi keep I'm 26 weeks. It can be so difficult to know when to be concerned/call the midwife etc. Dr Google suggested that you should contact mw or GP if you have more than 4 BH in an hour, and I had had about 8. Both times I have had lots of BH I have been busy/stressed/rushing so I do think they are a sign to take it a bit easier. Hope all is well with you.

dildals thank you for sharing the beautiful picture of you and Georgia. I'm sorry, I cried too. I'm glad you have found the thing that feels right to do, and will know she has her grandmother to look after her. I hope tomorrow brings you all peace. It is lovely that the minister married you so will not be a stranger.

Like everyone else, I'll think of you all tomorrow.

Dildals thank you for sharing the beautiful picture. I echo the others, I feel touched and privileged to have shared this last year with you all and you are absolutely right that this is the forum for you to be able to share all these emotions. We will be thinking of you and your family tomorrow and saying a prayer for Georgia. Lovely that she will be with family as well. She will be well looked after. Loads of love xxxx

Motor I'm glad you are ok. Sounds like you did the right thing to check.

Madness and buzzy. Lovely to hear from you both. I hope you are ok.

Hello to everyone else. I hope you have all had a good day.

More visitors arrived at chez shaz today. They will all go on Friday and then it will be just us.

Shazlett had her first bath today she was so sweet and it went well.

She is finally asleep so time for me to turn in. See you in the wee hours xx

Much lov

Oh FFS. That should read, much love to you Dildals xx

Am I destined to never sleep beyond 3 am or be comfortable in bed again? Lovely opportunity to listen to Grayson Perry's Reith lectures, but I would really rather be asleep. Starting to feel quite low and isolated. I can't seem to be able to connect with even my good friends, as I feel connected only to my unborn baby, and to a lesser extent my DH and mum. I have become very inward looking, which must be boring for others. Anyway, sorry, middle of the night is never a good time to evaluate stuff is it? So glad I have this thread.

motor I had regular ones at I think 32 weeks and called the ward. Also I think bh last longer each one than a contraction. In the end my early contractions were not all that different, and I vaguely wonder if I had been having proper contractions at least that day. Sorry you're having a hard time sleeping. Hoping its just a phase. Have you been out with friends? I was a bit reluctant during pg, but then felt better once I saw them.

shaz kip loves her bath :)

I have been told by the nurse at. clinic yesterday to make a gp appt for kips spots she's just developed, as she's had them over 3 days. Am sure they're normal, but guess I'd better.

This thread used to me quiet overnight except me in Thailand. Now its almost busiest at night! :)

That's because we are either a) heavily preggers and insomniacs or b) feeding babies!

Motor I know what you mean. I feel distanced from my friends now. My 'best' friends are gay or have no children. DP has friends who have kids and obviously they have become my friends but I do feel lonely. Funnily enough I didn't feel that connected to the baby whilst pregnant and that worried me. I also feel incredibly lucky to have made friends with all you lovely ladies. It is a year ago next week that I made my first ever post on the IVF egg buddy thread. Oh goodness how much has changed in a year. I'm rambling now but I find that the thought of going out and seeing friends is more anxiety making than actually going. I usually enjoy myself when I get there. Can yo talk to DH about your feelings? It is important to keep communicating with him. Much love to you.

DP is making me six o'clocksies cause I'm famished and can't hold out til breakkie. Shazlett had a disturbed start to the night but has just slept 3 hours so I've had abit of sleep.

motor all the ttc and stress of pregnancies and subsequent losses made me very inward looking and I lost all interest in socialising. I deliberately lost a lot of acquaintances and kept only a handful of close friends. I have actually found this quite useful as I had a tendency to keep up with people I didn't much like just because I didn't want to offend them! It's only now I feel I might start to be a bit more sociable but it's not that important to me, my relationships with DH and my family have become more of a focus. Maybe it's a natural shift?

shazza keep up the good work! Three hours is great and aw at her first bath. Ringlet is always covered in food these days so I love snuggling her after her bath.

keep I'm sure it will just be baby acne - do they come and go very rapidly? Ringlet still gets the occasional spot. Best to get it checked though.

Must get up, DDs both still asleep though.

Dildals thinking of you on today, thank you for sharing such a special photo with us. As the others have already said so well I am so sorry you and DH are going through this very difficult time. I really hope today and the next few days go as well as they can and it is such a lovely thing for Georgia to be laid with her Grandmother.

Motor I am awake most days from about 3am and only drop back off to sleep when DH goes to work. But I usually have a nap mid afternoon which I am sure will disappear when DTs arrive. I know what you mean about the isolation. I don't want to see my friends and haven't for ages now, I keep putting them off when they want to come around. I am not sure why or if this will change as Onions says it might be a natural progression. My Mum pops around most days but I know some days I would rather she didn't as have very little to say to her. But I know I will really need her support so don't want to burn any bridges at this stage. Fortunately DH and I have remained close and I really look forward to him coming home from work.

Gin I think you have jinxed me, my bump has gone super itchy now. Never had an itch before and now I could scratch the skin off it. How you feeling? Any news?

Onions woo hoo for both DDs still sleeping at 7am. Do you think I need to pack any bibs in my hospital bag? I intend to bottle feed so not sure if this makes a difference.

Shazza lovely photo you shared on FB too, it that the Milk Drunk look Shazlette has? Glad you got a bit a sleep too. What are six oclocksies? I had to get up this morning at 6.15 as I was so hungry, this is only the second time this has happened to me as I just love my bed too much.

I was at my GP MW yesterday for pee testing and BP, all was ok and she listened to DTs heartbeats. No symptoms to report, only 4 more days to go. I hope they hang on in there now as I have got my head in gear for having a section. We have also made progress with names, we I were having a wobble over the girls name. Still having name envy for D&D though.

Yes, thinking of you today dildals.

sweetie so nearly there! Now that I'm a formula feeder I realise there's a whole load of extra baby stuff that should be on the list. Definitely bibs although I tend to wedge a muslin round her neck as they cover more. We have Closer To Nature bottles that have a valve in the teat that milk can also run out of so if she's feeding lazily it gets quite messy.

I think your mum will understand if you've not much to say. I see a lot of my mum and as such we often have no news. Luckily she's too busy doing my ironing for it to matter!

Ringlets napping in her car seat. I'm going to attempt a little bit of sewing - I'm trying to make a couple of tree decorations before we put it up on Saturday!

I was starving by 7 too shaz. Have had two brekkies already.

sweetie I am so freaking excited for you. I think better now if they hang on till Monday, it'll be more relaxed than arguing about getting a cs once you're in labour. We've had almost no vomming. I think it depends in the baby. She does take in a lot more air from her bottle feed though. Do you know how many days you'll be in post cs? Do you now have one name for each, or a shortlist.

Going to drs shortly. Can you believe they have another child Scarlett and our surname registered there?! Tis not that common.

Hugs to dildals and family. Your yoni friends are thinking of you and praying for you. X

A year since we started shaz! I wish we could have told ourselves.

Thanks Onions I will put a couple of bibs in my bag, I already have a couple of muslins. I need to get the bottles out that I have bought, I am not really sure how many I will need but can always get more if needed.

Keep hope it goes well at the Drs.
They have said we will need to stay in for at least 2 days post c-sec. It depends on how I am and of course how DTs are too. We have 2 boys names, one very favourite and a standby and 3 for girls. I am a bit worried our favourite name is becoming popular, our second name suggested by Onions may cause spelling issues even DH is struggling and I am worried our third name might be a bit bland or out of fashion. It is so hard isn't it???

Dr has just given some special moisturiser. Had to bf in both waiting room and the pharmacy.

Now home watching bbt :)