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Pregnant (IVF) Worriers/Warriors Part 4

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Buzzybee123 · 24/10/2013 23:33

Hi everyone,

This thread is for all you incessant worriers out there, not necessarily limited to IVF-ers, although I get the feeling the people who have had trouble TTC are more prone to worrying than others!

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Buzzybee123 · 25/11/2013 13:51

shazza exciting news, and she is beautiful, worth wait

ceara I just like to be organised so want to crack on with the bag.

I'm Grin at the cat stories although might not be when it is my turn Hmm

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ThatWayMadnessLies · 25/11/2013 18:35

Totally hopelessly out of the loop with everyone but have picked an exciting time to return - wooooohoooo!!!! For the arrival of three more beautiful girls. sending hugs and as much rest as possible to both crisps and shazza.

Will try to read back and catch up. Have been away a bit and working hard so not much time on the internet. Has helped time pass though and am 15 weeks today Grin.

BeetleBeetle · 26/11/2013 08:15

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keepitgoing · 26/11/2013 08:34

Oh beetle I am devastated for you and your husband. I'm so sorry you are going through this and I am thinking of you and your gorgeous little boys x

Ginestas · 26/11/2013 09:10

I'm so incredibly sorry beetle for you, Mr B and your boys. Life is just so cruel sometimes. I'm pleased to hear you are remembering the joy they brought you and the time they spent with you, but am just devastated for you. X

Nokkie73 · 26/11/2013 09:22

beetle I am so sorry for your news. I was hoping for a better outcome for you and Mr B and your boys (we all were). It's lovely that you are able to focus on the joy they brought to you - that's a really inspirational way to deal with what has happened. We are all here if you need any support, so please don't deal with this on your own. Xx

ceara · 26/11/2013 11:00

Oh beetle, I am so very very sorry that such a cruel, random and unfair thing has happened to you all. Remembering the happiness and joy of your time with the twins is such a brave and positive thing to do through your grieving. I hope you and Mr B have lots and lots of support around you in real life, and remember that you have it here too whenever you need it.

Dildals · 26/11/2013 11:18

beetle I am so sorry. They only will have known love in their short lives. xxx

OnionRing · 26/11/2013 13:03

Oh beetle, I'm so very, very sorry. I hope you have support too. Do whatever you need to do to get through the first few days. It's utterly heartbreaking and feels so achingly unfair.

Sadly, there are a few of us here who have been through similar losses, we can't change anything of course but we do know how it feels and will help if we can.

SweetieTime · 26/11/2013 13:59

Beetle I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you & MrB are getting the support you need in RL.

MrsHY1 · 26/11/2013 14:59

Beetle I'm so very, very sorry. Am thinking of you. X

putthecrispsDOWN · 26/11/2013 15:45

Beetle I am so so sorry, how devastating. I don't think there are words in existence to make it better but we are all here for you. I hope you and your family are finding strength and perseverence to get through this awful time. Sending so much love to you all. Xxxxx

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Buzzybee123 · 26/11/2013 16:12

beetle I am so so sorry to hear of your loss, thinking of you x

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ThatWayMadnessLies · 26/11/2013 17:49

Oh beetle I am so sorry xx

fairypangolin · 26/11/2013 19:38

beetle like the others I can only say I'm so sorry. What a sad thing to go through, but as you say, they were a blessing. Take care of yourself.

Shazzamattazzerly · 27/11/2013 05:53

Beetle I'm truly sorry about your devastating news. That is so cruel and beyond words. Loads of love to you and mrB at this difficult time. I hope you receive the support you need and are home soon to be with your family and friends.

Caip · 27/11/2013 07:24

beetle I'm so sorry to read your news, I don't know what else to say. Look after each other and stay strong xxx

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MotorcycleMama · 27/11/2013 17:27

beetle further to my PM earlier, I just want to say I'm glad the medics could give you some answers, and that all looked good on your scan. So sorry you are going through this. Best of luck for whatever you decide to do next. X

MotorcycleMama · 27/11/2013 17:39

I just had my 24 week mw appt. The mw turned out to be someone I did my nurse training with in the early '90s, which made it all slightly weird. Anyway, she confirmed that I will not be permitted into the midwife led birthing unit when the time comes due to my age and it being my first baby and IVF (I never understand the IVF risk factor). This is a shame as it is a recently updated unit with a birthing pool in each room and looks great. It will be the delivery suite for me (with one pool available for up to 8 women). Oh well, getting the baby out safely is obviously the most important thing.

Otherwise I am okay, though experiencing very uncomfortable breathlessness at times (not on exertion as such) and intermittent pressure in my neck and head which is quite unpleasant. They will test for anaemia in 3 weeks. Baby seems quite lively, bump is 24 cm which is just right, so all good I think.

Shazzamattazzerly · 27/11/2013 18:35

Dearest Beetle I'm glad you got some answers and can find some comfort by them in what is an immensely sad time for you. I wish you and mrB the best for the future.

Motor from someone who ended up so far off the birth plan it was laughable, I would advise going in with an open mind and lots of techniques to remain calm. I continued with my Hypno breathing even whilst laying on the operating table staring up at the lights and having all the people running around me. I tuned it all out and thought of keeping calm to give shazlett as calm a birth as possible given the circumstances.

MotorcycleMama · 27/11/2013 19:12

Thanks shazza. A good friend recently put my mind at ease about induction and delivery suite births, and said similar to you, that the most important task is to stay calm and go with the flow. She had two positive births this way. How is your beautiful baby girl? And how are you?

OnionRing · 27/11/2013 22:44

beetle glad you have an explanation. You have been very unlucky but there is reassurance to be taken from the fact that it isn't likely to happen again.

motor, good scan news. I had breathlessness and also whenever I had Braxton Hicks which was odd. Yes, why is IVF a risk factor? Be interesting to know.

shazza lovely to see you! Massive congratulations! I know you'll be absolutely over the moon with your little girl. I'm sorry things didn't go to plan but she's out now and safe and that's the important thing. I'd love to hear what happened though as it sounds like you had an epic labour all in. I'm really glad the hypnobirthing helped even in extremis. Hopefully those techniques will see you through the general anxieties of motherhood.

I'm doing controlled crying again and right through the night this time. She's on her first wakening and is currently very angry with me. I can't remember whether I said but I've stopped breastfeeding too and she's gradually accepting a bottle - I feel very relieved to have stopped. My main worry with the cc was her wakening DD1 so I have DD1 in the spare room at the front of the house with DH in with her for reassurance. I'm keeping a record of her crying to plot any improvement and on the record I put how much sleep I get. So that's two hours tonight already, compared to two hours during the entire night last night. God, it's hard work though!

Dildals · 28/11/2013 12:45

Hi onion, I was wondering how you were getting on. Hang in there, it must be extremely tough but it must be done!!! Xxx

OnionRing · 28/11/2013 13:16

Phew. Well we had a few tussles but she slept from 2 until 6.15. I was pretty stressed, especially as DH wasn't there for moral support (although he was texting me encouragement from the safety of the spare room!) She's morose today, I think she hates me!

Also am I the only person in the world who follows NHS guidelines on bottle feeding? I felt I was being laughed at a bit this morning at a baby group as I said I made bottles up from a flask of boiling water in the night and then cooled them down with water. What do experienced bottle feeders here do? I was going to take the flask out with me too, is that ludicrous?

How's Bella's eating and sleeping, dildals? (I know she'll put Ringlet to shame!)