PG after MC: Posifrickentivity, Batshit Crazy and a Rash of New Babies...

[SaggyIsHavingAPinkKitten]

Here we go ladies...

I really sympathise with everyone waiting for that 12 week scan - I think that is almost the hardest bit for all of us on here. Just wanted to send out some reassurance to everyone stuck in the first trimester, we've all been there and we're still here!

Thanks so much for all your advice on my fainting moment on Sat - I think I really ought to have eaten more for breakfast feels stupid

Although can't say I feel much better now - I really thought at 16weeks that all the grottiness would go away but it seems to have gotten worse. Has anyone else experienced this? I'm so sorry to moan but I'm feeling damn miserable and poor DH is tired of hearing about it. I'm getting hungry now feel so full from the bloating I don't want to eat, also eating anything seems to make me feel so ill it is a real struggle not to vomit for a good few hours. My stomach is so bloated and I'm in constant pain from my digestive system - I've tried changing my diet, started forcing myself through 20min of (gentle) exercise each day and am drinking loads of water but it's just not helping.

The worst thing is I feel guilty about moaning because Of course I want this so desperately but almost four solid months of it has worn me out! The fainting business on Sat was almost the last straw. I'm sure I'll feel better after MW appt on Friday if when I hear a heart beat. 20 week scan seems so long away, some reassurance it's all still going to plan would be hugely helpful!

Sorry for the extensive moan (thanks for putting up with it). Saggy hugely sympathise with your heartburn that is the one pg symptom I have avoided so far! Also sending sympathy to Kat and Me... We'll all have forgotten about this when we have our bubbas in hand I'm sure!!!

kjh - I was the same. With DC1 I felt fine in the second trimester, but this time I've felt rotten throughout. My energy levels are zero - if I do more than one thing in a day I can't do anything else. The background nausea has never really gone away, and I've been in pain since 10 weeks with (variously) my back, my ribs, my hips, my SPD, my fucking heamarroids haemorrids hemoroids piles and my recurring heart palpitations/breathlessness.

I feel horrifically guilty for complaining, as I've not had any one thing too badly (no hyperemisis, no crippling SPD, no fainting) but I've been operating at 75% for seven months and I'm sick of it! Both DH and I always wanted 3 or 4 kids, but I really don't think I could go through the stress of TTC/stay preganant or the actual pregnancy again.

So don't feel too guilty and know that you're not alone. Pregnancy is blooming hard work and all the media crap about about "blooming" is just bollocks.

I'm another one who is still crippled by jealousy over women who seemingly can produce on demand. Because I always wanted a 18mth - 2 year age gap, I think I will forever be a bit of friends who get that gap. SO I try to remember that each and every person out there is walking around with a huge amount of personal baggage, and we might just see the perfect newborn/2 year old/ 4 year old combo, the lovely house and the immaculate figure, but for all we know, her DH is wanker, the house is about to be repossessed and she's got the figure due to anorexia.

What I have learnt since the MCs is the pregnancy announcements on FB suck, so I haven't mentioned it at all. I have a formerly very close family member who has had multiple mcs and fertility issues. Its desparately sad because I miss her so much, but I've had to take a big step back from her life and leave how close she wants to be up to her, because if positions were reversed, I'm not sure I could deal with me. But I miss her and wish more than anything that she'll get some happy news soon. Ironically, i remember thinking when I had my second MC that at least I'd be closer to her for a bit so there was a silver lining .

Thanks santa helpful to know I am not the only one going through this!

I have one other friend who is also pg at the moment, she is exactly four weeks behind me - it is her second (she also had an MC while ttc) and she is very 'earth mother' about the whole experience. It's good to talk to her because she does pull me out of my pity party (clearly at its worst when I am sat at work nearing midnight on a Sunday feeling dreadfully sorry for myself) but its very clear we are having two very different experiences! And we deal with things in different ways. I admire her, she has a DD to look after and she soldiers on magnificently.

Most of the time I can grin and bear it but sometimes it all becomes a bit much. Anyway, I have just signed myself up for some pre-natal pilates and ordered another exercise DVD.

I think I might invest is some more maternity clothes I can't afford as the four items I am able to wear out of my wardrobe are getting a bit tired! I feel certain some retail therapy will cheer me up! Hoping everyone who has scans this week is doing ok and that we might get some more thread babies!! That is always so exciting :)

saggy DS is 19m so being delivered by him would be a story to tell ha ha Sorry abt the heartburn, it sucks

Thanks for then update on thunder tins I had been thinking abt her too.

I feel so guilty abt moaning tookjh but we have so much to contend with when pregnant I think id have to be a saint not to moan tbh

I think we have to stop at 2 as well santa and we had hoped for three, but I have been so ill this pregnancy I just don't think it would be fair on DS and this baby to do it again And if it makes you feel any better since the baby has dropped my piles are horrendous, so embarrassed abt being in labour with them

Totally TMI but had diarrhoea all afternoon, they say that's a sign of labour right....come on baby!!

I'm another 2nd trimester-ite experiencing no blooming whatsoever this time. I was positively bouncing at this stage first time round until I fell down a rabbit hole and buggered my pelvis and hips that is 23 weeks now and I'm slow, heavy and uncomfortable already. Like others I am thinking we will definitely have no more babies if all is well with this one though so I'm really trying to appreciate my bump and feeling kicks, makes me sad that I won't feel those again after this. Funnily enough although I was never keen on having 3 kids I always had a feeling we might end up with 3 and that feeling has now gone away- I wonder if our mmc baby was our third that I had a feeling about.

In very exciting news I provisionally booked in my finishing date for work today! mid Jan, I will be 34wks. I blooming well can't wait

Oh shell that sounds promising! I think you are definitely in for an early one :)
Dispite an exciting half hour of period like pains yesterday morning, I've had no signs what so ever. Spend most of today walking as well, and nothing. Not even a plug. Most disappointing!! :)

ibip snap - woke up with period pains at 5am that came and went till about 7am then... nothing, and I have walked a million miles today! First proper day of maternity leave and I wanted to get lots of stuff done, at one point I was properly waddling

Hope you are progressing better than me shell :)

and my sympathies to the non-bloomers! But you know, all of you who planned more, you will all forget all about this time and have another one or two don't you?!

Bump - I'm not even feeling a waddle yet! Don't get me wrong, I'm big, but I don't have the bowling ball between the legs feeling that everyone talks about, so I guess she hasn't dropped? Does this definitely happen?

While I was pregnant with dd1 I said no more! Without I was pregnant with dd2 I said no more! This time I'm also saying no more. Ou forget pregnancy and labour over time. It fades and you start seeing newborns and smelling them and walking into supermarkets and not being able to look at newborn clothes anymore because your kids have grown out of that size range and suddenly your in the 'big girl' section (when did that happen!?) and your boobs start hurting and your uterus starts aching and before you know it you are once again pregnant!

But this is it for me. I mean really it, I am not doing it again. I am sticking with 3 and that's my lot...actually I always wanted 5 (don't ask!) but have always planned on adopting so I really do think this is it for me.

Pink I never felt that, I pretended to feel the bowling ball between the legs because everyone told me I felt it, but I never actually felt it. Dd1 dropped around 30 weeks and dd2 stayed high until I started pushing. shrug I think it's different for different people

Hi ladies, the thread moves so fast I'm pants at properly name checking everyone! Soz!

For the ladies on maternity I hope you manage to get all your stuff done but also find time to chillax!

Had my cervical length scan today and so far so good it all seems ok, they've said they'll scan me every 2 wks which is pretty amazing too

Ooh Polka a scan every 2 weeks! For free!!!

Shell surely the squits are it now, I reckon you are on your way to hospital as I write - how's that for posifrickintivity?!

I too would like more but realistically we are in a 2 bed cottage and I'm 38 (apparently), I think I'd have to get accidentally up duff with immediate effect!

Hi all, hope everyone's well. I've had really duff internet for a few days, so I kept writing mails, then the ruddy thing would hang and I'd give up, so in the end I stopped trying to post.

All well at this end, although feverishly trying to generate some level of doctoral level brain whilst feeling the baby fog descending. Got a presentation at conference next week on my thesis and am quite sure it's going to be one of those crawl-under-your-seat moments of forgetting my own name. Can't remember any research, can't remember what I said I'd do...ulp!

I know garden it's great but I do have to suffer dildocam tho!

Awe Polka dildo cam is all for a good cause though and after the next one you probably won't care

.... Nowt from Shell deffo in labour any updates???!

Eeek hope shell is in labour, that does all sound pretty encouraging!

tea tremendous respect to you for doing your thesis whilst pregnant, DH doing his at the moment and the amount of brain space it takes up is immense. Can't wait until he finishes it, its been a long 4 years, not entirely sure his decision to start a PhD at the same time as we were starting a family was the most inspired

Not in labour not well really, lots of diarrhoea which has aggravated that problem we were talking about santa so feeling very sorry for myself I can't take much more this pregnancy, it's been one bloody thing after another...surely I deserve a sneeze birth, right

Sounding good for pink and bump one of us has to have a baby soon!

Glad all looks good polka

ah sorry to hear that shell hope you get a good nights sleep and feel better tomorrow

Oh crap shell but I'm still holding out for it being the big pre labour clear out, you could do with a bit of luck x

Shell sounds like you're having a pre labour clear out! I say a baby by Wednesday.

Oh shell there's light at the end of the tunnel. Im so sorry you're so uncomfortable, it'll be a distant memory when the little one arrives. I'm thinking no later than Wednesday lunchtime xx

Gahhhh! 12 week scan is in 3 hours and I'm going crazy!

Good luck miss!

Crazy dreams last night, I dreamt I'd given birth but couldn't remember anything about it, then the baby turned into a bit of cake (lemon drizzle) which crumbled when I tried to bf it and I couldn't turn it back into a baby. Loopy!

Good luck miss!! Will be thinking if you xx

Pixie what a crazy dream! Now I want lemon drizzle cake...for breakfast!