PG after MC? Posifrickitivity and handholding aplenty

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Hello again - another shiny new thread for the batsh*t crazy women going through the stress and emotional rollercoaster that is being pregnant after a miscarriage.

Fingers crossed for lots of happy scans and boring pregnancies.

I'm a big fan of the early scan, I find that the earlier you know about the miscarriage the better. A mc just gets worse the later it happens and neither of mine happened right away. My first was a blighted ovum where I had no indication whatsoever than anything was wrong and wouldn't have known for quite a long time had it not been for the scan and with the second, I did start spotting but the spotting went on for 3 weeks before I finally miscarried. I found it easier knowing that the baby was dead and waiting for the mc to happen (I opted for a natural mc with the second one) than thinking the baby had died 2 weeks before I had a clue and I had spent that time talking and bonding and fantasizing about my dead baby.

Also, I absolutely agree with the person who said that although this was the second DC you felt you had 4 babies. I went through the same thing at my last appointment where the receptionist asked how many times I had been pregnant and how many children I had and I had to say 0 but in my heart I feel like I have 3 babies.

Got my bloods back today, aaaaaaand ..... 1 in 50,000 for Down's Syndrome. I'm really, really not complaining, but it does seem a bit queer. I think I read somewhere that there's something in the DS blood test that there isn't ever a 'correct' level for: if it's too high there may be DS, if it's too low there might be (I think it was) something like spina bifida.

Am I talking mince, or has anyone else read that somewhere? I'm not actually sure even what they measured when they took my bloods, so I can't really look it up. Not monumentally concerned, just seemed a bit high?

Ignore that post. It was AFP I was thinking about, which is in the bloods tested after 14 weeks if you're getting tested then. The 11-14 week tests only look at PAPP-A and free B-HCG according to the world of google.

Bakingtins - thanks so much for that recommendation. I am going to buy it asap! I feel like such a failure after not having managed to bf my sons. I will make more effort this time.

great scan news rock :) hope you can look forwards after your sad anniversary passes, they're always going to be tough and totally normal to feel sad. i cried a lot a couple of weeks ago when i had a sad anniversary, i found the best way to come through it was to let it all out and tell people why you were sad if they asked.

i am having crazy feelings in my tummy today. like seriously, i think this baby is just about to burst through my skin and say hi... or is it possible that a second one has grown overnight in there....or grown an extra couple of feet long? have any of you later on ladies had a sudden growth spurt? tell me i'm not about to go into early labour.... i still have just over 5 weeks to go and i don't have a moses basket yet and have a spa away night booked in 2 weeks with my best friend aaaggghhhh

Hi all! Haven't had much time to check in lately and I'm falling so far behind in this thread!! I've tried to catch up but there's so much! Daily commitment to at least log in and read from now on!

Saggy- I'm sure you've updated but did you have the rest of your tests? Babies heart etc?
How is everyone else doing?

I had midwife today, am 25 weeks and am measuring 28 I asked wha I was meant to do if baby kept measuring big and she just said 'don't panic' to whoever it was who mentioned pains, is it like right in your groin, underneath but to either side of bump? I have to walk a mile in less than 20 min twice a day, which I can l fine but it kicks off terrible pains under my bump lately.
A girl in work just lst a baby, she told everyone at 11weeks as she was tired of trying to hide th little podge bump, and lost the baby the day before her 12week scan. So heartbroken for her, and feel so guilty walking around with my stupid big bump. She's not back at work yet but just hope I don't make her feel worse. She's one of the few people at irk that knows about my MC so I'm hoping the fact that she knows I go pregnant again pretty quick will be like a hopeful thing rather than a slap in the face.

Hi and congrats to any newbies who ve joined while iv been gone!

Sorry, on,y popped in to sat hi nd I've written an essay!!!!

Hi all.
Janie- I'm really not feeling to great today. My stomach doing weird things. Also just not feeling right!
Christine- have you had a diabeties test? Ate the offering you a further scan?
Baking tins- have just ordered that book :) thanks for the tip

Great scan news tea :) ate you on team pInk?
Hello everyone else

rock forgot to say yay for a good scan for you

christine I'm sure your measurements will settle down. All the way through they told me DD was massive, then she arrived... 6lb 3oz. Er massive?! I'm sure you'll be an encouragement to your colleague, I was so relieved and grateful to my friends who had had mcs for their knowledgeable support after I'd had one.

Great news Tea.
Christine Everything done for now. The full CVS results came in with no further problems.
I have a consultant appointment next week to discuss my 'options for delivery'. Not looking forward to it. It was made back at booking in because of my weight, and I'm planning on being difficult! Ive had 2 normal births with large babies, and you could drive a truck out of my fanjo nowadays!
I'm not accepting anything until I've spoken to the cardiologist. Apparently the baby is fully supported by me through the cord until its cut, so if he doesn't think continuous monitoring is needed, then the 'fat bird' consultant can sod right off. They can also sod off with an early epidural and a canula in my hand 'just in case'.
Im not prepared to commit to any decisions based purely on my weight until Ive spoken to everyone.

rant over!

drive a truck out my fanjo!?

Now saggy I'm sure that's not true!

It's true.

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I'm sure if you say those exact words to the consultant you'll have no problem getting the birth you want

anglo when I had my MMC I only found out at the 12 week scan but I too felt much much better.... Having said that this time I had my scan (the official one) at 13 weeks and also felt symptomless but baby was fine! So Pleass try not to worry

Saggy I love that saying!!! I'm also a fan of throwing a Sausage up a alleyway

Ha Ha Saggy . Stick to your guns, they can be far too quick to go down the medical intervention route nowadays. What happens when parents have not had the tests and have a baby with DS through natural birth? The same as every other natural birth!!!

Although i am a bit bitter about the intervention bit...after the palarva my mass hysteria of DP not making the appt to view the birthing centre they rang me yesterday and said 'we are very sorry but we looked at your notes from DD's birth and because you had a manual removal of retained placenta in theatre with anaesthetic you can not birth here in case it happens again and you haemorrhage!'

Thanks for that! So if I do actually get to the birthing part now all I'll be thinking about is haemorrhaging and retained placenta (which I'd managed to put aside having made the decision to use the birthing centre). Something to look forward to. So much for the 'just because it's happened before it doesn't mean it will happen again line'. Grrrr.

But on a positive; hello everyone, today we are pregnant

Morning Garden. Annoying if you were set on birthing centre. But this birth really needn't be the same as your last. My friends have had very different experiences with each birth. I had a ventouse delivery and haemorrhaging after and am convinced I'd have delivered fine in a different setting. DH and I got excited looking at online video of birthing centre (we've moved since having DS) as last experience was so crap. On balance though I figure I'd rather be in a hospital just in case.

But I plan on being a lot more assertive this time and having a think about how I can feel more in control if that works for you too.

cbeebies forgot to say, love the blog and well done for posting after terrible midwife experience.

Rock and Guff congrats on 20 wks. Hope you get through next couple of days ok Rock.

If garden I'm so sorry they've said that :( what a pity. Does your hospital have any sort if 'home from home' unit with birthing pools or anything like that? I'm pretty lucky that mine has a whole floor of birthing pool rooms with the 'normal' delivery ward upstairs in case we needed to be moved. What a pisser :(

I bought the raspberry leaf capsules from holland and Barrett yesterday...totally forgot that I maybe should have started them sooner. So at nearly 35wks I have no idea how many to take (they're 400mg each). There's such conflicting advise online and I remember someone gave an awesome breakdown a few threads ago, but can I find it? Nope :(

Janie - it was shell who gave the fab breakdown, but I happened to save it to my phone - here you go....

Raspberry leaf capsules dosage is, every day from:

32 weeks one with lunch, one with tea

34 weeks one with lunch, two with tea

36 weeks two with lunch, two with tea

38 weeks one with brekky, two with lunch, two with tea

39 weeks two with brekky, two with lunch, two with tea

I also haven't been taking it. Ever since we had the appointment where she is breach, and big, I have completely lost focus on the whole birth thing. I am so convinced that I will end up with a c section now, I'm just not thinking about the natural route at all as I will be disappointed when it doesn't happen. Going to be a shock if she does suddenly turn!

That's annoying, Garden but you are at three times the background risk (which is about 5%) of it happening again. I had the same thing after birth of DS2, was in MLU but luckily it is attached to the delivery suite of the hospital and had about 20 people in the room within seconds of them pulling the emergency cord. I would not even consider being at a MLU distant from a hospital having had that experience. I'm sure you can still have the birth you want if you are prepared to be assertive about what monitoring you accept etc.
I've put it in a box marked "think about if I ever get beyond 10 weeks" to try and avoid it happening again. This site is really helpful.

Ah pink you are wonderful!!! Thanks for saving it and sharing :) xx

Pink that's an amazing beeakdown, I've been looking for something like that for years! Saving it now

Hi ladies.

Just wondered if anyone could point me in the direction of a travel insurer who will cover pg when you've previously mc and are receiving treatment in pg? I've organised a surprise trip for DH and I to Prague in November and wanted to get everything sorted.