Hovering in the berrycopter: nervous elderberries, sickness reports and backwards scan photos!

[Boomgoestheweasel]

Open to all elderberry grads and anyone who fits the berry criteria: over 30, first trimester(ish) with #1 after trying for a long time, and nervous as hell. Come on in for handholding and nub theory!

Mine is just lard. Keep poking my midriff hopefully in the search for a nice firm bump, but finger just keeps disappearing into squishy rolls! Thought with two on board I might be showing by now, but no, just podgy. Mr Boom helpfully tells me to stop eating so much cake...

The podge is everything internally that normally sits lower being pushed upwards by your uterus

I know... But it looks and feels like podge! I can live with it, just annoying to be at the stage where I look fat and nobody knows I'm diffed so just assume I've been at the pies which I have Am considering a proper pair of mat jeans instead of the stretchy ones I'm currently rocking, but feel like a fake buying them when I haven't got a 'bump'! Think these ones will last me to a week on weds, I'll go and buy a new pair when we've had the nuchal and everything's ok hopefully

Boom I went to Portugal on this podge state and it was really annoying! I bought two t shirts that had baby things in it to give ppl a hint! And I don't think i looked proper pg until about 25 weeks! But then I have a fat ass anyway so that made it even harder

Morning all!

merk I had no idea what that blubber was before- couldn't figure it out as my 'bump' is still not where the bean is. I couldn't do my work trousers up this morning. Oh dearrr!

How's everyone else? V quiet in here innit....

Congrats on getting this far kat. I thought second trimester starts at 13+6 so you might need to give it a day or three and suddenly all will be rosy!!

Having said that a lot of people said they didn't start feeling better til around 20 weeks (if at all). I'm 16+4 and still feeling pretty terrible....

Still feeling positive though! Sorry girls.

Kat poor you, and welcome to the club. My hair has gone the opposite way (dry, brittle, falling out) but my skin has also erupted. However not with normal spots, with gigantic lumps that don't come to a head. GRRRR

The time seems to be going faster for all of us now... I am 4 months tomorrow!!!

Thunder... are you actually going to admit you're pregnant now your clothes won't fit?

Oh and the obligatory moan - my boss is being a complete cock today. I am counting the days until Xmas (55) and potentially going on to v early maternity leave!!!

Urrrgh time is not going fast! 11+6 here, I'm sure Thunder was never 5 weeks ahead of me at the beginning! Still, 12 weeks tomorrow, that's something. Still another week and a bit until the flipping dating scan though!

Kat, merk, you're not giving me confidence in the bloom I'm going to be experiencing in a fortnight, where I magically transform from looking like Waynetta Slobb to being Angelina Jolie in that green dress...

Found myself committing the cardinal sin and looking at buggies this morning...so have decided that I'm ready to go and join the Big Berries. But am keeping one foot firmly in the copter for now!

boom I'm sure you said the same thing a few weeks ago. Turns out I seem to be the same amount of time ahead of you as I was then.....?!

I annoyed/confused myself by thinking that 16 weeks was four months and then realised why we work in weeks rather than months. Because 18 weeks sounds like 4.5 months which sounds like half way when actually it's 2 weeks short.

As for bloom, I definitely have been feeling loads worse since hitting 14 ish weeks.

Ps no, still in denial regardless of trousers! Blaming it on tumble drying them....

Haha thunder I did say the exact same thing, when you hit 13 weeks I think! I think it's because I was convinced I was a month behind you, but really it's 5 weeks, and then the scan changed my dates. Either that or you have a time machine and you're not sharing...

Snarf at trousers being too tight because you tumbledried them

Snarf- how apt!

I did get days added when I had my scan- but I thought you did too? Original edd was 26th March and now it's 20th so that probably accounts for that extra week!

Got my 16 week appt this afternoon- will I get Doppled?

Seems to depend on your midwife. I want doppling at mine on fri

You'll get doppled if you ask them to Thunder. Guidelines now say we shouldn't offer it this early (although oldschool midwives still do) except at maternal request. Never met a mum who's not requested it so far!

Ps the verb 'to dopple' is going into my vocabulary as of now..

Oo good tips boom and I won't mention I have Doppled myself at home, although not recently

I was using 'dopplered' but I like Doppled now. Hmmm doppler as a boy's name....

Actually, it is a name, comes from Christian Doppler who first identified the Doppler effect back in 18something. I don't know why I know that, and I shall berate myself soundly for geekery forthwith.

Ha! Of course it is. Fool.

We learnt about it at uni when talking about sound waves and the Doppler effect that happens when an ambulance goes past with sirens on for example.

Not sure if I've just demonstrated geekery or idiocy.

Oh yeah idiocy.

I think we can be fairly safe in the knowledge that we're both just a touch geeky. Lucky children of ours! Interesting fact: my childhood nursery didn't have the alphabet up on the wall like normal nurseries, oh no. It had the periodic table.

My parents were nuts.

Hi everyone. after a good weekend im feeling crap today. not feeling very pregnant at all. although boobs still hurting a bit thats it... im sure it's just the symptoms fluctuating but its so hard being positive.

not even 6 weeks yet so its so long until any kind of confirmation. I think im going mad. v unhappy puppy

Aw puppy. I think we've all felt like this at some point. If it makes you feel better I've never felt very pregnant, and I'm double-diffed! Something like 25% of women just don't have sickness or obvious symptoms of early pregnancy, and still have healthy babies at the end of it. Have you seen the midwife yet? You know if you tell her you're not sure of your dates you can get an early dating scan which is very naughty and I'm certainly not recommending that you do any such thing even though that's what I did, might help if you had something coming up at 8 or 9 weeks?

puppy the early weeks go sooo slowly, I remember them clearly. And it's doubly tough due to nobody knowing and not being able to talk about it. Poor you. It does get a tiny bit better I promise

Sorry you're feeling crap puppy, it's definitely very normal to feel like this though. Can you afford an early scan? If so, just book one - you'll feel better for taking action and you will feel better after it's done too.

My appointment went well, all seems fine and I was Doppled before I had the chance to ask the question. Apparently there's a very kicky wiggly baby in there with a nice loud heartbeat once she could find it.