Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

We need a new thread.

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

I used to include extracts from MOH's wonderful website
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
but I think that makes this link less visible so am merely putting the link. The information on this site is invaluable.

I would like to thank MOH MOP Ovaltine Caramellokoalalover (I think she's changed her nickname) Fluffy, Horsey Kali and Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

bank lovely to war HG hasn't put you off. This is my 3rd pregnancy but second baby as mc last year at 9 week. Very very sick with dd but never ended up in hospital an was over it in about 4 weeks. Last pg I had one admission at 7+4. Unknown to me I thought I was getting better at 10 weeks to realise I miscarried at 9. So feeling better due to hormone levels dropping.

So no, weirdly as of yet it hasn't put me off. Would love 3dc altogether but after 4 admissions during this pregnancy the thought is quite daunting!

Room Congrats on reaching the 24 week mark! Very exciting Fingers and toes crossed you will get some relief soon. Thanks for letting me know about the new guidelines too.

I've probably already told you think bank, but I've had 3 mc, all at 9 weeks and all with HG admissions. They scared me off it for a while (particularly the first time) but I'm firmly of the opinion that if I'm ready for it to actually happen, (not just ready to believe it might happen) it's not worth not trying again. I know I will seriously regret making a negative decision and always be re-thinking it. I'm very scared but I'm ready.

told you *this, not think...

Choccie I've had that too, so glad you asked the question, I was thinking to myself the other day surely vomit is enough!

Hayle sounds like Cyclizine is not for us and we're in the same boat here, have you had any hint that they may change yours but I know my doc is reluctant to, the way they talk is like they will do something if I come back and a week later there I am "remember me!"

Bank I'm on my second, first I realise I now had HG, I was sick for 26 weeks and lost a stone and a half but actually never considered HG as silly me just listened to GP who said it would clear up so I was never admitted. This time it's 100 per cent worse and such a shame as I wanted to go for 3 but as I feel right now this will be the last! Never say never but it doesn't seem like an option right now! Am I going to forget tho that's the question.

Waves and flo - you are both amazing. When I'm having a really bad day I try to think of you guys (sorry!) you are suffering so much and being so brave, as are all of you on this thread.

Lets hope we all kick HG's butt soon xx

Choccie, yes I've had that, though on and off. I've wondered if it's due to the rather odd diet I'm on as a result of HG. Especially the days when I can only take in milk, that's got to mess you up.

Bank I'm on my 4th, the first one I had quite bad HG but didn't realise how bad so didn't get treated properly for ages. Lasted badly until about 20 weeks and then just nausea and the odd vomit (whilst on meds) until the end. Then I had 2 early mc with what must have been early HG, I tend to get sick pretty quickly, before I know for sure I'm pregnant.

It took about 2 years after the 1st pregnancy to come round to the idea of going through it again - not just the HG but severe SPD (which I was genetically likely to get due to having hypermobility, but is also more likely after HG because the lying on sofa and consuming your own muscles for energy weaken the muscles needed to hold everything together). I was concerned about being ill, being disabled, coping with a young child (in nursery which has made it bearable) and the fact that from the moment I'm pregnant I can't do my job to the full extent. Now I'm pregnant with HG and with SPD definitely creeping up on me, although this time I was told it was imperative to continue physio throughout, so except the very worse times me and my vomit bag have been doing physio. So far this has certainly helped stop the SPD from developing so quickly.

The 2 pregnancies I had before DD - I was nauseous, and threw up a couple of times, but the sickness wasn't nearly so bad. But then neither got beyond 10 weeks development (mmc though so was actually "in there" for longer)

With DD by 6 weeks I was having to pull over twice on my 30min commute to work to throw up, and by 5pm I was flat on the sofa with a bucket to retch into. It lasted until 18 weeks, then SPD kicked in at 19 weeks :(

I am also feeling SPD twinges already now at 8 weeks... :(

I don't think I could go through this again - always wanted 3 or 4... but maybe it's not meant to be

Sorry to hear all the news about spd. I've never had it but I can imagine the pain and discomfort. Who said pregnancy was glamorous!

Back to square 1 for be today. Not been sick since last Thursday when I got admitted but just threw up my breakfast. I will not let it take over this time... I'm determined to get on top of it myself and not get re admitted. I can do this!!

Hi all, was directed to this thread by a poster on a thread I started this morning about my sickness.

I am 7 weeks into my second pregnancy (My son is nearly 11!) and the sickness started on Monday. I was sick all the way through with my son, still being sick as I was being wheeled into theatre for my CS. I am not hopeful for this time, I feel the same as I did at the start with him.

DH not understanding at all (my other thread is 'So,so sick', don't want to repeat myself.

Oh, and I had SPD too - already I cant put my legs together at the top - is that normal this early or is that a sign of SPD rearing it head again?

Hotcross Welcome to the thread nobody wants to need,poor you. I 've read your earlier post and I am horrified - I was treated barbarically and not given any treatment too until I was helped by an Acupunturist and I know just how you must have felt. I am so sorry everyone was so ignorant. I so admire anyone who goes for it again. Do go to GP's (have you got a different dr now, I do hope so) and ask for meds. If OH isn't sympathetic, can you get someone else, a friend, relative, to come and argue your corner? There's lots of information about meds and how to convince GP's on MOHos lovely website Have you got kestosticks to test for dehydration? sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/treatments/obtaining-treatment-1
If you are treated with contempt again, or cant get anyone to help you fihgt our corner (you can tell I'm an ex sportsfighter, lol!) then www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/ should have someone on who will act as advocate for you. Meanwhile, lots of hugs and sympathy from me, if wanted, and have you, very important, got kesosticks from a chemists to check on dehydration levels as if they go past 3+ you need IV fluids.
Nobody will advise ginger on here, or psychiatry,either...
Oh dear, Everyone I am sorry lots of people feeling very bad. Hugs over mc's.
Medals 'The Grand Order of Hyperemesis Survivors' to all going for it a second, third or fourth time!
Lucinda
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Thanks for the welcome (even though I wish I wasn't here!). I didn't have internet at home when I was pg with ds in the dark ages, so hopefully I will feel better now I can at least have online support.

Hi All. Just to add for Bank that this is my sixth pregnancy (2 MCs). I had mild HG with DD1 and DD2 (on stemetil but not admitted and keeping food/drink down intermittently). With DS I was expecting HG but was only sick about half a dozen times. I hoped that this pregnancy would be similar but it's definitely my worst so far (admitted, on ondansetron or everything comes back up and steadily getting worse despite being 24 weeks now). Would I do it again? Probably not. I'm tempted to be sterilised after this one. DH is tempted by number 5! There are other ways to grow a family that don't involve me being pregnant.

Welcome hotcross and a wave to everyone else. I'm at hospital as usual, should be done by 2 today. It's really not so much of a life but beats getting so completely dehydrated.

I'm on pg 3, and DD is 7 and a half. I had HG with her as well as SPD which has been flaring up recently. Planning to speak to my consultant about that when I see her today.

I'm so tired still, physically the vomiting is draining and I guess having low calories exacerbates it. Ah well, I'm 21 weeks now so over half way there.

Thanks princess :) I'm working from bed today!!

My husband has been much more sympathetic this time. I think it's because I've somehow thrown up in front of him a lot more than last time - including whole dinners while he's eating his - when it used to happen during the day. Also crying and telling him how depressed I feel a couple of times seems to have helped. And thanking him a lot for looking after me seems to have helped. Also DH has had norovirus before this pregnancy which seems to have made him more sympathetic.

Ditto Flo, well working from the sofa under a duvet!

I've not yet made it downstairs. This was a long and hard week, I'm signing out of work soon. Had enough. Need to go get a repeat prescritpion and shake a leg before I just fall asleep and never move again!

Just stopping by to say am so impressed with all you brave people. I had HG many years ago, and although have dealt with much since then, including cancer, the HG remains the worst thing I've endured. Good luck to you all

Oh dear, Everyone doesn't sound good, Flo stay in bed, you need it. Room sorry things are still bad, seem to have got a lot worse again, as unfortunately with Reebok and wavesandsmiles I am longing for things to lift just slightly for you, Lotta Oh dear again, I had to laugh at your description throwing up whole dinners when he is eating his - did he continue eating his after that, I hope not? Obviously, one has to rub it in to get the message home...
Lucinda
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Summerinsilicia Cross posted, thanks for lovely encouraging message!
Lucinda
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hello everyone

I have been much better today (and of course worried that this means disaster..) I am trying to think positively though. I have been out to see DD's end of term little concert and it was great to see actual people. Though they all asked where I had been as none of them had seen me for weeks.

Hope you have a good swim tomorrow Waves!

Hotcross, I really feel for you. I read your other thread. How terrifying to be so ignored in your last pregnancy I find it hard to believe how awfully people can be treated. I am sure that this will not be the case this time around.

I wish bloody dh would understand more.

He's on his way home from work and wants to go out to dinner :( I have agreed as he was getting arsey about not being able to do anything. I have spent the afternoon dry retching, I just want to lay in bed and die.

He'll have a drink with dinner, come home, drink more, fall asleep and will be no good to anyone. At least ds is at his dads house this weekend so i don't actually have to do anything.

First midwife appointment tomorrow, I have an independent one (couldn't put myself through what I had the last time, am hoping if I pay for a midwife they will help me) so she's coming to the house. Hopefully she can make him understand.

If you feel too ill to go for dinner then perhaps you shouldn't go? What would your DH say? Has he never had a stomach bug - would he go out if he had spent all afternoon throwing up?

That's what I asked him yesterday, said he'd never let an illness stop him. This from a man who lay in bed for a week and didn't move a limb because of a sore throat.....

He'll be in a strop all night saying he'd bored if we don't go. Then he'll pick some stupid thing to get upset over, sulk. It's not worth it.

This baby was planned, I told him exactly what I went through with ds, he promised he wouldn't be like my ex and would look after me. He want's to go to wagamama of all places. I am so angry.

He keeps trying to force me to eat, says I don't care about the baby and it's nutrition if I don't. He's also dead against any medication, he works with special needs and severely disabled children, says he doesn't want to take the risk.

I am going to email the midwife tonight, ask her to have a word about sickness tomorrow. I am so miserable.