Missed miscarriage

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I have found out today I have had a missed miscarriage. I still have the foetus in my womb. I have opted to pass it naturally instead of surgery but a now bit scared as unsure what to expect?
Am I going to go to the toilet and pass a large clot?
Please help :(

Big Fat Positive - ie found out I'm pregnant on a pregnancy test

Bet you'll be relieved when you have the scan, to get confirmation it's finally all over physically and you're on the mend. So sorry, again, that you're going through this, it's so awful x

Congratulations, I really hope everything goes well, I reallu do.

Yer I cant wait to have this over so u can move on, wel try.

Make sure u take it easy x x

I meant so I can move on x

I meant so I can move on x

Hi janey,

Have you done anuva test today? if your like me you would of done, I done 4 tests after I had my positive x

Yep! They were only £4 for give off eBay so thought I may as well. Just hope it sticks this time...

How you feeling today? I'm amazed how strong you're being. I'm sure if you do try again, next time will be your time

Cor thats cheap, in tesco they do there own make 2 for £3.50 I was buyin them, then wen I had a positive I bought the clear blue jus to be sure.

I went shoppin to matalan today with my mum and a friend found it difficult walkin through the baby bit, we passed through quickly, seemed weird not rushin straight to.that bit cos thats wat weve been like the last month or so, felt bit sad today, I would of been 9 weeks today, but hey ho, sooner I stop bleedin, then I can get my body bac to normal and try again :) il keep smiling :) x

Im havin a bad night, I feel really rubish tonight, its so unfair, I always do everything for everybody else befor myself to make sure there happy, jus because thats way I am, why cant I hav jus the one thing I really want x

Sorry sent you long message on iPhone last night and sodding phone didn't send it...

You're bound to have ups and downs, today is a bad one but tomorrow might me good.

It WILL happen for you, you know. It sounds cruel but if you can get pregnant once you can again. So sorry you're feeling bad xx xx

I felt abit rubbish yesterday too, I woke uo this morning and thought great, iv stooped bleeding, day went on, nothing. I decided to hava bath tonight, do my make up, do my hair nice try to make abit of an effort, just finished gettin myself done up, and within seconds I started bleeding again and it just made me feel rubish about myself again.

X

You WILL get there. It WILL stop (the bleeding) and you WILL be able to try again. It just doesn't feel like it at some points I guess...

How you feeling today? You still off work? x

Yer iv got this week off of work cos iv got to go back to the hospital in the morning.

I feel abit better today, bleeding stopped again x

How u feelin, hav u made an appointment at the doctors yet? X

That's good, hopefully it will finish for good (or has already finished for good) and you can start to try to move on. I know you won't ever forget (I know I won't) and I don't mean it in that way, but hopefully you can move on.

I'm good thanks, just doesn't feel real at all. Think until I pass where it went wrong last time (12 weeks) I will be pretty nervous. But have everything crossed that it works out this time - as I do for you

Well im not sure, I havnt bled all day today but iv got period pain type pains at the moment.

I cant wait to go to the hospital in the morning to check everything is ok and that it all passed

Iv got everything crossed for you, do you know how far gone you are?
X

Only four weeks so it's very very early! All being well I will be 12 weeks on Xmas eve

Loads and loads of luck for tomorrow - hope you get the 'all clear' xx

you must be so pleased, is your partner really happy?

Yer I hope everything is ok tomoro, il let you know tomorrow what they say x

Yes please do - I will be thinking of you.

And yes he is, his smile was so lovely when I showed him the test. I think like me, it doesn't feel real yet...

I think I need to get this out the way I feel worse the last couple of days than wat I did last week.

I feel like I keep repeatin myself to you and friends and family but I dont know wat else to say because I cant think of anything else.

I wondered if everything was ok with that other lady who was talkin to us, (3rd timelucky) she has written anything for a while. X

You're not repeating yourself silly. People just ask how you are because they care, and there's only so many ways to say how you're feeling. I'm sure it's good to talk about it you know...

I know, I was thinking that too. I really hope she's OK. Fingers crossed for her. Am sure she's fine, and just a bit busy maybe?

GOOD LUCK for today - if you have time let me know how it goes? x

Ive been for my check up scan this morning, my womb is clear so I have to wait a month, if I dont have a period so I can take my fertility treatment they are going to give me some tablets which make me have one. Fingers crossed the fertility treatment will work again as anf quick as before x

Oh, that's very sad news of course - but equally very good, meaning you can get on with it again quickly if you want to.

Am glad the physical side is all dealt with and over for you, finally.

Sure that if the drugs worked well once, they will work quickly again. Out of interest, what are you on: chlomid?

Big hugs - I know that as well as feeling relieved it's over (because the pain can be pretty bad) it's a horrible empty feeling when you know it's all gone.

xx

That is exactly how I am feelin today, I think I need 15 minutes on my own to have a good cry but been rushed off my feet all day. I think il feel abit better after that.

Yer I am on clomid, it worked the first month last time. So I hope it works good this time. I feel like I want to try again now but just aint in the right mood if u get what I mean ha x

Did you get your 15 minutes to cry last night? I hope so, am sure it would have helped... xx

Yer I did, I sent my other half out on some erands wiv his little girl, soon as they left I broke down, felt like I had been holdin it in for ages so wen I started felt like I wernt goin to stop.

I just feel in a bad mood all the time, I cheer up for a bit then go grumpy again.
X

It's perfectly natural to feel like that. Your hormones will still be all over the place, and you've just been through a horrible, traumatic and exhausting experience. It will take a while to feel 'normal' again - and there's nothing wrong with feeling 'grumpy'.
Did the hospital offer you any counselling?
I ended up having some through work, three months after it happened. It was really useful - probably because I didn't cry at all at the time - and just nice to have someone to talk to in real life. My hospital offered free counselling at the time but I turned it down. If you could get some, it might be worth trying that?
If not, just take it easy and remember you WILL feel yourself again, but that it's going to take a while...x