Missed miscarriage

[C4ALR]

I have found out today I have had a missed miscarriage. I still have the foetus in my womb. I have opted to pass it naturally instead of surgery but a now bit scared as unsure what to expect?
Am I going to go to the toilet and pass a large clot?
Please help :(

[janey1234]

It is so unfair. But horribly, horribly common. It will be awful until you've passed your due date, even if you are pregnant by then, as you'll always be thinking I'd be x many weeks pregnant. Oddly once I passed that date it did start to feel better.

But you WILL get pregnant soon. And if the drugs have worked for you once they will work again. This might not be your month but you will get there

Poor you :( xxx

[C4ALR]

I still havent come on yet so im still hoping abit. Iv come away for the weekend with my mum and sister for a.weekend of shopping so hopefully it will cheer me up abit xx

[fairygirl1006]

Hi - I am currently 5 weeks 6 days pregnant (or was??). I had some abdominal pains last Sunday night and went to A&E where I had blood tests done and was booked in for a EPU scan. I had the scan last Tue, ultrasound and vaginal, and could see the sac and foetus but no heartbeat as it is too early in the pregnancy (I thought I was 7 weeks but was told on Tuesday I was 5 weeks+2).
I went to back to A&E last Thursday as I have been bleeding since the scan (I always bleed after smears so thought it may be due to this) - started off as barely any blood on wiping to heavier although still nothing like a period and only one clot to date. This has since turned to a brown discharge (stringy) - apologies for TMI. I had further blood tests on Thursday night and was told my HCG levels have barely increased so was basically told I am miscarrying. Since this time I have continued to bleed (on wiping - sometimes red but mainly brown stringy discharge still). I had more blood tests this morning and again my HCG levels have hardly increased let alone doubled (early 4000's Thurs and late 4000's this morning). I have subsequently been told it is a 'failed pregnancy' but need to go back this Monday morning for further blood tests. I wad given no advice on when I may miscarry etc and was told it could take up to 2-weeks to pass the 'baby' naturally and for my hormone levels to start to decrease again and only then would they consider surgery to remove what's left.
I know this is a job they do every day and see millions of cases but I really feel so unsupported. I have little support around me - partner is useless (I was ending the relationship when I discovered I was pregnant and I was over the moon and cant believe how much I love the little 'bean' in the week I have known about his/her existence; especially after seeing it on the scan screen).
I cant bear the thought of having to wait around to pass the baby; especially after reading how painful it can be. I can not take any time off work, and working as a Social Worker with many new-born babies, I am absolutely terrified it will happen at work. I have told my Manager about the situation as I was due to go on Pre-Birth training this Monday and cant face the idea, so have said I will not be in as I have blood tests anyway first thing that day :-(
I am 36 and never been pregnant before so all of this is new to me. I didn't think I could have children after getting raped aged 19 and being left in a bit of a mess internally and having lots of Gynae problems over the years. It was a miracle and although it was not planned and I was shocked, I feel that little bean saved my life!
I wondered if anyone has been through similar or has any advice for me.

many thanks

[nearlyreadytopop]

hi Fairygirl
Im so sorry about your little bean. It really is horrible and the waiting makes it worse.
I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks so I can give you some idea of what to expect though everyone is different.
I had a bit of bleeding so I visited the EPU, they didnt do blood tests just scanned and said it was very early and to come back in 2 weeks!! or if the bleeding got worse. The bleeding slowly increased over a few days. At this point I passed my mucus plug (i thought it was the baby) so I went back to EPU, they scanned and said the sac was still there though had moved down a bit. Again sent home and told to come back in a week or if the bleeding got worse. That was Friday, on Saturday night the cramps started and a lot of blood. I basically sat on the loo as there was so much. I felt something which turned out to be the sac. The EPU had given me a little collection pot incase I wanted them to check it. After this the cramping and bleeding reduced a lot. Back to EPU for scan on Monday and everything was gone. I went back to work on Tuesday which for me was a mistake because I was in complete denial.
Would reccomend maternity towels, hot water bottle, strongest painkillers you can get and access to a loo. Again Im so so sorry you are going through this. I have had lots of advice and support over in the Miscarriage section of this site if you wanted to check it out. Take care if yourself.

[C4ALR]

Hi ladies,
Not sure how many of these threads you have read but I had a mc at 7wks, baby stopped growin at 5. Basically with me I started bleeding and having cramps on sat nighy, went down to hospital sun morn after bein advused by a doctor and was told I was having a threatened misscarriage, they made me an appiontment at epu for scan for tuesday. My dp took me to a private scanning place on the monday and they couldnt find a heart beat.
I decided to pass it naturally which took 9 days of lots of pain and cramps, I finally passsd it one night befor bed, there was severe pain.and more blood but once it passed the paon eased dramatically. I carried on bleeding for approx a month.
I had 3 weeks of work, I was not in anu state mentally or physically to go back.
Now things are looking up I have started my fertility treatment again as I have pcos and were goin to try again.
It is a dreadful thing to happen but very common yoi will realise how common now iy has happened to you. I am very sorry for your losses, if you need to talk I am here to try and help xx

[fairygirl1006]

Well an update - my HCG levels have increased from 4900 to 5900 in 48-hours - still nowhere near doubling and awaiting a T/C from the Doctor to 'discuss my options'. Dont know what to think or believe anymore because nobody seems to be telling me anything or giving a straight answer :-(

[janey1234]

Oh fairy how awful for you. Thinking of you, and hope you're ok. x

[fairygirl1006]

Thanks Janey1234. I am sooooooo confused right now. It's like living in a state of limbo. I go to work everyday in a complete daze and barely know what days it is, from one day to the next. I have had absolutely NO miscarriage symptoms,. The bleeding I DID have has stopped altogether. I have never had any pain and I still have sore boobs and nausea (although no actual morning sickness). I have my scan next Tues (12th) where I assume they will be telling me there is no heartbeat given that I am have already a vaginal scan and u/s which showed the sac and the baby??? I am going to push for a D&C and not wait up to 6 weeks to miscarry naturally if 'bean' has genuinely gone. Even though I have accepted the situation in my head now, I feel that I need to wait for the scan to confirm everything rather than just base a decision on blood-tests given the stories I have googled and read where women have gone on to deliver healthy babies even when their HCG levels were minimally increasing??

[creativecrafter]

Hello
This is my first post. I also just found out I had a mmc. I am 8w+4 and woke up this morning with bleeding. Saw GP immediately and broke down because I said that I felt like I was flying blind. GP referred me to EPU and they saw me immediately. Did internal scan and delivered the bad news. I was all alone as DH was overseas on a work trip. All my family lives overseas so I didn't have anyone. Midwife staff were lovely and very supportive but I just wanted to get out of there and speak to DH. Poor thing couldn't believe the news as just that morning he told me he had dreamt of our future baby. He jumped on next flight and was home just a few moments ago. My MIL was also so sweet and came to see me immediately. She was very philosophical and so supportive. I've stopped crying now and now have to think about whether I want the mc to happen naturally or to book in for a D&C. The procedure itself doesn't worry me but any chance of infection does. My bleeding stopped during the day but has started agsin so I'm wondering if the natural process has now started? Just devastated.

[jbee1979]

Hey creative. I'm sorry for your loss. This thread is very old - you'd be better posting in "miscarriage and pregnancy loss" I think it's called, in "body & soul" - ladies will definitely be able to help you there. I had a MMC in March at 12+4 and I had surgical management and it was the best option for me. I would recommend it, it made the best of a very bad time. thinking of you

[creativecrafter]

thanks jbee1979. Appreciate the tip and advice. I'm new to this site. I'll try the other forum. Hope you are ok now?