Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Good luck Wellies, please let us know how it goes at the MW.

All ok :)

They checked me straight away, they were brilliant. Baby was hard to locate to start with, hiding in lower back, but she found him/her first through a couple of movements and then finally found the heartbeat. All ok, just not near the front where I'd be able to feel movements normally at this stage.

PHEW!!!!!!! Glad I called, it was the right thing to do.

Thanks so much for all the hand holding x

Great news.

Fantastic news. So pleased for you Wellies. I think we all need our hand holding on this board. And we're all happy to do it too.

Great news wellies ds was what my mw called a still baby, and that remained true as a newborn, he wasn't a wriggler, frequently freaked me out, luckily he was my first so no comparisons to make, dd however the girl never stopped, I'm quite chunky and she could still make toes and fingers seen forcing herself outwards, she unerved my sonographer at 32wks everywhere she scanned over dd poked. I think they're all very different and posistion comes into it a lot.

Hand holding is what we are all here for xxx

Really chuffed. for you wellies talk about stressful!!!

itdoesnthurt, I really hope you get peace of mind.

Well girls I told my boss today he was amazing I wasn't sure if I was still gonna have a job after this morning but all worries for nothing :)
2 days to go till my scan it really can't come quick enough!!
Hope everyone else is ok

Thank goodness for decent bosses Swansea! That must be a load off. Fingers crossed all gies well with the scan.

Great news swansea good luck for the scan! X

Thanks all and good luck everyone with their scans!

I also told my boss today - can't hide this sickness anymore, and certainly can't hide the bump anymore (i'm normally quite tiny) . She was brilliant. Knows we lost one last year, and knows we haven't had the 12 week scan yet, so that's taken a weight off my mind..

BUT STILL...Scan isn't until Saturday. Stupidly read about that TOWIE girl who've just had a mmc at the 12 week scan...AGH why did I read that? WHY OH WHY can I just not know NOW that the baby is beating and everyone is ok?

I'm with you on that one itdoesnt I've known about this baby little over 2weeks and they seem to have lasted months, 3 more weeks until I get to see my jelly bean, 9.40 30th may. I'm so excited and utterly terrified too.

We just have to remember there is less chance of anything bad happening this time! Just think next year we could all be sat here talking sleepless nights and nappies.

Hi - I just wanted to say a big thanks to everyone who looked after me last week when I posted on this board. I was really fretting about my current pregnancy and 20w scan after a previous MMC at 14w and losing a twin this pregnancy. The understanding and advice I got from everyone really helped calm me down, and I wanted to say thank you - and let you know that today we had the anomaly scan this morning and all was completely normal!

We found out we are having a little girl and both DH and I cried - we'd been so convinced something would go wrong for us again, we never really believed we'd get to this point. For the first time I now believe I am pregnant and that in September we will be a family. Hopefully I can let go of some of the fear and anxiety now and enjoy this special time. And hopefully our experience will be the same for all of you who are trying again after losses. It is a very difficult time I know, but it seems happy endings can and do happen. Thanks again for your support xx

How's everyone doing? X

oh beans..that's FAB news. Congratulations! xx

beans so pleased we were of help and that you are feeling more positive today.

generally a bit meh today. had some mild kind of twingey cramps last night. very mild but made me worry a bit. MS is coming and going, but boobs very sore. Not sure if I can hold out 9 days for a scan. My NHS maternity exemption card arrived yesterday. which made things seem a bit more real.

DH being very irritating, hoping it's pregnancy hormones (mine not his). Last night when the cat came in he was in the kitchen so I asked him to lock the cat flap and close the kitchen window. Later I hear the catflap rattling. DH had locked the flap and left window open, stupid can only goes out the window but cannot work out how to come in that way. So poor kitty was locked out and tryng to get the flap open. Also he (DH not the cat) had eaten loads of sunflower seeds and left the husks on the coffee table. I asked him to make sure that they all went in the bin before he went to bed so that I don't have to vacuum them up if the cat / DS gets at them. He later walked out to do something else in the kitchen, leaving the husks on the table. I reminded him to take them and he got in a huff saying he hadn't forgotten. So he had either forgotten and was lying about it, or deliberately left them behind. Grrrrr. SO fed up of tidying up after him. We agreed that when I went back to work part time and gave up the cleaner (to improve our finances) he would make more effort. With the cost of childcare and with another mouth to feed on the way (fingers crossed) I can't really see the point in my working, certainly not until all kids are in school and we can pay a cleaner, if I'm expected to do everything. Also pissed off because DH is out tonight, friday night and on a boys weekend this weekend, then on a stag next weekend, then his brother's wedding the following week, to which DS is not coming because I would spend the whole day and night looking after a grumpy toddler. But I have had to arrange all the childcare, complicated by the fact it is my cousin's wedding the next day, to which DS is also not coming. Both weddings are 90 mins drive away, but close together, so it would make more sense for us to stay over near there, but of course it will be me who has to drive back to sort out DS. And I cannot drink for obvious reasons, though won't be "out" yet by then.

Oh and have taken today off work because my mum who would normally has DS today is away, which is fine, though I am self employed so no work= no money. I suppose I could have asked MIL to come and help but she lives a 3 hr drive or £60 train journey away, and last time she had DS all day he came home covered in bumps, bruises and grazes as she does not supervise him properly and I don't feel like I can trust her.

Oh and my hair looks like absolute shite because I had highlights and the base colour has faded really badly. I went to the hairdresser to ask what I can do and the colourist was brutally honest and said nothing!!! It needs to grow out. He said he'll put a toner on it to try to get rid of some of the orange where the base has faded. It's a short bob at the moment, and it won't take long to grow out (i'm sure by xmas if not before). the whole point of the highlghts was to break the colour up a bit because I want to go au naturel, which is white at the front and salt and pepper elsewhere. Oh and last time I had it cut (different hair dresser) the guy didn't listen, trimmed my fringe (which was nearly grown out) and didn't graduate it enough, so the back feels too long and the front too short. FFS. Was meant to go to supermarket this afternoon after DS's sleep but I think I'm actually going to drag the poor child to the hairdresser.

Jeez, what a rant, if you got to the end! well, I feel better for getting it all out.

That's fantastic news beans I am so pleased for you

for bonzo the rant is welcome here, I've had a shitty day with dp aswell, had a row over dd, I was trying to talk to him and everytime I spoke she parroted me and threw a pillow at me, I told her off and dp defended her. Then fecking sky cut off so chicken pox covered ds went balistic, dp hadn't paid to bill, cue 20mins on the phone to stupid person, just tell me how much I need to pay aaaaarrrrgghhhh!!!

I feel sick, all the time, low level, head aches and sooo tired. This bean better be ok as they're making me feel awful! But I'm taking that as a positive :)

3wks today and ill know.

Ugh, don't mention weddings, dps cousin is getting married and I really do not want to go, its so much hassle and we don't speak to half of dps family so its awkward and sil (the infamous bitch) will have her newborn which was due the same time as mine. All too much for a hormonal pregnant lady!

Anyway skys back on the kids are munching raisins and I'm counting down to bedtime x

beans I am so thrilled for you. You have had a rotten time of it and you really deserve this little girl. So pleased that you can finally start to relax and enjoy being pregnant. Treat yourself to a pregnancy massage or a pedicure (fab for later on when feet are swollen and sore) to celebrate! So glad that you found this post helpful, I know it's helping to keep me sane.

bonzo so glad it's not just me! DH is v messy and untidy, in my more forgiving moments I know he's not doing it on purpose and there are other reasons I love him but now and then it just kills me and I think (have been known to shout) what kind of fuckwit doesn't notice that they have left jam down the front of the washing machine?!

Anyone else a touch teary, I just choked and sobbed when tinkabelle temporarily dies in return to neverland!

WL jam on the washing machine, I had juice down the freezer door, what is wrong with them?

Ha! DH is the most annoying person in the world at the moment. True fact. . I am so irritable and teary it's just not true. Preghead has really set in as well - I locked myself out this morning. In the pouring rain, natch - and without my purse. DH had taken DS out on a 3 hour return trip mission to get our van MOTed so I knew I was in deep trouble. I missed my doctor's appointment (no money = no bus ticket) which is really grievous, because it took me a week to get that blimmin appointment - then I had to amuse myself for hours till DH and DS got home. Luckily for me a neighbour took pity on me, so it wasn't too bad. But not a great start to the day either.

I'm so knackered now that in this weather I can hardly think of anything to do with DS. We ended up watching Fireman Sam on youtube (we don't have a TV that works, the ariel's broken or something) which was fine... but then he decided not to have a nap and was beside himself by teatime. Grrrrr.

In other news: we started potty training and hit the bullseye straight away. A massive poo - half in, half out of the potty. I was so pleased that I ran to get his stickers to say well done, and came back into the room to find another poo. This time, right next to his garage (most of it), with little bits all over the floor, the rug, his vest... "I've got poo on my feet Mummy" he said. Bless him.

It's been quite a day.

PS - Beans, what lovely news. I'm so happy for you x

Ok. Def still pregnant if my dizzy dinner error counts. I drained my pasta but had the sieve upside down. Sink reasonably clean so picked it out the sink and ate it anyway.

Seriously, why are these men who are so competent at work so completely useless at home?

Think.I am going a bit crazy you know I
keep writing messages and either my phone isn't working or I am not pressing post umm don't know what is happening.
owell Congrats beans hope things start to settle down a bit for you now :)
bonzo noclue. nice rants. really impressed
wanna join in with the dh. bashing but I will probably crash mumsnet. with the abuse. lol

come on swansea, bash away. take my mind off my niggling tummy please. Trying to persuade myself it's my womb stretching or ligaments or something. Bit early at 5 and a bit weeks though

Oh noclue what a day! X

bonzo I'm dropping everything, knocking stuff over and walking into things.

I commented this evening that I'd like the living room different, I also said I'd really like some crackers, guess which one dp decided to do

I assume DH started shifting furniture while leaving you starving and nauseous.
On the upside I rushed to supercuts and now have fab hair. And downloaded a £5 off voucher so cut and blow less than £20. ON the down side I have a cough. Not terrible, sort of moderate and not too (tmi) productive. But worried that all the forceful coughing will make the baby clump of cells fall out. too scared to shag in case the jiggling makes it fall out, so coughing must be bad too....

Anyone else feel massive? I'm only 7 and a little bit weeks but feel very round already. Is it in my head? Is it possible or is it just that I've been indulging myself (don't really think I have though).