Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Yay. Bonzo that's exactly the sort of thing they relied upon to know that ladies were indeed pregnant before the invention of ultrasound I reckon

OMG I feel sick. I used to be able to do 2 big mac meals and a hot apple pie. One big mac meal (small and with water not fizz) and 6 nuggets and I'm ready to vom. Of course in my mother's day the doctor would not look at you until you had missed 2 periods. And then the pg test involved injecting your wee into frogs or something.

Tis true. I've got one of my mum's old pregnancy books and it's all about how you should avoid carbs, in order that you shouldn't get fat and therefore be left by your husband. I kid you not. It tells you to be careful when drinking alcohol - especially when wearing high heels, since it might lead to you losing your balance and falling over.

A wide selection of dungarees to choose from, booze, fags.... In the 70's pregnant ladies didn't know they were born.

Ye olde drive thru? Or should that be ride through? Gotta love those symptoms, I'm feeling much the same bonzo with mid afternoon knackeredness. Boobs are immense which is nice but not that thrilled ( actually secretly am) when they wake me up!

I was visiting at the hospital where hopefully this one will hatch earlier today, held my breath as I drove past the maternity wing.

Yeah drive through.

Love the alcohol advice to pg ladies in the 70's. Mum's gp was away so his father, a retired gp, saw mum once. He had delivered babies during ww1. He warned my mother not to drink so much that she falls downstairs. That might harm the baby (me). .

I had McDonalds too today, it was amazing! i really needed it i usually have chicken mayo, cheeseburger and chips, i was feeling very full after one burger but since we havent had a takeaway this year i made myself eat it!

then felt sick for hours.

Then i needed juice ice lollys, needed them it was all i could think about one and dp went and got the perfect ones, del monte 100% juice ones it was delish!

AND omg my boobs, i cant touch them, and taking my bra of is like one of the electronic wire games where if i move wrong a huge alarm goes off --and i screech-- ds and dd leaning on me makes me wince.

BUT i think this is all great, im not suffering with awful symptoms, just the odd nausea, and gag, the boobs are bad but if left alone, fine. I may actually get to enjoy this pregnancy, which i think we all deserve to do.

Apologies if i am repeating ..as i didnt read all of the replies..
i had a baby august 2009...miscarriage dec 2010 after 7 weeks and took me me a year to conceive again ..now 28 weeks...for the first 20 weeks i was soooo scared...then also had some spotting and couldnt stop crying...but all seems fine now...you have to allow yourself to be cautious...but miscarriages are very common very early ones even go undetected...
Just take it easy and look after yourself...no heavy lifting etc...
good luck ..hope all turns out ok

Hi billy so sorry for your loss but congratulations on your pregnancy!

I'm being super careful this time, I don't lift my 4yo at all and avoid lifting my 3yo where possible, she's tiny though.

Im starting to let myself be pregnant now instead of being in denial!

Oh fuck!!!

Just put ds in his pjs and I'm 99% sure he has the chicken pox, I had them really badly as a child but this is still bad isn't it!

I had this scarestate with chicken pox. Tomorrow call the gp and explain the situation. Push push push to be treated as urgent. Get a blood test marked urgent to check your immunity. Should come back within 48 hrs. If you are immune it's all fine. If not they can give you a gamma globulin shot. I wasn't sure I'd had it and nor was my mum but I was immune.

Fingers crossed for immunity state. Will your drs be open tomorrow? Do you have a local walk in centre?

Hope your little chap doesn't feel too bad, my top tip is to stand the bottle of calamine lotion in a jug of hot water before slapping it on so it's less of a shock on hot little bodies = less crying = more cooperation.

My mum and aunt both said I had chicken pox the worst out of all the children in the family, and I remember it, and have the scars. Which a browse on nhs direct says is a good thing, I'm still getting bloods done I'm taking no risks. Dp is dealing with ds for the time being, thankfully he's a daddys boy, if it was dd I'd be screwed!

I'm 100% its the pox now as a spots appeared on his nose.

He's been fine all day, loopy and full of beans but has just woke up really crying, he's already on painkillers for a bad ear, he was at ooh docs yesterday.

If the docs are useless ill ring my midwife as she can refer me to the hospital path lab in an emergency.

Fingers crossed.

Was awake for ages in the night after being up with poorly dc2, convinced myself that all my symptoms had gone and therefore it's all over. I think probably that was just the night demons talking but niggling now. Think I'll get one of those expensive clear blue tests that tells you long since conception. At least then if it says 3 weeks plus I'll know that my hormones have been rising.

I feel sick this morning and the boobs ache, I keep thinking about doing the spare test I have but if it wasn't darker than dark I'd freak out and have 3wks until scan so I'm going with ignorance is bliss!

Ds has a huge spot on his nose, poor thing!

I have just booked a private nuchal fold test for this Saturday. Hideously expensive, but hopefully will put my mind at ease. Am 12 weeks today, and booking in appt is this Weds, but first dating scan not for another 2-3 weeks til after this!!! Got nowhere with the EPAU asking for a reassurance/earlier scan.

Now I'm just worried it will be bad news at the scan..and I'll have paid for the bad news :SSSSs

itdoesnt can't believe you have to wait so long for a dating scan! I'll be 11+5 at mine in 3 --long long long-- weeks.

I keep telling myself there is NO reason for this to go wrong, there's less of a likelyhood it will go wrong, and it will be a good scan --and eating chocolate-- fingers crossed for ALL of us.

I know how you feel it doesn't hurt. Today I'm really struggling with the positive attitude and am feeling that it's all just waiting to be told the bad news. My drs apt is not for another 9 days and then she will be able to refer me for an early scan but who knows how long that will take.
So wish we could all go back to the time before mcs/mmcs when we just enjoyed the secret we carried. Ho hum.

I can't believe I've had to wait so long either!!! I literally CRIED when the booking in appt letter came through..cos I (wrongly) presumed that was the date for the dating scan. I had a scan at 8ish weeks to check everything was ok (fingers crossed ..it was then!) but still...having to wait another 6 weeks..just like ugh!

Hopefully..it will be good news this Saturday and money well spent x

Fingers crossed and love to you all!

itdoesnthurt I can't believe they are making you wait for the dating scan. I really thought they were meant to get it done by 13 weeks. Don't blame you getting one privately. I booked a private early scan and have also worried about paying for bad news! In the event I got offered and nhs one so will prob cancel the private one and save myself £75. Last time I had a triple test, a blood test which they use the results of to combine with the nt scan to get the odds of downs. Do they do that if you have a private scan?

Sorry, on phone so might have to do multiple posts.

Oh no itdoesn't, that's awful. Can you call up to ask for an earlier appointment? It seems so unfair that you have to wait so long. Maybe if you ring and get a nice receptionist on the line they can bump you up the waiting list?

Heard back from my midwife, im ok wrt ds and the pox. Not that that will stop my worrying!

That's good state
itdoesnthurt I just read that the nuchal fold test can only be performed between 11 weeks and 13 weeks 6 days. If I were you I would def phone and query it. Admin errors do happen.

Well, I weed on my very expensive digital test this morning and it says plus3 which is good in that my hormones have obviously risen since conception, but only tells me that I am at least 5 weeks of and by my reckoning I'm 7+3. Made me feel slightly better I guess. From tomorrow I only have a week to wait til my first dr apt so countdown will be easier.

Itdoesnthurt - we did the private nuchal testing for downs and it was worth it. I was a bit meh about getting it done but dh was keen so that we could (hopefully) eliminate as much worry and unknown stuff from the pregnancy. And he was right, it made me feel very good and more relaxed to get a good result a week later. (Plus it was a bonus scan and extra chance to see baby!)

Good news about the chick pox, stateof.

So, just to prove that panic and fear never leaves you after a mmc, I have just called the midwives unit because I hadn't felt movement for a week. They told me to come in for monitoring so am going soon after getting ds2 from nursery. Obviously, it'd be great if baby totally humiliates me and starts wriggling like mad just as I lie down but I couldn't do with any more lying awake at night wondering. So keep your fingers crossed for me, hold my hand :)

fingers, toes, legs and arms crossed x x x

Oh wellies everything crossed that baby is just getting in early with humiliating you! Keep us posted. X