Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

I secretly hoped for twins too wl think dp would have taken to his bed though, he finds it all daunting.

We have our car now for all of us and adore it despite the suspension going but we have a lovely mechanic who sorted it all at a great price so its back and better than before. We went for the multipla and I can fit 3 huge 123 seats in the back, its great.

I've never ever felt movement like this so early I think the mmc has made me more --super paranoid-- in tune of every feeling and ofc I do glug the odd bottle of icy lucozade when I need some wriggly reasurance although I always get one good wriggling session a day regardless. Dps adamant the due dates wrong.

Thanks all - really lovely to hear people would like twins instead of, 'rather you than me!'. And great to be able to tell on here as it's all a secret in RL (apart from DH letting slip to SIL, which I'm hacked off about tbh).

Getting our heads around having two more (one good thing is that I'll have much more frequent scans). DH being brilliant apart from blabbing. Has said he will take first six weeks off (annual plus paternity leave) to get everything settled.
DS has come around to the horror of two more younger siblings really quickly. Although he did share some slightly worrying thoughts about the toddler army he's going to have under his control!

State, how lovely to be feeling all that wriggling. It's almost as though baby knows you need the extra reassurance and is telling you loud and clear that they're there to stay!

DD having a party for some of her little friends tomorrow so have to get up and give the dogs a really long walk. Our old dog loves small people and understands that they grab, pinch, shout and fall over easily but the younger bouncy one will get so excited it will be toddler skittles! Need to get him tired enough that he'll sleep in our bedroom till it's all over.

Unfortunately, the double dose of hormones making me feel really ill and exhausted at the moment. Am glad in one way as all my other pregnancies have been very symptomless and the nausea this time round is reassuring.

Have not said anything to DH as he has enough to take in but can't shake the feeling that this pregnancy is doomed. Feel completely detached from all these plans for a bigger car, extending the house etc as it seems daft when there probably won't be any babies at the end of it.

I know it's just the mc making me feel like this but I'm really not ready to let my guard down and plan for these babies just yet. It's been such a rollercoaster that I'm convinced there are more shocks to come.

Hope everyone has a good, resolutely pregnant weekend!

Arse I do feel the same, honestly. I have good days and then this voice creeps in, we have our car and I sometimes think that's a bit much to hide should it go wrong. You are right though with twins you will be monitored and scanned more so much more reassurance for you.

at your ds' toddler army.

It is the previous mc making you feel this way, every time I miss noticing movement I get in an awful panic and imagine the worst, with ds and dd this would have never entered my mind, its self preservation I think.

Hope your dd has a wonderful party and the dogs tired, my mum has a lab/retreiver pup and I so know what you mean about toddler skittles, but after a walk he is sound for a good 2hrs+ despite the childrens noise and chaos.

I am 19 weeks today

My DH really surprised me early on by saying it would be soooooo cool to have twins! I'm afraid I'm one of the ones who would feel a bit of fear at the prospect (butwould however cope ok, probably!). It's probably because my two boys are so full-on when they are together!

Ladies, I'm offering up my Count The Kicks bracelet to whoever wants it. Psycholgically, I have reached the point now when I don't feel I need to put it on every morning, and I think it would be good to pass it on to anyone who is at the early stage of movements. That stage where you know you should be feeling it but need the reassurance. I'd like to pass it on to anyone who wants the help/reassurance, in the spirit of the thread :) By now, I am never in any doubt that I have movements, with (eek) only 9 weeks to go!!

It's plain purple rubber with a plastic tab that you move across every time you feel a movement. Anyone who wants it PM me (first come first served?) x

Toddler army love it!

I still feel a bit like I can't believe it and sometimes get a bit spooked after talking to people about it - my belly is goodly round now so people notice. I've got my 20 week scan on wed so all being well it will be full steam ahead with car/house/garden plans.

I think state is right that feeling detached and expecting the worst is self preservation after mcs and I def felt like that before the 12 week scan. Fingers crossed you've got 2 stickers.

Hi, can I join in? I hope not briefly :s

I had to have a termination 2.5 years ago due to having a coil fitted and it being in the wrong place. I then had a miscarriage at 5 weeks last year (self managed). OH and I were trying to conceive since June, and seem to have managed it first month going. I was pretty sure I was preggers and got one feint BFP and then 3 BFN. I did another test Tuesday just gone and it was instantly positive and very strongly. I was having symptoms for a few weeks and was very confused.

Yesterday and today I have had like achey cramps and an upset tum and I am so worried I am going to miscarry. Every time I go to the loo I expect blood, but nothing. I am sooo worried.

Welcome sundae I had cramps and upset tummy on and off for first 8-10wks, if you have time read this thread through and you should find some reassurance, we've all worried over so many things xx

9 weeks left wellies oh my, that has gone quickly I'd have been a bit anxious had we got twins as ds and dd are indeed a whirlwind but I'd still really have loved twins, it was expected I would as they run in my mum and dads familys but no such luck, dp did say knowing our luck we'll decide this baby is our last then get suprise twins in a few years, that would scare me!!

wl I've got quite a bump too --third baby my muscles are long gone lol-- my '20' wk scans 10th aug when ill be 20+6, can't wait the dcs are desperate to know if its a boy or girl, me and dp have chosen a girls name but still stuck for a boy, dd wants luke and ds likes Jedd. No idea where either have heard the names but I've stuck them on the list!

Still cannot believe I'm 19wks, I never imagined when I started this thread I'd make it!

Hi Sundae,
It's grim isn't it, every twinge has you expecting the worst. Good sign that you have an upset tummy but no bleeding though - cramps could be gut and not bump-related.
Have you made an appt to see your gp or early pregnancy unit? I know policies vary from place to place but your previous history would be enough for you to self refer at the one near me and have an hgc test followed by a scan.
I've just had my coil removed. They've said it may be ok as was far away from the babies but I have to watch for signs of miscarriage or infection. Was expecting miscarriage anyway so am now on doubly high alert.
Hope you're feeling a bit better this morning. I'm finding it very helpful being able to air my worries here without dumping them on DH all the time or feeling like a paranoid drama queen.

Love hearing about everyone further along. Nine weeks to go Wellies! You sound wonderfully serene and it's so reassuring to hear. Hopefully the weather won't get too hot where you are for your last months.

Still bumpless DL but my boobs have gone mad! All my summer tops are now completely indecent and my bras are giving me that fetching four-boob effect.
Going to visit family today and will have wine pressed on me followed by very intrusive questioning if I refuse. Am planning to accept the booze then quietly ditch!

I love Luke State, and Jedd is fab too, your DCs have good taste!
Am also on my third so will probably blimp out soon too. Would be lovely to get far enough along to feel movements!
DDs party was lovely - good practice having a houseful of two-year-olds. She coped admirably with sharing her toys etc and the dogs adored all the extra attention (and titbits!)
DD kept telling everyone that she had loads of babies in her tummy though...
If she comes out with that one with my family later I'll have some serious explaining to do!

Hiya. They couldn't remove my coil as the strings were gone, hence the TOP.

Tummy is still completely off, but I am now worried that I don't feel as grim as I did. I need to stop torturing myself. I have an appt with GP in two weeks, earliest I could get!

I was crying for an hour last night because of all the twinges and cramps and pressure and stuff and was sure I would wake up to bleeding, but no. Feeling very light headed this morning and nauseous a tiny bit, but boobs seem fine today.

Glad your dd had a good party arse my dd was also the one to drop me in it, but we decided to tell people anyway, as if anything happened I'd have appreciated people being gentle with me. It was too hard for me having to tell people in december, I was pregnant. My boobs went nuts early too, the bump seems huge now.

I am quite impressed with the dcs name choices, I'm really struggling for a boys, there are plenty I like but none I think I could say every day for the rest of my life. Fingers crossed we find out the sex next week and then I can focus more on names. And dealing with dd if it is a boy (she neeeeeds a sister) :)

sundae I was the same, analysing every symptom, then every break from symtoms. Then every twinge. I had a lot of twinges and cramps, a lot. Apparently or so my mw said they're more common after a mc as our bodys had a thorough clear out BUT there's the other side that a sucessful pregnancy is MORE likely after a mc. And also due to our losses were more in tune with every feeling which we'd possibly not notice normally.

Keep posting here, its not drama, attention seeking or whinging its clearing your head. Its what this thread is for. Xx

hello lovely ladies, welcome to the newbies, hope you're well. how are we all doing? I haven't posted in a while, had a hectic few wks. Our dog has been poorly and had to rush her off to vet. He thinks she has arthritis so I've been nursing her better, medication has kicked in and she's more or less back to her usual self! No more long walks, felt a bit guilty as I had taken her to the beach for an hour last tuesday and she more or less collapsed when we got home and hadn't moved much since! Also it looks like we'll be moving come october, which is good. Renting a 3 bedroom house off a friend of dp, live in a 2 bedroom flat so it'll be nice to be somewhere with a garden for the dog and storage when dc2 comes along! I've been feeling ok in myself, had a few days where I'm dreading our 16wk appointment this wk but I'm getting really excited! Getting a lovely bump, had to start wearing my martnity clothes so I now feel more pregnant rather than frumpy! xx

Glad your dogs on the mend gem our old lab had an accident when she was 2 which resulted in arthritis but with the right meds and care she lived a happy albeit slower life for another 13years!

Great news about the house! Were slowly creeping closer to moving back home, were in a wonderful 3bed now but the gardens pointlessly small, its a high cost rent, and were 20-30miles away from family/friends the hospital etc.

I'm doing good. 19+1 baby wriggling away! Good luck with the 16wk appointment, mine was just forms and blood pressure. I always get anxious when an appointment looms, its like I'm in a safe bubble at home and the apts are something to fear, ridiculous huh! I'm now pregnant and not just fat looking lol --im not skinny by any means but now a rounded bumps developed--

Hi everyone :)

Stateof is getting my count the kicks bracelt but I also have some Folic Acid tablets up for grabs (can you tell I'm about to move house?!). If anyone is interested and would be happy to paypal me some postage I can post them asap. They are an unused, unopened box of 90 tablets: 'Lanes Health Preconceive Tablets 400 micrograms Folic Acid', one a day, expiry date April 2014.

Let me know :)

Arse - twins!! That's fantastic! Huge congratulations.

My booking in appointment has arrived at long last. I'm swinging between looking forward to making it "offishul" and dreading going through the events of the mc in August. Dh is coming, and he's said he will talk through that if I can't.

Ugh. Wish me luck.

Good luck mrs glad your dps being so helpful, mine went to look at tyres whilst I had mine tbh I do prefer space but he could have offered.

good luck mrsr I'm sure it'll be fine x

I walked in, sat down and burst into tears. It was the lovely MW who booked me in last year, she handed me tissues and held my hand until I stopped sobbing.

Got everything down - it wasn't pleasant but it's done. I'm going to get an extra scan at 32 weeks as DS was born at 34, so I'm excited about that. She was wonderful and very reassuring. I should get my booking in scan within 4 weeks. I even managed to get blood taken without needing to lie down! Go me!

So, all in all it wasn't awful, but I'm glad it's over.

Glad its all sorted mrs your midwife sounds lovely which always helps hey! I've got a 32wk scan too I had one with dd and it so clear!

That's great mrs, what a lovely mw. Mine have always been v dismissive of my mcs which was hurtful but here they just seem to be so crazy busy that they haven't got time for any non essentials.
To make up for it my sonographer is lovely, had her with dd2, mmc and this pg. She remembered us and made the first scan when I was convinced it had all gone wrong easier. Seeing her again on wed for 20 week scan :-)

Hope dogs and houses all come good asap!

Ok I risk sounded stupid here seeing as I have two children but what to braxton hicks feel like and could I have them at 19+2. I keep feeling really tight and like my belly is pressing outwards. .

Never had this with dd or ds and they were both csecs so never had any contractions, I'm not in pain just uncomfortable.

Yup, sounds just like BHs to me. It feels like you are being shrink wrapped or that baby is doing fast somersaults. Contractions without the pain, I guess. Although BH do get painful towards the end too.

Thanks wellies I didn't expect many 'firsts' with dc3!

Ha ha neither did I! But it seems it's true what they say, every pregnancy is different I had mad heartburn and carpal tunnel with my first, not much of anything with my second, and well, let's just say that this pregnancy, between the fainting and the bad back and everything else, is definitely my last

Hiya,

Glad to hear people sounding so positive.

My sister informed me yesterday that she had the cramps and pains till ten weeks and that everything was fine. I am pretty certain it is a mix of bowel pain and ligament pain.

I'm not feeling too bad, the nausea comes and goes in waves, but it really isn't bad at all. My boobies are so sore, they seem to go between tingly, itchy and sore and then ok and back again.

I had awful heartburn with with ds and dd too, keep waiting for it to appear this time wellies

All sounds normal sundae well it has been for me this time! :)

I'm exhausted today, my little brother was 4 yesterday so me and dp took him out for the day today, leaving our two at dms. We went to the bear factory and frankie and bennys, deffinately found my love of food this pregnancy I now want to go back and eat the same again