Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Thinkin of you crow xx
well saw the consultant today waited around for an hour to see him only to be made to feel like I was wasting his time, feel proper down and very unwell which is probably due to the stress.
its just re-affirmed my hatred of Dr what appalling bed side manner :(
hope everyone else is ok xx

Best of luck crow hope tomorrow comes round quickly for you and that hospital and staff are nice. X

swansea any chance of changing doctors?

crow sorry you're having such a worrying time. Really hoping your scan tomorrow is ok. How lovely though that DH is being supportive and concerned.

We've also not had sex since the BFP. It sounds silly but mc started with a bit of brown spotting after sex. I know that's ludicrous as it was a mmc and the pregnancy had stopped developing weeks before, so there is no way that sex caused it. I just feel so rubbish and tired, and my boobs hurt too much I don't want to. Poor DH is missing it and starting to ask about it more often. I wish I wanted to.

12 week / NT scan tomorrow for me. Dreading it. Even if the baby is still there I'm freaking out that there is going to be something hideously wrong with it. I'm on the verge of tears and know that I won't be sleeping tonight.

Good luck tomorrow crow and bonzo xxx

i had a miscarriage in december 2010 and was petrified i would never conceive again ....i am due in 5 weeks and was dead scared in the beginning ...even had some bleeding at week 20 whcih freeked the life out of me ...but im getting there and not that scared anymore.....miscarriages are very very common when i had mine somany women came forward with their stories...

keep an eye on things...you will be fine...

Got a letter for our first scan, wed 11th july, seems so far away, having nightmares about it. Not having a good day today ladies, I feel fat and emotional-not pg. My symtoms seem to have faded slightly which I know is normal at 10 wks or so but I can't help but think the worst. I seem to go through a cycle of feeling really excited and happy to feeling anxious and very tearful. I was happily chatting with dp about names the other day, today I feel like shit and cant stop crying.

good luck for today crow, thinking of you xx

Hope you are ok crow

Deep breath gem symptoms will drop and maybe return on and off from 10wks. July is rushing towards us, or it feels that way for me, my ds is 5 on the 16th and I'm woefully unprepared!

Thanks for the good wishes everyone, unfortunately it's bad news for me - missed miscarriage large empty gestational sac. Apparently my body did a good job of trying to sustain what it thought was a pregnancy that ended ages ago.

Am waiting for a phone call to inform me of a date for EPRC, and been told to go to A&E if it starts before I get to have it (which I think may happen, as I'm getting cramps now)

OH and I are both gutted, and decided while waiting for the scan, that if it was bad news that'd be it, no more TTC. But when we spoke to the nurse afterwards, she said to think about and if we decide to try again, then to take baby aspirin, to see if that helps prevent another MC. Of course it won't help if it's just my old eggs.

I've had a bit of a cry, but right now I'm numb and kind of relieved to know it's over. I've been signed off work for two weeks, and also have two weeks off after that for my wedding ... so a month off work to recover and I'm going to focus on my wedding to hopefully prevent me dwelling on things and then needing to go back on anti-ds.

Good luck to everyone else, I think I'm going to hide all pregnancy/ante natal topics for now ... thanks again for the handholding and hope to see you all around elsewhere on the site. xx

crow I'm so sorry for your rubbish news. I had a similar situation with my mmc. The research I did at the time suggested it was a "blighted ovum". A pregnancy that could never have resulted in a baby. A conception with the wrong genetics to make a baby. Totally shit way our body tricks us. At the time the nurse to me that it genuinely was one of those unpredictable things, that were not recurrent, at least in the sense that having one does not mean you are more likely to get one again. Doesn't make it any less shit.

My scan was ok. Baby still there. Nt measurement ok though have to wait for blood test results next week. Sounds a bit silly after crow's horrible news, but I still feel pretty despondent about this.

Oh crow I'm so sorry, that's awful news. I remember feeling exactly as you say, after the initial crying I felt numb and surreal for a bit til after the Erpc when there were many more tears.
As bonzo says, such a cruel trick that our bodies do such a good job of hanging onto and growing what was never going to be. bonzo quiet hand squeeze for you too.

crow hope Erpc goes as well as possible, and many many good wishes for your upcoming wedding. Xxxx

On a lighter note, I'm so glad to hear that it's not only my bed that's not seeing action! We've had sex only once since I found out about pg, and it's probably just what we need as I seem to be picking a fight with him at every opportunity but I just don't feel like it at all. We're just about to have some building work start too which I'm sure won't be at all stressful!

Oh crow you poor thing. I am so sorry. I hope they get back to you with an erpc date soon, and your wedding helps carry you through, I hope you and your OH have a glorious happy day. Thinking of you xxx

WL I'm the same, I want to talk to him and be close but he makes me rather annoyed. Were actually in seperate beds now due to his operation, he's in the spare bed, albeit right beside our double but it isn't helping with the 'distance' I feel.

Oh, crow, that is so not what I hoped to see when I came back to the thread. I'm ever so sorry xxx Stay strong, and if you and DP feel it's the right choice, then maybe you'll be making a honeymoon baby soon enough.

I am so sorry crow, my heart it breaking for you . I really hope you can still enjoy your wedding . take care xxx

Thank you ladies xxx

Didn't get the ERPC in the end - I was in triage at A&E when the call came! Pains started at 8.15am, called taxi at 8.35 and was at A&E by 9am, by which time I was in unbearable pain and felt a gush as they called my name to triage. Was taken straight through to a treatment room, given my gown and pads, and passed a massive clot just as I was putting on the nappy type thing

Pain was bad enough to warrant morphine. Had a scan at lunchtime which showed all product was gone, and admitted to a ward for observation. Was discharged at 10pm!

Feeling ok now, just periody (heavy one at that).

Definitely NOT doing this again, it's been heart breaking for both of us. OH has been fantastic, even though he's feeling the loss too, plus seeing me go through such pain, poor love.

Thanks again for your thoughts, means alot. xx

Awe crow that is so traumatic I really hope your ok,

had my 20 week scan this morning , everything went well I am having boy number 3, he was beautiful and wriggley took the sonographer ages to get all the measurements she needed lol. :)

crow your poor love, I am so glad your dh is being a good support. Please look after yourself, rest lots, and keep your blood sugars up. Xxx

crow so sorry it has ended like this, but glad you're feeling okish. Glad oh is being great too, long may it continue. Xxx

crow what a horrible experience, hope you're giving yourself a good chance to recover physically now, lots of rest and being spoilt. I understand what you're sying about no more, you are very strong and brave. Hold each other tight and have a very special wedding. Xx

I understand that too, DH said no more if this one didn't work out but not sure if we'd have stuck to it. Only u know what's the right decision for u and u must trust in our judgement as to what is best for you. X

Morning all, how is everyone doing?

I got my triple test results back yesterday, low risk, 1 in 4000 :)

And I'm 15weeks today!

Congrats state :)

How are you feeling? How's DH?

I'm feeling a bit rotten with a painful stitch-like feeling in my right hand side. Add to that baby is being very lazy and not moving today so my panic levels are rising. Posted about it here - I wonder whether any of you ladies have had something similar before?

Big hugs here. I had mmc at 14wks wiyh my 2nd pg after my ds now 7. When i was pg with dd1 after mmc i felt so scared. Tbh i didnt feel better till after my 14 wk scan and then only a little. My symptoms or lack of were very similar to yours. Dd is now 4 and ive recently had dd2 so be positive1 mmc doesntean more will follow. You have 2 healthy dcs so the problem wasnt with your body. Like mine your tiny angel wasnt strong enough for this life.

I would say make sure your mw knows your concerns and history and insist on more frequent checks and extra scans. I had an early scan at 8wks then 13 followed by 3 more.

Try to relax, be positive and enjoy and i hope soon you'll have a healthy beautiful baby in your arms x

Morning wellies I'm generally ok, still get the odd nausea, uncomfortable boobs most of the day, tiredness, but last night I had awful hip ache, just couldn't get comfortable. Not that I'm complaining :)

I feel mildly overwhelmed today, we are really struggling with ds, he's 5 in 2wks and is just a nightmare, I feel very stressed about it tbh.

I will go look at your thread now xx