Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Haha OH did actually suggest the wiping thing! Hmmmm not got any real UTI symptoms and it's all stopped now, nothing since Tuesday

I've had a feel of my tummy, and I'm pretty sure that under all the flab, there is a bump - definitely more 'solid' than before, I think, possibly

crow you sound so like me I'm forever poking and jabbing myself! I need to sit on my hands.

I'm so exhausted, having dp laid up has hit me harder than I expected and I've been fetching ds' friend for school adding 10mins or so to every morning. My hips ache so much and I just can't get to sleep at night.

Mil and Gmil go home today and I'm anxious because then its up to me to take care of dp alone and tbh I've enjoyed the company and distraction.

Feeling sorry for myself today.

If I'm not poking my belly, I'm prodding and squeezing my boobs or doing little jumps to see if they still hurt

Awww have a ((hug)) and I hope you can take things easy - easier said than done I know.

I've just prepped chili con carne and bunged it in the slow cooker, so when the tiredness and nausea hit later, all I have to do is cook the rice and dish it up ... wonderful waft of garlic going through the flat though!

Hi crow sorry to hear about the stress on what should have been such a joyous day. I can only say that 2 tiny specks are unlikely to be anything to worry about, but I totally know that it's easy for me to say. 2 more weeks til your scan? Fingers crossed. Xx

Hi WL ... well, in my defence, it was two tiny specks on the pantyliner, then a few more on the tissue a couple of times after that, but I know it's unlikely to be anything bad - just my mad head on at that time, panic sets in

I haven't got a scan date yet, am wondering whether to make a call and find out when I should expect a letter, after hearing stories of getting appointments through the post AFTER the date, I know my local hospital has been guilty of that. Got my next midwife appointment on 10th July though.

Can I already be getting SPD? Last few evenings I've felt like ahem, the bone behind just above my fanjo is being pulled in two

Had a three hour nap today I seriously needed that. But felt like rubbish since.

Just feeling stupidly vulnerable with dp laid up!

Hope your doing ok today crow and no more prodding --never mind that I do it too --

Hope your doing ok WL x

Not sure about the SPD, but I think I recall someone I know of getting it fairly early, maybe at the same stage as you.

I'm doing very well - just scoffed a plate of chili (may pay for that later) and also a bag of caramel nibbles , I may or may not have done a little prodding

Had a short nap earlier (even though I had ten hours sleep last night!) and am now dossing on the sofa, multi tasking by browsing on my laptop and watching Moulin Rouge - it's one of OH's favourite films, the soppy git!

Ah yes, the prodding! I think in the past I have given myself sore bits resulting in tiny specks of blood, with dd2 I seem to recall. I'm afraid our heads are our own worst enemies, but caramel nibbles are mist definitely our friends. A phone call to scan dept on Monday surely wouldn't hurt.

state ouch! Would a support belt help? I had one from physio with dd2 as my stomach muscles were separating and it did help to keep everything together.

hi
i am the same as you right now hun..i had an mc last year..i got to 10wks(8 wks since conception) and started bleeding...i had a scan and was told the baby stopped developing at 5 weeks....i am now at 9 weeks and i am feeling nervous myself...my husband is encouraging a positive attitude even though he is terrified himself...last year was his first...it was my 3rd...current baby is my 4th pregnancy..i am very overweight...and i have just turned 40...anyway..i have had typical symptoms expecially the horrid nausea since 6 weeks which is an indicator that things are better than last year as i felt nothing like that then...i didn't feel pregnant at the time and i wanted to feel the nausea then..and now...just to reassure myself that everything was/is ok...anyway..i have yet to go for my first scan and find out what's what...but i just wanted to let you know that you are not alone...and for all of you have suffered the loss of a child...i am so sorry..my heart goes out to you - good luck xxx

p.s. my advice would be to try and keep an open and positive mind....and i know how hard that is...but do try not to dwell on it...if it happens again, you will be better prepared a little bit mentally, i think although it will still hurt naturally...i hope things work out for you and you have a healthy pregnancy...i don't know about you but this is the first time in my life where i have actually felt as though i WANTED the nausea! lol...ah well...for obvious, neurotic reasons....good luck hun xxxx

Welcome boys congratulations on your pregnancy, feel free to come here whenever you need support.

Well I am 14wks today, officially more pregnant than I got before! feeling crap and run down and wishing dps recovery would speed up as the children are being hard work!

I was brave today and put all my appointments on the calendar in pen right up to my 36wk scan.

I might get braver and write a list of what we need.

In pen, no less you are getting braver, state! Well done girl!!!

Hi ladies, I need some handholding

After work today I felt lightly crampy, and after I'd been home a while I had some brown discharge. A called midwife but her phone was off, so I called the EPU, but that was closed and was answered by a staff nurse who put me hold to find out what can be done, then came back and told me there were apparently no appointments until next Monday!!! She did tell me to try again in the morning, to see if they could fit me in.

I'm terrified, thinking the worst. My boobs are back to normal aswell.

Oh crow . I do hope that you manage to get an apt v v soon, and they are able to reassure you. Everything crossed.

If it's any consolation, my boobs went pretty much back to normal at about 8 weeks which terrified me but luckily for me all was well. At nearly 15 weeks they are growing again. Crazy body! Xx

Thanks WL if it wasn't for the brown discharge and very light cramping I wouldn't be worrying about my boobs, as they often go back to normal, then sore again!

I'm sitting on the sofa now, terrified of moving and going to the toilet and am analysing every single tummy twinge. Thinking of going to be bed and sleeping so tomorrow comes quicker and hopefully get into EPU!

I've been googling, and I'm none the wiser - 50% of it says it's normal for symptoms to go at 10 weeks as the placenta starts to take over, and as a result of that you can get some spotting. 50% of it says it leads to MC. I'm not holding out much hope to be honest, and if it is bad news, that's it - no more TTC. I can't bear the stress and the pain. I'm 40, my body obviously can't cope so I'll get a couple of pedigree cats and they'll be my babies! Ha!

Hand holding too, crowette

Waiting and the not-knowing is awful. I hope you can get through to someone helpful in the morning, keep pushing for someone to help you, maybe your midwife could talk to the right person.

X

Thank you wellies

Tummy feeling very heavy. I'm calling EPU first thing in the morning.

Hand holding crow I've had aches and cramps and then two good scans, I still get the odd ones now in the evening. After walking about etc xxx

Thanks state

Well my local EPU doesn't have any appointments until Monday, so they advised me to call another hospital which is about 30 mins away on the train (we don't have a car) and they can fit me in tomorrow at 11am.

I've called work and told them I won't be in today, will call them again to let them know I won't be in tomorrow either!

As I dozed off last night I was having mild cramps, and dreamt that I was miscarrying - awful dream!!! No more cramping today though, breasts were a little tender last night as I went to bed and I had a teeny bit more discharge after a bowel movement this morning.

Going mad knicker checking (although I actually felt the discharge leaking yesterday evening)

I'm confined to the sofa for the day, not so bad.

big hugs for you crowette xx

More big hugs, crowette. Take it easy, lots of rest now :)

I'm achey, its unerving but please don't panic, right now as I've been up and busy for a while. I also had some spotting after fooling around with dp at 8wks, poor sods been banned from coming near me since also my symptoms tailed off between 9-11wks but are back strong now, I have everything crossed for tomorrow for you xxx and rest as much as you can.

Thanks ladies xx I feel like crying

OH and I haven't had sex since the conception, firstly because I was tired, and then when I realised that was due to pregnancy it was off limits because I was worried about something like this happening and was waiting for the all clear after the scan.

OH has been lovely, although very distressed - he's at work today and has been calling me whenever he gets the chance, for updates.

Not getting any worse, but still getting the odd bit of discoloured discharge (light brown) now and then, mainly after bowel movements ... my tummy does seem to be a tad upset today too. Get mild cramps afterwards too. Roll on 11am tomorrow (but then again I'm terrified of bad news, so eeeep)