Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

[StateofConfusion]

I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Hi everyone, hope you're all doing ok and thank you for your good wishes.

Still no conclusive answers as the scan showed that the sac has doubled in size since Monday (good) but the yolk sac has disappeared (bad). So waiting until next Friday for another scan. Am preparing for the worst and if that doesn't happen, it'll be a nice surprise.

to you all for your support.

I'll keep everything crossed for you more these early scans can miss so much easily there is still hope xxx

Finally got a grip and took my first vitD, I have to suck and chew them, not awful just chalky

Thank you state, hope the vit D went down ok!

more so sorry to hear you didn't get the answer you wanted, fingers crossed for better news to come.
crow you sound just like me, if there's an easy way and a hard way, I'll always find the hard way!

I'm smarting a bit from fils comment on our news - 'haven't they thought about the cost and the work?'. Glad to hear he thinks so much of his existing grandchildren. Haven't told DH as he would be v upset, but it is common knowledge that fil is a bit odd.

state no wonder you're insurance us so high, mine is so cheap because I have a grizzled old man for a DH!

Oh WL what a daft thing for him to say! My grandad was utterly vile to me when he found out, so I politely told him goodbye and that's that, I've given up on trying with him.

Well what a fecking afternoon, we stupidly drove an 1hr to cambridge in rush hour with two children who were very fed up! The multipla we wanted was a total state and they wanted our car (valued at 1400) and £500 for it!!! Y reg with 125,000 on the clock, every pannel dented, all plastics in the car scratched, chipped or broken, wasn't happy. So were looking around, deffinatly want an ugly bug though :) would be perfect for us!

Been gagging like a good un all afternoon, starving hungry now I think a take away is on the cards and then bed!

Just so you know dp is no toy boy he is older than me :)

Oh poor you, how frustrating. Not sure if you live anywhere near London but we got our car from car giant in White city and although it's a long day, they've got lots of choices of same car and no haggling.

I'm a firm believer that age is just a number and it's all about the person inside. I tell this to DH when he worries about being an 'old' dad.
Hope you feel better soon.

What a shame your grandad couldn't be more supportive, particularly when you were so close to your grandma. You did the right thing. At least my mil seems to be pleased.

Not entirely sure how far from London we are but ill look it up, since the latest one dp is oggling is 167miles away!

I'm always anxious announcing my age on mumsnet as I assume everyones a proper grown up as I can't be as mature and articulate as anyone lol! But I feel comfortable here :)
My consultant was quite amazed this was baby number 3 but my lifes more settled than many of dps older friends so why not

Well I am 29 today and will be spending most of the day on my own as dh is working.
just another day I guess.
hope everyone else is ok xx

Happy Birthday Swansea

Here have some , , poms and non alcoholic xxxx

state everything you've said on here sounds proper, grown up and articulate enough for me! I know some great grown up people/parents more/less advanced in age, and equally some crappy ones. If other people judge you for your age, more fool them. DH laughs at me when I describe things as life stages, but honestly I think it is about what stage you as a person are at and what is right for you rather than activities/jobs/parenthood etc being age led [strokes wise old lady beard].

Happy birthday Swansea! Who doesn't love a pom bear? I would take the opportunity to ditch the chores and relax in the bath with a good book. Sometimes being on my own for my birthday is just the treat I would choose!

Heard dd1 telling her bf today that mummy has a baby in her tummy, he looked at me rather suspiciously!

Thank you WL :)

Ds told the receptionist at school cue her very diplomatically asking dp if it was true or ds was being a typical 4yo

swansea I hope you've enjoyed your day lovely.

Dd is desperate to buy the baby some "BOOTS" yes she does shout it because I corrected her to booties once I'm considering a day shopping with her next week. Tbh I need to make this real I still feel like its not really happening!

I know what you mean state, I still feel like a total fraud!

I keep looking at the scan picture and feeling weird, maybe its a self preservation thing I have no control over not getting too attached.

I've been given a lovely big mamas and papas baby bath and its sat in my room away from dd and her 'babies' the kids are so excited and had a very long discussion about helping bath wriggler. I just feel so detached from it all, like I'm an outsider looking in. Maybe shopping is what I need.

I need to feel somersaults, elbows, knees and bottoms I think before it will all be real for me

Really understand how you feel, had mc a year ago and am now 6 weeks and panicking. I flip between excited, happy and positive to terrified and convinced it's going to go wrong again! DH is very reserved and doesn't want to talk about anything yet (he's not the best at sharing feelings and was devastated with mc) so we're on this weird limbo until scan...

Also do not watch the 'What to Expect...' film!

Sorry about your mc mrsfluer but huge congrats on your pregnancy!

WL I am feeling movements every night between 10-11pm without fail! Little pop or flutters. And baby was posistioned exactly where I'm feeling things on the scan. The more I've felt the more I know I'm not imagining it, told dp how I'm feeling about everything and he was a bit um, blank faced!

hi mrs we've been there, it was a really long couple of months. Easy for me to say now but just try to remember that there is every chance that all will be fine with this pg.
I know it is hard for the chaps too, my DH certainly has found it hard, but he does forgot how it is for us analysing every twinge and all the hormones playing havoc.

state so lovely that you can feel those movements, I guess every day that goes by I'm closer to feeling stuff too.

Morning all.

The dcs kindly decided to get up earlier than ever before today, I feel sick and uncomfortable and very tired. Dp was a total arse yesterday and I don't feel too charitable towards him today so I'm most annoyed at the 6am arguement between dd and ds that woke me.

State I have been up since 6 too am so struggling to stay away and yes Dh is still in bed what a surprise!!
have started having real kicks and movement now which makes all the crap worthwhile.
Mrs I am sorry for your loss, but congrats on you pregnancy :)
hope everyone's ok this morning xx

Ment awake not away I think I am still half asleep grrr