Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Thanks WL I have been going at my own pace at work, not rushing or overdoing it, but I STILL feel like I've done 10x the work that I have. At least on checkouts I'm just sitting there and scanning stuff and the only thing that will ache will will be my throat from talking to all the customers

Good luck with today, will be thinking of you!

State sorry you're feeling crappy too, it's that low level nausea plus the tiredeness which makes it all worse, everything else I can cope with.

I thought I was craving only healthy food but yesterday was junk day! I had a cheeseburger puff for brunch, two croissants just after as I was still feeling hungry, after my nap I wasn't that hungry, but by the time OH got home I really wanted a pot noodle and a tub of Ben and Jerry's

Hi Ladies, can I join you on this thread? I've had 2 early mc's and a chemical pg in the last 2 yrs....I'm now 8+1 wks pregnant and feeling very anxious! Got my first midwife appointment on thurs and dreading my first scan. Think I'm half expecting there will be nothing there :( but I'm feeling very pregnant at the minute, Im exhausted, feeling very sick and emotional so I'm hanging onto that. Just need a bit of hand holding and some kind words :)

Hi all, can I join you please? I haven't posted for ages but am struggling a bit right now as I'm pregnant after a miscarriage 8 weeks ago (no period in between) and had a bleed on Sunday that is still petering out.

The doctor had guestimated that I was 8 weeks pregnant, based my miscarriage but the scan at the EPAU yesterday dated me at 5-6 weeks so too early to see a heartbeat (apparantly, is this true?). So now I've got an 11 day wait until I can have another scan to see if the little bean has grown and if there's a heartbeat.

I'm torturing myself with googling MMCs, implantation bleeds and all the rest of it and analysing every feeling in my belly, as I'm very gassy and questioning whether every twinge is trapped wind, ligament pain or cramps. I had a positive test yesterday morning but honestly wish I was chucking my guts up just to feel more pregnant. It is different to my miscarriage and I think I do feel pregnant but I wouldn't trust my instinct as far as I could throw it right now.

Holding hands with you all.

Woo-hoo! All good at scan, dated at 12+6, due date is now 19th dec, what a Xmas present!

Congratulations WL, just been reading the thread and I'm really pleased you've got good news after so much worry.

Yay WL!! I bet that's a real relief

I'm still waiting for my scan date to come through, I should have it just before my wedding (I'll be 13 weeks when I get married) and I'm worried that there'll be nothing there.

Welcome to morebounce and gemdrop

If you had a MC 8 weeks ago you may have just ovulated later - I had a longer cycle after my both my MCs, about 6-7 weeks I think, as it takes longer for your body to get back to 'normal'; so I'd guess 5-6 weeks pregnant would be about right :)

My OH grins whenever I complain about sore boobs, feeling sick and tired - it's a sign it's all going well!

Thank you crowette, that is reassuring and echoes what the nurse at the EPAU said. It's hard to ignore the voice in your head that says the alternative could be that foetus has stopped growing. I am my own worst enemy!

I can't imagine how stressful it must be getting ready for your wedding with this going on to. I really hope you get a positive outcome to put the icing on the cake of your big day.

Oh I know about what your head does to you! I veer from being upbeat and positive, to oh no, the baby has died but I'm still having symptoms etc etc! I try to take comfort in knowing that my last two pregnancies, which ended in MC, were different to this - I had faint lines in the tests, compared to very strong one this time, symptoms are getting stronger, and I feel more or less like I did when I was pregnant with my two DDs. But, there is till that nagging worry

I'm soooo laid back about my wedding, it's scary! I still have loads to sort out, but just don't have the energy at the moment. Luckily it's a very small scale wedding - just think a BBQ in the back garden :) It'll all be ok.

Hooray for WL!!! very pleased for you :)

Hi Ladies, I'm feeling the need for a little hand holding today. Had a m/c in November at 12+2. I'm now pregnant again and I have my scan on Saturday when I will be 11+4. I've dealt with the pregnancy so far by blocking it out but now the scan is so close I can't do that any more. I'm trying really hard to visualise the scan going well and how we can celebrate afterwards but my mind just keeps going back thinking the baby might have already stopped growing. How do I stay sane till Saturday?

Fingers crossed Sazzel, I have no experience or advice but hope it goes well for you. You have just as much chance of having a successful outcome as the next woman.

Do you have work or other stuff to keep you occupied for the next few days? I'm thinking my kitchen cupboards and other forgotton storage spaces are going to be getting a good clearout as a displacement activity for the next 11 days.

BBQ in the back garden sounds lovely crowette and well done for not being a bridezilla (from someone who so was).

Fantastic news WL your due the day before me

Welcome more and gem heartbeat is usually only detected at a scan after 7wks and even then it can be a bit tricky.

Your wedding sounds lovely crowette I'm currently trying to convince dp to postpone ours by a year, we already have, was meant to be this year but we postponed when I was pregnant last time but now ill have a 9mo and probably still breast feeding, and were planning on moving soon, its just all to much to think about and finance, we need another year I think.

I feel rough today very achey. I need my bed.

Thanks state, that makes me feel a bit more confident and helps hold off booking a private scan, which would probably be a waste of money at this stage.

I hope you have chance to put your feet up soon.

Oh God, I've had another bleed when I just had a poo (sorry TMI). Have googled and am wondering about subchorionic haemorrage (sp?) as it's immediately gone back to very light pink when I wipe (am spending a lot of time in the loo today).

Called the EPAU and the nurse says it sounds like I'm miscarrying but they really can't tell. Am going to see what happens overnight and go in tomorrow if anything else happens. God this is awful.

Congrats wl really happy for you. welcome gem, more and sazzle .

More I hope everything will work out for you, the worry is so heartbreaking. thinking of you at this difficult time.

State won't be long till yours I am sure it will go really well, hope you feel better soon too.
crow I did the low key wedding too was the best thing I ever did, I am sure it will be the best day :)

well ladies still feel like hell had an ecg and more blood taken yesterday won't get the results till Thursday tho. had to go back to bed today had an episode of palpitations which lasted 2 and a half hrs have a really bad head now too. this baby is torturing me but I don't mind really x

Oh more hope all is ok!

Well, I'm moving departments at work as from Sunday, hopefully! I'm still doing the same hours more or less, but I start later on a Sunday - 10am instead of 7am which means I get to stay up later on Saturday nights, yay!

A Facebook friend has announced her pregnancy today - I had sort of guessed with her statuses about testing on a particular day, saying 'yes yes yes' on the day and then about feeling sick. I worked out from the date she said she could test that she's due at the same time as me. She apparently had her midwife appointment today and got a scan ... I felt pangs of envy, I want a scan, I want to see my baby and know it's all ok!!

Welcome more, gem and sazzle, hand holding and supportive words are what we do here so post anytime you need a bit of either. more I really hope that you have a good night and that epu have good news for you.
crow your wedding sounds lovely, how fab to have a small on-board guest! It's so hard when friends announce a pregnancy, a colleague told me a few weeks ago and although I felt a bit mean, I decided I was not ready to share. I still don't feel hugely comfortable about telling people and didn't tell anyone at work today! I will tell people soon, but we havent told in laws yet or dds but will do so ASAP.

Swansea and state hope you're both tucked up in bed already.

Thanks for the support and sorry for crashing the thread and being so dramatic .

Back to occasional streaks of pink since the bleed so no idea what's going on. I decided not to go to the Epu today as it's my non-working day and i've no-one to leave Dd with. Plus i don't think they could tell me much more as i've definitely not lost the sac (yet). So its back to wait and see.

Hope everyone else is feeling well today.

Definatly feeling the baby move now, last night had 3 very obvious pops :)

That's brilliant, stateof! :)

How are you feeling this evening, more?

Well, today I decided to eclipse my mother's birthday and start the morning by passing out in the school yard and getting rushed to hospital by ambulance DS1's school, my sis, and my mum all took over childcare etc for me to spend the morning in A&E having tests galore and a nice few hours in bed while I was there They said it was due to being slightly anemic and low blood pressure, and because of standing for too long in the yard. Home again and being spoilt now. And no need to bake a birthday cake!!

Oh nowellies, how stressful, perhaps a nice steak and salty chips might help? Hope you're feeling better now.

Excellent news stated, it's such a lovely reassuring feeling when they jump around !

I had another tiny bleed and passed a little clot today so am not optimistic, although no cramps. Am going to call the epau tomorrow.

wellies you poor thing, hope your getting lots of rest and being pampered, take care of yourself xxx

Hope epau can see you quickly bounce don't assume game over, many pregnancys survive bleeds xx

Well I have another scan tomorrow at 9am so of course I'm worrying like a loon that I'm imagining everything and tomorrow will be the end. I want this baby soo much! X

Thanks state, I really really hope everything goes well for you tomorrow. x

Oh wellies I totally feel for you especially as I am I'm a similar boat sigh.
good luck for your scan state I won't have time to message in the morning as I am back in the gp oh joy hopefully will get some answers tomorrow cause I don't know how I am gonna cope much longer simple things like folding the washing or loading the dishwasher have become a struggle.
more I hope you are ok Xx

more it's so hard to know what to do isn't it? I have constantly swung between desperately wanting to know what was happening and ignorance being bliss.

state how wonderful to feel movements! I'm not expecting to feel anything until about 16 weeks but will be on the look (feel) out from now!

wellies poor you! Although great that you managed a bit if a rest, even if it was in a hospital bed. Just shows you need to focus on looking after yourself a bit more. It's so hard with other dcs though isn't it. We decided I would tell dds about the pg today, but I was so busy with them I completely forgot until I was tucking dd1 into bed! As expected, she was not best pleased but not distraught either.