Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

wellies I've had a couple of dry crusty pin prick spots on my nipples a few times this week. Like I used to when bfing dd. That has to be a good sign, doesn't it?

3 sleeps until my scan

stateof well done on the crusty spots I think they're definitely a good sign, especially if you've had sensitive boobs too. A sign that stuff is happening!

spring at about 7 weeks in this pregnancy I had a massive bright red bleed and thought it was all over, but my pregnancy symptoms remained and there was no pain or cramping. My little miracle is still with me, we couldn't believe it when the scan showed him/her! So hopefully you'll be the same, bleeding without pain doesn't always have a bad outcome.

Hope everyone had a good Monday. Day at a time :)

Well the symptoms aren't awful this time but they're definatly there, just looked at a jar of mayo last night and felt grossed out! And woke up today feeling sick.

2 more sleeps until scan day. Luckily my apt is 9.40 so I won't have a day of stressing first.

state yay for (understated) pg symptoms. Mine are the same really, just generally feeling very "off" as well as being starving but no appetite IYKWIM. All I can face is fruit and crisps, which makes me thirsty and gives me diarrhoea. Nice. I'm pleased you have an early morning appt for your scan... remind me is it a 12 or 20 week one, or an extra? Mine is 4 weeks on Wednesday, and also an early one, thank goodness.

wellies feeling the kicks from the outside is such a milestone. Wish DS DH and I would lie in bed with my tummy out as you could actually see him moving! It certainly provided lots of amusement for the cats!

bonzo its my '12 wk' one but according to LMP ill be 11+5.

Felt sick all day, thought it was hunger, ate still feel sick, had ice pop (my usual rescue remedy) still feel bleugh and my mouth tastes horrid, not a really sick feeling just low level and not nice!

I'm really thirsty too, but can't stand tap water so dps been getting huge packs of bottled water in aldi for me which I like but are tasting funny today :(

Good luck for your scan bonzo

The closer mines getting the more anxious I am, I feel like crying at everything and when I let it come to the front of my mind I get butterflys and feel like my heart skips a beat.

Oh, yes, that horrid mouth taste! Yuck! Sorry you're going through it but on the plus side it is definitely a good symptom (and your post has reminded me that I'm no longer suffering that one at 21 weeks!).

Mmmmmm now I have an urge for fizzy water after seeing you write about bottled water...

I'm just stupidly scared, more than I have been before, I've been googling MMC stats and percentages, only one I could find for MMC not MC in general inc CMs was 1% whereas all kinds mcs is 1 in 3! Surely that's wrong its not 1% I really hope it is, but I'm still freaking out!

Hi State I'm not too sure about the stats, but 1% sounds really encouraging :) I looked up my mc book but can't see any stats on mmc either. The Lesley Regan book says that after 1 mc your chances of a successful pg are 80%. Hope you're doing ok.

I caved and booked a doctors app for Wednesday re my lower back pain. Really do think it's muscular but just want the doc to reassure me. I think that although I mc at 7 weeks things probably started to wrong before that so am just terrified at the mo.

Fell asleep in the sun while DD's were at school & nursery. Now slightly sunburnt and have come out in prickly heat - not a pretty sight. Was encouraged that boobs were almost too sore to lie on my front. Simple pleasures :)

That's reasuring 80% is high, I wonder what the normal stats are for a sucessful pregnancy ie not factoring in anything, what percent achieve a baby.

My boobs are going from worst ever to ok.

I get excruciating back pain high up above my waist, just below my bra, every morning. I'm blaming my expanding bust and my new bed which is so comfy I don't roll over at all so I wake up stiff. I've had the exact same before.
Hope your apt goes ok xx

Hi thanks. Hope the next two days go quickly for you too.

I think with no previous mc your 95ish% likely to achieve a successful pg. You have 2 children don't you? I do too. apparently that bodes well for successful future pregnancies. x

Yes I do, an almost 5yo and 3 and a half yo. My symptoms seem worse today. I'm to scared to get my hopes up. Self preservations kicked in I think.

Some good news had a mechanic out today and he's back tomorrow to fix the car, horray, that's one less stress. Now just to get over PFB going on a school trip tomorrow and I can prepare myself for the scan

Evening ladies, I googled stats after my scan and the only one I found was 1% of mc after seeing hb at 9 weeks which is great odds but but but! After a few days of allowing myself to feel positive and that it might all be ok I'm now drifting back to the omg won't it be so awful if my next scan isn't so positive. 2 weeks tomorrow until this particular agony is over, I'm sure I'll stress until I can feel movements every day - so jealous wellies!

Weird about the water too, with both dds the only thing I really craved, was fizzy water. I used to walk to tesco everyday to get a big bottle and salivate all the way!

WL you know those stats mean that I have to get a scan on Friday, when I will be 9 weeks exactly.

Do it do it do it! It's a good omen!

i agree with WL bonzo, id have totally gone private by now had we not had car issues so many damn times.

I'm getting major butterfly's, heart skipping a beat and sick feeling every time i realise how close i am to my scan :(

in major worry mode due to intermittent symptoms. I think I will be making some calls tomorrow...

Hi there been lurking for a couple of days (since I seriously thought I may be pregnant!) and plucked up courage to say hello :)

I had a MC back at the beginning of Feb, at 7 weeks and as I said above, I'd been thinking I may be possibly pregnant again at the weekend. So I tested yesterday and it came up BFP almost straight away! I then cracked out the CB Digi which worked alot faster than previously and said 3+ weeks.

I'm very cautious though, terrified it's going to go wrong again ... but then again, I feel more optimistic as last time the pink line was rather faint, and the CB digi told me 1-2 weeks, when I was expecting 2-3/3+, and they both took a while to appear compared to yesterday's tests.

According to my dates, I'm just over 6 weeks .... I'd been putting off testing because at times my cycles had been longer, but I'm pretty sure of when I ovulated as my boobs were twinging like anything then! Anyway - lack of ETRD, nipples feeling like there are pegs clamped to them, boobs aching when taking off bra, stuffy nose and the smell of cat food being left out overnight making me gag made me wonder if I could be pregnant

I went to the doctor's surgery yesterday morning and filled in a pregnancy encounter form, got my pregnancy information pack and am now waiting for a midwife to contact me to arrange a home visit - eeeek!!

I've informed my work, as it's a physical job and I needed to cancel some 12 hour shifts I'd signed myself up for (getting married in July so need the money) as I'm not taking the risk of MC again.

OH is over the moon, and we agreed not to tell anyone until we've had the 12week scan - he met me after work and told me he'd told 9 people at his work. He's just too exited!

He has a 16 yr old daughter, and I have 2 daughters aged 12 and 18(!), we're both 40 and obviously daft

bonzo my symptoms were on off, rarely strong until 9-10wks and since then they're getting gradually stronger.

Welcome crowette so sorry for your loss but huge congrats on your BFP, nothing wrong with being daft, my sisters 17yrs younger than me, my brother 20yrs younger. And its pretty good!

We've told everyone close this time and my mum appears to have told the world!

This time tomorrow ill be on my way to my scan, I think I'm going to puke!

Thanks State! I was thinking last night, that I'll be nearly 60 when OH and I get some time to ourselves, rather than in just a few years. But it'll be so worth it. We nearly got together when we were 16, we've just skipped a few years

Good luck with your scan tomorrow, it's seeming encouraging from here :)

I've now got to go and have my bath and get ready for work, when all I feel like doing is going back to bed. I had 8 hours sleep last night, was totally zonked out when OH came to bed apparently (I'm a light sleeper usually and wake up at the slightest thing) and I'll be working at the times I've been having my afternoon cat naps (3 hours long).

Hello!

I'm just popping in and waving after lurking for a week. Got a BFP, but not ready to join properly yet after MMC in march at 13 week, then chemical last month. Maybe in a couple of weeks I'll feel less scared and believe I really am pregnant.

Hello Hetty :) Feel free to lurk for as long as you need before joining in for some handholding and support. Congrats on the BFP! Sending you lots of positive vibes!

crowette it will be just fine, my little sister was my whole world when she was born, I still adore the little loon now, I'd left home when my brother was born but he's my ds' best friend which is brilliant.

In fact its worked so well for us all were currently trying to move onto my mums road so they attend the same schools.

Welcome hetty feel free to lurk aslong as you need were here whenever you need to vent.

Well I've managed to hurt my back up high along the right hand side on the back of my ribs iyswim, its agony and standing up straight hurts like hell and makes me gag and gag until I lie down :(

On a positive my cars fixed

Now just to get through the scan

And on another positive note my nhs Epu happily scanned me today and all is still fine.

Hooray for bonzo!!!