Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

[StateofConfusion]

I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Has anyone listened to ed sheerans little bump its beautiful, about a miscariage I assume from the final sentence.

Noclue, I am so very sorry to hear your news, there are no words I know to make it better. I read your post with a sinking heart and tears for you :(.

Thank you for all of your support, it has been a great help.

I wish you luck and love for the future

Sending you lots of hugs, and I'm here if you do come back onto the thread and need to talk
x

Hi Stateof, yes I heard it the other day, such a brilliant song, such a sad song. I think it has to be about a miscarriage - so joyful and hopeful right up to the last line, it made me cry.

He must have had experience of miscarriage to capture the emotion of it so well.

x

Hi Swansea, your anaemia sounds awful, you poor thing. Have you tried spa tone? It's a mineral water that is naturally high in iron and which your body can absorb really well without upsetting your system. You can buy it from Boots - 30 sachets in a box I think, and you can either mix the sachet with orange juice or just water.

May be worth a try? The only downside is you can't get it on prescription, but Boots usually have it in their 3 for 2 promotion :o.

I think the way its positive and upbeat and then ending on "You were just a small bump unborn just four months then torn from life.
Maybe you were needed up there but we're still unaware as why." Really sums up how a miscariage is all that hope and happiness ending so abruptly and harshly!

swansea I second spa-tone its tastless in juice imo!

swansea floradix liquid is a tasty herbal supplement that contains iron. I prefer to stay off iron as it gives me terrible constipation, which then sets off my anal fissure (sorry if tmi). Floradix is fine for that. Not available at boots, but often at health food shops especially independent ones.

Swansea & Bonzo, spa-tone also avoids constipation (and black poo!).

But floradix is tasty

Am v nervous about scan tom! I keep swinging from feeling upbeat about it and thinking that the odds are good and surely 2 mmc in a row is rare, to omg, don't feel pg, it must be bad news, how am I going to cope? Got lots to do tonight so will try the keeping busy trick. Annoying DH will be at work until v v late so will have to go to bed and be anxious alone. I'm sure he's freaking out a bit too. Go ed sheeran for highlighting that men experience the pain of mc too.

Have never tried floridax .

WL I feel for you - I'm a nervous wreck already about thursday, who knows if I'll still be able to breathe by Wed eve. I think the keeping busy trick is the best. I'll keep everything crossed for you tomorrow.

I'm finding now that my entire life is on hold until Thursday, I can't plan anything or envisage doing anything past the scan, it's almost like the world is going to end on Thursday (which I sincerly hope it isn't).

I got my booking in date through the post over the weekend and it's on 1st June just after lunch when Ds's school want all the mums there to help with Jubilee celebrations. I keep wanting to phone up and rearrange it but then keep thinking what is the point as I may be phoning to cancel it all together after Thurs anyway.

And I am so cold, sore tingly boobs but still no sickness, think I'm somewhere between 6+4 and 7 weeks today. But in my head I just don't feel pregnant, at all.

Hoping for a better night tonight.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow WL we all understand how you feel, as mrscupcake said.

My duedate for my mmc was june 10th so I'm dreading getting bad news at my scan next week it will be all too much all at once.

That said I feel very pregnant, a lot of symptoms, which took a while to develop and rear there head so don't panic mrscupcake I'm 10+3 today. And my scans the 30th which seems to be so far away.

I want this TOO much!

WL, cupcake positive mental attitude. the scan was hell for me couldn't settle and was like a reckon going in couldn't even look at the screen but everything is fine.
can't take spa tone tried it with my 1st it goes straight through me, even.when I.get it iv it pushes my serum ferritin up but not my hb had to have 2 units of blood with ds1 and iv iron with ds2 b4 and after :( was kept in for a week with both.
I don't have great pregnancies :) xx

WL thinking of you tomorrow.

swansea you anaemia sounds horrific.

OMG I feel like shite today. Barely able to eat. Threw up my lunch (1 slice of dry toast). DH made me pasta with butter and salt and pepper, which I managed a couple of mouthfuls of. Felt a bit less awful for some fresh air in the park with DS, but generally feeling massively sorry for myself. Mouth keeps filling up with saliva just like I'm about to puke. I have a bit of a cough which surfaces whenever I get a tiny bit of a cold, so I'm coughing up phlegm and then gagging on it. OOooooh woe is me! But it's all good because it can only be for one reason.

Apologies for me me me post.

aw bonzo you poor thing, im having trouble eating, my mum made chicken salad wraps in an attempt to get me to eat sometjing decent and one mouthfull had me in the kitchen bin headfirst, im survivng off bottled water and sweets

my boobs are agony, my back because of boobs aches, and im shattered and horrible and grumpy!

how is everyone today? I feel a bit better. I'm a total idiot for not eating regularly. I'm sure that is making it worse. Today I had 3 Jacobs cream crackers before getting out of bed (thanks to DH) and some yoghurt and fruit and an ice lolly while DS was having lunch, as definitely feel less rotten.

Had a letter from the hospital moving my booking appointment forward to 2 weeks this Friday. Yaaaay for being seen early, big thumbs down though that I will have to take DS with as DH at work and parents on holiday.

Am pleased to report that scan went well! Saw little fellas heart beating away and all other structures were looking good too. Sonographer was lovely, was same one I saw with dd2 and with mmc. I'm 9+3 according to her measurements and little one is 27mm when mmc only got to 16mm. Fingers crossed for next 3 weeks!

I had completely convinced myself that it would be bad news and even told the sonographer that I was expecting bad news, cried on way to scan, during and after!

Still have no symptoms so will still worry for next few weeks (at least) , but for now, good news.

Hope you're all having good days and enjoying the sunshine.

Hooray for WL!!!

So pleased for you :) It's an amazing feeling, isn't it!

Now let yourself relax a bit, I'm sure you deserve it.

Thanks wellies I still can't quite believe it, I was so convinced that it was all over!

Congrats WL really happy for you

feel a bit down today am so exhausted all the time it affects everything.

Does anyone know if noclue went for her scan today hope is ok been thinking about her.

That's brilliant news WL, I'm so pleased for you :o! Did the date the sonographer gave you tie up with what you thought?

Swansea, it sounds such hard work for you, how much longer until you can have some iron by iv?

Bonzo glad to hear eating regularly is helping, I remember with Ds that helped me (trouble was I had to eat very regularly - like every ten mins!)

I am convinced that it has all gone wrong for me, I simply cannot believe that it will be good news on Thursday :(, I've planned my week so that I can have an ERPC next Wednesday, and picked up an application form for a job at Ds's school to start in September.

Thanks cupcake, yep dates were pretty much spot on. I'm still doing my best to sort of ignore it though cos if the next scan is not such good news we'll be so devastated. With the mmc an early positive scan lulled us into a false sense of security.

I sincerely hope that Thursday brings a nice surprise for you, will be thinking if you and sending positive thoughts.

Swansea so sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish, exhaustion does make everything so difficult! Not sure about noclue poor thing.

Damn real life kept me busy today.

Fantastic news WL love hearing positive stuff!

swansea I've been so exhausted this time its unreal, kept busy today and went to a country park after ds finished school until 7, and felt a lot better for the fresh air, now I want to hibernate though, shattered.

Also managed my first decent meal in weeks! Tuna pasta and salad followed by yogurt and pineapple. Feeling more human --albeit exhausted--

I'm the same mrscupcake my mum said today something about a mum of 3 and I said, I'm not, I can't let that get into my brain, I'm terrified of my scan, like I'm pregnant and that day its ending it. Iyswim.

Xxx

Wow, anyone else finding this heat unbearable?!

I've not ventured out today, but I wasn't happy in the car yesterday, I'm going through a lot of bottles of water!