Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

[StateofConfusion]

I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

Oh and soo tired! Nothing like last time, I think my bodys busy growing a baby this time

9+3wks today, 2wks1day to scan...

Feeling very uncertain today :( , I really want to be positive, but also don't want to build my hopes up too high in case it has all gone wrong again. Today I am still waiting for my nhs scan again next week to find out, and have not succumbed to spending £100 on an earlier private scan (yet).

Well done wellies for buying the carrycot!

Thank you noclue for sharing your scan dates - I do feel more positive for that, I think I was just so used to being, what would today be 7+2 that I find it hard to get my head around possibly being 5+6, and then of course I add the worry of what if nothing grows into the sac and I have an 'anembryonic' sac - thanks Dr Google for that one (my fault for looking). I hope you're feeling ok today?

Bonzo - how are you feeling today? I'm glad to hear you've been feeling sick (in the nicest possible way), it must be very reassuring.

How are you today State? Are you expecting to be 10 days less as well (than your LMP date?).

Am off to have a nap now as haven't had great sleep the past couple of nights, also I've had a few night sweats - has anyone else experienced those?

cupcake I am expecting 7-10days error from my LMP date as I've had that with both dd and ds. 2wks today until my scan.

9+5 now!

I've had weird temperature fluctuations, freezing when I go to bed then wake up feeling like a furnace! Then freezing again in the morning.

I'm struggling with dizzyness, headaches, boobache, and mild nausea.

Me too - terrible headaches that last all day but get worse and worse until I have to give up and just go to bed at 10pm. I was at the doctors this morning (not preg related) and when I mentioned it, she said to try caffeine (?)... I gave it up totally 3 weeks ago (apart from the odd bar of chocolate, obvs) so that might be the cause.) Horribly hot in bed at night (DH is still wearing a thermal top though, so not yet time to break out the summer duvet from the loft just yet!) and boobs are killing me. I'm quite nauseous too, off and on with a brain like mashed potato.

I'm taking all of the above to be positive signs. Apart from the bit about the doctor though. That's just a sign that I need to change doctors...

I'm mega clumsy too drop everything it seems.

Apparently temperature changes are all normal, be it freezing or boiling?

My mums said I seem more pregnant this time, so I'm taking that as a positive --not you look rough love-

Aaah my boobs are my biggest (litterally) issue, busting out of my bra, which is already 2 sizes bigger...

Migra-cool, cool n soothe and 4head strips are all great for headaches and totally safe xx

Midwife phoned today to book in 12 week scan, I explained about EPU scan on Monday, she said their scans are often several days out. So feeling positive again, plus boobs hurting. Going to bed feeling a bit happier tonight :-)

Yaay cupcake I don't want to raise anyones hopes falsely, but for me and two people I know who mmc, nausea was the only symptom remaining, boobs hurting vanished around the time it all went wrong unknowingly ofc, so take that as a positive. My boobs are trying to kill me this time.

Feel totally down today, I think my symptoms are subsiding and so am worried that it means pg is failing. I had apt with dr yesterday and she has referred me for an early scan but I'm sure apt won't be for a week or so.
Sorry to be so negative! Hope everyone else is doing better!

How many weeks are you WL

Try not to worry, I know that's really hard, if they can't get you in for a scan could you ask for blood tests to check HGC levels and see if its rising/falling? X

8+2/3 I think so prob about the same as it went wrong last time

When I hit 8wks, also the same time it went wrong I didn't notice symptoms as much because I was so stressed and anxious, as soon as I relaxed now a week later they're all back pretty strong.

Thanks state. Theres def a huge element of analysing how u feel/dont feel constantly which if course is a recipe for loopyitis I've been changing my mind all morning about whether to call epu for an immediate scan. At the moment I'm not going to purely because arranging childcare would be difficult and involve lies, and def don't want to take dc2 with me. If I can survive til next week logistics will be much easier and DH may even be able to come to. Tbh I'm not sure if I'd rather go alone but I know he would want to be there. I just keep telling myself that what will be will be.

I hope it's just your mind playing tricks on you - or you're further than you thought and are getting towards the end of the first trimester? Sending some positive thoughts your way x

WL I completely understand how you feel, what I do now is I tell dp, or my mum who ever I'm with when I feel sick, dizzy, boob ache, generally pregnant so when I have a worry they can say well you felt xyz earlier and then I'm reassured.

This waiting for a scan is agonising, 1wk 6days to go for mine.

Try and relax close your eyes and think positive xxxxx

Missed a huge chunk out

Basically I worry so much I manage to completely forget how I felt a few hours previously, or convince myself I imagined it x

Thanks lovely ladies.

[big hug and holds hand] WL, it could be that you are feeling that your symptoms are subsiding because you are reaching the stage where it failed last time and you are (understandably) convincing yourself the same will happen again? I know you don't want to tell lies to anyone but if you can get an early scan at EPU it would surely put your mind at rest?

I think the worry we are all feeling has to be the worse part of this, and I know when I worry I imagine all sorts of catastrophes and disasters, and I am really good at worrying - if it was an olympic sport I would be in London this summer going for gold!

If I had a magic wand, I would wave it and wish that all of us on this thread could be guaranteed a healthy pregnancy and that in a few months time we'll all be talking about our enormous bumps, varicose veins and stretch marks!!!

Sending you all a [big hug] and lots of positive thoughts

x

WL I too had a bit of lessening of symptoms around then. Needless to say, it made me think the worst too as it was also around the time of the previous mmc. Have you decided what to do about a scan, wait or push for an earlier one? Thinking of you.

Hope everyone else is ok today.

Felt a kick from the outside for the first time today! So chuffed! It was while the dentist was drilling my tooth (yuck!) so not surprised baby was lashing out so much Just one more sleep til the scan

Thanks wellies that gives me some hope. Yay for your kicks though, I never got tired of feeling the babes moving inside. I will def get an early scan early next week whether it be from the drs referral or self referral to epu. Could try for tom but logistics could be just too stressful.
I'm pretty sure of my dates, and honestly don't just think it's negative thinking but I do know that I only had mild symptoms with both dcs so not necessarily game over but I can't help thinking it may well be.

We've lost our innocence and its self preservation making us all feel this way, before a loss we'd convince ourself its ok, now we go the opposite.

wl go for a scan asap if you are worried don't think about dcs in tow or anything, I've taken mine to scans before. Just do it xxx

So true, stateof

I second taking dc with you if necessary but only if you have dh or someone else to support you, because either way it is a very emotional affair not to mention the agony and irritation of a full bladder as the waiting time for the scan inevitably goes on and on

With my first mc i took dd1 and it was pretty awful, just the 2 of us, she got freaked out by the low lighting and me being on the bed and then obviously I was upset after in front of her which was not good. If I can wait til tues I can get childcare and DH will be able to come.

U r right about the self preservation, last time I assumed it would all be ok and it wasn't so this time I will assume the worst and anything else is a bonus.

Fair enough, then, that's a pretty excellent reason for making different arrangements :(

Hugs

Sorry to be so negative. Fingers crossed for those with scans tom. X