Pregnant after a miscariage, totally terrified, reasurance and hand holding needed.

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I had a mmc in December, went for a scan at almost 14wks and there was no heartbeat, it was utterly heartbreaking.

Had an erpc and got back to ttc after christmas.

Got a BFP on friday, for 5minutes i was so happy my face hurt from smiling then fear hit me straight in the face, and I've felt uneasy since.

I'm achey/dull cramps at the bottom of my stomach/around my previous c-section scars, which i remember from being pregnant with dd, and now I've 2 scars, my youngest is 3.5yo.

However this terrifies me, I've always had horrendous nausea with pregnancy, and this time, its mild, occasional sick feeling.

I know im obsessing and reading into everything, theres no reason for this pregnancy not to be sucessful but i cant relax.

Anyone else been there who can reasure me, or even if you've not and had similar symptoms.

Thanks.

mrscupcake fingers crossed for tomorrow. seriously try the breathing and focus on being calm. Hard though I know.
wellies 20 weeks already! You lucky bunny < multiple weeks envy>

Cupcake horrah ill enjoy this cold then! Didn't get one last time despite it being winter, so that's good! Plus I cannot be this tired without my body being busy elsewhere, again different to last time.

wellies I've been having trouble reading the sky planner, goes a bit blurry! So good advice, ill check it out. Cold compress to my head works wonders for the time being.

Just got back from scan, not the news we were hoping for. There is a sac which apparently is measuring good for between 6 and 7 weeks, it is a nice shape and nothing looks amiss, but no heartbeat or foetal pole.

The sonographer said that if my dates are wrong and I'm nearer 6 than 7 weeks then it is exactly what she would expect to see and would not think anything is wrong.

So I have been booked in for another scan in 10 days to see what is or is not there then.

Dh and I both feel very deflated, but are trying to remain positive and hoping that maybe I ovulated later than we thought (my cycles are a little wobbly since the mmc) and that I'm only 6 weeks not 7 as we thought.

I'm thinking of phoning a private hospital to see if they can do something earlier than 10 days as I'm not sure I can wait that long without having a nervous breakdown :(.

I hope everyone else is having a positive day so far?

Big hugs cupcake xx Call all the local private hospitals now and take the earliest appointment. Often they have have better equipment, and even if it means a wait of an extra two days, it's still an extra bit more time to allow a heartbeat to show up. It might cost you £100 give or take but sometimes it is worth spending crazy money to know what it is going on.

Thinking of you and hand holding.

Oh cupcake! just to say my dates which I was 100% on with ds were wrong by about 10days, and all was ok after the next scan.

Mild panic here, had a peachy beige discharge last night, only one wipe and nothing since, no pain or anything so putting it down to fooling around with dp, no swi but there was contact iyswim. Still worrying though.

cupcake that's so frustrating. Fingers crossed for you. If you can wait the full 10 days it would really be better, because firstly the longer you leave it the better the chances of seeing something different and better than today. Also, the clinic you went to today will have all your measurements so will be able to do a comparison. 10 days is such a looooong time though.....

FFS! Just wrote loads and lost it !!!

Thank you all for your kind words and hugs - much appreciated.

I am alternating between complete doom and disaster, and positive thinking.

On the disaster front even if I'm 6 weeks today I should really have had a heartbeat on the tv ultrasound today (according to a private clinic I phoned, who could scan me on Wednesday for £100).

On the positive front, the ultra sensitive pg strips I have can detect HCG from 5 days after conception, so if the (very) faint BFP I got on 24th April was exactly 5 days after conception, and the bleeding I had for the few days after that was implantation bleeding then I could be just 5wks and 4 days today, in which case all is not lost at all and in 10 days time I would be 7 weeks and there could be a bean with a heartbeat in that sac.

So I need to discuss all this with Dh tonight and see what he thinks.

Thanks to you all bonzo, wellies and state for your hugs and thoughts and kind words they are much appreciated

State, easier said than done I know, but try not to panic, the cervix can be very easily irritated during pregnancy and the discharge you had may be just irritation of 'this side' iykwim of the cervix, especially if it was just a one off.

This is all such a rollercoaster.

FFS! Just wrote loads and lost it !!!

Thank you all for your kind words and hugs - much appreciated.

I am alternating between complete doom and disaster, and positive thinking.

On the disaster front even if I'm 6 weeks today I should really have had a heartbeat on the tv ultrasound today (according to a private clinic I phoned, who could scan me on Wednesday for £100).

On the positive front, the ultra sensitive pg strips I have can detect HCG from 5 days after conception, so if the (very) faint BFP I got on 24th April was exactly 5 days after conception, and the bleeding I had for the few days after that was implantation bleeding then I could be just 5wks and 4 days today, in which case all is not lost at all and in 10 days time I would be 7 weeks and there could be a bean with a heartbeat in that sac.

So I need to discuss all this with Dh tonight and see what he thinks.

Thanks to you all bonzo, wellies and state for your hugs and thoughts and kind words they are much appreciated

State, easier said than done I know, but try not to panic, the cervix can be very easily irritated during pregnancy and the discharge you had may be just irritation of 'this side' iykwim of the cervix, especially if it was just a one off.

This is all such a rollercoaster.

FFS! Just wrote loads and lost it !!!

Thank you all for your kind words and hugs - much appreciated.

I am alternating between complete doom and disaster, and positive thinking.

On the disaster front even if I'm 6 weeks today I should really have had a heartbeat on the tv ultrasound today (according to a private clinic I phoned, who could scan me on Wednesday for £100).

On the positive front, the ultra sensitive pg strips I have can detect HCG from 5 days after conception, so if the (very) faint BFP I got on 24th April was exactly 5 days after conception, and the bleeding I had for the few days after that was implantation bleeding then I could be just 5wks and 4 days today, in which case all is not lost at all and in 10 days time I would be 7 weeks and there could be a bean with a heartbeat in that sac.

So I need to discuss all this with Dh tonight and see what he thinks.

Thanks to you all bonzo, wellies and state for your hugs and thoughts and kind words they are much appreciated

State, easier said than done I know, but try not to panic, the cervix can be very easily irritated during pregnancy and the discharge you had may be just irritation of 'this side' iykwim of the cervix, especially if it was just a one off.

This is all such a rollercoaster.

FFS! Just wrote loads and lost it !!!

Thank you all for your kind words and hugs - much appreciated.

I am alternating between complete doom and disaster, and positive thinking.

On the disaster front even if I'm 6 weeks today I should really have had a heartbeat on the tv ultrasound today (according to a private clinic I phoned, who could scan me on Wednesday for £100).

On the positive front, the ultra sensitive pg strips I have can detect HCG from 5 days after conception, so if the (very) faint BFP I got on 24th April was exactly 5 days after conception, and the bleeding I had for the few days after that was implantation bleeding then I could be just 5wks and 4 days today, in which case all is not lost at all and in 10 days time I would be 7 weeks and there could be a bean with a heartbeat in that sac.

So I need to discuss all this with Dh tonight and see what he thinks.

Thanks to you all bonzo, wellies and state for your hugs and thoughts and kind words they are much appreciated

State, easier said than done I know, but try not to panic, the cervix can be very easily irritated during pregnancy and the discharge you had may be just irritation of 'this side' iykwim of the cervix, especially if it was just a one off.

This is all such a rollercoaster.

Then posted it 4 times???????????

Oh Cupcake, I'm sorry to hear that. Please don't panic though, dates can so often be out by around 10 days (mine were this time round) and if yours are, that would explain why they can't see anything yet. I think you should wait the ten days if you can... it will be hard though, I know. .

cupcake What a terrible situation and the worst thing is that only waiting will give you the answer, and waiting feels like torture. I feel for you. :(

Fingers crossed.

cupcake! You poor thing, what a horrible day for you. Everyone above seems to have summed it up, dates can be and are wrong so often, both mine were changed. The good news is that sac looks good and healthy. An interminable wait but if you are only 5 and a bit weeks, 10 days would be a good time frame. Waiting is sooooo hard though. Big hug. X

Thanks all, I hope you have all had a good day? I have decided to be positive and hope that I am ten days off and wait for the nhs scan again in ten days, of course I may well change my mind about all this by the morning!

noclue - were you ten days earlier this time than you thought? That gives me real hope, thank you. How far are you now?

x

Glad your feeling more positive for now cupcake its a rollercoaster that's for sure huh!

I am actually expecting to be 7-10 days out on this pregnancy when I'm scanned (2wks 2 days to go) I'm 9+3 now according to LMP.

How are you today, mrscupcake?

Glad u feel a bit more positive today cupcake. Glad to know I'm not the only one who changes my mind every hour day. X

Can I share something?

I've done something very daring and brave

Shall I tell you what it is?

I bought a carrycot!

Well done wellies we brought a nightlight for our bean to, it was kind of liberating.

It's a funny feeling, isn't it! But do you know what, I feel quite ok about it, not superstitious or as scared as I thought I would.

Lovely buying stuff for new babies. I'm not ready to do that but at not quite 7 weeks it's a bit early. And we've still got so much stuff from DS it seems wasteful to buy more.

OMG I feel sick. Not sure I can face cooking never mind eating! Been so tired today DS and I spent most of it either in bed or on sofa.

Aw, poor Bonzo. :( Nice that you cuddled up with ds, that has to be the best medicine. I had to cook with the kitchen window wide open during my MS weeks. The slightest smell would set me off. Yuck.

I think this carrycot is the only thing we'll need to get for baby. I think we're covered for everything else from the boys if it's a girl she will have no choice but to dress like a tomboy!

Hi all. I was in Boots today and had to avert my eyes from all the super cute baby clothes. Good for you for buying a carrycot, and the little nightlight. I hope that sends a nice positive message to the gods of baby growing!

Cupcake I went for a private scan last weekend, when I thought I was 7.5 weeks gone. I was pretty sure of my dates (not least because I do know exactly when the deed was done if you know what I mean) but the scan dated me as 6.2, which would be exactly 10 days behind what I thought I should be. We could see the sac, the fatal pole and a nice heartbeat and the sonographer said not to worry at all and that it happens all the time. It's an imperfect guess at best and the scans can be up to five days either way, with conception happening up to five days after sex, so that sort of put my mind at rest.

Hope you can stay positive. Try not to worry and take your mind off things as much as you can xx

wellies that's how I feel --and I haven't planned the nursery theme at all, oh no --

Sorry your feeling rough bonzo

noclue I have to avoid boots I love there baby stuff, dd had a gorgeous white coat that had 'just delivered' embroidered in silver on the pocket when she was born, I loved that!

Well I'm in the myboobsarekillingmeeeeee! Camp and headaches, dizzyness, hungry to mild nausea. I've got some of those forehead gel strips for the headaches and they help if anyone wants a safe option for soothing them.