Due in Oct 2012 - part 4!

[Angelico]

Back for more...!

yomping7 joining you on the small boob brigade for sure.

kyyria Not so sure of prams myself. We got a buggy given to us and may just take that to the store to find a carrier that fits in.

squid I went all over trying on tnings a size or two bigger yesterday and it was terrible. Everything was so baggy in the bottom and huge on the thighs. Went to the mat store to try things on before secondhand shopping and discovered that i'm actually a size smaller in mat clothes! There is a little bit of bunching at the top at this point, but that will change.

Baked cookies yesterday... Guess what I ate for breakfast?

Hoppy easter! [bunsmile]

I'm cooking prawns and drinking a glass of white wine!

I feel very decadent. ;)

Wahoo I'm 12 weeks today :) This is the ONLY highlight of my day. I've had an utterly shit "good" friday, boss decides that she is going to put up 4 weeks of rotas and supposedly "rotating weekend shifts", for me to find that I have been put on every sunday evening shift!!!!!! She full well knows that Sunday is the only day me and DP have together and it is the only day that I have ever requested off- now it looks like we won't be spending any time together until the baby is born. Thank god its only 28 weeks left. My only consolation.
Interestingly enough (the mother/daughter combo I mentioned in an earlier thread) the daughter at work has exactly the same days off as her partner, and they also work the exact same shifts. Fair? I think not. If I mention that I am unhappy I will then be kicked out of the "good books" and everything I do will be shit, not worth it, and not worth being at work for. And I won't get any lenience, never mind the fact that I'm pregnant.
Why do I work there I hear you ask? Because I'm too scared to go and find another job. And if i move now I'll lose all the maternity benefits that I would stand to get with the job I have now. I feel like a mug. Stuck in between a rock and a hard place. And pregnancy hormones aren't helping. [busad] my bunny ears are firmly down tonight :(
So we're going to get a takeaway for dinner, and I might just have a glass of wine, seeing as (hopefully) I have hit the 12 week mark. Hooray! Roll on scan on wednesday...
Hello to all those that have not had work today, apologies for whinging and ranting, sympathy to Yomping for also working today.. Battle through, battle through.. xxxxxxxx

squidkid your post about maternity clothes really made me laugh! I am a 12 (or should I now say 14 - have piled on nearly a stone at 13 wks) anyway I too got a bit over excited and bought maternity wear online. What looked like a size 14 was not mini and could be described as a fine accompaniment to a sack
Race. Also bought beautiful top shop top and arms way too long and the amount of room in it was frightening, am sure that eventually I might get that big, but not sure my arms are going to grow by 3 inches!!
Anyway sticking to leggings and my old 'fat' jeans for the moment!

Glad to hear good news now that people are starting to have good news from scans.

Has anyone had their nuchal scan and bloods yet? If so, if not in high risk, has anyone been offered further tests? This is my no 1 and I thought you got a second set of bloods at 16 weeks but my letter from hospital says not

Evening all [busmile] had rather a busy day at work but was still home at a reasonable 4.40pm!! So we popped round to my folks to give them their copy of scan photo & talk them through it lol I'm guessing my dad is quite pleased as it's in pride of place on the fridge for all to see!! Bless him he is so good to me/us More work again tomorrow then will have Sunday & Monday off so am very much looking forward to that.

Hope you lovely ladies have a lovely easter & get to scoff loads of chocolate for those that can stomach it!!

Yomping I am 14 weeks today also - due oct 5. Think u me & angelico are bump buddies.
Writing on DH phone so all a struggle
Jodidi I BF DS for 13 months. Started with a try it attitude but loved it later. Boobs DD returned to normal after maybe smaller but less firm. Nothing a bra couldnt solve

Re tandem feeds. A leader at my bf support group who was bf ing what looked like a little boy 3ish said she was weaning when she was expecting number 3. Apparently she tandem fed 1&2. Problem. Boobs produce LOADS for newborn. Older child likes comfort but actually very little milk. Very upset at change but hard to wean in front of newborn. She was weaning ds2 before no3 showed up

Mat clothes
I did not wear much with DS. Kept slipping down. I found Zara very low cut and were fine under the bump. Some loosish trousers I folded down at the waist. I liked empire line tops and monsoon was good. I had DS
end August and I LOVED Monsoon maxis and a shrug cardi. Clothes too big make me feel yeuch

Posting quickly to not be logged out. I love this thread and I miss when I don't see a name for a while but I get mixed up on who said what.

Orange I browsed some other threads last night. Think I'll
be taking a leaf out of your book, I sure don't need the aggro. People can be much more rude than in rl. It's like road rage

Lisbethopposite thanks for that info on tandem feeding. Everyone I seem to talk to about it either seems to think I'm mad for even considering it without seeming to have any reasons why they think it's a bad idea. Or then there's the online people who seem to think it's all wonderful and can't see why anyone wouldn't. I don't really know yet whether we'll wean first or whether we'll go for tandem feeding, as there seem to be pros and cons for both, and there's still another 6 months to make a decision, all being well.

re maternity clothes - I have mine in the size I was before falling pregnant with dd2, so actually a size smaller than I am now. The trousers should be fine as they seem to have massively stretchy elastic in them, but I am worried a bit that I might have outgrown them before I have the baby as I seem to grow giant babies (dd1 was 9lbs 7oz, dd2 was 10lbs 10oz )

I'm panicking a bit today as I've had some light spotting. It's really nothing much, but there has definitely been blood there. Obviously with it being a bank holiday weekend I can't see my gp, and the out of hours service is really busy. I don't know if I need to try the out of hours tomorrow or if I should just wait til Tuesday.

Jodidi How far along are you? I had that at ten weeks, and alot of people found the same sort of thing. Supposed to be something to do with the placenta attaching itself properly. But I also know of alot of people that had it at 6 weeks. I had it at both. As long as its not bright red, fresh, clotty, etc I don't think you need to worry... But maybe ring the midwife for some reassurance- i'm not pretending to be an expert! x

Mickey. Hmm You seem to be getting a raw deal here. Would you not say to boss ....
I am disappointed to be rota'ed for all Sundays. Perhaps you forgot this is DP days off and I have asked to be off.

See what they say. They are treating you badly. Speaking up politely will hardly incur punishment, will it?

Mickey I'm about 12 weeks I think. I'll try the midwife in the morning. I would say something about the rota too, as long as you are polite like lisbeth says you shouldn't be too badly off. Or you could cry at them? I cried at my head of department and he didn't know quite how to cope with it so gave me what I wanted. Or if all else fails call in sick one Sunday so you can have some time with dp (not that I would ever take a sicky myself, but I don't have to work rubbish hours over weekends and bank holidays)

Morning all

Had to get up to go to the loo and now wide awake so thought I'd do something useful.

Enjoyed the concert last night but a combination of people shoving past, standing room only, and 2.5hours of that has given me sore feet, sore back, sore tummy (although I think that's from all the walking we did yesterday) and an urge to develop a bump so it's bloody obvious I'm upduffed! Feel sorry for the bean though - the music was that load and thumpy that it was making my trousers shake! Dread to think how much he/she was being jiggled around in there!

Had a bit of a crap day yesterday - away for the night and stopping in a hotel. I hate the way they stick mirrors everywhere at the best of times, and I know I was overweight before getting pg anyway (so never have liked mirrors) but depressed myself at the sight of me (in triplicate from all angles) in the hotel bathroom. I'm used to wearing baggy clothes anyway, but at least I used to be able to suck my tummy in! At the momentbI just look fat(ter) and have rolls obviously sticking out even in bigger clothing that I can't "suck in" at will. I must admit

I thought I was used to "feeling fat" but can't help but think I look depressingly horrendous! DH was kind enough to reassure me that he thought I was being daft, but I know when we see his mum and dad today his mum will say "you're looking well" (code for "I thought you were on a diet - you seem to have put weight on").

Thanks for the tips on buggies etc - I do think travel systems seem overly complicated and expensive so I think I was heading towards a decent buggy and car seat.

Congrats to everyone who has had positive scans - yay!

On the parenting front I'm so determined not to make the same mistakes - my mum is an alcoholic and also has underlying mental health issues so my childhood (and even current adult life) hasn't been plain sailing. Had always threatened my mum when she was bad that if I ever had kids I wouldn't let her near them! Don't think I could actually deprive a grandparent of seeing their grandchild but there is no way I can leave her with the bean unsupervised.

Stressing a bit about childcare too as we're on our own up here (nearest family members (both sets of parents) are 150 and 250 miles away). Worrying about how much childcare will cost. Worrying about hours at work (I'm deputy practice manager for a GP surgery, no boss at the moment cos he was fired retired) so I'm currently doing 2 people's work with no extra money (or even a thank you). We currently have a management consultancy in who are trimming staff left, right and centre so reluctant to ask to drop hours on return from mat leave.

We'll work something out.
Anyway -happy Saturday people - I need to start being a bit more positive on here!

Love you all loads for your support - thank you

Kyyria my mum also has mental health issues and as a result has very limited contact with DS. I wouldn't deny DS the opportunity to know his nan and decide for himself if he wants to have her in his life but it is a challenging thing to get right. I have mental health issues too but approach it very differently to how my mum does, I do see myself making the same mistakes as her occaisonally but, I think (HOPE!), to a much lesser extent wrt to parenting, it's hard to change a whole childhood of 'programming' but it's do-able.

I am feeling so gross today. I am the biggest I've been in a long time (well duh!), my skin seems to think I am 15 again and my hair has paint in it because I've spent 3 days decorating the kitchen. I'm off to Mothercare to by a Maternity swim suit, how sexy am I?!

wantanorange I sympathise - not too bad on the spot front but my hair is.getting horrendously greasy really fast. I also look shocking as I have so much grey (I know I'm only 31 but have been going grey since I was 23!) - currently got the "salt and pepper" look as haven't dyed my hair since just before Xmas.

Have got some henna shampoo but the effect is negligible.

Am debating if I dare dye my hair once I get past 12 weeks.

Husband is a research and development chemist (develops pharmaceuticals) and works with a lot of nasty stuff and has tried to reassure me that the levels of chemicals, bodies systems for absorbtion, andlength of time on hair should have a negligible affect on the bean so may risk it.

Kyyria I am a hairdresser with almost 17 yrs experience,& have never had any untoward effects on any of my pg ladies over the years,generally colour will take beautifully & you cannot guarantee a perm as it will either take REALLY well or not at all! That said I have resisited colouring mine until now which I will do over weekend,but realistically there is very little risk as the chemicals dont penetrate the skin at all,& if there is broken skin,you shouldn't put a colour on until wound has healed. Hope this helps & if you (or any of the others) would like any advice please feel free to ask [busmile]

Well the trip to Mothercare was sort of successful. I have a swim suit but it's fairly hideous! I also got myself measured and I'm a 34B!!! That is impressive for me! Have to say the lady who measured me was very helpful.

I have been colouring my hair regularly without even thining about it! It needs doing every few weeks to maintain the blue.

I sympathise with both of you, have developed spots the likes of which my skin has not seen since puberty, and my hair greases up far too quickly now. Where is this fabled pregnancy glow?

Well, tonight is the big cake-based reveal to the in-laws! Very excited about it! Then tomorrow we do the same for my family. I'm going to be sick from too much cake by tomorrow... and today I went into Hotel Chocolat as DH has said I'll need to buy my own Easter Egg because he's working and can't get to the shops (to be fair to him, I've changed my mind about wanting an Easter Egg more times than I can remember and the last change of mind coincided with his return to work for this set of shifts). They make an Easter Egg called an Ostrich Egg. It costs stupid amounts of money. It is an obscene amount of chocolate. I bought one for myself . Simultaneously very cross with myself for being so stupid, and gleefully looking forward to eating it. I'll have to ration it A LOT though otherwise the resulting sugar rush will keep me awake for days.

Hope you are all having a lovely Easter.

Good luck with the big reveal tonight & tomorrow Yomping I'm sure everyone will love how you tell them your good news & will be thrilled for you both [busmile]

ooh YompingJo I have easter egg envy. Enjoy! And enjoy the cake revelations - sounds like a lot of fun.

I am a bit of a lurker just really interested to see you discussing tandem feeding.

I am 13wks with %234 and contemplating options re: tandem feeding as dc3 still feeding once a day. Have found adventures in tandem nursing a useful book jodidi have you seen that? By Hilary flower.

Still no closer to knowing what to do though !
I had bleed at 6weeks was very scary after 2mcs between dc2and 3 but turned out to be where dc 3 had launched himself off a chair onto my abdomen - thankfully all was well. Def call epu if you are worried.

Hope everyone doing well- will go back to lurking now Lol

Hi Bearhugs it's nice to hear someone else wondering about tandem nursing. How old is your dc3? My dd2 was 2 in March, so most people think I should have weaned by now anyway, but she's still feeding morning and night, then at naptime too when I'm not at work. I was thinking about getting adventures in tandem nursing, but haven't quite got round to ordering it yet. Dp seems to think we're going for it, as he really likes being able to offer her boobies when she's upset, shame they're not his boobies [buhmm]

I spoke to a very nice nurse from the gp on call phone line. She has arranged for my scan to be brought forward to Thursday instead of having to wait another 2 weeks. She didn't seem to think there was anything to worry about at this stage but I was told to rest (lovely, have been ordering dp and dd1 around all day to do my jobs [busmile]) and phone back if anything changed. She seemed to think it may have something to do with us having sex for the first time since I got pregnant, so that's the explanation I'm going with. I'm also feeling a bit better as I've been feeling flutterings while I've been sitting still and resting, so I'm assuming baby is still there and wriggling (either that or I'm brewing the worlds biggest fart)

Yomping I want that Easter egg!!! [buenvy] I don't think I'm getting any easter eggs, so will have to content myself with eating dd2's. She's getting loads and is only 2 so I don't want her to have too much chocolate really. Enjoy the cake reveal, it should be a lot of fun. Try to enjoy the attention too, although I know I hate too much attention all being on me.

Hi everyone, good luck with the reveal Yomping!!! Thats such a good way to do it, if only my big mouth didn't do its talking before i thought of ingenious ways to tell everyone... [bugrin]
Well I had a big cry whinge at my boss this morning (and blamed it all on pregnancy hormones, suchhh a good excuse!!!) about everything and how I felt a bit shunted aside in regards to the daughter being pregnant and felt a bit forgotten about. And she said sorry!!!!!!!! [bushock] Actually could not believe it. She said that she completely understood how I felt and I was completely right, as even she had realised that no-one at work had given me any sort of support (Including herself). An apology out of that woman is like drwing blood out of a stone... [buwink] So I feel much better. Also used that opportunity to ask about the sundays and it is only in fct for the next four weeks (one of them i'm in holiday, hooray!!! [bugrin]) So all is well and all is better. Thanks for the support everyone. You are all truly wonderful bean ovens!!!
I have a serious bump today, and only FOUR days until my scan!!!!!!!!!!
Happy Easter to you all, wishing lots of chocolate eating to all those that don't want to throw up at the sight of it