Due in Oct 2012 - part 4!

[Angelico]

Back for more...!

Apologies for the change in topic ladies, but is anyone else suffering with hot boobs?

They've been sore and tender for quite some time, but the last month or so it's mainly been the nipples (Sorry if that's TMI!). However, the heat is a new thing that's only come in over the last couple of weeks. I'm presuming it's just down to all the changes that are going on in preparation for producing milk.

Have heard that cabbage leaves are good for sore boobs - before you all laugh at me I've heard that fresh from the fridge they are lovely and cool and the leaves shape well to your boobs. Am bloody tempted to try!!

So, is it just me or could anyone else cook a full english on their chest at the moment?

31, 14+3, #1

Yes my nips are on fire too! Not in a good way. I've started using some soothing nipple cream. It's really for breastfeeding, but thought it might soothe now too.

Thanks for your advice re. SPD / pelvic pains- I'll see how it goes over the next few days. It might just be a short term injury of some sort from all the stretching going on down there.

Emmie, that sounds rough... Will happily recommend some boxsets and some good books for you depending on what sort of thing you like.

I've heard that too Kyria I remember having to get some for my friend some yrs ago when she had her first,it's worth a shot though.Also anything with aloe vera is quite cooling too especially if it's been in the fridge prior,maybe worth trying too??

Emmie that sounds really crappy,have you got a supply of good books to plough through? Nice to see you & Loopy on here too,must admit I get quite muddled with the threads & in my mind think they're beginning to blend into one!!

Heard heartbeat for first time today with MW she found it as soon as doppler was in contact with skin & it was going like the clappers!!!!

Yay guccigirl - what a lovely sound

Kyyria yay for being bump buddies!!

And yes, also here with hot nipples, felt crazy weird! The cabbage leaves are supposed to be good for mastitis as well isn't it? Not that I'm a clueless first-timer or anything

I'm so so tired...
And I'm so so behind!
I'll just lie here and read and wave feebly at you all.
Work is ok. Busy, intense, learning lots.
20 week scan next week.
Baby kicking ALL THE TIME. At least 5 times a day now. (I can't believe I started to feel movements at 16 weeks - that's pretty early for a first timer, right?)
I probably have other news...
I will catch up with you all first. xxx

19+1, mini-bump, exhausted!

Hi all.

LondonMrsS SPD is usually fairly central on the joint. Are you one of the cyclists on here? Cycling would aggravate SPD. Otherwise wear sensible shoes (were you in hi stuff?) and maybe slow your walk a little so your stride is not long. If the soreness is off to one side, or a little above or below the joint it may be soft tissue and not the joint. If it is not improving get an appointment for it to be checked out - it could become MIGHTY sore.
Off now to DVD and apple ice lolly...

Emmie you poor thing, mucho .

LMAO at you lot going round with cabbage leaves stuffed in your bras - I laughed so hard I got that ligament pain down near my pelvis and I blame this thread!

Welcome newbies, it's all a bit crazy here but it's addictive. I love the support that we have built up - thank you everybody for that, it is so so so valued and appreciated and I should say that more often.

Sympathy Emmie on the bedrest front, that blows. Worth it in the end but I bet sometimes that's not much consolation.

On the movement front, I am not feeling anything yet, I have total "feeling the bean move" envy . Mine is either very lazy (unlikely given its parentage) or protected by such a layer of fat that has been built up through 17 weeks of biscuit munching to stave off nausea (I'm trying not to now as there's no more nausea to stave off but it's become a habit) that I can't feel anything. I'm thinking that is the more likely explanation. I see the midwife tomorrow afternoon, hoping she uses a doppler just to reassure me that there's life in there as I'm getting a bit worried. It does seem to keep growing though.

Know exactly what you mean, LondonMrs, about wanting a day off. I don't want to not be pregnant at all, but sometimes I'd like to not be pregnant again just for a couple of days. To climb some rock, go for a long run, eat pate and rare steak, binge on wine and just generally be how I was. I feel sometimes that she is gone, that girl that I was, and she will never be able to come back. It makes me really sad sometimes, and that makes me feel bad as I know I'm supposed to be feeling happy about all this - and I am, honestly, but it's not quite that simple, is it?

Hope everybody is well and happy and having a nice week - so far it all seems a bit less traumatic than last week, which is good!

You may very well laugh yomping but I'm going cabbage hunting on my lunchbreak tomorrow!!!

Yomping I can totally empathise with how you're feeling about wanting your old self back for a bit and then feeling bad about not feeling deliriously happy all the time, because that's how we ought to feel, isn't it?! I think it's a long process of getting used to enormous life changes - whilst I love my life and I love my DS more than my life, I still grieve for my old life. Hey, things change, that's what life's all about, but it's not all easy is it.

I've got my Dad here for a couple of days to look after DS while our childminder's off. I'm terrified!!!!! My Dad wasn't exactly, er, hands on while I was growing up (never changed a nappy in his life).

Right, I'm off to bed!!

Evening ladies :-)

Very happy today, my 4 yr old got into his first choice primary school, and we went to look at a house. We currently own the lease on a 2 bed flat we bought from the council. We had to wait 5 yrs before we could sell, then we had to offer the council first refusal to buy it back. They have said they are interested, we just have to wait until the end of the week for their valuation.

Pregnancy-wise, can anyone tell me when they first felt/feel flutters with baby no 2? I'm convinced I felt them this afternoon, but surely 13+3 is way too early??? Just kind of feels like how I remember it feeling with my first if that makes any sense?? Lol, being preg even messes up your ability to write it seems!

Yomping - lol at the moving car :) thought about it when I was in a car park with DP today and almost made notes about where we left ours just in case .

ChrissieJA - glad you're feeling better, nice to see you back!

Emmie - poor you on best rest. I have no experience of cervical stitches or problems but sounds like you've been through a lot! I do have experience of several large fibroids as Midgetm said. They certainly can be painful and can make pregnancy more painful and uncomfortable. You don't need to rest for them per se but clearly you do for your stitches. It depends on their location as to how much they hurt. I have one that used to press on my bowel and give me pain down my right leg. As the uterus moves and grows you may find that the fibroid also moves. Is it inside your uterus or in an outside wall? You're almost exactly the same dates as me (I'm 17+3 or 4 - can never keep track). Are you bigger than you feel you should be? Mine are making me huge low down (I looked pregnant before I was) and currently the bowel one seems to be getting worse after initially getting better and I've been told the other one may obstruct the baby when I'm full term but it depends if it moves upwards with the uterus. londonlivvy - there's nothing that can be done about fibroids if you're pregnant. it's a 'keep a close eye' situation. The worse that can happen is that they disintegrate (causes massive pain but then they're gone) or obstruct the birth canal - other than that they're just a bulky, uncomfortable inconvenience. I'm 50/50 whether mine will go on to obstruct the birth canal and if so (they'll scan position nearer birth) I'll be for elective caesarean. Totally depends where they are situated. Anyway, much empathy your way Emmie that's lot to deal with. I hope you find some distraction to make your 'bed exile' a bit less boring :).

Midgetm - I'm like you re bras - still in underwires - I've worn nothing else since I grew to a DD cup at 18 (now rocking a 'J') and can't imagine a wireless providing enough support for my giant head-sized great danes (can't call them puppies :-). Don't want to be a 'knee-swinger' by the time I'm done breast-feeding so not sure what I'll end up doing...

Had a v hormonal day today. Despite being 2nd trimester still seem to swing into odd days of 1st trim-like hormones with pimples springing, super-fatigue and inappropriate crying. Think it's mostly when I haven't had enough sleep. And yes Emmie - am also having nightmares nightly - usually in the early morning after my first 'wake up to pee' . In one of them I forgot to feed my baby and it dehydrated and died . Generally not good & I'll be happy if they disappear soon.

On the skin front, thought I'd share that I have been trying Dr Hauschka stuff, and it has already made a difference. You do have to take out a second mortgage to buy the full size products, but they have trial kits for £17.95 in John Lewis - I got the one for oily/impure skin, have been using it since Saturday and not a single new spot since then. Very impressed. It's all a bit wacky with its "press and roll, don't scrub" and its "add the oil to your sink of warm water for a warm compress", but sod it, it seems to be working, I'm a convert.

Kyyria, oh, I'm laughing ! With some sympathy thrown in for the hot boobs though.

Dame, hope the dad situation goes OK. Mine was also hands off and it has taken him a while to get used to the idea that he is going to be a grandfather, I think it has made him feel old before he was ready for it. He's over 60!

CWest, great news re house, hope it all goes through OK.

I have woken up completely freaked out! I'm 18+2 and I hardly feel anything and my scan isn't for another 2 weeks :( I can't go and bother the midwives again, so trying to decide whether to get a private scan in the meantime.

Don't worry milk.. keep cool... I have had similar feelings but have forced myself to think logically and rationally and note that there have been no adverse symptoms (pain, bleeding) and all is surely fine.. I am only 14 + 6 but on the look out for any signs of movement or growth on the bump (none at all)..
xx

Liege07, the problem is my hormones are making me act a little crazy :(

hmmm tell me about it hormones are out of control for all of us I think.. I always try to keep in mind that "it will pass" and it's already a good start if you know it is the hormones controlling you.. it is when you think everything is down to you/DH/dog/environment then things get mental... I would try to sleep on it and see how you feel in the morning. Give yourself a deadline for the decision about the private scan and take it from there.. but in the meantime try to occupy yourself with something else (a treat maybe?).. good luck!

Morning all.
Emmie much sympathy at being confined to bed, can you take up knitting or suduko to keep from going stir-crazy?
I'm definitely with you ladies on the baby-brain thing. It's embarrassing how I keep getting stuck in the middle of sentences and forgetting things. I'm not usually a scatterbrain but now even writing lists doesn't help as I forget what the list is about then leave it behind! Haven't lost the car yet but did set out to go home without going to get my bike this week ...
midget I'm still in underwired bra but now worrying I shouldn't be. Been putting off getting re-fitted as had such bad experience when getting fitted before wedding, including 'your breasts just don't fit our bras' type comment . Any suggestions of where to try? Am rubbish with bra shopping at best of times.
Kyrria I've not had the hot boob feeling as such, but go through phases of intensely painful boobs and most especially nips, and [TMI warning] they keep going really flaky despite twice-daily moisturising.
Milk try not to panic, I've had days feeling exactly the same even though I've now definitely got less waist than before (at 17+1) and some trousers don't do up (still not sure I can call it an actual bump though, more general expansion). Haven't felt the baby move yet, and hormones are definitely scrambling my reactions. Cried this morning at work when someone pointed out a pigeon nesting on the roof!

Hope everyone stays dry and happy today.

Thank you Liege07 and MrsConfusion :)

I have so many things to do I can't believe I have time to even be thinking about this- plus I have started to research double prams [grins] (When DC2 comes along, DS will only be 18 months).

milk I have movements and I am still demented. Pay for a scan and put your mind at rest. Or pester the midwife for a listen of the heartbeat.

Mrsconfusion pigeons? Nesting? Pass the tissues. I cried because next door laid down rat poison and I worried about their babies dying. Despite the fact that it's a huge nest that is probably going to come in our house if it is not dealt with.

Ok so today I feel like utter crap. Worse than I have done all pregnancy. Exhausted and hurled the entire contents of my stomach up this morning. This is the first time I have actually been sick. 2nd trimester honeymoon my arse. So emmie you have a bed friend as I can't move. Has this happened to anyone else? I wasn't sick at all first tri. I did feel sick but never vomitted. Does t seem to be a bug. Bloody annoying.

Don't know if I should try eating again or not. Any advice from you ladies whO have dealt with this all the way through (I salute you because I can't imagine feeling this wretched for 12 weeks).

Someone pass me my sodding 2nd trimester glow please!

Midgetm- I don't have that 2nd trimester glow either :( I just look like a zombie- paper white and exhausted :(

miget It comes and goes with me, I was more or less fine all first trimester but looking back I think I sort of buried it under all the other hassle (had major work troubles, Mum had an operation and we got married) after the wedding I was exhausted and haven't quite recovered.. I have been sick once but didn't really feel sick before - just had to rush to the bathroom.. afterwards felt alright but a bit fragile and spent afternoon eating 'safe' food like bread... I would say I am still from feeling any second trimester glow though... but I live in hope.. Can't wait for the movements.. :)

milk well done with double buggy research my poor DH is on the hunt for a creche today.. you have to be super organised here and book in before the baby is even born, the one he called today is full until end of 2014! mental!

Hi midgetm I've not been posting for a good few days as I am being completely worn down by MS. Have had it since week 7 and am coming up for week 15. I have ended up using up lots of annual leave as I just can't deal with sitting at a desk for long feeling this awful.

Can't do anything social, and have no enjoyment of food or drink as everything makes me feel queezie, and I'm at risk of throwing up at any moment. Feel like I have become some kind of house troll. Have lost a couple of KGs, although seem to be able to eat just enough to keep weight stable now.

I've found the only thing that really helps is eating bland carb based food little and often, keeping the fluids up and resting as much as possible.

I hope you start to feel better soon xxx

Please someone...give us our bloom :)

Liege07- do people call up the crèches as soon as they POAS?!?

Sedgers- I still have MS and I am 18+2 :(

Milk, that's grim, poor you. Mine shows no sign of going, so think i might end up joining you :(