Due in Oct 2012 - part 4!

[Angelico]

Back for more...!

So glad everyone's into 2nd trimester now, definitely time for party but may be more & than for me at least - even smell still makes me heave .

My 20 week scan is at 8.45am (!!!) on 23rd May, definitely counting down... No movements yet I don't think, really can't wait to feel the baby.

Had brief moment on the way home when sun shone, birds sang and I started to feel like I might finally emerge from the pregnancy brain-fog... didn't last long but was a lovely feeling.

Good luck for all those shopping, still too cowardly to try but may need to soon as I'm running out of loose trousers.

So glad for you CWest it's a massive relief isn't it? Bring on the 20 weekers!!!
I would just like to ask if anyone has baby brain? I'm sure I read something somewhere saying that scientists had looked into it and it's all a myth, but I've got it BAD!!! Left my bag at Church after a PE lesson on Monday - didn't realise til 5pm and had to run down there in a panic thinking it would've been stolen. It wasn't. Am having to do the most menial of tasks - cutting out strips of paper for eg - a million times before them right. And today I shoplifted from Waitrose because I was carrying a magazine under my arm and hadn't given it to the cashier... I realised, thank God, but it was MORTIFYING!!! So I think Science is wrong and there IS such a thing as baby brain. Anyone else? (please say yes)

Also, Zara how RUDE! I'm not gonna take kindly to people saying things like that to me. Dreading it!

nenehoo yes - just look at my earlier post

Yes to the baby brain. I just ordered a gift online for someone and put in my own address for delivery instead of theirs - have had to write an email to the vendor in the hope that they'll catch it before they despatch!

So glad we're all through the 12 week scan, My 20 week one is 28th May...seems ages away! Really glad that I invested in a doppler, it's so lovely to be able to hear the heartbeat when I want and DH loves it aswell.

Went swimming this morning - in my new boden maternity swim suit...felt much less self conscious than I had been in my bikini!

I don't have baby brain but I do have a self-moving car. I lost it in a multi-storey on Sunday and had to press the "help me, I'm a f**ckwit" button and talk to the man on the other end. Turned out the car had moved to the other side of the car park while I was shopping . It was on the "stairs down to the shops" side when I left it, but when I looked there for it after shopping, it wasn't there. The man on the end of the buzzer said to look the other side of the car park. What a dumb idea. I did it anyway, and there it was, looking smug. Never trust a Honda. I mean, it's surely not possible that I forgot that I had walked across an entire car park to get down to the shops. Is it?

And words keep leaving my head. Daily, at the moment. I get half way through a sentence and the word I need has completely left my brain. Gah. The words and the car have some childish Hide & Seek game going on, it's the only explanation.

Went swimming tonight - turns out the baby isn't keen on the butterfly stroke. Fussy baby, restricting everything. Have temporarily mislaid my diary but think my 19-20 week scan is in my 21st week (thanks, local hospital, this is why I want a homebirth ) which will make it around the end of May.

I'm grumpy tonight, and I'm off to bed. Best place for me.

Hi ladies- glad to see we are all doing OK and congrats Cwest on your scan, now we're not the same :( Squid how was your first couple of days back at work? Hope it was a little better; have been thinking of you.

Well I've come into the second trimester with a huge bump, and a fresh batch of hormones. I break down every time the word "baby" is mentioned. I break down when someone is nice to me. I break down when I am given something. I want to stop crying- it's ridiculous!!!!!!!!!!
My mum is selling all her old jewellery including her wedding rings.. which orignally she had given to me, but I don't want them and we've both agreed that as my dear father has done nothing for me since the day I was born, he could at least do something for my child- so she's buying me a nice new pram with the money raised from it! Aww for nice Mummies.
My Grandma has also thrown me an absolute lifeline, and has offered us a house to live in until we get our own place sorted- currently living with FIL and BIL's, waiting for planning permission to convert the cart shed (living on old dairy farm). I love my DP's family to bits don't get me wrong, but it's hard work living in one room and we really, really, really need some space. We live in the bedroom and theres not enough room for the dog, let alone a baby. On cue, I broke down crying when she told me we could live there, and am happy to say that DP is up for it (anything to keep me happy and his testicles intact ) So hooray for September and being able to then have our own little bit of place. YAY!

Zara I feel your pain- I have a serious bump for being nearly 13 weeks, and someone I saw on Friday just said "Wow, you're going to be massive!". Like so many of you (and thankgod Gucci mentioned it, I thought I was the only one) I have been seriously struggling with getting bigger, and the total amount of uncontrol that I no longer have on my body and it's bloody horrible!!! So was not very impressed when she said this to me. Did not help that DP's ex happened to be behind me at the time and is such a cow!!!

Kyyria Hahahahahaha, that made me chuckle so much!!!!

Glad to hear you are all so well, sympathies to Angelico on the polyp thing.. I'm ashamed to say I don't know what it is but I hope it's ok and not too serious.

Lots of love bean ovens x

Oh and someone please help me with maternity bras. I can't find anywhere that sell fairly nice looking, fairly reasonably priced maternity bras that are bigger than a 34D!!!!!!
Now time for "Spot the Beginner", what am I even looking for in a bra? Why shouldn't we wear underwired bras? and do I need to buy a maternity bra or can I get away with buying a normal non-wired bra. Please help me :( !!

And Yomping my words are also playing hide and seek, today I answered the phone where I work and I couldn't remember who I worked for. I have a nice little rythm to answering the phone at work... "Good morning, (name of business- won't enter here), Michaela speaking, how can I help"- or something to that effect. But no- this time it was "Good afternoon... er... er... (In head going OH MY GOD WHERE DO I WORK).. Michaela speaking.. err ..err.." Thank god it was my manager is all I can say!!!

21, 12+5 bump going on 25 weeks, DC1!

And I also seem to be mixing my age up quite often.. I'm not 21 until july

Mickey I just spent the past 10 mins hunting for you on the interwebs (also because I wanted to find it myself) - THIS is the most comfortable bra I have ever worn in my life. Relief for sore tender boobs!!! A work colleague gave me her old one, and I wore it 4 days straight because it is SO. DAMN. COMFY.

Apparently it's good for when you're nursing cos it's microfibre/stretchy - but the support is still nice and firm!

www.amazon.com/Medela-Comfort-Nursing-Bra/dp/B0008MFDEI

www.medelabreastfeedingus.com/products/461/comfort-maternity-nursing-bra-white

You might have to do some hunting on the interwebs to find an UK/closer internet retailer.

I am also wearing at the moment a Triumph underwired moulded cup t-shirt bra (non-maternity) in a large size that got fitted for me about a month ago. It's quite comfy. I will be going to M&S or Debenhams on the weekend to get fitted and will buy one or two more. Probably not underwire because it is a bit tender on the aul titties. My poor sore (.)(.) There is some hoohah about not wearing underwired bras I think but nobody in a bra shop has mentioned it to me.

Errr... oh yeah Kyyria just saw it after scrollong backwards and forwards 3 times to about page 24 looking for it
mickey I went and got measured at Bravissimo - have been going there for a few years as they were the only shop to sell my bra size - they're brilliant. The girl recommended I just go up a back and cup size and to get a lacey, stretchy cup so it gives more room for expansion and therefore saves money. And it's pretty! here But don't like the shape it gives - they were round before - now more... triangular! And you CAN have underwire - as long as you keep an eye on it and don't let it start digging in. The wire should sit flat against your body. Lecture over!

Mickey, I was told (and have also read) that the wire in an underwired bra can dig into the milk ducts, even if you can't feel it (as my bras were all still comfy, just a little too small). See here: www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/isitsafeto/underwirebraexpert/

So, you can go for a normal non-wired bra. Not much choice here unless you want plain white or T-shit style - beware with T-shirt style, they seem to come up bigger - so I was a 34C, am now 36D in non-wired unless it's a non-wired T-shirt bra in which case I have to drop a cup size to 36C and even that seems a bit big - best bet (wish I could actually learn this) is to try them on before you buy.

Apparently there are maternity bras too, which as far as I can work out, are non-wired, have wider straps and padding

You can also look at nursing bras - lots of places seem to get maternity bras and nursing bras muddled up, including M&S. Nursing bras are the ones where the cups are hooked to the straps and can be dropped for cheeky flashing of DH breast feeding. There is much more choice here and some really nice, lacy numbers, but it's worth waiting to buy some of these as you might go up another cup size yet, and they are more expensive. They're not necessary if you don't plan to breast feed.

Wow, look how much I never knew about bras! Oh, and congrats on the house situation, must be a huge relief!

Still in a terrible mood, slept badly - pity my class today

Hi girls

I'm also another October lurker but have decided to finally show my face after seeing what fabulous advice you give!! Hope you don't mind me joining you at this late stage?

35, 14+3 (EDD 28 October), #dc1

Thanks girls, you're stars!

Have a better day Yomping
Greetings LoopyLa :)

Morning morning. Just woke up after horrific nightmares. Anyone else experiencing these? It seems to be every night at the moment (perhaps it wasn't sensible to watch Crimewatch)

I haven't got much news my end. I'm stuck in bed as ive been put on bed rest. It's so boring I'm going out of my mind. Has anyone else experienced fibroids or a cervical stitch?

Have a lovely day! X.

Hi LoopyLa - we're bump buddies as I'm also due 28th October

31, 14+3, #1

Emmie poor you on bed rest. sounds dull. I've not had a cervical stitch though this may have to happen (have cervical scan in two weeks' time). I'm confused though because I thought cervical stitch helped to ensure that all would be good and safe and therefore you wouldn't have to have bedrest?

hello ladies and baby ovens.... i havent been on here for weeks. I feel i have emerged from a stinky ill cloud.... finally after 18 weeks i am starting to feel better. its a revelation.
i have been feeling my baby wriggle.... its quite a wriggler and seems to react to noise- mainly music and my boyfriends voice. its quite a weird feeling but also quite comforting.
we have our 20week scan on the 15th.... not long. i cant wait!
interesting to get ideas on bras. i bought some about 6 weeks ago and they now no longer feel comfy, i must have grown even more. i had tiny size A boobies before....now i am a D! and my bump is getting truly massive. i feel like a whale!! :)

Morning all,
I'm having my first down day. Just fed up of feeling... pregnant, and could really do with just a day off. First trimester was yucky when I was sicky all the time, but I could see an end in sight for that. But now all the little niggles I'm getting are just getting me down and I assume they'll all get worse before they get better. I think I've developed SPD (I've got a sharp pain on and off just to the side of my pubic bone). Does anyone have any advice for this?
I'm 14+5 with #1.

Emmie Blimey that does sound rather appealing dull. How long for? Fjordmor also has fibroids and rather a lot of them so she may be able to pop on for some empathy. Is the stitch related to the fibroids or for something else? Anyway half feel sorry for you and half envious as I am shattered today and yet another late night looms (more football). My nightmares and sex dreams seem to have passed. I miss the sex dreams but not the nightmares.

Welcome LoopyLa you are very very welcome.

Mickey I told my team yesterday and they were really happy for me - cue crying. My husband left a bottle of perfume under my pillow with a lovely note, cue crying. I am like some kind of leaky sieve. Great news about the house though - your family sounds lovely.

Yomping chuckling at your self moving car - how very dare it? I had a meeting I was supposed to be chairing and I just spent it staring at everyone. Totally lost for words/motivation and inspiration. Not good at all.

On the bra front - I am still in under wire and although uncomfy I can't quite bear to throw myself over to the triangular tit syndrome just yet - just keeping an eye on the fit. I do intend to go and get fitted but still managing to cope in my various sizes I have from previous pregnancy so will eek it out as long as they can as I know they will keep on getting bigger.

On the movements - I was feeling them really early on this time (I understand this is a combo of having a slack charming uterus from being pregnant so many times and being slight. Any way like Fjord says they seem to have eased off as my uterus goes north and I want them back - I love them! Still irregular ones but not as many as before.

Better go working at home and have a lot to get through - all I want to do is nap. My energy still not returned yet, wish it would bastard well hurry up.

LondonMrsS sorry you are feeling shit - if you think you have SPD I would call your midwife and get some advice - dont suffer in silence as it can be quite nasty. Sorry have no personal experience. Later in the third trimester with DD i had some skeletal/muscular issues and they were really quick to refer me for physio etc and I had to wear a big tubigrip on my bump so I am sure there is something they can do for you. Sorry I can't offer better advice. x

PS also on the loosing control of your body front - I also hate it - love it when obviously pregnant but currently just feel BLEURGH.

Just popping in quickly as I saw LondonMrsS you might have pelvic girdle pain. I had that with DS and my advice would be to go to your midwife/GP as early as possible to get treatment. I'd recommend osteopathy personally but I'm sure physio helps too - perhaps the combo is ideal. Mine didn't go away after the birth which is rare but does happen - possibly because I didn't get anything done about it, just hoped it would go away by itself.

You'll get advice like sitting down to put trousers/pants/shoes/socks on, so your pelvis isn't put under strain, and getting into cars by sitting down then swivelling your legs in, iyswim. But I think treatment is the best.

LondonLivvy - I'm not sure about everyone who has cervical stitches, but here's my situation...

Even though im only 28 I have had two bouts of cervical cancer. This means that there is basically no cervix left and it was already opening at 13 weeks! (I'm 17 + 2 now)

I had a miscarridge last year, they believe it happened because my cervix gave way.

So the obsetrician has said the following:

The stitch will hold it together and make sure baby doesnt make an early appearance but that I need to be really careful.

This means not standing for longer than 60 mins per day. No lifting, exercising (including swimming :((( ) or basically doing anything remotely normal. There's no pain from the stitch so that's a HUGE bonus.

However, I have a rather large fibroid that IS causing me to be in absolute agony. It was only diagnosed a week or so ago. They've said rest for that too...

Soooo that's all my ailments! Sorry to offload them all here!

I imagine the thought of bed rest is appealing, but I cant get anything done and it is SOO dull. Especially the thought of doing in for 5 more months!

emmie blimey 5 months, no longer envious in the slightest. A couple of days would be nice but 5 months is a different kettle of fish. Sounds like you've had a long and rocky road to get here, I hope that bean knows how wanted it is already. Chucking a fibroid in is just adding insult to injury, you need a hell of a lot of box sets to get through. X

Emmie I'll admit I was with Midget initially, wishing for a couple of days in bed and feeling jealous. I'm not feeling jealous at all any more! that sounds interminably dull.

I too had a cervical cancer op (though only CIN III and only one operation) 7 years ago and they chopped some out but not sure how much - will find out in two weeks' time. I'm glad they've managed to contain yours for the sake of bean but sounds like you're going to have to do quite a bit of delegating over the next 5 months. Thank you for the reassurance that stitches don't hurt - I do appreciate that!

I'm sorry to hear you have a painful fibroid - can that be fixed? Or is it a "tough luck" type of diagnosis (my oh my there is a lot of fun to be had in pregnancy, isn't there?).

If you need some DVDs or books, let us know - I feel sure amongst us we could sort you out!