Due in Oct 2012 - part 4!

[Angelico]

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Guffawing merrily at you lot feeling "old". I'm 36, will be 37 by EDD, Lisbeths is 41 (I think), there are others of a similar age too. I'll be in my 30s for my second. Ignore silly people, it's all fine. Although I did go a bit weak at the knees at a comment from an acquaintance (who doesn't know I'm pg) whos sister and small children came to stay: "so relieved they've gone, having babies around was lovely 10 years ago but so much harder now. I'm glad I had mine when I did, can't imagine what it would be like now I'm older and get tired more easily". She's 34!

TFI Friday, for me. Hard week. Ankle better though, thanks whoever asked, and lovely anniversary meal with DH on Tuesday. No news from blood tests yet, which I can only assume is good news. No bids on bike (hurray) but 12 watchers (boo).

Have a good day everyone, and LondonLivvy, good luck xx

Good luck today londonlivvy - I can understand how on edge you feel...I was the same on Monday x

31, 12+5, #1

Lordy I had better never go to the cinema near you, velo. I have a bladder the size of a thimble!

Thanks for all the scan wishes. Am sick with nerves. Been awake since six. Currently 12+3 (according to last date of period etc) so should still be in the right bracket for tests.

Eek. Off to go and drink lots of water and panic a bit more.

Hope scan goes well Livvy - I'm sure it will be great! :o

Off for anomaly blood tests here shortly... Catch you later ladies, have a great day!

Does anyone know which member is the last to have their 12 week scan? I can't wait to celebrate us all being in the 2nd trimester

Morning all. Haven't posted an update in a while - had my 16 week midwife appt yesterday and all was well. She looked for the heart beat and I have to say the relief when she found it was immense!!!

I think (as does OH) that I am def looking pregnant and the belly now bump is 2 inches bigger than before but I think because I lost weight during the 1st tri I probably don't look that big. Have our anniversary party tomorrow so will get the consensus then lol.

16 + 1 today, 3 weeks and 3 days till my next scan - bring it on :)

O PS. Has anyone else been advised to take Vit D? My midwife suggested it yesterday as we are (surprisingly lol) not getting enough sun in the UK.

Hi all. I have my "12 week" scan next Friday, at 13+5 because i'm on holiday this week. Nervous about it - we had an early reassurance scan a few weeks ago because of missed miscarriage last year.

I feel rotten, feeling sick every day, been sick a few times over last few weeks, dreading going back to work next week. Feeling pretty low aT the mo.

12+5, 26, #1

SimplySoo Sorry to hear you're still feeling so crappy all the time. I'm over the worst, but still get really nauseous if I go more than 90 minutes without taking in some calories- even if just a sugary drink or a cup of tea with sugar in, so make sure you try not to let your blood sugar get too low. Does your work know yet?
Make sure you put yourself and your little one first- if you need to take a day off, make sure you take it. If you need to arrive late, or go out to get food at strange times- make sure you do, and don't feel guilty about it. It will get better.

Morning!! (just) good luck with your scan today Livvy I'm sure all will bw well :)

Nice to see general positiveness from everyone,not much to report from me,off to work in a minute & DP is off to Malaga first thing tomorrow morning til Tues with 21 other men!! (Yikes) So we've just been out for breakfast to satisfy my need for food as I was staring to inhale everything in the cupboards lol so will take fruit to work for the frest of the afternoon :)

Will check in later to see how scans & appointments have gone today,happy Friday all!! :)

Thanks everyone for the lovely good wishes. Having cycled all the way there (8 miles) with a bursting bladder I was slightly miffed to be told that I could go for a pee as this particular sonographer had been trained on empty bladders! We then had an admin fail as I only had £1.50 and he had no coins. So I sent him (sorry, asked him nicely to go) off to Costa to come back with the £3 required for the pics.

Anyway, I'm delighted to say that there IS indeed a baby in there and that (as far as can be told) it's all fine. Both DF and I had tears in eyes and I was reduced to speechlessness (this is NEVER happens) whilst DF was asking all sorts of intelligent questions about where is x and y and can we see this etc. The dates I had (30th Oct) is slightly wrong and new DD is 1st Nov but I'll hang on here with you guys if that's ok?

The NT measurement was 1.3 but this hospital does combined screening so they took blood and apparently if I don't get a call by Wednesday then that means all's well. I'll get a letter by the end of next week with the full risk analysis bit. So a bit more crossing fingers before we tell work but looking good.

Phew. Can I go back to bed now?

Oh and I'm "old" too at 36, but will be 37 by EDD. Sure, energy wise it might have been better to have had kids in late twenties but I hadn't met DF then! My midwife guffawed when I said I thought I was old for having a first baby "we get plenty in early forties so I wouldn't worry!" she said.

36, 12+1, #1

Hi all,
Nothing much to report - I'm between scans, 12 wks done and 20 wks is a few weeks off. Pretty tired like lots of people on here, I had been using leave but now it's all gone so I'm pacing myself at work - luckily I can do that. DH is very supportive t home (he was up last night with DS 4 times! teeth).

There were some posters on here a few weeks back whose partners were less than thrilled at the new beans - how have things worked out for you?
As mine was an assisted conception after many failed attempts I see every bean as a miracle . I hope they have come round the partners not the beans.

I'm off today too London and thought of changing the sheets but I think I'll copy you. Aren't scans GREAT!! Congrats.

Oh yes when 30 something is old, I think I'll start lying about my age.

Oh and btw (bit of over-anxiousness going on here), what are the odds of a low NF score and ending up high risk? Ie how often does the blood reveal something that the NF doesn't?

Sorry... not a naturally patient person and a week seems like a long time!

liesbeth sadly I had to go into work but currently dreaming of my bed!

Hi Londonlivvy, yey for your scan! The bloods taken are tested for hcg levels and PAPP-A (some protein released by the placenta www.mountsinai.on.ca/care/placenta-clinic/placental-testing). A baby with a risk of downs has a very high level of hcg and a low level of papp-a (relative to the average). This is combined with the measurement, you age and possibly the presence or lack thereof of a nasal bone to give an overall risk probability.www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/antenatalhealth/scans/nuchalscan/
When my sonographer did my measurement, she said 'That's 1mm, so you'll definitely be low risk'- and she obviously didn't have my blood results at that stage, they didn't come through until yesterday, so it's certainly reassuring- I would think she would have been cautious if it could still have come back as very high risk.
Enjoy your day off, ladies! Grim weather today again in London.

Thanks LondonMrsS that does sound like I can be cautiously optimistic then!

In a way I'm rather enjoying the secrecy of this state of preg - don't have my family, in particular, telling me what I'm doing wrong or what I should be doing all the time (which otherwise I'm certain would be the case).

Thank you, LondonMrsS - haven't told work yet which rather adds to my stress, I don't think they're going to react well. I'm going to tell them the week after the dating scan though, just to give myself some protection ifI need some time off just as you suggest!

I've been rather quiet on this thread but i'm enjoying reading everyone's updates, it's reassuring.

Hey peeps, it's so lovely and sunny here after frosty ground this morning, bizarre weather for Ireland land of torrential rain. :o

Ginger glad everything went well with your scan :) Very interested in the Vit D thing too - I had stopped taking my vitamin / folic acid but going to start again as midwife this morning said it was fine taking them all the way through. Meant to ask her about Vit D but forgot because of the giant needle in my arm (triple test :o).

Soo sorry to hear you are still being sick - that sucks. Don't know how you ladies are still going to be honest! At least you'll probably find it an encouraging sign while you wait for scan :)

Gucci you are right, the board is a happy place today :) Enjoy the quiet with DP away with the lads... :o

Livvy so pleased your scan went well and kudos on the cycling with massive bladder thing! It's a great feeling - seeing the scan that is, NOT the bladder thing! I'd my bloods done today too, had to be sent off to England so who knows when they'll be back.

Heading out to a dinner tonight - I normally prefer Fri night in my PJs on the sofa with a Chinese but not to be. Catch you later ladies! x

I know what you mean Londonlivvy about quite liking the secretness before telling people - since we've told, I'm finding it quite odd to get used to being asked about it (all very well-meaning but still feels odd), especially now the news seems to be spreading alarmingly fast round work. Rather irrational perhaps, but there was something nice about it being just our secret...

Very impressed with long cycle plus full bladder! I only cycle 3/3.5 miles to work and always have to pee before leavng. Maybe my route is bumpier than yours or I've just got weak muscles

Hurrah, weekend at last!

popping on real quick - uploaded a belly pic to profile!

Anyone else care to show pics?

hi, I'm a very occasional lurker as am also due October.

Just saw the post with the sonographer's comment about "oh you'll definitely be low risk". I'm a bit at this as I don't think that's the case at all. Yes of course a thin nuchal measurement is an encouraging sign, but my sonographer specifically said "actually it's impossible to make any comment before the bloods are in", and anecdotally I know of people whose bloods have been the factors that have tipped them into a less positive risk figure.

That's not intended to freak or worry anyone, I'm just a bit surprised that a sonographer would say that. Mind you, when I went for a scan at 6 weeks with this pregnancy, after 5 miscarriages, the sonographer (having had my notes, and seen my history) said "yeah, I can see a sac. Can't see anything else though.... [long pause].... oh yeah, there it is, there is a heartbeat." .

How come you're all getting your blood results back so quickly??!! I had my scan a little over 2 wks ago & am still waiting for my letter to come through the post!!! I'm not a patient girl so as you can imagine this is killing me lol

Evening all, just back from a short holiday to a farm in Suffolk with 3 small boys (only one is mine!). Weather changeable, but kids had a lovely time.

I am 38 with DC2 and definitely feeling a bit old - met a woman today who's daughter was same age and had 4 kids with the oldest being nearly 20!!

Am waiting eagerly for the time when I have a proper bump, currently I just look tubby I think.

Ginger my mid wife said to take multivit throughout the pregnancy including vit D, apparently they are doing lots of studies into it at present.

My tiredness has abated which is nice, though having practically no symptoms does bring on my worry genes. However not complaining, have a lovely weekend all.

38, DC2, 14+3

guccigirl I would chase them up, my results were back and arrived in the post within 5 days. I'm sure it will be fine.

They said at the time to allow for the bank holiday etc,but only realised reading the posts tonight that I'd not had anything back yet.Will give it til Monday then will call MW or something to see whats what.

Thanks for your thoughts all, especially GucciGirl, bella2012, Angelico & MrsConfusion. Bella2012 - your comment actually made me cry . I?m so unused to people saying such nice things to me. You really made my evening after quite an hormonal & stressful day :) x

Things are settling down a bit with the DSDs now focused firmly on getting a dog :-, which I?m not sure I can manage right now on top of a baby although I do want one at some stage also. All quiet on the ex front. Time will tell. My main focus is getting my antenatal care which is unlikely to begin for me before 18+3 or later (as I only have a GP appt next Friday to get referred to a midwife) unless I try and squeeze in some private appointments beforehand (that I can?t really afford but what price me & the baby?s health & well-being I ask myself??).

I thought about you ice-lolly-craving ladies in the supermarket today as I was happily telling DP that some of the girls on MN are craving icy things ? I don?t get it ? I haven?t had that one and then we were by the ice creams fridge standing in the queue to pay and I started feeling an uncontrollable lust towards a packet of Tutti Frutti/Cola flavoured ice pops. DP gave me the ?NO!? face but I am still thinking about them? Grrrr?.

Angelico - lolol at that silly girl on the other thread!! I never really understand that outlook. I didn?t even think about ?perhaps I should start thinking about having children? until I was about 33/34 and then I regarded myself as ?having masses of time?. Think she should be sent to sit on the silly step! Of course it?s a great idea to have your kids young but to feel over the hill for them over 30? In this day and age? My sonographer laughed at me ?feeling old for one? at 41! (London seems to be a hotbed of ?late? 1st pregnancies as almost the norm). I think the age thing is relative too. I remember when in my early 20?s getting panicked at the idea I wouldn?t be married/starting a family by age 27. When I actually reached 27 I felt way too young and was having way too much fun to even think of such settling down. I laughed at my earlier stress about wanting to have a family by then :). Everyone?s different and probably most people look at their peers. For me, my Mum had me at nearly 40, my grandmother had my Dad at like 38, her mother had her at 40/41 and no women I know from school or my group of friends from my last job started their families before age 35.

Congrats on the scan londonlivvy! :) Fingers crossed too about the bloods. I was so lucky in that I was going abroad they had my blood results when I had the scan and I found out at once. I don?t envy you having to wait. I was so nervous about it I spontaneously burst into tears when she told me I had the same risk as a 20 yr old.

As for the ?telling people? thing, half my relatives know and a handful of our friends but I?m feeling really reticent to make the big announcement. Not because I like the secrecy I think (I mean blimey ? my ?bump? is getting so big my ?inny? belly button has started it?s climb out to be an ?outy? today . At least that explains all the belly and side pains I?ve been having. Why AM I getting so big so early? I?m guessing it?s just because my fibroids are getting bigger too (around 10cm each) and it?s all got to go somewhere; fat, fibroids, uterus?) but because I?m having a weird and completely irrational feeling that it?s ?all gone quiet? in there and don?t want to announce it to the world until I?m sure nothing?s gone wrong. I?m leaning towards at least a private midwife Doppler early next week just to convince me I?m being a silly wuss. (Beeblebear - I don't dare show a belly pic - I can hardly bear to look at it myself! I'd be proud if I was 8 months! ).

Hope you've all got nice weekends planned :) (Sorry my posts are always so long - must try to get on more often now I'm settling down a bit...).

41, 16 weeks in one hour, anxiously awaiting ante-natal care in Norway