40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

Yeah Ladies, let's keep the positive vibes ! the weather is nice and we all feel like shopping a little bit... I was given lots of second hand maternity clothing and I must say I have treated myself with only a few pieces, pricey but I feel so good in them even with a big tummy and impressive boobs :) I am sure the cup size has gone up by 3 at least... and I need some nursing bras already to sleep !
Isabela Oliver has very nice stuff, good quality but expensive. Or Vert Baudet or Gap, very comfy and good price. IMO.

Very glad to hear that every one is doing fine. I will keep my fingers crossed for you too so that MC does not appear anymore in our conversations. Only healthy baby news, kicking in our tummy so hard that we are bruised inside !!!

BTW not in the mood for work today... wishe could go early and have coffee with you all :)

Hey
Hpbp - Yeh its a girl !!!!!!!!!!
I have had to ditch the jeans today and bought my first pair of leggings since 1998 !!!!!!! Oh my god they are so comfortable. Been wearing trackie bottoms for the past week. I will get myself a few colours and a stack of tunic tops that should see me through the summer. Having a good day off got up early and spent a few hours doing the house. Amazed how messy it gets for two people who work full time and tidy as we go through the day. May have gone a tad OCD by washing the outside of the washing machine . Spent an hour in the garden with my kitty in the sun reading and now continue with domestic bliss by preparing a chicken curry for tea. Then off to the gym, for a nice session of glowing as I am no longer allowed to sweat up a storm and come out red faced and knackered.
Thanks for the supplement advice Hpbp it is confusing and worse as I work with loads of ladies all saying different things.

Hi club
Just wanted to thank all those kind well wishers. You have helped pick me up, while im off work now and coming to terms with the loss of my little bud.

OVER & OUT for now and good luck

PS - hopefully ill be back.xx

Does anyone know when its safe to have sex after Miscariage?

Hello all, Can I join in? I'm nearly 40 and 8 weeks pg for the first time after (a fair bit of) ivf - a bit shaky and would love some new friends my own age doing the same thing :) Sorry I can see its been a sad couple of says on this thread x

champas - Sorry about your news. Look afteryourself honey. Take some time to heal and we are all thinking about you. xxxx

Hi
bytheseaside - You are more then welcome to the oldies gang. Bet you excited. We are a happy bunch and happy to support u on your new adventure. xxx

oooh 5w 5days today....and all is well

Champas, AFAIK, leave one or two cycles to get your womb clean and ready and you can try again for another baby... But if you are talking about the pleasure of it only, i am sure that you can go ahead whenever you feel like it and enjoy ! I will be envious as i am so big that i cant barely move in bed :) don't laugh... I am a whale ! Tale care and be back soon, we will still be here

Champas you can have sex pretty much as soon as the bleeding stopped. You are said to more fertile straight away after a MC (my DD was conceived in the WTF cycle).

Welcome to by the seaside you are amongst your kind, take a seat (possibly fall asleep on it or fart on it)

yay mrsn another day defeated.

I am still working and have to be in the office early tomorrow. Working and the first trimester are not a good mix...

So sorry champas We waited a month or 2 and conceived virtually immediately and went on to have a lovely baby boy.
All the best for the future. x

Hi All,

Just back from my 12 week scan. I had a vaginal scan and a normal ultra-sound - everything looks good, nuchal fold was within range so I'm feeling very relieved. The protocol from now is a monthly scan until June, and from then on its a scan every two weeks. I also get to come off the progesterone suppositories (hurrah) - the doctor thinks that these will have been adding to by level of tiredness (by the time I get home in the evening all I want to do is go to bed!).

HpBp Thanks for the info on the supplements - very helpful - have you already chosen names for your girl?

That's it - an extra warm welcome to other post-IUI/IVF BFPs - we know what its taken to get here!!

thanks so much for warm welcome (midgetm - how is is that you know what's going on on my seat so accurately? haha)
velo congrats - it must be so wonderful to get this reassurance. Glad about the progesterone news - I'm on the injections and need some energy soon if I'm going to get any work done at all!
I'm finding all pg symptoms at once amazing and terrifying - whilst still failing to believe I'm actually pg - what a nutcase. x

great news Velo I have that hurdle next week, and am starting to feel a bit negatively about it :( So your news is cheery. But have just skimmed back and see you are a spring chicken! My nuchal with DS when I was 39 was brilliant, 1 in 1600ish. At 44 am feeling less positive. Hey ho.

bytheseaside, I am too.

Hello all. Goodness I love this thread. Think you will all get me when I tell you how , and I was to be told, 'oh, she's an older Mum like you...'. A bit coming from someone who'll be 40 herself in 6 months time with a 3 year old and 8 month old...... Hardly a spring chicken/young Mum herself!

And relaaaaaaaaaaaax!!!!

Will be back later with a less self-indulgent post once a few chores sorted.

Waves to all

Hi guys
Jollster - What days the scan? I have mine soon so hoping for both of us positive results
Velo- glad scan and stuff went well.
Feeling not too bad today, just a bit knackered. Cut down on the carbs and the bloating is not as aggressive today which was good. Went to the gym last night and bloating would not go and it drove me nuts and had no motivation to hardly to a squat. Also working 40 + hours a week sucks.
Still very impressed with all you ladies with kids. Crapping myself as I have no experience with any kids. Most of my friends dont have kids or new friends have older kids. So baby experience for me is nil so very scary. My friend says it is like looking after my cat !!!!! Cuddles, feeding, cleaning and clearing away poo. Just hoping not to have to remove a black bird from its mouth while growling at me !!!!I am sure me and my better half will stumble through some how.
by the seaside - How you doing today ?

Well off to wash the tea pots, let the cat in and have a bath and then get into bed and do nothing till zzzzzzzzz.

Hi, can I join too? I am 41 :)

Am currently 38+1 weeks and am so tired right now and more than ready for my little one to be born.

Last time I was doing this was 1995 :)

Hi, can I join?

I'm on the expecting in October thread, but I think I am the granny there. I will be 45 when baby is born!
Jayne Torville had her children at 45 and 49 - thank you Jayne. For some reason that empowers me.
I'm also on the progesterone suppositories, to finish next week. I can't wait. I feel toxic with all these meds. Usually I don't even take vitamins.

Hello Midgetm . One of my very athletic friends ended with a hernia after her pregnancy. She was a real flat stomach girl, but her rectus abdominus (the 6 pack muscle) separated in her pregnancy. So after she was finished her pregnancies and had her figure back, she has a kind of 'pot belly' She will have to have a surgical repair. She was always fit, swimming and walking and cycling, but never a gym girl or abs workouts. I think it would be wise to go easy on the abs work - nature is trying to push them out and you are trying to keep them in. Nature will win.
I am 44. DS is 19 months. #2 is due Oct 5th. It is a donor egg cycle after lots of IVF stuff that has all become a blur in my memory.

Can I join too? Bit late I suppose - I'm 44 and DS3 is scheduled to land 5 weeks today

I feel incredibly lucky that I had DS1 age 39, DS2 age 41 and without trying DS3 (another boy, groan...!) is coming along at the ripe old age of 44

Had CVS early pregnancy due to 1:7 chance of Downs, but it's all OK and we're ready to go soon.

Is pregnancy after 35 as hard to achieve as magazines etc say? Or do they just go on about it to make a story? I dunno. My mum 40 years older than me, and I think age factors governing fertility are hereditary to an extent.

HPBP am also on Floradix iron supplement - don't take NHS iron as it literally makes your bum bleed and despite being a mega high dose your body doesn't absorb it cos it's cheap shite.

Floradix is natural / herbal, and a small dose daily has meant I have a very good iron count. Great for sorting out exhaustion.

Spatone also good too, but Floradix has other vits in it too, I recommend highly

How?s Shineysideup? Any news yet? Have you had the baby??? Come and tell us!!
hpbp how did the rest of your tests go
Velo great news about your appt. Delighted for you that you can come off the evil Progesterone botty bullets!! You won?t miss them!! I was exhausted as you sound in the first Trimester even without them. Fingers xd for an end to the tiredness.

Hey you lot. Stop rubbing it in that you live by the sea!! I miss being by the sea. The Thames is ok, but just not the same.

LRM well done on keeping going to the gym. I reckon your friend is right. Babies require pretty much the same as kitties! You and your DP will be fine.

Welcome Bobblesmama. Looks like you will be our second graduate! Hope you will keep us posted. Funny to think you last had one aaaaaalllllll those years ago!!
Mummy looks like you will be grad #3!! I think there is some science behind the increasing difficulty with conceiving post 35, but sure it is sensationalised by the press. Oh, thanks for the top tip on iron supps!!

I am falling asleep here, so better leave it as this for tonight. Sleep well ladies. Nearly another day crossed off towards the end goal.

I love this thread! So encouraging to chat with older mums-to-be.

I am 8 weeks, and beyond shattered. DD2 (23mths) is not sleeping well at the best of times, and had a raging temperature overnight (I slept on the floor next to her - or tried to). I am not going into work today as she is off Nursery, and I cannot leave her.

Had a little bleed yesterday, I did with both my girls so not worrying. I think a rest today is more than appropriate though, not that it is restful caring for a sick wean.

littleredmonkey you and your man will cope fine with parenthood. You will grow with your little one, learning every day. Trust your instinct as you will know your baby better than anyone. Hopefully you will have a kind and helpful midwife and HV to guide you through the first few weeks.

MrsNesbit sending you sticky bean vibes!

I am doing slimming world all the way through with this one - losing weight slowly. I am resisting my cravings for double cheeseburgers.

Welcome to the newbies, and hi to everyone else x

Hi everyone, what a wonderful day, hopefully we will have a glorious week end as well.
Had a scan at FMU yesterday, found out that Lolita (nickname we use until she is born to defeat fate) has short long bones, can be constitutional, could be skeletal displasia, or Down's syndrome... Have booked an amnio for next Wed, was trying to avoid but it seems more sensible to do it now to exclude last 2 possibilities... Also have a growth scan scheduled in 4 week time...
Not feeling great although the Dr was optimistic because my screening at 11 weeks gave a low risk and there is no other marker for DS .... and cheered me up with a 3D scan of the baby's face, how sweet!
Does anybody know if amnio can tell for skeletal displasia ? Totally scared also of risk of MC. And 3 weeks to wait for the result....
This pregnancy is so stressfull. Will not do any other preparation until 28 weeks now, or should I ?
Bye for now

Morning all, lovely day in London and going to venture out for lunch and then 'up west' like we do in Eastenders (I actually live in North London but you get my point).

Hpbp sorry to hear you still hve to face such uncertainty, yet you still manage to sound chirpy - you rock. What you are going through must be something a lot of us I fear for ourselves - I know I do, now I have managed to get the bean to stick. Having the amnio scares the beejezus about of me but from what I have heard from people who have it it is not too bad and I don't know of anyone who has regretted it. No idea if it it can pick up SD though. My mum had me at 40 and was told I would probably have something similar to SD. As it turned out I have always been small and I have mild scoliosis (not visable unless you know your back bones well) but apart from that I am as fit as a fiddle). Not sure what I am trying to say apart from trying to put your mind at rest. Sometimes too much knowledge can be a terrifying thing! And 3 weeks is an awful long time to have to wait in limbo like that. Hard to know what to say about preperation - I for one would just be nice to yourself for a couple of weeks rather than focusing on too much else. I have a friend with DS who has a better life than me so I have a rather rose tinted specs view of the condition but that is nieve as there so many different degrees it can affect you. sounds positive that your nuchal was low risk though. I am sure you won't be the last of us facing the amnio wait and I want to hug you right here and now. x

Just back from 38 week midwife appt and all its all looking good :) Next appointment is on my due date of 5th April.... hoping that labour may kick in before that but we will see.

Hpbp thinking of you x

Hpbp sorry that the pregnancy isn't straightforward. I hope that you manage to rest over the weekend (physical and mental).

I forgot to mention that when I went for my scan I also had a pap test at the same time as I hadn't had one in a while. Roll on the weekend - I need some sleep....