40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

I have a JoJo Maman clearance by me - this week all the maternity stuff (at already cheap clearance prices) is half price - just popped in to get some vests.

I spent £64 and have 2 support vests, 2 smart dresses, a stunning going out dress, 2 summer dresses (maxi type) a denim skirt, long jersey gypsy skirt and 2 blouses (crisp White cotton).

If anyone wants/needs Anything - I'm going back to look for bras tomorrow - I'm willing to pick up and post - I've done it before - I'll send you my secret fb account (no friends just used for this sort of stuff) and am willing to hand over my mobile.

Everything is dirt cheap in there at moment - it's too soon for me but for what I got for the cost - who cares!!!!

You can ring and pay shop direct as well done thT before too!

Whatname, you have made good shopping ! Well done.
Sunny London today, it is very nice... At last.
Hope this will cheer all of us up !

I did didn't I I'm going back tomorrow to get a bit more - probably 1 more smart type dress and another maxi dress and another going dress as baby is due by my reckoning BOXING DAY (mine are usually early) and a skirt and 2 tops and a pair of jeans and shorts.

That should do me the whole year I reckon - and under £100 for the lot.

I only went in for a vest top - I tend to wear them even when not pregnant as they are more comfy than bras.

Even at £128 it still would have been cheap - it's not the cheapest brand in the world.

Goth - Sending hugs and look after yourself

Evening ladies
Scan day and all is well, they could see quite a bit even though head stands were the position of the day. I do have to go back Wednesday as they could not see the heart chambers very well, but everything was fine. I had a trainee with a experience scanner supporting bless her she was lovely but took ages. I was sooooooooooooooo desperate for the loo amazed I did not go on the bed. She let me go to continue the scan I was in there 30 mins. I asked about the sex............. IT'S A BOY !!!!

So team blue , it all seems so real today. So beings the shopping for the nursery and the name game.

Lots of love to goth x

Lots of love to goth x

Goth so sorry to hear your little bean didn't stick. I think hpbp had some good advice for you. I'm sure it's too early for you to think about TTC again, but there is a great 40+ TTC thread, many with similar experiences to yours. I have some top tips which helped me achieve a BFP, which seemed impossible a year ago. (both DH and I took lots of supps and had a diet/lifestyle makeover.) Let me know if you want to know more and I will PM you.

Take some time out to look after yourself so that you can heal physically and mentally. Big hugs. xx

Goth - so sorry to hear. Don't give up hope.

LRM - great news! My scan was fine. Everything as it should be, healthy and perfect apparently. Just a bit shocked. He wasn't 100% sure as it was very hard to see but he thinks it's a GIRL!! And um, I was 100% sure it was a boy (and tbh wanted a boy - I'm very wrung out with teenage girls right now...). Anyhow, I'm a lucky bitch to have a baby at all so I'll get over it and try not to imagine beyond 10 yrs old. LOL :)

Will catch up with the rest of the posts tomorrow - I 'announced' of fb tonight and am being inundated with surprised but happy comments and PMs! Also trying to watch Eurovision semi-finals for a laugh. In other news, Jedward have flat hair...

Congratulations on the positive scan results - littlered - oh a boy, fford a girl :).

I'm getting a little excited today - says something about my jelly belly the mat clothes fitted - some are going back - because arms too long.

Will have a good look what else they have. Part of me thinks it's too early to shop like this - I haven't had any scans. But my BOOBS are so sore!! And I did another test.

No sickness today.

LRM, Fjord, so happy for you ! One in each team. I am very excited that al went well ! As much as Whatname and her shopping spree today.... :)
Good night everyone. Tomorrow is another day.

LRM & Fjord, great news, how exciting!

Off into town in a mo to meet my mum and aunt and I'm going to treat myself to a big bacon roll! It's my birthday today and I've had to cancel 2 nights out to celebrate as I'm so nauseous in the evenings , so a bacon roll it is! And tea & cakes at my friends after the school pick-up. Hope everyone has a nice day. Valium & Inca, how are you doing?

Whatname, maybe you wil be a lucky person and not have any sickness of any sort at all ! Fingers crossed. Let me know if when you bring the clothing back you will take other items.... :)
Knotty, happy birthday ! Enjoy the bacon roll and the day out in town.
It is sunny in London and hot, very nice and I think I will start asking for seat on my daily commute now. Feeling big, actually big !
Hugs to everyone

So sorry Gothin. Take care and hopefully see you back soon.

Knotty Happy Birthday! Hope you have a good day.

LRM and Fjord Congrats

I have so much to do today that I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed.
I've got to take my car to a garage as someone scraped it whilst trying to parallel park (grrr). I got someone to deal with it but the work they did is terrible so am now going elsewhere to try to sort it.
I've been waiting for some decent weather so I can do ds1s birthday party so as this week is looking good, I decided to do it tomorrow after school.
I've hired a bouncy castle (I can't have 12 boys running crazy in my house) but I need to sort out food, get stuff for party bags, tidy up the house and garden. It is such a tip.

Best get on....

Thanks for all the good wishes everyone. This will probably be my last post just wanted to say I appreciated it.

Realistically given it had taken 4 1/2 years to fall pregnant in the first place this feels like my only chance has gone. I hope that isn't the case but need to be realistic. Gutted doesn't cover it to be honest.

I hope all goes well for everyone.

So sorry Gothin Worth trying a bit longer though eh as more likely to conceive post MC. Hope we do see you back one day x

Happy birthday Knotty

Good luck with the party exexe

I am feeling a bit better today - slept the past two days. Eating and drinking now, feel very weak and dizzy so will be off all work week. Still a bit breathless too, and pain in ribs still, so if no better will see Dr later in week. Antibiotics making me nauseous, and tear in throat is still sore. Made the mistake of putting sweet chilli sauce in my wrap - ouch!

Well yes I'm back from my taking stuff back and shopping spree

In total I have spent £124.

I have

1 denim skirt
1 long (beautiful) White gypsy skirt
1 long sleeved steetchy jumper for leggings
1 maxi dress
2 beautiful 50s style summer dresses
1 navy blue linen dress
1 pair of cargo shorts
1 pair of combat trousers
2 long sleeved t shirts
2 short sleeved 2 shirts
2 secret support vests
6 lacy Ellie macpherson maternity/nursing bras in various sizes
1 cotton blouse
1 "going out" dress
1 work type dress

The bras were the most expensive £7.50 each.

If anyone wants pictures/prices let me know.

Valium, glad you are feeling a little better, take as much time as you need, your mat leave wont kick in til 5 weeks before due date.

Exe, have a good party, can you let them in the side gate, then you dont have to worry about house.

Knotty, happy birthday, hope you can enjoy it without sickness.

HPBP, feel sorry for you with a London commute, hope you get that seat.

A few days away, and it's taken me a while to read up on everyone's news - should be working so not many personals today, but hoping everyone is doing ok. Great to see some lovely scan news :)

gothinrecovery so sorry for your loss. I know this must be devastating. This is my first pregnancy after a long time of ttc and ivf, and I think I can imagine how awful you must feel - it's what I dread every day of this pregnancy. When the healing starts, and if you want to, there are always new things to try though - wishing you lots of luck.

Valium and inca sending extra strong vibes your way.

whatname thanks for your brilliant birth tips, and I envy your jmb clearance shop - what a find!

hpbp french-birth-with-mums-help sound like a great plan!

AFM I'm still struggling emotionally a bit - I think the difficulties of the last few years and shakiness of the first months of the pregnancy have really hit me, along with a barrel load of teary hormones - whilst I was staying with family this w/e. How embarassing. DP being lovely, although he looks a bit bewildered sometimes! I'm trying to take things a day at a time and hold it together. Hoping to get away for a few days next week for some tlc and picnics at the (different) seaside - hope weather remains lovely for us all :) I read recently about antenatal depression - perhaps it's that? Or maybe it's normal and everyone has weeks (or several) like this? On the upside, the baby seems to be fine. mw listened to the heartbeat this week which was fine, and I managed to find it myself with my own doppler too, which was just lovely. Weirdly, 'knowing' and 'feeling' that everything is fine seem two different things ... Right, need to fine some pma from somewhere - perhaps a biscuit?

Whatname. waouh, all these items for £124 ? that was a real bargain...

Valium, oups the chili must have hurt... keep on resting, you definitively need it

Exexe, I dread the future birthday parties for DS1 who was born in October, no way we can be in a garden (and I don't have one at the moment :) and 10 kids running in the house, no, I can't see it happening even if I do not have crystal, good luck ! I admire you.

My back and ribs are very sore today. Ligaments I guess are at work...
Have finally signed the compromise agreement, still feel bitter and can't wait to get out for good but I have to work my notice until 18 June... then I will be a stay at home mum ! Hope DH will be OK with my chit chat on frivolous things when he comes home after a long working day :)
When I started working, 15 years ago, my aim was to make enough savings to be able to retire at 50. Now at 41, I cannot picture myself staying at home. I will certainly be happy to do so for the next 2 or 3 years to watch the kids grow up but then I think I will want to go back to that stupid rat race.... How can it be ?
oh well, I am just thinking outloud :0

enjoy the brilliant weather everyone

Whatname Its a good idea but they may need the bathroom at spome point and some mums will be there too and may want a cuppa or something so I can't really get away with not cleaning.
Fantastic shopping btw!

Valium glad you feel better though you still seem so poorly! Take care and get back to maximum health soon!

Bytheseaside Do you feel depressed? I think tearfulness and hormones are quite common.
I am an emotional wreck sometimes too. One of my ds little 6 yr old friends mum has cancer. It's spread quite rapidly and I've heard rumours that she may only have months to live. To top it off, her husband has recently buggered off and left the family. I've hardly ever see the mum as she's always too ill to do the school pick up.
Last week she made it to school pick up and seemed so happy. She hugged and kissed her son with so much joy and love that I started crying! In fact I'm crying now just writing about it

The clearance shop is round the comer - it's just this week everything is half price again - they have loads of stuff in and will probably have more - it's never been this cheap though - they usually have a reeked clearance when everything clearance is half price but it's like a rugby scrum and I can never face it - pre or post birth.

I'm just a bit wary as I haven't had a scan yet - but they are so cheap - that it seems silly to wait when I know that I will get big quickly - this being the 4th - the support vests were for example £2.50 each.

Bytheseaside, I have not experienced antenatal depression and my mood has been up and down with this second pg, I can be very hard on DH. If you feel like you need help for a third party, just go ahead, don't let yourself be moody. Your well being does reflect on your child's character, IMO.
My sister always says that if there is something wrong with your body you check with a doctor, don't you ? so it is the same with your soul, if it is not OK, get it checked too, it does not mean that drugs will be involved, sometimes talking to a stranger can make us see things differently.
Go well.