Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

lisbeth I hate those 'line' pregnancy tests. DH and I spents hours in heated discussion over whether it was a line or a cross when we were trying for DS, until we finally agreed that the digital tests were worth paying for. No more arguments... Glad you're getting checked out tomorrow.

Right! I have ALMOST caught up on the thread, but I want to chuck in a big cheer-lead for squidkid (the best name in mumsnet!)

I'm going to say this because, while I infinitely prefer wittering on about bloating and farts (I had been SO farty), not saying it now would (to me) feel like fibbing. It's not a secret, It just wasnt relevant before: I'm lucky too - that DH of mine is fancy, as in, PhD-from-Oxbridge fancy. Actually, he's the world's leading expert in a Thing and he's been in the news as a commentator a fair bit and stuff. Me, I have a great job too, you might even use the stuff I'm working on if you've already got kids. We don't make buckets of money, but we're not poor. We even have (still can't believe this) a MORTGAGE.

I've been in the news too, though, is the thing. A lot, for a long time, but not in the UK (thank God). I'm not going to explain what happened because I prefer not being findable, but I'm what you might call a secondary victim of crime. It ended my first career, everything I do now is something I basically learned from scratch after the crime. No idea how I did that, to be honest! As from before: lucky.

So I know a bit about bad times and fighting back. squidkid I recognise your generosity of spirit as the kind a lot of us out-the-other-side survivors have - more as what I aspire to than what I have!

And now - BACK TO THE FARTS!

[grins]

...you'll be glad to know that moments after posting that, I farted.

Ugh - Thanks Dame and Lisbethsopp

I totally fell like a grumpy bitch today (but I would thing with reason) DON"T MESS WITH ME IS RIGHT!!!

Yes, I am in a Union. May send them an email off from my personal email later tonight as anonymous to start with and see what information they can provide.

beeblebear yes, call the union! But also, have you talked to HR at your work? What you describe sounds like 'constructive dismissal', where the bosses just magic your job away and wait for you to quit.... And yeah, they're not allowed to do that.

hi all!

Ive been meaning to post all day but just didnt find the time! Ive read all the nattering on and been saddened by all this missbone stuff. how silly! :-( It doesnt stop me coming on though and i love to read all your daily trials and tribulations!

Squidkid, dont change anything that you would write on here! we all love to read honest and open posts and the fact that someone has a problem with them is just plain 'weird!!!' Dont you think? Some people are just so childish! Keep it up!

Im going to add my version now!!

Im sat at a computer on a very quiet ward passing the time as its 3 hours till i finish!! I feel really sick on nights, its like all the hormones are concentrated. I also did a cheeky test and it was still posistive :-) -its just nice to have reassurance I think!

I have booked my 12 week scan on 26th March at 9.30 so hoping everything is ok till then!

I think thats about it....god Im boring! I want to read some more about everyone else!!

30yrs, 9+2, 2nd child xx

I'm loving this thread now! Everything back on track, ladies

Just popping in for a moan really. Feel sick a lot but have yet to have proper MS...but it feels imminent. But the good news is I think I am slowly emerging out of a very bad case of FREAKING OUT where I was feeling bitterly ashamed that this much wanted pregnancy was giving me a case of the doom and glooms :(

It was weird because I didn't actively feel panic, but I quite clearly was, and I just couldn't envision a bright future, or summon up any of the broody feelings that got us to this point in the first place. I had many meltdowns about the future, and while it's not completely gone, I'm not feeling that strength of gloom that I was.

So that's good! I think also it was a bit of SAD? I always get a bit like this towards the end of winter. I can't bear the darkness and always feel I am a warrior in the summer :) I am a little bit scared of next winter...giving birth, a long winter inside dealing with a newborn, post-pregnancy blues but I shouldn't worry about that yet, right?

Very glad to hear we're all generally good, normal pregnancy things aside :)

Bettybat, I could have written that thread! (it helped a lot when DameFlatYouLent said those exact words to me - and it's true). I too have been freaking out, and as if that didn't make me feel crap enough, have then been beating myself up about freaking out, and about not being able to find the joy. It made me feel so low, and so sad, especially when DH (after 2 years of toys-out-of-pram moments when I said I wanted to get on with ttc and he said he wasn't ready to lose his freedom) is bouncing off the walls with excitement! For me it was all about going through such a big change in what I do (job and hobbies) and feeling like I was going to lose my identity. I am starting to feel better, helped by a very wise person (OK, a counsellor) who told me that I'm not defined by what I do, but by who and what what I am, and that won't ever change.

Can identify with SAD too, and hadn't even thought about how hard it will be being a new mum in winter ! But I'm sure the joy of it all will more than compensate - that, or the high feeling from surviving on 30 minutes sleep every week???

My current woe is my skin - so, so, so, so bad . I'm going to start a new post about this to seek advice, so if anyone has any to share, please do, I'm so greasy and spotty I look like a pizza and feel like crying

You must think i'm mental - obviously we're not all, all good. I just meant - no more dramas, which is a good thing.

Beeblebear - regardless of getting people into replace you, they can't offer your actual job to someone else unless you say you don't want it anymore. It's highly disconcerting when you think someone will take over your job - it induces a lot of paranoia :( But hold your head high, think about the long term future - regardless of what they do now/while you're on maternity, your CV says X,Y,Z and they cannot change that :) I hope you feel better soon.

YompingJo oh thank god i'm not the only one! It's awful. I just couldn't get any excitement up either and it was exactly the same as you - badgering DH for about four years! Bloody hormones, eh?!

As for skin, try cutting out all sugar as though it's likely to be hormone based, don't give them any chance to pop up! Please don't talk about pizza...I'm eating for England, all the things I normally NEVER eat, in secret, guiltily, like an addict. MUFFINS! I am eating muffins - with their gluten and their 700 calories :(

mirikat next week I'm doing Dublin > Dubai > Melbourne > Auckland with morning sickness.... And motion sickness! Bleeeeergh!

Any tips from anyone on what might be suitable snacks to pack for long-haul morning sickness?!

Hells bells this thread is busy! How many days and it's over 100 posts already! Did I miss anything spectacular? :)

Zara1984 Everyone seems to tell me that ginger nut biscuits are good for that.. Or sip a cup of hot water. Apparently! Although have you tried sickness bands? They're meant to be very good..
Bettybat and YompingJo I have also been feeling the same. Freaking out, guilt, that constant question "are we crazy?!"...
Pregnancy hormones well and truly kicked in when I couldn't get hold of DP for half an hour, I got so angry!! Then I cried, then I found out he was in the pub and by the time I got there I was fine!
DP is begininng to give up smoking today... I gave up as soon as I found out (Friday)... I feel alot of snapiness coming on!!
Ladies just think about the warm winter we are going to have. Everyone else is going to be freezing cold and we'll all be warm!!! I can't wait!!

midgetm and resipsa, good luck with you scans. I've only read the next two pages since I last whinged posted to be honest - the thread is moving too fast for me so I don't know how people manage to remember all the name checks!

My scan a normal pregnancy albeit earlier than expected, so I have another on mothers' day. Let's hope that's a good sign. Not quite sure whether I belong in October or November now!

Thats a relief Tarty - did they offer you a repeat scan?

I have my interview today. Managed to have a pooh which I am taking as an omen and may help with hiding my expanding waistline. I am so little normally it is SOOOOOOOOOO obvious. Impossible to eat that many pies within a couple of weeks. Also have my scan tomorrow which seems quite frankly much more important and has reduce my attention span to that of a gnat. Not a good start! Although the pooh was a good start.

Bag of nerves. Right best go practice my presentation. Again.

Laters x

PS to all those having doubts - it is the most natural thing in the world to think what the heck have I done. Even when not your first. It is a big deal and doubts are only human.

Eugh zara1984 I do not envy you. I used the seasick bands on the fast London-Manchester train, they seemed to work but they start chafing after a couple of hours.

Skin... well I have managed to develop my standard, persistent, infected eczema all over my chin. Its usually stress-induced so apparently I am not coping as well as I thought! Believe me yompingjo you could not possibly look as godawful as I do - my sores are weeping. Lovely.

Oh crap! Forgot midgetm! Good luck, lady - knock 'em dead!

Thanks ZoeP. Or at least try not to fart in their presence.

Another one here with bad skin! Mine is not great usually anyway but definitely thinks it's teenaged again.

Good luck midgetm!

Good luck Midgetm!! x

Good luck midgetm! Just be yourself because you sound great

Right I'm off to bed! Pooped! I just did a big strainy poo too and bled a bit again! I must get some laxatives! I'm worried I will push out the new bean!!!!

Have a good day everyone! X

Good luck midgetm! marie try having some prunes or apricots every now and then...keep me reg'lar

To all those feeling down - I can totally relate. Pregnancy hormones have a lot to answer for - it's like all the excitement is washed away by them and they paint reality with bleak colours. In my experience. I'm struggling to get the get-up-and-go to go out and do things with DS which can be a total downward spiral. I'm also petrified about how on earth I'm going to cope with 2 under 2. Like, how will I have a shower?? Will I sleep ever again? How on earth will I manage to feed them both?!

It doesn't help that I'm sick and knackered, and every time I get up to go for a wee in the night I wake up DS (he is the world's WORST sleeper, gahh. This one HAS to be better). It makes nighttime wees so stressful and then I can't sleep afterwards. [mega self-pity emoticon]

I was supposed to be going to a group to sing nursery rhymes this morning (er, just to be clear, with DS) but DS woke at 6 so he was too tired to go. So I'm sitting here on MN while he naps, and really I should be getting some kip cos DH is away and I sleep really badly when he's not around - I have this weird paranoia that I won't wake up when DS does (which has never happened). Stupid uncontrollable subconscious. I don't want to be a zombie at work tomorrow [super massive mega self-pity emoticon]

Got my first scan date for 21st March when I'll be 12+3 by my dates!!

So excited!!

Am I the only person on here who hasn't had a scan yet?

good luck midgetm fx for you!

Inspiring post zoe and well done for turning everything around for yourself? Gosh you are all so amazing! My life feels so boring in comparison!

bettybat I think we can all identify with the feelings you describe, it is such a leap into the dark, even the second time. You mentioned worrying about having a winter baby and I have got to say it can be really nice timing in a lot of ways. My ds is an october baby and we had one of the happiest winters ever snuggled up together and enjoying the winter festivities without the stress of work. Usually I get all miserable in winter but there was so much to occupy me that I remember feeling really happy and cosy with my boy. And then we had a great summer, timed with him learning to walk in the garden and grub about on his little chubby legs. Lush! Ah...remembering all that has cheered me up and reminded me quite what all this sickness and emotional madness is all for!

I am still poorly and still having nasty cramps so lovely midwife has referred me for an early scan in the morning. Only one more day then I can know for sure that our wee bean is ok in there...

I'm six weeks in and feeling absolutely foul - really nauseous, exhausted, grumpy, irrational and just want to hide under my duvet until end October. UGH. Glad to see I'm not the only one finding it tricky and not feeling the joy.

I feel particularly bad to not be feeling delighted as my best friend is currently doing the IVF thing and is despairing at potentially never getting to be a mum - so feels churlish to be protesting at not loving being it. (if that makes sense).

Ok, I'm starting to worry. I've had very mild discomfort since last night, sort of like cramps. I had put it down to constipation. I just went to the toilet and there was blood. I've had this a few times but it was more than before. I don't know what to do! How much blood should there be before I go to the hospital? Sorry if I'm not making sense, I feel a bit shaky :( It doesn't help that I'm at work.