Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

Morning all (waves). Got my booking appt this morning - excited but at the same time expecting her to turn round and say 'blimey, you're a fat lass. I'm surprised anyone will look at you let alone impregnate you'...although that could be my hormonal head!

Have always struggled with my weight - was 16s3 when I got preg (wanted to be lighter) and have put on 8lb in the last 3 weeks! Can't blame the bean just yet but i'm sure that at least 4lbs must be boobage! Don't think I've been eating any worse than usual - in fact have been feeling quite queasy and not wanting to touch much, although have been eating more bread than usual.

Other than that i'm looking forward to a day off work (yay!)....plans?? Probably have a bloody good snooze on the sofa!

"good snooze on the sofa"- I'd swap the sofa for a sun lounger in the shade in the garden :)

Hey ladies. Thanks for good wishes about scan :) Dreadful day yesterday - literally ached all over and had to change antibiotic as it was killing my stomach. Feeling slightly less achy today so hopefully moving in right direction. Did wake up at 04.30 with massive coughing fit but eventually got back to sleep.

One improvement: don't seem to be peeing as much during the night! :o Must be because everything is starting to lift up - hurrah!

Zoe your story made me laugh. Try not to hold it against her - she's probably a well-meaning sort - but have to agree that stealing my glass from hand would end badly! :o At least she did the dishes - result! :o

cwest try not to worry about your 'feeling' - I think we've all had that. It's just it all feels a bit unreal until you actually see the bean. Also understand about the stress worries - but honestly, the other week I watched Marley and Me in my hormonal state and howled so inconsolably I was worried afterwards I had harmed the bean lol.

And lisbeth I really hope you're okay. Any bleeding is scary - I had literally a drop but it freaked me out because haven't had any. Take it easy this week and feel no guilt - the beans are too important. That was actually my third scan though in my defence it was GP who sent me and I nearly died because until that point I hadn't even considered something might be wrong with bean - just assumed (correctly) that all the coughing broke a blood vessel. Had private scan at 9 weeks just to check something was there, then NHS one at 11 weeks due to antenatal appt not being until 15 weeks.

CWest I had a scan this week because I had a bleed. Mostly I feel fat and a bit short tempered but there was bean (lemon now) inside waving. Mentally I was prepared for bad news. I had no instinctive feeling for what was going on.

Has anyone been having very strange dreams? I've been ok now for a few nights and then I get a run of very strange dreams. In one, I'm in an airport and I'm directed to a checkin desk that is really remote, down hall ways and through doors. Then their computer doesn't work. Finally I rush to the boarding hall and I skip to the front of the queue in panic and the lady tells me my plane has already boarded, I went to the wrong desk. But that was where I was TOLD to go. 'We'll see if you can still board' she answers and that's where I wake up. Other dreams are on a similar vein - these completely anxious things, and I wake up knackered.

I saw somewhere that baby's liver starts working at 12 weeks. I think it is curious that your pregnancy aversion to alcohol start to wear off at about that time.

Cwest Sorry you are feeling so shitty. I am the queen of miscarriage (a dubious title) and the kind of stress you are describing is very unlikely to have harmed the bean. I think science is out on how stress affects M/C but don't beat yourself up and try and relax till your scan date. If people do have problems it is rarely becasue of their own actions (except the obvious - booze, drugs, hot bath and a bottle of gin type scenarios). Know how you feel though as I am having a wobble myself.

Kyria good luck with your booking appointment - I have mine Friday. 2 bloody hours,not going to take DH as would also have to take DD and don't want to tell her just yet.

Milk I am working from home - will take every ounce of will power not to slip into a sun lounger in the garden.

Some chocolate mousse etc is fine as caterers often use pasterised eggs - which is fine for us to have. I love chocolate mousse so always check and then sulk a lot if they haven't used them. Worth checking as often you can still have it.

Started this post hours ago so probably cross posted with the many - not really go my eye on the ball today at all. And for all of you on holiday - I am so jealous, I want to be you.

lisbethsopposite knew I would cross post with someone. Hurrah for the waving lemon.

My dreams are insane. Often a bit pervy and I nearly always remember them all. I should write them down - some of them are pretty freaky.

I am liking your liver fact. I am a wine lush but really don't struggle at all not drinking first trimester. In fact my aversion to booze is one of the first signs for me that I am pregnant (it is a rare occassion - me not wanting wine). However, it does almost instantly pass as I enter the 2nd and I fancy it again and now the liver fact just makes it seem all justifiable and legitimate. I like it a lot.

lisbethsopposite, my dreams have been insane lately, and scary :(

Oooh, my baby sling just arrived! I know, I know - crazy early to be buying stuff but heard it was good but takes some getting used to so snapped one up on ebay so I could practise . It's a Kari-me one - anyone used them? They were selling like hotcakes on ebay so even if it's crap I should be able to sell it on easily :o

And kyyria don't be worrying about your weight - no one should be judging you on it and in fact you're being harder on yourself than anyone else will be - we women tend to do that a bit . I'm on the 'solid' (ahem!) side myself and like you had hoped to lose some weight before getting pregnant - but it just happened too quickly! I'm just grateful that it was so easy to get pregnant as I know weight can be a factor - although interestingly most people I know who have found it difficult to conceive are very slim or normal weight rather than overweight.

I got really mad when a good friend of mine went for tests re fertility and a horrible (overweight!!!) male doctor told her to go to Weightwatchers and she would start ovulating!!! Thing is, she's no bigger than me and has ALWAYS had an irregular cycle, even when she was younger and slimmer. He just didn't seem interested in finding out what was wrong - particularly maddening because it was in the Republic of Ireland so she paid about 200E for the privilege of these words of wisdom . Asshole!

Hi Angelico -
I am interested in slings. I had a D-ring one first time, and it went over 1 shoulder. I did not find it very comfortable, and I always felt I had to have 1 hand on baby so I would not recommend. Baby seemed to be like scrunched in the bottom of a hammock, and it did not seem comfortable for him either.

Kari Me seem to be a better style - more support to baby. How do they compare with the Moby sling. Can't see the Kari me on e-bay, maybe all sold!

Hey lisbeth there was a bit of a bidding frenzy on them at the weekend tbh! I have intermittent flare ups with neck / shoulders so didn't really want one shoulder one. Kari-me ones are apparently good if you have a bad back because the baby weight is distributed really well across your whole torso. There are reviews on MN and it seemed to come out top.

I keep threatening DH that I'm going to practise with the cats :o

Oooh - and I haven't heard of Moby one so don't know how it compares.

MidgetmLisbethoppositemilk - another crazy dreamer here...seem to run through a whole range of dreams during the night- including pervy ones Before bfp never used to be aware of having any dreams apart from the odd night, now it is EVERY night.

Am happy today though as last night was the first night in months I slept through and didn't wake up (needing the toilet or with middle of the night insomnia!)

Got an answer to the NCT class question I asked earlier if anyone is interested- I ended up e-mailing and a nice NCT lady advised that the optimum course would be one that finishes between 2-6 weeks before your due date.

Angelico- also interested in slings- going to check that one out now.

Went shopping today and can't resist looking at baby clothes! Didn't buy any, but did buy some bump bands from New Look- to wear when I can't do my trousers up any more- not quite there but nearly.

Kyyria- please try not to worry about your weight. Easier said than done, I lost weight before ttc, but in my opinion not enough, and I'm terrified it will come up as an issue. Already gained 5lb (13 wks now). My booking appointment was ok- the midwife was lovely, but just booked an appt with the local midwife for 17 weeks and am already dreading weigh in time! Hope your appointmeny went ok.

Thank you angelico and mrspeggypatch for your support. I weigh less now than I used to (before I got married I weighed 19s8), got down to 14s11 for wedding and was hovering around 15s3 up until I went off work with stress and anxiety then shot back up to 17s7.
Midwife was lovely at booking appt - yrs weight is a bit of an issue but she said not to stress too much about it. I am going to be shared care with a consultant and other than weight she said I was a straight forward booling

Thank you angelico and mrspeggypatch for your support. I weigh less now than I used to (before I got married I weighed 19s8), got down to 14s11 for wedding and was hovering around 15s3 up until I went off work with stress and anxiety then shot back up to 17s7.
Midwife was lovely at booking appt - weight is a bit of an issue but she said not to stress too much about it. I am going to be shared care with a consultant and other than weight she said I was a straight forward booking
Got a whole pile of info to read through. Hopefully should get scan date through in next 2 weeks.
Hope everyone else is doing ok today x

Popping on for a quick work rant:

Ok, so I was requested to attend a lunch with the manager of our catering services so that she could give me a run down of what they offer (i do MOST of the food orders for our office). So I take my lunch hour to go meet with her at the on campus restaurant. I come back literally 5 minutes late and my manager scolds me for being late and tells me that I have to keep my lunch breaks under an hour. I don't know HOW many days I have ended up here 15 - 30 minutes extra at the end of the day. GUR And it was a work related meeting anyways.

Then she goes on to tell me that I should not be meeting with vendors on behalf of the faculty. We had discussed this meeting BEFORE i went. My manager is also meeting with this person next week, and I agreed not to talk about any of the things that they had planned on discussing.

Seriously she can't remember conversations that we had, and then afterwards gives me shit and says that I should have talked to her first.

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Beeble how frustrating!!!! Is there any way you can remind her of these conversations without having your head taken off? You shouldn't have to give up your own time for a 'work' meeting,perhaps if you reminded your boss of this plus the time you do go over she may eat a little humble pie. In my previous employment (I'm now self employed) I used to do an awful for my boss in my own time & I never got any thanks for the loyalty just put on more & more,make sure that doesnt happen to you :)

Hi all, been a bit quiet but good news, I had my dating scan (went to ultra baby myself) couldn't wait for Nhs scan which is only next week. I am 13 + 3.
due date changed from 6 Oct to 29th Sept!

Lispeth and Milk, my dreams are also bordering on obscene!
I am starting to struggle with trousers so I also went to New Look MrsPiggyPatch and got bump bands, they have a really nice summer dress online, take a look.

I must say I am starting to feel the pressure this week, we are counting down to April and we've been searching everywhere for a new house, we have to move in June. I am just exhausted emotionally and physically with all the driving around. At the weekend I decided to host my ds1's birthday party at home with 14 kids and about as many adults. Still not recovered from that!

General day to day stuff is really tiring me out. Been cooking double meals and freezing them. Tip though, get your shopping online and get it delivered, it's liberating not to have to push a heavy trolley around!
Anyone else feeling unbelievably tired, no more nausea but just needing to rest every 4 hours like an old woman!

Anyway I am off to sleep now, have a good night all! 34 13+3

Angelico Kari me are supposed to be good slings. As are Moby, lisbethopposite as far as I know they are both similar as they are stretchy wraps. I am getting a sleepy wrap (think they are called boba wrap now actually). Any stretchy wrap is good for a newborn up to about 6 months or more, then you probably want to move to a woven wrap or a soft structured carrier like a meitei as it distributes the larger weight more evenly. I had a baba sling last time and while we used it a lot I never quite felt secure with it and felt much happier once we'd moved to a mei tei. I'm not even bothering with a pram this time unless grandparents are taking it out for a walk, I'm going with baby in sling and toddler in buggy (or walking if we have time).

kyrria I'm overweight too and I am trying not to worry too much about it. I followed slimming world last time as it is pregnancy and breastfeeding friendly, and I didn't put any weight on til 20 weeks. I don't think I'll be doing that this time as I haven't got the time to go to meetings, but I will be eating sensibly so I don't put too much on.

beeble that sounds really frustrating.

I've been having weird dreams lately too when I get enough sleep to fit in a dream (dd2 is not well this week :() Mine aren't pervy, more having to escape a global crisis by carrying small children to spaceships

Quick one (is there such a thing with me?) as I don't want to interrupt my self-imposed misery in bed with book session...

Beeblebear - I hear you. Used to run into this all the time when I worked in the NHS. Manager was always trying to give me some of her responsibilities and 'develop' me then would get all irrational, jealous and 'power-possessive' when I developed good relationships with big players and did good things. You can't win. Sorry for you and empathy winging it's way to you.

Kyyria - well can I join you in the 'heavier than we should be' club? I knew I was overweight but guesstimated I was about 4 STONE less than it turns out I am . I am heavier than you I think but I'm deliberately not translating kilos into pounds (can't face the stark truth). I'm mortified and how I've felt all day is exactly why I haven't weighed myself for 12 years. I'm the same as I was yesterday but feel 25 times worse about myself and feel humiliated that I must have body dysmorphia to not have noticed I am obese . It's odd though - I'm still 34 bra size and fit into my size 14 knickers as I did when I was 5 stone lighter (and my hips haven't got any bigger either). I'm all tit and tummy. Curiously, only my GP made a big deal about my weight (she's as as thin as a dragonfly and looked at me with distaste). Sonographers, midwife...no-one else has mentioned it (even midwife after she weighed me today & I nearly fainted of shock). I googled frantically all afternoon to see if fibroids the size of melons could weigh as much as a stone each...so sad. I did find out today though that there has been research that it's ok for obese women to lose a bit of weight during pregnancy and this wouldn't harm the baby so I'm buying a pedometer tomorrow and getting on my static bike as with my current calorie intake, I could lose at least half a pound a week doing 10,000 steps/20 mins bike a day I reckon. So sod the people who say 'if you're not already exercising when you get pregnant don't start now' and 'don't lose any weight in pregnancy'. I eat my bloody 7 or 8 a day, let alone 5 and already eat not much fat, wholegrains, plenty of calcium and enough protein. Baby won't suffer nutritionally. Don't worry too much Kyyria. Most depends on your general health from what I understand. Geez, I'm 41, fibroidy, apparently now obese, unfit and asthmatic yet STILL these medical professionals are not being negative with me about things (haha you can all laugh when I have pre-eclampsia/gestational diabetes)! I'm giving DP hell though as I now can't believe he still fancies me (which is a horrid and sad thing to think). He's being a trooper but just knowing my weight has filled me with self-horror. I should have closed my eyes or looked away like I do when they're taking my blood! :)

There - that wasn't quick at all. Rotten day after a major troll invaded the fb page of a website I write for and was vile to me and everyone and I let myself down with a bit of a hormonal tirade at her (but got a lot of support for it so shouldn't beat myself up). to everyone who's feeling grumpy or had a crap day and waves to everyone else. Sorry if I've missed anything I should have mentioned.

Hello everyone. hope you are all ok.
Can I have a work related rant too?
I live (or lived) in a small village and work in the local shop (or nearly a supermarket now) with alot of other women and truly horrible bosses. They all pass the buck and we also have a mother and daughter in "Management" team. I am a supervisor (Which is there way of getting me to do a duty manager's job but not get paid for it, treat me like a mug and bla bla bla). The daughter is also pregnant (nearly 20 weeks now) and is acting like she can't do anything and has done so since she got pregnant. She milks it and does my head in!!! You're pregnant lady you are not an invalid!!!! Anyway today I've seen the rota (We're all supposed to share evening shifts between us, and her partner also works with us- a real family affair.) an I've been put on three evenings in a row, thursday friday and a saturday, so I don't even get a weekend shift off. Bearing in mind that they also want me to work the Sunday- the daughter gets the same days off with her partner, the same shifts, and are together 24/7 (How do they cope?!), and I apparently am not even allowed one day off with my partner, let alone an evening or so. I feel so down about it, I feel that my bosses are all about the daughter (if your not family you're an outsider) and its so hard trying to remind them that actually, I'm pregnant too and sometimes I need a bit of support too.
I think they forget because I just get on with it, should I kick up a fuss and milk it for all its worth? No. I'd get told that I was being lazy. ARGH.
Rant over ladies :) Sorry you don't have to read all that. Poor DP has heard all about it, wants me to find another job but I suppose its not really worth it now.

To top it all off I've had a very small about of bleeding today, but its not fresh and red so I'm hoping bean is OK. I have been worrying all evening. I'm hoping it's just a blip. If it gets worse I'll tell the doctor when I see him in the morning.
Hope you are all Ok. Would go back and reply to every single post if I could girls but I am suffering from exhaustion- hormones all over the place today. As soon as I go to sleep my bloody dreams start up though- May as well be awake!!!!!
Night Night beautiful mummies/to be

Hi everyone, been trying to stay away from mumsnet as waiting for my scan is driving me crazy. But this morning I fell down the stairs, from top to bottom. I dont have any pains or cramping at the moment but I m really worried that I ll miscarry, I d ring the hospital but they will probably just say to ring back if I start to bleed. I m so worried, my scan is next wednesday and I m terrified that the baby will have died. Just going to try and relax and take it easy today and see what happens, babies are well protected in there this early are nt they?

Turnwest oh poor you. I understand why you're worried but I genuinely think they are well protected in there - they are tiny and the uterus is pretty small and surrounded by a lot of other squishy stuff, so I would imagine you're fine. It's a hit to the tum that'd be particularly dangerous (so no playing rugby!) but a bump on the bum (though not much fun for you) should be ok. Relax and rest, definitely. hugs.

crikey, turnwest, I've been doing the same and staying away from MN but that sounds really scary. Are you hurt at all? You didn't hit your head, did you? If you did, watch out for signs of concussion (sorry, not entirely sure what they are but if you feel funny at all then get someone to take you to A&E). Also, I would definitely ring your GP and see if you can get checked over.

I reckon the baby will be very well protected - no matter how slim you are there's lots of padding because this early on they're very low down in your pelvis, and protected by bone as well as everything else. But maybe get checked over for your own peace of mind?

Hope you're ok, ((hugs))

Thanks londonlivy and dameflatyoulent, I did nt hit my head or stomach thankfully just slid all the way down on my back and bum. I m ok I think now the intial panic has died away, and I think (hope) the baby will be ok, afterall it is tiny at the moment. Does nt help that I am stressed in general waiting for the scan on wednesday, it feel like its taking forever to come around, just want to know that there is an actual real baby in there. Anyway I m off to sit in th garden and eat a very fattening cream cake.

34 2nd child, 11+5

turnwest, yay for cream cakes, you fully deserve it :). Sounds like a horrible thing to go through, hope you're not too bruised, am sure baby is fine, as others have said, they are very well protected.

Had my booking in appointment with midwife this morning - still no reassurance that baby actually exists but a lot more forms filled in . Think this baby is sponsored by a paper manufacturer, lol.