Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

Have finally got a booking appt sorted with the midwife for Wednesday morning Must admit I've had one or two very small glasses of wine over the last few weeks - trying not to make it a regular habit but to be honest not really fancying it either so it's not too difficult to resist. Worrying myself a bit as I've not been feeling as sick or getting as many stomach pains over the last few days. Had a similar thing last week but then they came back so I'm not worrying too much, but you know what it's like - you hate feeling sick but worry so much when you don't!!

Hey peeps, quick check in, thanks for sympathy. Phoned hospital a couple of times yesterday, wrote my complaint letter - then spoke to the loveliest midwife in the world who said they don't do that early nuchal fold test there anyway, apologised profusely (even though it was nothing to do with her) and totally reassured me. So I'm going to stick to that appt at 15 weeks (no choice really they are jammed due to consultants all cramming to use up annual leave at last minute good management there... not!). If they cancel for a third time... it will be war!!!

midget I am LMAO at the 'poo baby, food baby, 1% actual baby' lol comedy gold! :o

livvy massive sympathy on the back pain thing. Is there a good physio near by who could help?

liege glad your mum is doing better :)

nenehooo that is so annoying, poor you, sending a hug! I'm sure it will be absolutely harmless whatever it is but it's just bloody typical isn't it, like pregnant ladies don't have enough to be worrying about Any idea when scan will be?

squid don't worry at all about the wine. I've probably had about six small glasses in the last 12 weeks, roughly one a fortnight and I honestly don't think there is any risk at all. In fact if anything some of the shite I've eaten was probably far worse whereas you have been eating mega healthy. Like my mum said - there were no guidelines in the seventies so women did drink moderately, they just didn't binge the way people do today.

Sun is shining here so going to head out - have a great day lovely ladies! :o x

Oooh - and 12+1!

Hurray, I have finally had my NHS 12-week scan date through - 11th April (when I will in fact be 13+4), and 3 days after we see both our families to tell them the news. So it was definitely a good move to book a private scan for the week before. And with the letter came a sheet of paper entitled "Information about your 19-20 week scan" Oh good, that fills me with confidence about my local maternity hospital's levels of competance

To those worrying about wine, I think a lot of the guidelines are bollocks, they are more along the lines of "we don't know for sure this is OK so we are saying don't have any", reminds me of companies covering their own backs to avoid being sued over daft things. So far I have eaten camembert, goats cheese, brie, stilton, less-than-well-done steak, raw egg in cheesecake and hollandaise sauce, packaged salads, and have drunk about 7 glasses of wine in 11 weeks. Doesn't seem to have caused any problems. I don't mean to sound all maverick, but I do think the guidelines are a little alarmist and I can't really see how perfectly healthy, natural food can be damaging.

Jealous of squid and your hiking. We were vaguely thinking about going climbing today but decided we thought we should because we had the opportunity, rather than actually wanting to (our local cliffs are not that inspiring and we've climbed every route there that we're capable of several times over) , but we're off for a few days with side of Easter, hopefully Cornwall for one trip and Wales or Lake district for the next, and I'm so looking forward to getting on some warm easy rock!

Had minor meltdown this morning, very stressful week at work, knew I needed to relax but was getting myself more wound up trying to think of the right thing to do to relax. Doh, this is very me. I did mention wanting bacon sandwiches for breakfast though. I got cross with myself and my indecision so went to have a shower. When I got out, lovely gorgeous DH had gone to the shop and come back, and was downstairs making me a bacon sandwich, having left flowers and 2 magazines on the bed for me. This made me cry for at least 10 minutes (which wasn't quite the response he was expecting ) but it was so thoughtful - I was spiky and difficult and he responded by doing something so considerate - makes me feel very humble and very lucky (and tearful again!)

And, almost as great (and definite TMI alert), I did the biggest poo I have ever seen in my life this morning and feel so much better! It was the kind of poo you weigh yourself immediately after doing, thinking "excellent, that will have knocked at least 3lbs off my weight!"

angelico, your scan shenanigans suck, that would make me cross too, and nenehoo, hope it is nothing, fingers crossed for you for Monday.

everyone else, have a lovely weekend!

36, 10+6, DC1, scan in 12 days!

Aw thanks again everyone - what would I do without you and my amazing RL friends and family?! Think the sunshine also helps... and my DH is doing an amazing job of ripping out the fireplace - horrible old gas thing with an ancient back boiler behind it - so that we can have a lovely wood burning stove in there

Am actually not feeling sick today and have thrown caution to the wind and told another couple of friends the news. Was feeling bad about telling people and thought perhaps I'd jinxed it, but I know that everyone that knows will be super supportive if anything happens and that's what it's all about isn't it?

Angelico you start that war if they cancel again! No idea when my scan will be - had 12 weeks scan scheduled for 4th April anyway. The doctor wrote out an urgent referral for a scan Thursday eve and the Receptionist faxed it off to the hospital straight away, so just got to keep fingers crossed and wait.
Hope it's sunny wherever you all are x

Hi jodidi and piggyboo I'm finding things very like you. I was quite proud to be quite tidy first time round, but I'm really spreading quickly this time
After MASSIVE poos there is very little there but as the day goes on my clothes become very uncomfortable. I walk and swim fairly regularly but never did any abs work and I probably had a bit of a tummy after baby. I'll definitely be doing some sit-ups after this bean has been sprung.
Enjoy the day all

Can I just ask, has anyone taken their other half to the booking appt with them? I know that they ask about medical histories and stuff and was quite happy with going on my own but one of my friends (nurse) has said that we'll more than likely get to hear the heartbeat. I don't want him to miss out on that.

Was worrying about the lack of sickness/tummy ache but have had a stonking headache and have slept for Britain today (think I'm building up the energy for an early evening snooze) and along with sore boobs I'm presuming all is well.

Hi everyone...hope you've all been enjoying the sunshine today...it's been lovely here!

Had some fab news today...my best friend is 5 weeks pregnant. All going well it will be brilliant for us both to be off on mat leave together!

kyyria I didn't take my husband to my booking in appointment, and didn't get to hear the heartbeat...at 10 weeks I doubt they'd have been able to hear it anyway

Hi all :) what a beautiful day it has been,I love it!!

My DP was with me for booking in app as he was home anyway,I found it helpful as MW was asking various questions about his side that I just couldn't answer.Hope that helps :)

Am debating whether to go to the pub with DP & a couple of friends but not sure if I can be arsed to peel my arse out the chair,it's been a looooooonnngggg week!!!!!

Have also managed to go without my sickness bands all day today for the first time in about a month but as I have been having the nausea in the evenings in the last week I think I'm going to need them!!!!

Oh my goodness!!! I have just (stupidly) googled the blood condition that I have (thrombophilia factor v leiden) to discover if it's inherited - which it is,it effects 3-7% of white population & there is a greater risk of a miscarriage in 2nd or 3rd trimester. I have now totally upset myself & wish I'd never bloody read it!!! I cant believe I've been so stupid!!! It did go on to say that most women with the condition go on to have perfectly normal & healthy pregnancies,I'm really hoping I'm in the latter....

morning all,

Guccigirl ok so it's too late now but step away from google. Google is the enemy of the pregnant woman. As long as you have good care I am sure your risk comes down considerably. I have a clotting issue which if treated my risks improve dramatically. Not saying yours in the same but trying to offer a virtual soothing. Have you seen your consultant yet?

On an all about me note, I feel so tired, I am boring myself. Gorgeous day, can't move from the sofa, just plain Wrong. Need a pooh and feel sick as a dog. The rage is killing me. Wanted to tape up the mouth of a pretentious woman on the tube yesterday, it just enraged me. Then I got home and was beyond irritated by the way DH was reading his newspaper. I was like this with DD. then sweetness and light when I got to 12 weeks. It's like having a personality disorder. I'm not normally that moody so it really freaks me out.
Anyway hope you are all less grumpy and tired than me and enjoying the sunshine. X

guccigirl, midget is right, step away from the google homepage! Take it easy and try not to stress. My advice for today is... Get outside and get your vitamin D!!! Been sitting in the garden - on the floor - no garden furniture - for the past hour and it's absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!! If you can, obviously... Hope you ladies stop feeling sick and angry soon x

I am off for a picnic to let the sunshine tickle my hormones back into better spirits. Sorry to be a mood Hoover x

DS's 1st birthday party today Hooray for the sunshine :)

Hope you all have a fabulous day outdoors :)

Hi all! I really am pretty sporadic but it's so nice to see all the familiar people posting away Glad to hear you're all doing well, aside from the various pregnancy symptoms.

I've had about a fortnight of death, what with the stomach virus, work stress and then killer combos of heartburn/nausea and dizziness in the evening. Come 6pm I would literally keel over onto the couch and then lay there until about 10, groaning.

But then this weekend! I don't know if it's the spring or the sunshine or what, but I did 1500m in the pool on Saturday, started sanding a chest of drawers I want to refurb, actually painted my toenails, and didn't die last night!

But I did have mega drama in the lane swimming; a very selfish swimmer was on the end of my pregnancy wrath. I was in the slow lane, chugging away at my lengths, and was being very considerate of older people that I was sometimes literally just treading water behind. Then they left and this guy got in, who proceeded to steam up and down. I got so annoyed and felt so harassed that I stopped him, and suggested he move into the medium or fast lane. He said they were busy and it was just us so what was the problem. WHAT WAS THE PROBLEM?? I launched into this rant about how selfish he was, how he should get in the fast lane if he wanted to go fast, or slow down if he was in the slow lane, and that you didn't do what you pleased and choose a lane based on its traffic!!!! Haha. Then two old ladies got in with us and we all slowed him right down.

Breathe!

What a weekend!

Started off Friday with me feeling sooo ill, sore throat, high temp, and generally dizzy and full of cold :-( spent friday morning in bed, dragged myself out to go to work in the afternoon as there was no-one to cover me (was only 3 hrs but still), then came home and had another 12 hrs sleep.
Had a lovely day with my faily yesterday, (we have a million birthdays this month so went for a huge family feast at Pizza Huy, yum!) then spent the afternoon with my sister and her brood of 5. My 4 yr old asked to stay there the night, so came home and had a dvd nite with hubby, (minus the alcohol, sob!).
Decided this morning I better do something about this dump that is supposed to be our home, so have been cleaning frantically all day. Then strangely got a phone call from the Ultrasound Dept at luchtime (didn't know they work sundays, but apparently they do.......MY SCAN IS ON FRIDAY!!!!! 11.25 AM.........I'm unbelievably excited (but also very scared in case whatever gave me a positive pg test has vanished) and I don't know how I'm going to clear it with work as they don't know yet (was waiting on healthy scan results before telling anyone else). I'm meant to be sorting the end of year accounts on friday morning and there's no -one else to do it arrrggg any ideas anyone? I'm not changing my scan time, no way, I've waited too long for it! Help! x

Hi all :),

Congrats to CWest, Jodidi and Yomping on getting their scan dates through (and to anyone else I've missed). Nenehoo - fingers crossed for a scan 'jump forward' - try not to worry - LOTS of innocuous reasons for abdominal lumps - they have to be prudent.

Kyrria - I haven't had a booking in appointment (and not likely to get one anywhere at this rate) but am having my 2nd scan (NT at 12 weeks) in a week. DP was supposed to be coming over to UK for it but has now let me down and seems utterly unbothered at missing anything. Perhaps it's 'cos he's had 2 kids before. I've been really upset but perhaps I shouldn't be. Is it normal for men not to be as interested as women would like them to be - especially if they've already had kids?

Sorry I've been quiet for a few days - my 'if you haven't got anything positive to say don't post' thing. Having a sudden nightmare having checked the immigration criteria for family immigration on my return to Norway (haven't gone through the full process yet for reasons I won't bore you with) and turns out we're likely to be turned down on criteria that we can't change in at least a few months. Best case scenario: they feel sorry for us under 'special humanitarian grounds' and let me in anyway as I'm pregnant (unclear how possible this is); worst case scenario - I'll have to stay in London and have baby without DP and not be able to see him much (other than the occasional weekend) for the rest of my pregnancy. Likely scenario: I'll have to stay in UK until we can remedy the criteria we don't meet - involving me getting 'booked in' here late but then emigrating and transferring my care to Norway at about 23/24 weeks. So not feeling great about things as you can imagine.

Glad most of you are enjoying the sunshine. I'm looking at it outside whilst at a window desk, furiously trying to make head or tail of Norwegian immigration small print. Grrrr....Still, on the upside, Mum's been ok to me for a few days (am still staying with her) and my occasional MS seems to have cleared up altogether! :) S & R...

41, 1st kid, 11+1

Kyrria I didn't take my dp to my booking appt. It seemed like a bit of a waste for us to both miss an afternoon of work (we both commute to work and it wouldn't have been worth going back). But I can answer questions about his family as well as he can (probably better seeing as I actually listen when they talk). I didn't hear the heartbeat either so it would have been a complet waste of time for him to come.
Gucci definitely step away from Google. I could scare myself silly with stuff on the internet (I did last time and learnt my lesson) so I stay away from it now.
midgetm I feel like I have a personality disorder too. I am sooooo emotional all the time, I am snapping at kids at school over things that normally don't bother me, I cry at the drop of a hat. This is so not like me, I normally just get on with things and am quite laid back about everything. I'm hoping this all stops soon and I can get back to normal.
CWest congratulations on the scan being so soon, I'm really jealous. Wish mine was that soon, I don't want to wait another 4 weeks, I want it now!!
FjordMor That sounds really stressful dealing with immigration. I hope it all works out the way you want it too. I think you are right about men not being as interested as we want them to be. I think it's partly because it doesn't seem to register with them until we have huge bumps. Last time dp wasn't bothered until we'd had the 12 week scan and he'd seen the baby moving, then he got a bit more involved but didn't seem really bothered until I was huge and waddling around being grumpy again. This time I don't think he even wants to come to the scan. He's trying to pretend it's not happening.

fjordmor blimey that sounds all rather bollocks. Apart from the mum being nice to you bit, that is good news considering. Sorry you have so much to worry about, quite frankly not what you need. Also don't think you have to say nice things to post on here. I am often a grumoy old cow and this is unlikely to cease until I make it to the second trimester! Sending virtual empathy x

Oh I forgot,

32, dc3, 9weeks ish.
I had a lovely day at mils today, dd2 spent the whole afternoon being entertained by her cousins and the puppy. Mil fed us which is always good as she's a retired chef (and it means I don't have to cook). I got to sit around in the sunshine the whole time :)

Jodiji x posted. I could have written that post about your OH about mine. I also actually listen to his family. He just zones out! Glad I am not the only one acting so out of character. I am def snapping at DD more, thank god I don't have long left till I go all happy and 2nd trimester. It does get better then, I promise.

Oh ho ho - do I have something to contribute to the booze discussion? Yes, yes I do.

DH and I planned a big 'coming out' party on Saturday. We promised our guests that we would be cracking open a big magnun of 12 year old champers that I won in a raffle years ago, under the premise that we had some big news about DH's work (see what I did there. Trickery!)

So anyhow, mid party, everyone out in the garden, we popped the champers and DH announced his work news (which, to be fair, was real). Everyone went to toast him, and mid toast, I lifted up my dress (I was wearing tights!) to reveal the word 'PREGNANT' in big letters written on my tum.

It was pretty damn funny!

What happened next... less so.

My husband's friends wife, she objects to me drinking the champage. She tells me so, I laugh her off.

Five minutes later, the same.

Five minutes later, the same again.

Five minutes after that, this happened:

She said 'I'm sorry, I just can't let you do this' and TRIED TO PULL THE GLASS FROM MY HAND.

Well.

You know how, after moments of high tension, women will often say 'I only wish I'd had the guts to say (...)'? That is not a problem that I have on this occasion. I said all the things. Then more. Basically, I ripped her a new one - possibly two. And once I'd finished, I said 'and if you say that to me again, I will say this to you again.'

She blinked at me, confused. '...you're angry?' she said.

'Yes', I said. 'I am extremely angry. I am extremely angry AT YOU.'

Ladies, I am happy to report that this story has a happy ending. The woman in question immediately left the table and disappeared. The next time I went into the house to use the loo, I discovered that all the washing up had been done - no prizes for guessing by who.

And I liked my glass of fancy champagne very much.

Zooplankton I can't believe that cheeky cow! Whatever her personal opinions she had no right whatsoever to do that to you, it would make me want to pick up the bottle and start swigging just to put 2 fingers up to her!! On a different note I love your dramatic reveal- people will be talking about that for a while

Angelico ? glad you finally got a nice midwife and hope they sort it out soon. Thank you too for the sympathy re sore back as was feeling very sorry for myself. I couldn?t find a physio who was available so went for a thai massage which, though excruciating at the time, has meant I?m feeling much better today. Hurrah. Spent the day in the sun with friends and their kids and then cycled home (about 40 miles) so although I?ll be heading off to bed soon I?m delighted that a little bit of the pre-pregnancy Livvy lives on!

RE booze, I?ve decided to only go for the odd bottle of alcohol free beer ? some of them are actually pretty nice and you don?t feel like you?re too deprived. My cover story at the moment (as most people, including family, don?t yet know I?m pregnant), is that I?ve ?given up booze for lent?. I?ve been rather less good on the food front, like you Yomping Jo I?ve had runny (out of date) egg, proper mayonnaise (presumably with eggs), prawns, scallops, peanut butter and so on. Ah well. I am mostly trying to be good but as you say, hopefully the risks are all pretty small.

And YompingJo, so touched by DH?s actions that made me well up. Hormones!

Nenehoo ? hope you?re not feeling bad and enjoyed the sun. Fingers crossed re scan.

Kyyria My DF can?t get the time off as it?s the morning we come back from holiday but friends have told me that he doesn?t really need to be there, so long as you can quiz him on family medical history beforehand.

Haggis that?s ACE. My best friend is currently doing IVF so I?m hoping that she has some luck this time round so we can hang out together on maternity leave.

Guccigirl yay re reduced sickness. I?m sure you?re in the most people category and I?m sure you?ll be fine. Midget is right, step away from google. Therein lies madness.

Midget I too have been suffering from STEAMING RAGE about things that normally wouldn?t rile me. Odd. Can we blame the hormones??

Ugh Bettybat that sounds not fun. Hopefully we?re all approaching the phase when we start to feel less ill? I feel your pain re swimming ? this is why I don?t go ? I just can?t face the dilly dallying or the aggro.

CWest yay for the scan. Can you claim ?a hospital appointment?? It?d be true ? and hospitals do just spring dates on you. If they ask what about, you just say ?women?s problems?. Just a thought anyway.

Fjordmor that sounds hellish complicated. Good luck with the paperwork!

Sorry for such a long post!!
36, 8+5, #1

My my, you all have been so busy!! Sorry for my absence these last few days... Congrats to all those with healthy scans- I'm STILL waiting for mine and the 11th April feels like a lifetime away.
My midwife personally told me to try and avoid alcohol completely for the first 12 weeks but after that a couple of glasses of wine would not do any harm. I am holding out on the hope that the weather will be still so beautiful in a couple of weeks because all I want is pear cider :( I'm not a big drinker anyway but I am missing it hugely!!! However I didn't find out I was pregnant until i was 7 weeks and went on a massive night out at around 5weeks.. and got pretty mullered. So I'm hoping we'll be OK.

Liege07 Glad your Mum is feeling better. Lots of sympathy for you, my nan is having chemo at the moment and I can't see her either.

MidgetM I was laughing at your sport relief comment- only because I bawled my eyes out too!!! It was Waterloo Road that did it for me today...

Kyyria DP didn't come with me to the booking in appointment either. To be honest all it is is paperwork, and providing you know about any important medical history he or his family might have, theres really not much point.

I am also glad to say that my mum has finally come round to the idea that I am PG. HOORAY! She's even decided that she will be "Nanny" and she wants to look after the baby for two days a week for me while DP is at work so that I can get a few hours work in too. Yay :)

Congrats to those that have done hugely large poo's. I am having trouble :(
Hope you have all had a lovely weekend in the sunshine. :)