Due in October -part 3

[HaggisNeepsTatties]

The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

Yay - just found out that one of our friends who I was worried about telling because of previous misscariages is 16 weeks pregnant! (They live abroad and have been keeping it quiet till now in case of any problems) So happy for them!

Afternoon :)

Phew! Lots to say - I'll crack on...

piggypoo so glad the scan went well after your scare.

Positive scan congrats also to DameIce, ChrissieJA, Midgetm, Squidkid, velo and Zoeplankton (hope I didn't miss anyone). Particular goes out to squid & Zoeplankton for crossing the hallowed 2nd trimester threshold.

Zoeplankton - huge YES to pregnancy comic! That would be ace! Would love to see your work :). Do let us know how the 'reveal' party goes - very cute idea .

milk - sorry to hear you missed your scan and had such a nightmare day.

smorgs hope you and your community are ok after all this recent business. You must all still be reeling after the events last night and whilst it's good they caught him it has all been so harrowing and tragic.

CWest30 hope the mumps thing is oK. Fingers crossed for you.

londonlivvy - congrats on the flat offer which must be a big weight off your mind. Hope it all goes smoothly from here. Holiday sounds great! Commiserations on the death of your jeans .

Dameflat - most of my symptoms disappeared at about 9.5weeks (although my breasts almost went back to normal after a dreadful first 5 weeks with them). Scan however showed all fine. I'm not however feeling 'good'. I'm only really still getting tiredness (good days and bad days), backache, brain fog and just today a stonking headache. No real sickness at all (perhaps I'm going to have a boy? ), not particularly 'hormonal' (although the odd zit and slightly greasy hair remains), cramps subsided and nipples only feel tender if tweaked or bumped. I'm trying to take solace in a good scan and the 'all pregnancies are different' adage. It must be a lot more confusing for you guys with previous pregnancies though - to compare and worry.

Good days and good scans to all :)

So thrilled for everyone with their scans!! milk your day sounds truly hideous! I really feel for you I would be gutted...

zoe you make me feel better when you say you got angry about your window pane... I got the rage today about the impending hose pipe ban!!!

31, 1st baby, 10 + 4

Hey all, milk so glad all is well and just postponed, must have been one sucky day! Zoe so glad your scan went well! :O

I am not having pregnancy rage so much as hospital rage - they have just cancelled my ante-natal appt for the second time! Was originally supposed to be at 13+4, was moved to 15+4 which seems ridiculously late for first appt. I phoned and they agreed it was too late, moved it to 12+6 (next week). Home from parents' evening tonight to find letter saying it will be at 15 wks. This after me and DH both arranging time off work to attend, especially difficult for DH who had to plan whole diary around it.

I am really furious . Going to ring tomorrow but am actually thinking about making a complaint if they don't get it sorted. Are they going to wait till I'm 15 weeks, then cancel it AGAIN??? The bean will be ready to pop out before they ever get me in to see consultant!!!

Hi All,
I've been away for a few days, without internet, being looked after by mum which was lovely. Took me a while to catch up.
Milk I'd need a tranquilizer after that kind of day, but as someone else has pointed out, it's not the worst possibility. Good luck with the next one.
HHHBB So sorry about that news. I have no words.

To all that are 13 weeks plus, I'm confused. I think I am 12 weeks tomorrow - counting from Dec. 30st as my day 1 and I think I am due Oct 5. Am I counting right?

This is my second pregnancy and it is sooo different. I wore a non maternity dress to a wedding at 19 weeks first time round. I never wore maternity pants as I seemed to carry very high. Low cut jeans fitted me, and the 1 pair of maternity jeans I did buy felt like they were constantly slipping off. Anyway I started in maternity pants this week - 11 weeks!! It doesn't exactly look like a bump. My tummy was a muffin top that has kinda firmed up. To those that have difficulty hiding behind a tight shirt, I'm having difficulty hiding in a rugby shirt.
I love though that this is a unique experience for me and the bean. He/she has her own experience and is not an 'also ran'.

As I've been away a few days a lot of ideas were mentioned.
SEX: We found out first time that it was a boy. We meant to keep it a secret but I let it slip a few times. I tried to cover it up and call it her to confuse, but it was a lot of effort. Thinking of not finding out this time. Would equally love love LOVE either.
SEX: Only interested after sleep. Bit of action usually at weekend. Niece almost walked in on us at Mum's house. Barely done. Big passion killer. Probably wont risk that again.

MARRIAGE: I'm married. Must say I love the security of it. My oldest nephew, now 18 was born before my brother and his mum married. I worried if the relationship ended, would he and our family have less contact with the baby. If she moved on to a new relationship/area, would the father have access?

Lots of other stuff, (I'm going to a private ObGyn) but going to get some ice cream now, and other carbs.
Goodnight all.

So glad to read about all the scan results going well! It certainly does seem like we are all entering or about to enter a more secure time. I feel so sad about the women who suffered earlier losses. I have to say though, I think it is better -almost kinder- to wait until 12 weeks unless there is a previous reason not to. I don't think I could have taken seeing a baby at say 6 weeks and still having the insecurity and worries... I don't know, maybe I'm not making sense.

Anyway I've had a really nice day :) The main reason is after my scan yesterday I feel confident about my pregnancy for the first time, really. I'm not constantly fretting about whether my breasts are as sore as yesterday and not being nauseous is a blessing not a worry.

I told work today - they were all really lovely. It's my last day on the job tomorrow, so they certainly have no reason to be anything but lovely - it won't affect them! But it was so nice being open and having the congratulations and laughing with one of the really nice doctors there who shouted "I KNEW IT! You've been sick for months, and always eating really weird food at really weird times!"

I also told quite a few more of my friends, phoned them, or emailed - telling people is so much fun.

So that was good, and my patients were fine today, and I did some weights when I got home and walked a few miles around the river. And then my boyfriend took me out to dinner in my favourite pub, except it suddenly sprang a gas leak, so we went to another pub (I live in middle of loads of great pubs, hard life). Drank soda water (I'm such a cheap date now) and ate halloumi cheese and chips - odd, but worked! Came home had lots of sex feel great only one day at work left then HOLIDAY!

We are going hiking after all, slightly shorter than originally planned, 3 days 45 miles, in the Peak district. Boy agrees my energy's mostly come back, and I just can't wait.

Sorry if this is all a bit happy for those of you who are suffering with nausea and stress and fatigue - hope it gives you a bit of hope things will get better!

Angelico Could the phone call and letter have crossed each other, and next weeks appointment still stands? Definitely phone.

lisbeth yes you are right - we are bump buddies :o also due 5th Oct. And letter was only sent on 20th so sadly no crossed wires - just them being arses.

Glad you're feeling better squid! :)

Also is anyone else having a case of the disappearing reappearing bump? Earlier today, I took a photo of my belly and realised it looked exactly the same as pre-pregnancy and put on my tightest jeans to check this, and they fitted perfectly. After dinner - BUMP APPEARS. OK it's not really a bump but my tummy is definitely not flat! Then I do poo - BUMP IMMEDIATELY DISAPPEARS. I appreciate not having to buy new clothes yet, but ooooh... I want my bump!

it's my first pregnancy, when did other people start showing? I'm 13+2...

HaggisNeepsTatties oh that's great news about your friend. How lovely that you can congratulate each other.

Angelico that sounds very frustrating and yeah 15 weeks sounds very late to see anyone. Why do you need to see a consultant, if you don't mind me asking? Or does it work differently in Ireland (you are in Ireland aren't you? if not ignore my daft baby brain!)

lisbeth -waves- nice to see you again, glad you had some pampering! I've heard you show a lot quicker with second pregnancies so that sounds pretty normal to me! And yes you are right those of us who are 13 weeks shouldn't really be on this thread - can't speak for the others, but I thought I was due 1st October and my dating scan knocked it back to 25 Sept - not complaining :o

For those worrying about symptoms easing off, I'll add my bit: tiredness/nausea definitely got better around 10-11 weeks.

Squid I'm in NI so still under NHS :). I think it's just our local hospital is consultant led rather than midwife led. I had my community midwife appt at 5.5 wks but this will be my first hospital ante-natal appt. I'm mostly cross because I'm 35 in a couple of months and not sure whether they would be planning to do that nuchal fold scan thing where they start checking for Downs etc. It has to be done by 13+6 but not sure if they always do it tbh.

Yes exactly, I think they should offer you an earlier appointment so you can have the Downs screening if you want it. It's not like you told them late. I hope you get some joy from phoning them.

Ah, it's my bedtime. Night, lovely ladies.

Squid definitely don't leave. I was 6 days early last time, so I may be Sept too - and you could run over - tee hee hee.

And no, my muffin top is NOT disappearing. All this despair at still fitting into your skinny jeans.... feck off.

Squid , yes! In the am , hardly anything, both buttons on my work pants fasten. I eat lunch and it just pops out! Have to undo one button. Also dissapears after a vig poo. How unromantic I feel somedays rubbing my bump.

well I had my first big prenancy brain fart just now. I got my leftovers out of the fridge and popped them in the microwave to reheat. Wasn't until the end of the two minutes I realized I put a metal bowl in the microwave! Thank god nothing blew up.

lisbethsopposite haha, I'm sorry! I'm sure come 30 weeks I'll be wondering why I ever wanted a bump!! I read somewhere if you have strong stomach muscles you show a bit later and I've done quite a bit of weights the last year. And I'm not really skinny or anything (sporty/healthy-sized), I guess the tiny girls show earlier too. Beeblebear yeah! it's the morning so I feel bumpless again - was having some pretty pregnant-feeling sex last night!

It's my last day at work before holiday, yay!

It feels really weird not taking folic acid any more, I've been taking it since before christmas. And before I was taking folic acid, I was taking the pill since I was about 15. I kind of want to stop the vitamin D too (are you guys taking vitamin D? I only heard about it as a new guideline a few weeks ago, new advice, so I wouldn't worry if not) - I like the idea of not taking any tablets, FINALLY!

May post more from work as not in the mood for doing too much, haha!

ps. I want EVERYONE on this thread to have their 12 week scan NOW and them all to be healthy lovely babies so we can have a second trimester thread where hopefully we will all feel a bit better! impatient impatient impatient. Still sick this morning, but only until I had breakfast.

32, 13+3, first kid

morning all, why am I awake on my day off?

Angelico sounds a long time to wait. No wonder you have hospital rage, quite justified I'd say.

I do have a bump. Been pregnant 9 bloody times so that may explain some of it plus I am an actual tiny midget so even though uterus only the size of a grapefruit it does look like I have an actual bit of fruit stuck in my trousers. I have tempted fate and ordered some nice skinny cords from blossom mother and child. They won't come for a couple of weeks by which time I think I will need them. Still only put on a tiny bit of weight on but shape totally different, not sure how that works. And it is HUGE by the evening, a real beast. Think pooh baby, food baby and 1% actual baby.

Good morning everyone, nice to hear such a lot of good news.

We had a scan on Monday, saw and heard the heartbeat, it was really great. My dates were confirmed exactly to the day and I am 9 weeks today. It seems the symptoms are kicking in a bit more now - a lot of nausea in the mornings although haven't actually been sick and I am in bed at 8.30 pm.

I know I am lucky with relatively minor symptoms but it is beginning to take its toll. My Mum went into hospital on Sunday for a major operation she has (hopefully we can say "had" now) colo-rectal cancer. I spoke to her yesterday and she sounded awful, I haven't ever heard her sound so ill before. I am abroad and can't go and see her until next week. I feel completely useless. I have been instructing my brother and Dad to bring her nice things to eat so she can build up her strength and to tell people that she can't accept visitors at the moment, she is so weak but is one of those that will never say no. To be honest I'm struggling at the moment. Also we have the blessing of our marriage in April (a normal wedding with loads of guests even though we were officially married in Dec) and there is so much to do. I also feel so bad that my Mum is so unwell and I really hope she will be well enough to enjoy it, it seems sometimes like the wedding is more important to her than to us. Pff everything all at once!

So that is my situation... hectic tiring and sad.. sorry to offload on you all but kind of need to get it out of the system. I had been feeling ok but yesterday I had a meltdown and still feeling v fragile this morning.

28 9weeks DC1

Squidkid - YES to the disappearing bump! Every morning I go to the loo, and poof! Away it goes. Very disappointing, I want a bump!

I am pretty slim and have a freakishly flat tum (I assume it's genetic, my mum is the same), so I'm l'm looking forward to having a big weird-looking bump.

When I mentioned this to the ultrasound man yesterday, he said 'just remember - most of those bumps that you're jealous of are Mum, not Baby.' I think it was supposed to make me feel better but actually I'd rather have a big ol' bump, even if it was mostly made of me. Can't really complain though, I know...

...but having said that, I did grow out of all (and I mean, my trousers by week 8. I am currently wearing an old pair of DH's jeans, and they're verging on too small. (For the record - DH is pretty thin too! We joke that our baby will be a lollipop-headed creature with feeble muppet limbs. Bloody hope not, though.)

Liege07 Sorry about your Mum - must be hard to cope with that and pregnancy hormones at the same time x

Grrr, just drafted a really long message and Mumsnet logged me out

Thanks for all your messages and good wishes. It certainly has been a weird few days in Toulouse. Luckily we don't know anyone directly affected by what happened and most of the "action" took place over a mile from where we live so we were not in any danger. But it was all still terribly sad nonetheless.

I have been starting to feel much better. Still getting tired in the evenings and get the odd bout of nausia when I haven't eaten for a few hours... or I'm just greedy But definitely have more energy. Made it to yoga on Wednesday night and we're going skiing this weekend. Weirdly I seem to have lost a few pounds too. Maybe it's just that I'm not constipated anymore? Definitely no sign of a bump yet, but I wondered if that is because I am fairly long-waisted in proportion to the rest of me (ie I have short legs).

Squid Velo Zoeplankton Congratulations on the scans!

Velo Am I right in thinking you live in Belgium? Is the system there similar to France do you know? Do you get to choose where you give birth? How did you decide if so? Also have you found any anti-natal classes in English?!

DameFlatYouLent Alot of my symptoms have started to go too, try not to worry. I think it's normal for our stage.

HaggisNeepsTatties I have a lime too! And a womb the size of a grapefruit apparently?!

Guccigirl79 Yes we're due date buddies! 16th Oct - but I suppose that could change after the scan. Mine's on 30th March.

Duh, forgot stats.
32, 10+3, DC1

Liege07 I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. I think I'm right in saying bowel cancer has one of the highest survival rates, so hopefully she is out of the woods now.

oh MAN - my DD is 30th October, hence me being MILES behind everyone else for scans and things. But YAY for everyone who's had great ones. And lucky squidkid who's blooming with 2nd trimester glee. This is light at the end of the tunnel for me!

I am suffering with horribly sore back and neck and general hormonal craziness (burst into tears on DF last night who was totally bemused). Sorry to moan.

Angelico that sounds like a hugely frustrating experience. I hope they get it sorted soon.

Liege07 I hope your mum continues to make good progress.