Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

Welcome ellengirl I am also married and I have the most amazing in-laws - the whole lot of them. A lovely second family. So I think you will fit in nicely. I have also already had 3 scans so you are in good company. Number 4 is next week. We were planning to get married and then got pregnant. So I was 6 months when I waddled down the ailse of a catholic church (and I'm not even catholic - go figure). Plans are plans and all. I found it all rather amusing. As did the priest I think.

HeHe got everything crossed for you - let us know how you get on - I will be thinking about you. (in a positive vibe way - not a weird stalker way).

LondonMrsS not heard of the phone thing before and no way I can moderate my use as I only have mobiles for work and I am on them fairly constantly. What does the article say? Metro is normally ripped straight from the Standard which is straight from the Daily Mail so hoping we can take it with a pinch of salt....

I agree - metro thing sounds like scare mongering to me. I too would be screwed if I couldn't use my mobile - I've already been on it for about 3 hours this morning. I do use a bluetooth headset so at least it's not heating up next to my ear, but would be really hard to cut back use.
Couldn't imagine what the third trimester would be like if that was the case as I travel a lot with work and will probably have to be on the phone more then when I can't do face to face meetings...unless everyone comes to me :)

The article is here
www.metro.co.uk/news/893259-using-mobile-phones-during-pregnancy-may-harm-unborn-child

I am with Midget though - if it's part of the Daily Mail school of journalism, whereby everything is cancer causing one week, and a superfood the next, then I'm going to take it with a pinch of salt.

Anyway, it's pretty vague - "limit your use" means what? I used to have a colleague who spent over 3 hours every day on the phone and sent 3000 texts a month. I'm more like 20 mins a week on the phone, 10 texts a day but lots of time on twitter / facebook etc etc. Should I limit it too? and to what?

Hi everyone. I have just been for my scan and unfortunately its a MMC. The baby stopped developing at 9 weeks. I am in shock.

Thanks for all your advice and friendship. I wish you all the best for your pregnancies x

Oh HeeHee I'm so sorry to hear that. Hugs and my best wishes and I hope you have better news soon.

HeeHeeHeeBum, I am so sorry :(

Hi all, sorry I've been MIA. I've been suffering badly with sickness recently. I have brought myself some Seabands to see if they help. Came across them when looking for ways to combat sea sickness as we're taking DD to Disneyland Paris first week of May so I'm excited about that, but hoping I'll be in a better state by then too. Got 1.5 weeks til we have our scan and can finally tell DD if all is well.

HeeHeeHeeBum I'm so sorry to hear that. Thoughts are with you x

HeeHee I'm so sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you and hope to see you back here with good news one day soon xxx

Oh no, heehee. I am shocked. So sorry.

I came on here to witter about nerves as I'm about to 'fess up to the boss... seems a bit minor now.

And squidkid - you can join me and fjordmor in the Troublesome Mum/MIL club! (It's a sucky club, but at least there is one ;) )

Zoeplankton, I need to join that club too!

heehee so so very sorry, thinking of you.

heehee so sorry hun. I hope youre alright. lots of love going your way and hope that you are back on here again soon with good news.

I read the article in the metro today as well. I work remotley and only have a mobile phone. So i use it all day. I think i shall have to take the article with a pinch of salt as i dont know how i could use my mobile less if i had to. Im sure its scare mongering. They used to say mobiles caused brain tumours but theyve been in heavy use for 10 years now and there is no evidence to support anything like that.

With pregnancy there seems to be a mountain of things you cant do or should avoid!! i cant bloody keep up! and i ignore most of them.

My Scan is now only 4 sleeps away!!! !!!! so excited.

HHHB, so so sorry.

Heehee really sad and sorry to hear this. Sending you love - take care of yourself xo

Heehee so sorry about your tragic news hun,I cant imagine what you're feeling. I know it's not much but I really hope that you get your wish for a healthy bean very soon. You are in my thoughts & sending you much love & hugs xoxo

So sorry heehee. That's the news no one wants :( I hope you have plenty of support in RL.

I feel bad moaning now but moan I shall. TMI alert. I have been alternating between diarrhoea and constipation all week, I feel sick and I'm fed up. That's all.

heehee i am so so sorry. I hope you are getting lots of hugs and support. respisa and tlm, not sure if you will read this but i was away for a bit when you got your news and I never said how incredibly sorry I was. I hope we will see you all on here with good news very soon. Thinking of you loads.

I feel bad moaning too but I am SO bloated - I have never been so distended. Any tips to resolve this?

HHHB So sorry to hear that. Lots of cuddles flying your way.. Hope to see you hear with good news soon.

I think this whole mobile thing is ridiculous. They tested on pregnant mice with normal mobile phones, held over their heads. Somehow I don't think any of us is putting their mobile phone next to their bump for a prolonged period of time... Its scaremongering. As usual. Newspapers are rubbish! Lol :)
Well I'm off to watch criminal minds. Have had a truly uneventful day today. Lots of love ladies. x

Heehee, so sorry to hear that, its the one thing everyone dreads, my thoughts are with you and yours xxx

jodidi thanks for your answer, I had very few symptoms last time as well, but to have nothing is actually petrifying. Its not helped by the fact that all the pregnancy jargon books say, "at this stage you will be feeling tired/sick/have sore boobs etc" as that obviously isnt the case for everyone, you dont read about women that have no symptoms but it's completly normal grrrrrr rant over hehe.

Oh well, 2+ weeks til my scan, hope I can last that long, however I'm convinced all this worry is going to make me throw up sooner or later...wow, never thought I would want to throw up so much in my life!!

Question for the unmarried ladies - and this is based in genuine interest, not meaning to stir trouble - have you researched/do you know what will happen if, heaven forbid, the relationship ends?

I ask because I'm Australian, and we have a thing called 'de facto' for long term unmarried couples. It means that, legally, if the relationship ends your property is split the way it would if you divorced, and if one of you dies, you get the retirement money with no (or few) quibbles.

I was honestly shocked when I got to the uk and found there is only 'married' and 'single'. And I met a couple of - with reason, very bitter - women who thought marriage has just a piece of paper, had the babies and forsook the career, and only when they broke up with their partner after twenty or more years realised that 'piece of paper' was a legally binding document with heavy financial implications. These women lost huge amounts of money from what they thought was a shared financial life - it's not, not in this country, not without the marriage certificate.

Thoughts?

I knew I'd seen an article on this recently - www.guardian.co.uk/law/2011/feb/03/fair-shares-cohabitees-family-law-reform

heehee so sorry. What a shock. Hope you're being taken good care of tonight

londonlivvy - no tips sorry but does a 'me too - so much I can't bend properly & get a bit out of puff' make it any better? I know 'no' is the answer but know you're not alone in that & I feel your discomfort!

Zoeplankton - sad but true. No legal protection without marriage in the uk. My dad used to be a divorce lawyer & always drove it home that I should get married even if just to protect myself. He'd be mortified to think that I'm buying a house with DP without being married (I would like to be) so my compromise is having a signed contract with each other, lodged with a solicitor, detailing our agreement as to how we'll divide things should we split up. Seems unromantic? Will never come into play unless we split up & splitting up's pretty unromantic isn't it?

hehebum only just got in after another mental day and hope you are well tucked up and resting by now but I just wanted to say how sorry I am. It sucks, no words can take that away. Allow yourself time and then hopefully you will update us all with better news. Huge hugs and I really hope you have all the live and support you need right now. X