Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

Hello everyone, just checking in.

Symptoms wildly variable at the moment, one minute exhausted sick and sobbing, the next minute happily getting into my exercise again. Well it's an improvement anyway! I managed to swim a mile this evening, really happy with that, and I did the first weights routine I've done since getting pregnant yesterday, happy with that too, muscles are sore in that familiar way that I actually find kind of pleasant. And I've been managing a few miles walking each day too. Feel human again!

Went to the theatre last night, boyfriend had free tickets, great play, but it was set in Germany in the 70s and EVERYONE ON STAGE WAS SMOKING. I went green, it was horrible. (Prepregnancy I would have the occasional naughty cig when stressed/drunk as well - not that well behaved a doctor). Struggled through valiantly and walked home unsteadily and didn't get in bed till 11.30 - WAY past my bedtime. Eurrgh.

ALSO, well excited about this, am beginning to have something that looks like a bump. I was obsessively taking photos of it last night. At least it's there in the evenings. My clothes still fit but my tightest jeans are a bit of a squeeze now, but only in the evenings or after meals. In the mornings I'm exactly the same, work trousers fine every day... hmm. I think I'm beginning that phase where you don't look pregnant but you're bigger. I haven't weighed myself but I don't think I've put on much (if any). Feel quite lucky, though it is probably because all I've eaten for TWO MONTHS is vegetables, everything else just seems too sickly. I'm probably anaemic now. Boyfriend says he is getting very bored of the "I'm putting on weight!"/"I don't have a bump yet!" alternating whinges, so I will shut up :)

Made a really nice cauliflower curry tonight.

My boyfriend's mum is an evil bitch, but I knew that anyway. She decided to call up boyfriend on his birthday and tell him how hard her life was (she never leaves the house, just sits there being miserable, despite zillions of friends and family trying to help) and have a go at us for (1) not being married (2) not having kids yet (hah) (3) how even if we ever did have kids which we won't till we're 40 we won't bring it to see her so what would be the point. GOD! (1) I'm not married cause I don't believe in it and I have been open about this for a decade so quite what she thinks is going to happen now I don't know, (2) I don't feel like telling her I'm pregnant till I'm 8 bloody months now, and (3) there's no question she could visit us of course! She had a go at his brother last year for having a kid "too young" - you can't fucking win. Stupid miserable cow. I hate that my boyfriend has to put up with her, poor kid. He is (well we are) probably planning to give the kid my name as well - man that will piss her off. Whatever!

oh god I've written an essay. So sorry.

londonlivvy so I sympathise, you know, I have been with my boyfriend for over a decade and we're not religious and we don't believe in marriage, and we have already out-lasted several!

YompingJo Sorry you sound so tired! I think weight gain is one of those things we see on ourselves that other people rarely do. I have told a few people now and am also worried that my 12 week scan (6 days, eep) will show something awful... but at 12 weeks with no bad symptoms... it's such a small chance. I keep trying to tell myself that.

Much love to everyone struggling with tiredness and sickness and all the other joys of pregnancy.

32, 11+4, 1st kid

sarashpip you should really speak to your midwife about losing/managing your weight while pregnant. Slimming World is pregnancy friendly because it's healthy eating and you can eat loads, where most diets aren't really recommended. But you do need your midwife's permission to do it, and they tend to only do that if you are already overweight. In fact in some places they have Slimming world groups specifically for pregnant women, but I don't think they weigh you every week like they do if you aren't pregnant. Did that make sense? I am about 3 stone overweight already, so really don't want to put too much on in this pregnancy so am thinking about rejoining. At the minute I don't need it as I've lost 9lbs in the past 3 weeks, I gave up chocolate for Lent, then went off food so am not really eating anything like what I used to.

angelico and midgetm CONGRATULATIONS! you must be so happy. Angelico, how come your scan is so early, is that the 12 week one?

bettybat Poor you!! Does sound more like a stomach bug. Can you have any time off....

Fjordmor Oh I'm sorry your appointment was so unfulfilling. I see pregnant girls at work and I don't feel like I'm very helpful, I just tell them about folic acid and smoking and drinking, do a blood pressure and a weight, note their last period, and tell them to book in with the midwife. I don't re-test them or anything, the over the counter tests are perfectly accurate. I do at least take the time to say congratulations though, if the pregnancy is wanted! stupid grumpy doctor.

Hi ladies, I am in bed about to turn out the light.... Exhausted, no time for a nap today and it really shows!

My booking appointment is tomorrow with the midwife, I got into my chosen hospital although I am out of area. And thank goodness, my landlord gave us notice yesterday - devastated! We only moved here 8 months ago, very stressful and have spent a small fortune making the house our own. The landlord said he was keen for a long tenancy just like us so we got truly stuck in!

But the good thing is we've decided to move to the next county where the hospital is incidentally and it should be cheaper there. My crazy DH wants me to find us a house to BUY in 3 months. Its quite sweet he seems to think I am a miracle worker and capable of so much when in actual fact I am barely getting through each day!!!,

Oh dear I am ranting on a bit, sorry, yawn, wish me luck for tomorrow, all I want is a date for a scan so I can see if baby is ok, healthy and a single or double pregnancy..... Fingers crossed!

Night night!

38 11 weeks (I think) Dc2

oh YompingJo also meant to mention, the ideal time for a scan is 12+6 so that's what they try and aim for, but, I asked if I could have it a few days earlier as I'm on holiday then and didn't want to have to stay at home, and they were totally accommodating. You can only try...

Noooooo, I mean 37 not 38, ageing rapidly it seems!

Hi ladies

Right so I'm in transit... stuck in Dubai airport for the next 8.5 hours. No free Emirates hotel for me cos my ticket isn't right fare code

Any ideas? Lol already got the obligatory airport McDonalds trip sorted. The hotel inside the terminal is a ripoff, USD$200 for 6 hours (that's their "special")!

Got my Kindle at least ...

Well, booking in appt with midwife wasnt very reassuring :-(

She just took all my medical history, details, etc and stuck a needle in my arm. I explained how worried I've been about the lack of symptoms, and all ahe said was "if the test says you're pregnant then you are" grrrrrrr, ok I accept that I'm pregnant, but why am I not feeling sick, tired, throwing up, getting cramps/cravings......I literally dont feel ANYTHING. The only good thing is that she is also taking the drs advice and putting my LMP as 31 Dec, not 2 Feb when I had a very light/short period. So she said I should get a scan in 2 weeks, which is good but Im petrified there will be nothing there, or something bad has happened. Is there anyone else having no syptoms whatsoever?? I had very few with my first pregnancy, but I literally have NOTHING, and its really getting to me :-(

Can also confirm that I am also getting many unsavoury stares at my swollen preggo boobs from swarthy men in the airport. Ick. Wish I had a real bump (not just a bloat bump) to shame them from staring!!!

CWest I had no symptoms at all with dd1, apart from no periods, which isn't uncommon for me as I have pcos. I didn't even think to do a test until I was 16 weeks and had quite a prominent bump [:$] She is now 12 years old so obviously everything was fine. I'm having very few symptoms this time round either. I'm a bit tired and not really in the mood for food, but nothing spectacular, no boob tenderness (not even while I'm still bf dd2) no nausea, no sickness, nothing. Dh thinks I'm a bit more emotional than normal but again I think that can be explained by his awful reaction to this pregnancy, I don't think I've been any more emotional than I would have been if we'd had this big an argument about anything else.

I've had a fantastic day symptoms-wise today - very little nausea tonight...have even had the energy to help DH make the evening meal!!

Haven't been hormonal up until now but I think that's starting to kick in. Have spent the last few days being seriously annoyed by people, wanting to punch things and then nearly bursting into tears when DH went to the supermarket and I struggled to get it all in the freezer!

Also had odd looks from DH tonight...he seemed to think it wasn't normal to have half a jar of pickled onions with cottage pie...ho-hum!

Wow - so many people I want to comment to tonight (I'll try to split it in 2 posts).

Midgetm - thanks for the support re my mum. I'll remember what you said about jumping around to the football while I'm trying to contain myself watching Wales go for the Grand Slam against France on Saturday . So pleased you had a good scan :)

bella2012 - thanks :) - she went really quiet until I next decided to speak to her and when I came downstairs this morning, she asked me how the doctor's was before I even sat down. I think that's her version of unapologetic remorse . Hope you enjoyed your day off.

Smorgs - thanks :) - empathise over the super-fatigue some days too. I think cold sores are rather common in pregnancy. A total bummer but not to be unexpected I think.

milk - so you caved huh? It's SO tempting some days. I'm starting to want to tell EVERYONE if only to explain why I'm being so crap and wimpy about everything.

Dame - Hi :) nice to see you

bettybat - sounds very much like norovirus. Really horrid but disappears again as quickly once it's done. Keep as well hydrated as you can.

londonlivvy - Yay to sick-free days! :) me too today thank god and I actually got some stuff done. Yay to unwed mothers too! Thank god in Norway it's the norm to have kids first then get married but here a few of the few who know are a bit confused and have assumed this was a 'happy mistake' lol

I did have a better day today - thanks to all who made sympathetic noises :-). I think my hormonal mood was much worsened by rowing with my DP as well whose general male thoughtlessness gave me a hideous body image moment. I'm not over it but we've made up a bit.

Zara - poor you! what a boring wait. Head in a book I say but feel for ya.

Angelico - thanks hun :) I think it was deserved. Since I got no 'lip' back (I would have usually) I'm figuring a guilty conscience on her part. She just 'forgets' to think of others sometimes. So glad to hear about your healthy, active bean on scan :) :)

gigglewiz - so sorry about the housing shocker. Me & DP are also looking to buy and move into a new house before I drop. Will probably be moving in my 3rd trimester but nothing I can do. No room for a baby in our current flat. That's life I guess. Hope it works out for you.

squidkid - Your boyfriend's mum sounds like familiar territory to me - I feel your pain! Thanks for the reassurance re GP appointment. I didn't expect that much and am always happy not to have my weight checked :) (especially with current depressive body image issues) but had thought at least I would have my blood pressure checked since I have a previous history of occasional borderline readings, I'm old, overweight and generally high risk (as she strongly re-iterated). When do blood tests get done? With midwives? Might I get one at EPU? Guess I didn't know what to expect & guess I'm a bit insecure-feeling as I'm between health systems and feel I'll miss the loop at some stage or other. Just found out I may be doctor-less as well as midwife-less until week 15 after my EPU appt on Mon (at 11+2) :-\ Anyway, glad you're feeling so good & getting active again :)

Hoping for another good day tomorrow, and weekend (sick/tiredness wise) as need to get masses done. Wish the same to you all too !

I am also joining the non-married club if thats alright :) Why is it that it seems most people still live in the old days? "Oh you can't have a baby out of wedlock..", "Are you getting married then?", "Why aren't you marrying then?" God it gets so boring. Not counting the fact that everyone thinks we're wierd for the fact that there's 19 years between us.. Very thankful I have a relaxed family!!! We're not against it we just can't be bothered with the fuss and the money at the moment. Maybe when the little one is a little bit older so I can resolve arguments about bridesmaids/best men etc etc. Anyway, thats my rant over (because I get fed up with these questions- one day I might just turn round and tell them I'm a nun). Hope you've all had a lovely day, I went back to work today and had a good shift, although I don't think the same will be said for tomorrow. We are also under threat of having our hours cut, just what we need right now!!!!!! :@

Hugs for everyone its nearly the weekend soon!
20, 9 weeks tomorrow, #1

fjord seriously, go careful. I feel like my abs have been through a ringer. It's a risky activity for a laddee in the family way.

Still in Dubai.... After an uncomfortable few hours sleep I discovered the joys of soft squishy neck and round pillows they sell here. And that you can use the airport hotel's very nice, fully kitted out (incl spa toiletries, fluffy robe and slippers) shower rooms for USD$14. Well worth it. I regularly think a hot shower is one of life's greatest and most overlooked luxuries.

Just stopped myself from googling while I sit here, cos my strong nausea has disappeared the past few days (since my scan actually). Still hate the smell of many things and only a fan of bland food. And feel fucking exhausted and like I'm get jetlagged all the time - which now that I am starting to actually be jetlagged (yay 13 hour time difference...!), I can't tell the difference.

Trying to remind myself before I google of the stern words of the sonographer: "DO NOT Google symptoms. You will only drive yourself crackers. Think about your baby and its strong heartbeat instead." Wise words.

Only 2.5 hours till my flight boards... Then a measly 18.5 hours to Auckland, and just a quick 2.5 hour drive to PIL house! These smooshy pillows better work their magic on the plane so I can sleep. The neck one vibrates too, ooo'eer, it feels a bit rude

I wanted to bagsy the first post of the morning, but Zara you beat me to it but a good few hours - hope your long wait is over now, and lol at your vibrating neck pillow - down girl!

ToMickey, weddings don't have to be fuss and money. DH and I got married on top of a mountain in Scotland - just me, him, our mates who are a couple so acted as best man and bridesmaid, and his mate who is a photographer - oh, and the minister. Then we went to the local climber's pub (in full wedding regalia plus mountaineering boots!) for dinner. Our cake was a Caterpillar cake bought that morning in Morissons, Fort William. No fuss, bunches of laughs, brilliant. Cost us very little - had to pay for the actual marriage license and the minister (Humanist Society) and I did buy a dress (from eBay) but that was my choice, I didn't need it for climbing up a mountain! Neither of us wanted a big event with loads of people, or to spend thousands on one day and all the associated crap.

Squid, you're inspiring me to try a gym visit tonight - although I might skip the core stuff, left me feeling a bit odd last week.

Have a good day, everyone.

Damn, too tired to make things go bold properly or cross things out properly. I'll get my coat.

zara step away from google. Google is not a friend of the first trimester. Step towards the showers and the neck pillow. They are your friend. Hope your travelling is now over.

Morning ladies. I haven't been posting much lately but I have been reading. I had more bleeding the other day and then more this morning. The EPU were much more sympathetic this morning and I'm finally getting an early scan. I really hope this puts my mind at rest.

YompingJo your wedding sounds lovely!

Zara step away from Google! I have been googling symptoms and it has driven me crazy.

squidkid, MILs truly are the worst!!!

Thanks everyone for support on the unwed mother malarky. We do want to get married (and indeed have plans to do so next June) it's just that we're not following the traditional order of things by doing the baby first ;-) ah well, sure she'll get over it eventually. YompingJo that sounds like a fab day - we're planning a beach party in Cornwall. Fjordmor you have my sympathies re mother.

Squid you are admirably dynamic. Very impressed.

Zara I hope the rest of your mammoth journey goes ok. My DP is a kiwi too and he has visions of us going out there at Xmas with the baby. My response was something along the lines of hahahhahhahhahah

HeeHee Hope it all settles down.

milk My mother is on facebook so telling facebook would be effectively like taking out an advert in the newspaper!

I'm mostly feeling sick and a bit sorry for myself and impatiently waiting for the letter from the midwife for the booking in appointment. And impatiently waiting for DP to get back from his hols (tomorrow... yay).

Hello hello to everyone else and hope you've got enough symptoms to be reassured and not so many as to feel yucky! Wishing you a wonderful Friday and looking forward to a weekend with NAPS!

Morning ladies :)

Was too tired to post last night so here goes!!

squid I feel your pain with MIL mine is a major pain in my ass too,they should be sent to a commune where they are only allowed to think about how they talk to/treat partners/wives!!

Zara,I agree google will not be your friend at the moment.Try to just relax & ease the nausea :)

Mickey your wedding sounds like my dream wedding,get it done then get to the pub lol I too am in the unwed mothers club!!

In other news,I dont seem to be too nauseous yet this morning,so keeping my fingers crossed this will continue for the day. The only downside is my arm is quite sore from having bloods taken yesterday so hoping I'll be ok with the scissors today!!! :)

I just read in the Metro that it's unsafe to use a mobile when pregnant. What are your thoughts? Moderation?

Hello everyone, I am married and I don't hate my MIL, can I still join?? About me: 28, and pregnant with dc2 following IVF, 8+2 and due 24th October. Scared rigid would be an understatement! I have had 2 early scans already, and due another on Monday at 8+5. I have an alarming lack of pregnancy symptoms, which is really odd because I was so ill and miserable with DS. Have to hold on the the fact that there was a heartbeat on Monday and hope everything's ok!!

LondonMrs we'll all be a bit screwed if that's true won't we! My take on it is that the radiation probably could be harmful in high enough doses, but our babies won't be exposed to all that much so the risk becomes negligible.

Londonlivvy bizarrely it will probably be easier than you think to travel long haul with a very young baby, ESP if you are breastfeeding so don't need any bottles etc. you can get a basinette on the plane with extra legroom, and the baby will be sleeping a lot still. I found it much harder travelling with a 9 month old for example, that wants to be crawling round all the time and won't sleep in a strange place!

Heehee good luck with the scan, thinking of you.

To everyone I haven't mentioned, happy Friday!