Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

A lie in till 7:30 today, go me! Off to New Forest shortly (if I can find it in the fog that has descended over my local area) for a pre-visit so that the rest of my teachers know what to do on trips next week. Then shopping (food, not clothes), then a day of mostly schoolwork followed by first trip to the gym in 2 weeks. Is it sad that I'm actually a bit excited about going to the gym? I'll let you know how it goes.

I have been eating more than I should and doing less than I should and being constipated, with the net result that I have put on somewhere between 3 and 5 pounds (depending on time since most recent poo!). Clothes still fitting but some work trousers a little tight - I never went for figure-hugging styles anyway but I do generally have a small waist so I think if anyone takes a really close look at me and also knew that I have been unwell for a few weeks, it would be pretty obvious that I'm pg. Hopefully no-one's watching that closely. I'm thinking about keeping it quiet at work as long as I possibly can - confidentiality is a bit of an issue at my school, we have parents working as TAs and lunchtime supervisors so gossip always spreads, and I'd rather my class hear it from me that on the rumour mill via their parents. But if I don't stop eating, I'll have to fess up before 12 weeks

Oh, and latest news - in-laws are taking whole immediate family to Centre Parcs for a week in August to celebrate their anniversary. They don't know we're pg yet. "It'll be great for you" said FIL excitedly. "There's a steam room and sauna ensuite, and you can be really active all week". Great . Looking forward to a week of being stuck in the cabin as too large to do anything, forced to talk to SIL who I can't stand and I can't even escape to sauna. Can I blame the hormones for making me so ungrateful? (to put it into context, I HATE doing nothing for more than 5 minutes, and a normal holiday for DH and I consists of surfing, or rock climbing, or scaling alpine peaks, so Centre Parcs is my idea of purgatory anyway, let alone when I'm 7 months pg. ) .

Sorry, I'm moaning and shouldn't be, but I don't do family holidays or lounging-around holidays and this feels like it will be a bad combination of both. I like DH's parents (to talk to, not for a week!), and sister and brother in law (but they will have 5 (yes, 5 ) kids in tow, but I positively can't stand his DS or her DH. Aargh!

Taking negative, ungrateful, moany self off for a cup of tea now. Have a good morning, all, hope you are all OK.

Well I managed to sleep until 5:30am this morning when the lovely police helicopter decided to wake me up by hovering over the village for 15mins. I'm absolutely shattered but can't get back to sleep

Got up and made myself cheese and ham toasties (my new craving) at 7am - nausea now feels worse!

Got an achey tummy again today. Still, not got anything planned so going to enjoy lounging about.

On the plus side - no headache yet!

YompingJo depending on your height and shape you may find you're not absolutely huge by 7 months. I went on holiday at 7m in my first pg, expecting to be the size of a teenaged elephant, but actually was still fairly small and neat. Was able to go out and do lots. Fingers crossed it'll be the same for you.

DS slept through last night! And I had the best sleep I've had in over a month - woke at 12.30 for a wee, then slept solidly til 5.30, then dozed til 6.30! I haven't had 5 hours' straight sleep since....since....I really have no idea when. Possibly before I was pg with DS

Chilled out day today, mostly will be watching DH trying to work out how to use the lawnmower whilst being "unable" to help because my nausea is seriously back full-force. Can't believe I worried about it being gone, rather than just enjoying it...duhh. I really need to cut out the sugar and fat as it makes it so much worse. You would've thought the nausea would be a big incentive but I seem to eat past the pain

Morning ladies. I seem to be craving cheese and cant get enough of the stuff. Why is this wierd may you ask? I HATED cheese before i got pregnant. Couldnt g near the stuff! Chilled out day today for me also, wtaching dp fix the washing machine... I might go swimming this week too. 9 months of no periods, lets make the most of it!! Hope you all have worry free relaxing days today, its sunday, day of rest!!

Morning all.
Dame I hate that paranoia about ms - suffer while you're nauseous and worry when you're not.

For all you runners out there. I am a physio and many of my colleagues ran early in their pregnancies. After a while it becomes uncomfortable and people convert to walking. It seems if you listen your body will tell you.
It is very hard on the pelvic floor to run in the later stages. We have dealt with, otherwise very fit, patients with severe incontinence issues post birth who ran in the latter stages of their pregnancies - these were not the fun runners 2-3 times a week. These were the distance 6 days a week type, pre-pregnancy and they really struggled to go without their endorphins.

Yomping, I must say I get into walking while pregnant. I feel I'm doing something for the bean. It's sort of peaceful and it's just ourselves. I ran before Christmas, but not since my BFP (not a big sacrifice) and I haven't the energy to restart now.
At 7 months you'll be able for walks, swims, maybe easy cycling. A friend of mine cycled to the hospital for her delivery, I swear. Cycling may not work for all you ladies with ligament issues.

Oooh thanks so much lisbeth! You've basically answered all my questions I had about fitness during preg! I am a (fun!) runner jogger but have completely stopped, mainly because I'm shattered all the time. Also am a bit worried about ligaments as you say - after long walks even I get sore knees (had knee probs in the past!).

I do cycle to work each day though still (6km each way, flat) and it does make me feel good! Bus/train make me vomit right now. My family are not happy with me cycling on the road (why is it now more dangerous than before I was pg?? Is my life worth less than a fetus the size of a raspberry??? Grrrr) but DH and my doctor are completely supportive. I'm always quite safety conscious anyway (helmet, good lights, I don't overtake HGVs or buses ever on the inside!!!). Going to just keep going as long as I can! The only things different I am doing are not risking major roundabouts (walk across as pedestrian instead) and I'm not cycling at night. Mind you by the time it's dark I'm so bloody knackered anyway I just take my bike on the train!

Right so I feel quite given that lots of you are up and at the day already! I slept in till 10 and the nausea has made me crawl back to bed with a cup of hot chocolate. Got to clean house and do a few other sorty-out things today - heading to New Zealand on Thursday! Aside from nausea worries I am now actually looking forward to being able to just zzzzzzzzzzz for 36 hours might ask for extra barf bags though

My early scan is at 8am on Tuesday morning, very excited!

Oh btw, I went shopping to get comfy/first trimester friendly/cheap as poss clothes for the flight. No matter how bloated you are (like me!) or not I recommend:

• H&M stretchy black preg pants. I am not sure if they are meant to be track pants of not but they are MARVELLOUS.
• Mothercare sleep bras (they look like sporty spice era crop tops, got the bfeeding latch thing) - oh my GOD. Actually amazing on my poor sore boobies. Great recommendation from a new mum friend of mine. Going to wear this on plane (underwired bras on long haul anyway are no fun, usually go bra-less!), with a soft long camisole over the top and a big wrappy cashmere cardigan (€30 from Tesco even, woohoo!).

Oh and stats for me - I always forget!
27, %231, 7+2

Stupid iPhone. This is my FIRST baby, not my 231st!!!!

Thanks for replies ladies - I was feeling decidely un-bionic in comparison to most of you, so glad that I'm not the only one feeling clothes a bit tighter. I bought a couple of button extenders 2 weeks ago (suggested by someone on here) but so far haven't needed them. I reckon another fortnight though and I'll be into them...

Fjordmor hope your epic journey is going well!

Betty I had also stopped eating bread / wheat in Nov after got tummy bug which left me intolerant - burping loads, swelling up like a frog round middle etc. Think it can just wear off sometimes - either that or I'm so bloated with pregnancy I can't tell the difference. I have been eating loads of bready stuff although it does still give me indigestion sometimes.

kyrria I got those pains at 6 wks too and still get them every so often. I think avoid hot water bottles as they can be very hot but those wheat bags are ok, especially if you only use them for a few minutes at a time. I found it helpful when the pains seemed to go into my lower back, so put the bag on hip / back rather than tum.

Haggis thanks for DVD tip - will check it out. Did pilates for a while and it was good but haven't done anything for at least 8 months so starting now on my own seems bad idea.

yompingjo try not to worry about the holiday - just pray for nice weather and take yourself off on some walks to get away from it all (i.e. SIL )

mickey you are the first person to remind me about no periods and the benefits! :o

Have a nice day all - I have 2 chapters left to edit, then meeting friend for coffee. Oh - and insane tears of the day - just watched 'The men who stare at goats' and cried at the last line - "we need the Jedi now more than ever!" lol

My my Zara you have been busy, knocking out 200+ babies lol! Are you in Ireland?

And if so Dublin? Was wondering which H&M you went to, the ones up in the north are rubbish! :)

LOL yes angelico I am in Dublin!! Leave your contraception at the airport when you get to Ireland, lads Actually I only became really broody AFTER I moved to Ireland in 2010 .... coincidence???

I went to the H&M in Blanchardstown Shopping Centre (Dublin 15). I know what you mean about the stores being hit and miss. There is a good New Look with mat stuff there too, AND the best TKMaxx anywhere in the UK & IRL (I reckon!). Oh and IKEA is close by too! Not sure where you are in NI but I know (from practice) that the shopping centre is exactly 1hr door to door from Newry and 2 hours from Belfast.

Actually I want to get up north at some point soon to get my Sainsbury fix and explore the great mystery that is ASDA - I hear the baby clothes are good & cheap?!

Wish I could wear button extenders - my arse and thighs are too big for my jeans already, never mind my waist!!!

Does anybody know anything about au-pairs? Thinking of getting one for Summer - maybe Aug/Sep/Oct

Ah, thank you, you have all cheered me up about Centre Parcs, maybe by 7 months I'll still be relatively mobile - although I think the high ropes course might be out of bounds

YompingJo very jealous of your Centreparcs trip :) When annoying SIL gets too much, wander of outside for a nice long, peaceful, lonesome walk :D Is it to unrealistic to suggest a gentle bike ride? Have not idea! But I always thought that looked like the nicest thing about the CP ads - all those bike rides through woods with no cars and safe woods with no mad axeman about to jump out at you (I have a ridiculously over-active imagination)

Feelling very depressed today. This is ultra complex, and I've posted about it before but: we live in rented flat above a shop. There's things wrong with it, but in some ways it offers sanctuary because our landlady is desperate for us to stay. I also get to keep my cat, with whom I am absolutely besotted. Out back, and our front door, is a kind of a miniature wood where my cat pays with foxes and stuff. The entrance to this area is pitch black in winter but I eventually made my peace with it.

For the last six months, DH and I have been involved with the local village group to stop development of this area of several social housing blocks. I feel increasingly depressed that several things will happen:

a) the development goes ahead, all the poor wildlife is turfed out

b) the tiny area becomes over-crowded and full of (in my worst, un-liberal nightmares) unsavory people making it an intimidating area to walk through to get home. There's no other entrance.

c) it becomes untenable to continue to live here, we can't find anywhere else to live that will let us keep my very dear cat. We are forced to give her away and she and I pine for each other forever.

These thoughts keep popping in my head. All I can think is - we absolutely cannot afford to buy, not even shared ownership. I'm going to have to give my cat away and all I can think about are those first few weeks where she's scared and confused. I feel terrible, I keep crying, or desperately trying to find a way out.

But! I know I am being melodramatic. The development is in appeal, not yet approved, it can take months to build housing and even then - social housing does not necessarily mean intimidating people! I just wish I knew what the future held, had some sense of security and knowledge - and it's all going against my nesting instincts :(

Phew. Sorry.

Wow so much to catch up on, enjoying all the conversations and hope you are all well!

I had a very very stressful week last week and got home Friday sort of amazed that I got through it all. Blissful to have the weekend off. My parents have been up, for the first time since I told them I was pregnant. We did some walking, some veg shopping at the best ever veg/healthy shop (eating one of their amazing oranges now, like eating the sunshine), went for a nice lunch in a cute cafe, went to a mountaineering film festival which was really cool though made me feel a bit tired and unfit amongst all the sporty blokes, I made some pasta in the evening (can't really stomach anything except vegetables still). This morning was glorious so we went out in the Peak District, walked 5 or 6 miles, went to a pub for lunch. I ordered fish and chips and ate the chips. Hey ho.

Main pregnancy things I am thinking about

1. I keep trying to convince myself I'm pregnant not unfit but I'm so tired of being so tired. Me and the boy were regularly doing 20 mile hikes a few months back... now 5 miles and I'm dizzy and headachy. I hope I get some energy back sometime. My blood pressure's lower than it's ever been (100/60, I keep checking it at work - it's normally more like 120/80)... I don't know, that doesn't seem low enough to make me dizzy. I'm just tired and unfit, blah.

2. I am conquering the nausea because I have recognised anything sweet or fatty or rich just makes me feel like shit so I don't eat them. I just eat fruit and veg and yoghurt. God I'm so bored of it though. I don't crave wine or rare steak or sushi at all, the thought makes me sick, but I really miss enjoying things like that.

3. Like most of you I can't sleep but that's probably nowt to do with pregnancy. Up at 6am today, 5am yesterday (on a saturday... blah). It's so lonely.

4. I am 11 weeks today! I want a bump soon... I don't think my stomach looks entirely the same (more... curved?) but my clothes all fit. I did cave and buy a new bra though. Bravissimo had a sale on. It's a really pretty supportive apricot-coloured one, I can't face buying maternity stuff yet so it's just a bigger size. 34E already. Oh my god... always had big tits for my size anyway but now I just look like a cartoon character. I feel fat and unfit but in truth I'm probably eating no more than pre-pregnancy (and I'm not drinking any wine, used to drink quite a bit of wine!)... I don't think I look any different, just the tits. I'm sure it won't last! I was always on the bigger side when I was younger (not massive, size 14-16) but in recent years have been more of a 8-10 and was always convinced I would blow up like a balloon again as soon as I got pregnant! So I'm hoping some of my healthy eating/general exercise habits have stuck even when I'm sick and exhausted. I never starved myself just started loads of healthy habits, the weight came off really slowly but it did stay off. So I hope some of that has stood me in good stead. Not complaining anyway!

Sorry to anyone who actually read all that! how are you all -waves-

32, 11 weeks today!, first kid

Hello everyone :)

I am back in the UK, but I feel horrible :( My sense of smell has gone crazy so I can smell every stinky thing around, which just makes me wanna be sick :(

I hate how even though I feel like shit I'm meant to continue as normal... I just want to hide under my duvet and come out in 6 months time!

squidkid, I am also 11 weeks today :D

I have 11 weeks envy!!! I am only just 9 weeks today. I want to be 11 weeks! . I feel like your little sister!

Have emailed Centre Parcs to ask them to send me a list of the activities they would let a pregnant person do. They have replied with "tell us what activities you'd be interested in". Er, all of them, that's why I asked for a list! I really hope I can do some of them otherwise I'm going to have to spend a week making bracelets, stained glass ornaments and willow decorations and I will turn into a hippy! (no offense to any hippies, just not my style). I like the bike ride idea but have heard a couple of people on here say that bike riding has become uncomfortable already so don't know what to expect a few months further down the line.

bettybat, poor you, I really feel for you. I don't have any solutions, but we're in a similar situation with regards to renting and not being able to buy in the foreseeable future. I'll all be alright, as DH keeps saying.

milk, welcome back, sorry to hear about the smell thing.

squid, I can't be arsed with oranges, too fiddly to peel and then often disappointing once you've gone to all that effort - but yours sounds lovely - I'm going to have some orange juice!

By the way, if anyone is in a film mood, I watched Super 8 last night - brilliant, best film I've seen in ages.

squid that walk sounds fantastic!

And yay both you and milk being 11 weeks....how exciting Not long for scans now, no?

I keep forgetting my stats: 31, no.1 and 7+6

mickeytheshortone - no periods, good point! My pre-pregnancy self would have sex and go swimming every day. My current self is not appreciating it enough :o

bettybat I really hope everything turns out ok for your area. I'm really really attached to mine (overly so) - it's a bit of a new up and coming area, used to be an old industrial area, very derelict. They've done wonders with it but they have a good way to go and I fret that there just won't be the money and it will all go to seed and I'm so attached to where I live and it's walking distance from both hospital and 10 minutes from town and I love my flat and I just want them to keep building parks and gyms and opening cafes and I worry it's all just going to shut down and I'll end up moving to suburbia or some other hell. Er yes I am being a bit irrational about this. But I feel your pain, ok!! I'm sure there will be some way to keep your cat... we had less choice of flats due to having cats but still managed to find one.

zara you're a hero with the cycling, nice one. Heartily agree with your comment of how it was ok to be killed as long as you don't have a embryo on board - ridiculous!

Yomping I'm really hurting over my lack of active lifestyle at the moment too. I don't think it's that I can't, and I don't think it would cause any harm, I am just so tired and dizzy! It sucks. I don't know much about Centreparcs, is there nice countryside? I just want to walk walk walk near the end, but I will probably be flat on my back, useless. I am going on holiday in the Lake district with my brothers when I'm 22 weeks and hoping to still swim, hike, stuff like that (maybe not go horse riding! I think they were talking about trying that)

YompingJo hahahaha yes, total 11 week envy

Yomping I cut oranges into segments and shove them in my gob and eat all the flesh off them! I hate peeling them too!

I must admit I LOVE being 11 weeks, every week it seems more definite and secure! I've got my scan at 12+3. However unlike a lot of people on this forum I didn't have an early scan so for all I know I'm growing a lizard in there!