Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

Hi everyone! My big project finally launched last night so I am free for a little while (until the next one) and have all next week off so expect mad posting from me!

Up! I really want to see this but even on some countdown show about the best animated films, when they were talking about it, almost reduced me to tears. But it is good, yes? It ends on a high, yes? Wall-E had me crying like Niagra and I wasn't even pregnant then.

Everyone's different options and approaches to maternity leave make me feel a little bit better. Our situation is that DH is newly self-employed - I was very happy he made the move, he's in his element and he was MISERABLE before. But the reality is my salary supports us. He wants to be in a position where I can quit work and be a SAHM/develop my consultancy rather than being tethered to a company that sucks the life out of me. The thing is - I believe he will be very successful but I can't see that happening in the next nine months. He's doing brilliantly but he's a long way off that. It's weird to have such dual thinking. What he does is very specialised, and people pay big bucks for it, he's immensely talented and he's just one of life's winners, he's just one of those people. I have full faith at some point in our lives, his work will carry us up and away. But equally I am so entrenched in my own work life, and feeling so trapped and miserable at the thought of leaving my baby at 6 months that I can't see what's going to happen to change that before I go back.

So I have decided to have a c'est la vie attitude, sit back, not stress and leave him to do his thing It's not the end of the world if I'm back at work after 6-9 months. I'd never even considered not going back until DH said - if I can support us, would you consider being at home for a while? Then suddenly it was the most desirable thing in the world! He's quite crafty and I trust him with everything so for him to put that suggestion out there says to me that he has a good idea of how things will turn out. Everything is always so calculated with him, he has an Art of War approach to his life whereas I'm quite (very!) impulsive and often jump without looking.

Anyway! Sorry!

Pilates - I am very jealous of those of you that are getting to classes :( The tiredness hit me like a truck and I feel very large and out of shape. My thighs seem huge. I got the Buddha Bellies Yoga, and have strength/conditioning classes so hopefully I can drag myself to something!

And you laughed at my ice cream incident... You Ladies make me giggle so much!! If you also want a funny fix, has anyone bought the mumsnet guide to pregnancy? I actually stopped breathing (possibly not good for bean but i figure it needs to hear mum laughing rather than crying!) last night because I was laughing so hard..
"Suggestions of what to say when complete strangers grab your bump.....'Excuse me thats my colon you're rubbing!!'" Or the one that got me was the lady that used to bend over (after strange men rubbed her bump) and fondle their testicles. I'm still laughing now. Oh dear. DP thought I had gone absolutely mad!!!
Snap to all those waking up early. I was up at 6.30 this morning. As for exercise (as terrible as it sounds) I'm not doing an awful lot. (I never did an awful lot before really). I just go for a gentle walk with the dog. We are lucky enough to have a large field behind the house we live in that has a slight incline so I walk around that. The dog is knackered by the time we come back and so am i! Although that routine won't be lasting long as I am going back to work next thursday.. have had two and a half weeks off due to an operation and owed holiday. I'm starting to get bored now!

21, 8+1, #1.

bettybat I know it is hard to believe but if you force yourself to exercise it gives you more energy (although I did yawn all the way through my class last night). I didn't really keep it up last pregnancy and vowed not to do that again as I think you need your strength for labour. Saying that lots of people are just too exhausted first trimester, and restart 2nd. Glad you aren't stressing about work. In reality those kind of decisions are so hard to make until you are right in it, if you know what I mean.

21? I meant 20.

Hello everyone! I woke up feeling happy and with a reasonable degree of energy, wow, feels great! But isn't it odd how the absence of extreme lethargy, physical discomfort and tearfulness can be anxiety provoking!? I'm going with it and am heading out this afternoon for a long walk as I've done nothing since forever.

JompingJo, have you asked your GP when you can expect to hear about an appointment? I was given the number and had to make my appointment myself but I guess that meant that I had a degree of control but if I was just waiting i think I'd be tempted to ask.

And I laughed out loud about crying to a spanx advert. With that and all the farting, burping and slumping about in ill-fitting clothes with droopy eyes and incoherent sentences I wonder how long we will be allowed out in public unsupervised?

I think the maternity leave thread has been a helpful. I looked up our policy yesterday, it's NHS so fairly standard. I think I will feel hard done by if I go back before the 12 months, and I will also be a social outcast at work as it's frowned upon, but financially it is not an easy decision. My partner and I have seperate finances and this house and it's mortgage are mine. I'm going to check with my mortgage holder about any possibility of a payment holiday - I think I can take the 12 months if I can wrangle that. And I would like to take off from September so that would only be 5 and 1/2 months before ML... I can't get my hopes up!

And re DVD's much as I'd like to meet other mums-to-be and get some excercise I think this is a good tip - I will hit Amazon later. If anyone has suggestions appropriate for reasonably "thin" but highly unfit wormen send them my way!

Now, I may be feeling sane, but I have a seagull convinced it should be in my house, been pecking on various windows all morning. Whenever I approach it it opens its mouth like it's imprinted on me, it's not a young 'un. WTF? And how will I convince to leave my windows alone???

Ha ha, you ladies are funny today!

I had a massive one yesterday - a conference I have helped organise was on, and it was knackering. unfortunately, I am also part of team 'can no longer sleep in' :S

I seem to have had the same headache for about a week - it's mild, but annoying. Anyone else?

Morning all! Goodness yes I feel on the verge of tears most of the time, but then hysterical laughter isn't far away either. Trying to imagine a world where a Spanx ad would pluck at my heartstrings

Zoe I've woken up with a headache today and can't shift it. Have you taken paracetamol? Mine's pretty mild too. If you can't shift it perhaps you should speak to (your?) a midwife about it? I think it can be pg related.

Sleep-wise i wake up every night at about 1 or 2, and really struggle to get back to sleep. It's driving me insane. DS slept till 8.15 this morning which is COMPLETELY unheard of, but could I sleep???

But hey, it's warm enough to have my washing out in the garden on the line so all must be well with the world

For the sake of clarity it was an article about the women who created Spanx, not just an ad for Spanx as that be weird.... err ok, it's weird anyway.

Went to pilates and lovely teacher said I could carry on doing everything I was doing as I am strong and used to it. Silly man was just being over cautious and freaking me out. She said only avoid first trimester if you don't normally exercise and didn't adjust any of my exercises. Phew - been doing hardcore classes all the way through so thats a relief, seems now that the 3 teachers I have told (ok so I just love telling people) have totally different approaches. No wonder I was confused.

Put on my normal going to the football jeans and I have the hugest muffin top. Yuck. Roll on bump as opposed to just looking fat.

Have been for a walk today (2 miles there, pub lunch, 2 miles back) at a leisurely pace Tummy was a bit twingy on the way to the pub (felt like i'd been up all night doing sit-ups!) but seemed to have settled by the time we were walking back. Have now got cramps in my tummy and feel uncomfortable. Pleased I went out and got some fresh air and exercise but now curled up on the sofa with a cuppa

On another note really wanting a takeaway for tea and having a hankering for cheese and ham toasties (with branston pickle) too!!

I'm really craving vimto which is weird. Rarely drink the stuff. Feeling really sick today though, sugary things don't help either. Double weird craving.

Is anybody bloated enough to be considering new clothes yet? I was stupid enough to gain nearly a stone between pregnancies, and am now a bit.overweight. I feel wide and bulky. My middle just looks hefty in my staple jumper dresses.

I ordered a couple of bits a size bigger from Gap, bit clearly their sizing doesn't really match up with what I'm currently wearing as it all looks too small and feels uncomfortable. I'm dreading that post-birth period where I'm just knackered and huge.

That said, of course our tiny baby will be worth it a million times over!

Midgetm definitely agree about getting yourself to a class and how good you feel after. Right up until about three weeks ago I was so active - parkour, martial arts, strength conditioning, swimming - and it always seemed like such a mission to go. And then after I'd be marveling at how great I felt D:

Now I've just ground to a stop :( I feel inflexible and stiff and sitting in a chair all day is the worst thing. I did some yoga before, yawned and sneezed my way through it but maybe that was just things opening up! Add me to the waking-up-early club though!

But loving how active everyone is. I'd love to go to Pilates, I can't think why I've never tried it before. I totally should have.

This might be a strange one but I'm worried I'm not being sick? I feel very sick every morning and evening, around 6-9 but not actual vomiting. I was pregnant for a very short time when I was 26 and it woke me up, like clockwork, at 5am every morning!

DameFlatYouLent sugar just makes killer heart burn worse :(

And yes, roll on bump instead of just bloatedness! How long, generally, before a proper solid baby bump starts to emerge?

bettybat I'm not having vomiting but I am getting the nausea. Tends to be a low level all day niggling nauseous feeling that definitely gets worse from about 3pm onwards. One of the girls at work was having a bag of beef flavour crisps for breakfast (!!!) yesterday and just the smell of those was enough - i do sometimes get a salty taste in my mouth if the nausea is really bad but so far it's not resulted in anything more.

Dameflat I keep craving orange Fanta. Had some tonight and it was so sweet it made me feel a bit nauseous - and yet I could drink some more

Tarty I am in my old jeans from when I was a stone heavier than pre-preg weight. Have to belt them up but then they slide down under muffin roll. It's a great look. DH and I were on the beach earlier and I had jeans hanging round my pubes, awful raincoat and gas parping out with every other step. "How attractive I am," thought Angelico. "How long before my DH divorces me???"

betty I think bump varies a lot from person to person but think I read 14 - 18 weeks it's common to start getting that definite shape. Not long now :) And really don't worry about not being sick - all I have ever had is v mild nausea near the start and the odd pang in between. My mum and several friends never had ANY sickness and produced v super healthy beans :o

I am vaguely appalled at how fit and fabulous all you lovely ladies are. I've been overweight for years - not American-sized fat but a good 3.5 stone over ideal weight. The teacher in me wanted to get preg late Dec / Jan so bean due in late Sep / Oct but didn't really believe it would happen so quickly - thought it would take a few months in which time I would eat better, get more exercise with spring coming in etc. (I actually lose weight v quickly when eating sensibly but we have been so busy - teaching, finishing / editing book, renovating a house - so lots of last minute takeaways / ready meals through the autumn and run up to Xmas.)

Instead we got preg straight away and I am madly in love with fizzy drinks which I NEVER normally have I actually wish I could diet now - nothing ridiculous, just eat v healthily and thus lose weight sensibly - but everything I've read seems to say that is a really bad idea. Will ask consultant about it at appt in 3 weeks but suspect 1st trimester was the only time to safely do it. Instead I have put on about 4lbs in the last 10 weeks. (sobs) There is a thick layer of blubber over my bloating / growing uterus which is making me look more pregnant than I actually am

Not that eating healthily is a bad idea I hasten to add - just that actually losing weight deliberately is dumb, especially after 12 weeks. I think it's quite normal to lose weight in first trim, especially if people are sick a lot - this is normal, does not harm beans at all (I hasten to write this before I panic anybody :o)

So ironically I'm probably the one person on here who would have positively benefitted from desperate nausea!

Evening all . Bean & me are mid 'big trip' & bean was so good today - not making me feel sick or overtired at all through 4 countries & one sea crossing. Mind you, I have OD'd on cheese & ham sandwiches!

Haven't been able to catch up backwards on posts that well as only have my iPhone but Tarty - thanks to the combo of being a couple if stone overweight, and a fibroid the size of a grapefruit as well as expanded uterus & pelvis, I am managing to look about 5 months! This is proving very helpful in hotels where I'm milking the 'I'm pregnant. Could you...?' to the max! . Luckily my tops are fine but I look gigantic in a dress. Sticking to yoga type pants mostly.

Hope you're all having good, worry-free days!

Think of me as you have a good fart tonight all - I'm staying in 'Hotel Am Wind' (not even kidding :-)).

Angelico - so understanding the 'trousers round pubes' bit. I've 'been there' a few times. So uncomfortable! It almost makes me want to go all 'Simon Cowell' & big pants over bump. (mostly I've been going without as most of my current ones are now either digging, rolling down or badly VPL-ing. Anyone else with underwear woes?)

Angelico I'm doing absolutely zilch exercise. And was 1/2 stone heavier pre this preg than pre my last. And have since put on 3-4 pounds with bloated tummy and mega muffin tops. Feeling v lardy and sorry for myself and also wishing I could go on a crash diet!

I must admit I'm a bit nervous of exercising. I normally run, but wouldn't dream of it atm. I'm thinking of starting swimming tomorrow. Can't stretch to gym membership but there's always the council pool I suppose.

God my hormones are raging. Wanted to punch a man on the W3 who kept shaking his leg (I know, begging for it). Had to move away from him to restrain myself. This is not like me. I also screamed rather offensive things at the referee at Stamford bridge. A very bad word. I remember having a few weeks like this when pregnant with DD. I was a cow. Poor DH.

I'm impressed by people doing much exercise too. I usually go to the gym twice a week but have done nothing since I found out I am pregnant. I am also rather overweight (about 3 stone above 'healthy') and have been for years. I lost weight before my last pregnancy and continued with following Slimming World for the first 5 months so didn't put any weight on til then, then gave up and piled on the weight til the end. My aim is not to put much weight on at all this time cos otherwise I won't fit into my old maternity clothes by the end and I can't afford to buy more :( So far I have lost 8lbs due to lack of appetite. I'm not really feeling sick, I just don't fancy eating much (wierd for me as I normally have a huge appetite).
My current favourite position is lying on the sofa, and I take up that pose as often as I possibly can. Not that my kids let me stay there for very long. It was dd2's second birthday today so we went out to a farm park all day. Lots of fun but completely exhausting as she needed to be picked up a lot and apparently mummy is the only one allowed to pick her up without tantrums

I loved UP! but certainly wouldn't watch it in my current state - I well up at the oddest things. Though not as odd as the Spanx article though ;-)

I've been feeling nauseous and exhausted - rather like a perpetual hangover - and waking up super early and can't sleep cos I feel sick. Which really helps.

My DP is away for a week at the moment and finding it lonely without him - I'm only 6+4 so haven't told family and so no-one else to share / commiserate, apart from the cat, who's a bit of a rubbish conversationalist.

Angelico I can so relate re the muffin top - a friend who's a bit further on than me has recommended gap maternity jeans. I might go for it rather the unattractive solution that I've currently got!

Is anyone else suffering with "round ligaments pain" (tummy ache) this early on?

Is it also ok to use a hot water bottle on my tummy to help ease the pain or is this not recommended? Worried about hurting the bean.

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Kyyria Yes I'm suffering (though I didn't know that's what it was called until I just looked it up). Had a particularly bad spasm last night when I sneezed in bed. I hadn't thought about a hot water bottle as the pain only lasts 10-15 seconds then stops. I'd probably not want to use one on my tummy at the moment (for the same reason as we should be avoiding hit baths)

Angelico I've hardly done any exercise since I found out I was pregnant (thogh I did climb a mountain at 4 weeks before I realised! My doctor advised me to stop running after an early bleed (which I used to do 3-4 times a week) so feeling like a lump of lard without that. I have just bought this yoga dvd which I plan to start using after my 12 week scan all being fine. I'm also looking forward to the light evenings so I can go out for walks after work.

FjordMor Pleased to hear your mammoth trio is going well so far!

Oh Angelico don't think I'm not piling it on I'm eating myself out of house and home - several chocolate bars a day, stuffing myself with bread (which I'd managed to wean myself off for the last six months or so), cakes, cheesecakes, double breakfasts etc.

It's crazy! It's not just the full on bloat around my tummy - my thighs are definitely bigger, my waist is. I'm usually somewhere hovering around a 12, I'm quite short and I put on weight really easily. I need to reign it all in :(

You don't need to diet - not even if you weren't pregnant. No crazy crash diets. Just plenty of veg, meat and good carbs like potatoes :) I'd suggest cutting down sugar but since I can barely get through the day without copious amounts of chocolate, I'd be a fool to suggest that

londonlivvy that's exactly how I'd describe it - a constant hangover, feeling sick and knackered, that waking up early thing from nausea - roll on the 2nd trimester!

TartyMcFarty why no running? If you're knackered, fair do's :) But don't be afraid. You could be like Charlotte in the SATC film, running your way to the birth!

It's not that I'm worried about exercising, it's more I just don't have the energy. I feel like I'm wading through treacle!